Questions about Scorpios

It was bound to happen. I've been putting it off but I finally worked up the courage to write up a topic x.x

So here goes...

The scorpio I like is quite a busy guy. Working almost every day...and the texts have grown scarce. We see each other almost every week and always have a good time together, but he says he wants to take it slow because he's had bad experiences with relationships in the past not working when he went too fast. Another thing is we have the same circle of friends so he doesn't want us to date, it not work, and then it could be awkward for us to hang with our friends. Soooo were taking it slow, but we only talk/see each other once a week.
I told him we shouldn't have sex or do anything sexual until we start dating because it would blur the lines. He agreed with me, but my lust got the better of me and we ended up doing it anyways...ugh. So I figured he'd lose respect for me and not want to be with me after that. But when I went over the other night it was if nothing had ever happened...in fact he was more affectionate than he usually is and kept smelling my hair, saying it was putting him in ecstacy o.o
I kept to my promise and didnt have sex or kiss him so I'm hoping that if he had any ounce of disrespect for me its hopefully gone.

Idk... what do you guys think? I think the cuddling/ rubbing my back is a good sign o.o But I'd like you guys opinions.

woot woot!
Sooo he likes me, but why hasn't he been texting me? Before I left I jokingly told him to stop being so busy cus that was his excuse for not txting me...but wouldn't you text regardless if you really liked the person?

oh your alll he thinks about and you must be absolutely gorgeous to him

but on another note this song comes to mind when I think about him smelling your hair puts him in ecstacy

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Posted by happykitsune
woot woot!
Sooo he likes me, but why hasn't he been texting me? Before I left I jokingly told him to stop being so busy cus that was his excuse for not txting me...but wouldn't you text regardless if you really liked the person?

I wouldn't go overboard initially as it's one of those where you can't really win, too many (e.g: like texting back and forth loads spurred on by that first rush of lust😛) and if the wind blows the wrong direction: oh thhhiissss one's too full on.
To little and it comes across as disinterest or your being left hanging around.

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What do you mean by "this ones too full one?" Sorry I'm trying to get the jest of what you meant in the last part of your post o.o

Posted by pigeonpie
sorry, too full on 🙂
Like some chicks go weird and nuts (or basically imo a mixture of gossip from friends and maybe a big head ever so slightly on their part 😛) and think the guy's up to something if he shows too much interest too soon.
Tbh, texting and all this facebook shizz makes things more like hard work, wouldn't a quick thoughtful phone call suffice, plus you get to hear it straight from the guy himself right ?

Very true. My guy friend told me this also, but I guess I needed a second opinion. I honestly like talking in person better, but we don't see each other that much so it rarely happens. I've only recieved a call from him once

Posted by happykitsune
woot woot!
Sooo he likes me, but why hasn't he been texting me? Before I left I jokingly told him to stop being so busy cus that was his excuse for not txting me...but wouldn't you text regardless if you really liked the person?

You submitted to him.
In his mind, that means you are his ...sorta...
...except for the fact that you have been

HOLDING BACK NOW

Do YOU text HIM? If not - why not?
If you had sex with him once, then refused to the second time ...
( if I understand correctly what happened )
... what do you think that communicates?

Do you think maybe you should show HIM a little interest?
If not ... might as well look elsewhere, cuz you're losing him.

Posted by scorpiopics

Posted by happykitsune
woot woot!
Sooo he likes me, but why hasn't he been texting me? Before I left I jokingly told him to stop being so busy cus that was his excuse for not txting me...but wouldn't you text regardless if you really liked the person?

You submitted to him.
In his mind, that means you are his ...sorta...
...except for the fact that you have been

HOLDING BACK NOW

Do YOU text HIM? If not - why not?
If you had sex with him once, then refused to the second time ...
( if I understand correctly what happened )
... what do you think that communicates?

Do you think maybe you should show HIM a little interest?
If not ... might as well look elsewhere, cuz you're losing him.

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I've been busy the last week with christmas stuff but I finally took the initiative and texted him last night asking why he wasn't at my friends place which ended in him coming over and then me staying at his place.

I had sex with him several times. It's only recently that I told him we should not have sex until he knows for sure when he wants this relationship to happen since he's saying we need to take it slow due to our circle of friends. He agreed with me and said that I shouldn't go agaisnt my promise to myself because then I'd feel bad about it.
This last night he tried to start something and I didn't reject him, but somehow (I don't remember if we started talking or if he was just too tired) but while we were watching tv he ended up falling asleep stroking my hair. Honestly I fall into wanting sex too easily cus I really like it. He tends to fall asleep sooner than I do tho because he works so much so that was kinda my way outta sex cus if he had initiated it I'd be done for.

Still think I'm losing him? o.o If anything he didn't get sex because he fell asleep. I never rejected him. Hmm in fact I never said anything about me not wanting to have sex this time o.o which is probably why he started rubbing my stomach and undoing my pants. Why he never got to the point past that is beyond me...probably just being a gentleman...no clue

Thanks. I intend to go just one way. I'm just worried if I don't stick to my convictions he won't respect me and just use me for sex. My friend seems to think he's too sweet a guy to do that. She knows him fairly well, but my past tells me otherwise *sigh*

Yes he is a gentleman. He never forces anything on me

because we have the same placements, im going to help you out a bit.

if you like him, tell him.
take everyday that you spend with him, like the last day on earth
shower him with genuine flattery
love him to death when you 2 are together
if you dont want sex, do not blur the lines. he will think your just playing games. dont try to use sex as manipulation; it wont work.

things are good. think positively. KEEP YOUR SAG FIRE. thats how you attracted him.

as a sag, you should be able to see right through any of his BS. and you shouldnt have to ask for advice that much. you have a scorpio moon; use it.

i cannot stress this enough. if this is not the man you want, leave him alone now. us saggis can be emotionally destructive, especially to water signs. you will break this man's heart if you dont act right.

NOW, eventually you will fuck up and the power games will start (all saggis fuck up eventually, due to flirting whatever).
he will sting you and it will hurt like hell. you can grovel (cause that makes him melt), but if he still tells you to fuck off. DO IT! trust me... leave him alone... he will come back when hes sorted his feelings for you out.

since you guys have mutual friends, it will be tough to withhold your feelings....so pick a hobby outside of your clique for awhile.

HAVE FUN...

this man is N2 You. in fact, he thinks about you 24/7.

Posted by happykitsune
Thanks. I intend to go just one way. I'm just worried if I don't stick to my convictions he won't respect me and just use me for sex. My friend seems to think he's too sweet a guy to do that. She knows him fairly well, but my past tells me otherwise *sigh*

Yes he is a gentleman. He never forces anything on me

no offense, but your friend dont know jack shit about this scorpio. all she knows is what he allows her to see. this man is much different in love.

he will become a charming, lovable, vile, manipulative prick who you cant keep your hands off of.

i guess im different in that, i slept with my scorp on the first night and i became the best FWB and then it just progressed into even more.

and do not...do not...be afraid of him. he is a teddy bear with a hard exterior. he is sooo mushy inside that you wont believe it.

think about it like this..

YOU are the cheating man in the relationship, even if you dont cheat.
SCORP is the untrusting female in the realtionship who is always looking to catch you doing something.

Since you have already slept together, he strongly believes that you belong to him.

Posted by DMV
because we have the same placements, im going to help you out a bit.

if you like him, tell him.
take everyday that you spend with him, like the last day on earth
shower him with genuine flattery
love him to death when you 2 are together
if you dont want sex, do not blur the lines. he will think your just playing games. dont try to use sex as manipulation; it wont work.

things are good. think positively. KEEP YOUR SAG FIRE. thats how you attracted him.

as a sag, you should be able to see right through any of his BS. and you shouldnt have to ask for advice that much. you have a scorpio moon; use it.

i cannot stress this enough. if this is not the man you want, leave him alone now. us saggis can be emotionally destructive, especially to water signs. you will break this man's heart if you dont act right.

NOW, eventually you will fuck up and the power games will start (all saggis fuck up eventually, due to flirting whatever).
he will sting you and it will hurt like hell. you can grovel (cause that makes him melt), but if he still tells you to fuck off. DO IT! trust me... leave him alone... he will come back when hes sorted his feelings for you out.

since you guys have mutual friends, it will be tough to withhold your feelings....so pick a hobby outside of your clique for awhile.

HAVE FUN...

I have told him I like him and that I want to date him. That's why I stopped having sex with him because I told him I didn't want to blur the lines until he felt like it was a good time to get into a relationship. He seems to think I'm rushing into it based on his past experiences. I guess scorpios tend to go a lil slower. Darn me and my fire sign ways 😆 Sooo I'm relying on him to let me know when he is comfortable enough to take it to the next level. I told him that I'm the one who told my friend to include him in our lil get together last night. He teased me about manipulating her into getting my way (aka having him over) when all I said was "please invite him over any time I'm over" since they are good friends. I'm the one who texted him first tho and let him know I wanted him there. He was already in bed, but my friend got him to come over.
And then when he was saying he was about to leave I said confidently "I think you should take me with you." And he did :o

I do flatter him...but not all the time. Only when he's genuinely done so

Posted by DMV

Posted by happykitsune
Thanks. I intend to go just one way. I'm just worried if I don't stick to my convictions he won't respect me and just use me for sex. My friend seems to think he's too sweet a guy to do that. She knows him fairly well, but my past tells me otherwise *sigh*

Yes he is a gentleman. He never forces anything on me

no offense, but your friend dont know jack shit about this scorpio. all she knows is what he allows her to see. this man is much different in love.

he will become a charming, lovable, vile, manipulative prick who you cant keep your hands off of.

i guess im different in that, i slept with my scorp on the first night and i became the best FWB and then it just progressed into even more.

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Yeah I was thinking the same. She only sees what he chooses to let her see.

Haha...yeah I didn't do anything with him the first night...we had sex on the second. I never do that with a guy x.x

Posted by DMV
and do not...do not...be afraid of him. he is a teddy bear with a hard exterior. he is sooo mushy inside that you wont believe it.

think about it like this..

YOU are the cheating man in the relationship, even if you dont cheat.
SCORP is the untrusting female in the realtionship who is always looking to catch you doing something.

Since you have already slept together, he strongly believes that you belong to him.

Hehe oh trust me...I am not. He has pretended to yell at me and done other stuff to test me and I just stare at him and then laugh and he laughs with me or smiles 😆
Last night I called him out on testing me and he got the most mischievious grin on his face like he'd been found out. I don't generally like to call him out on stuff tho cus I know they like to think know one knows what they are going. Psh please. 😛

Posted by DMV
this man is N2 You. in fact, he thinks about you 24/7.

Well this gives me hope 🙂 I hope its true

dont call him out on the testing. let him keep his mysteriousness. its all he has.

you and i both know whats going on with them

are you kidding me?

have you seen him stare at you? he obssesses over you. he knows damn neat all of your secrets already. find some out about him.

he is good at hiding his feelings, but sometimes it will fail when he is in your presence and he will lose control. he wont like that at all. but he will also love it.

i wouldnt believe a damn word that he says. always watch his actions.

It is really hard for fwb relationship to turn into something bonafide. He has a bunch of issues from past relationships and that is his excuse for not dating you right now. If he doesnt know at this point, then you need to move on. You seem like a really nice girl dont waste your time with this guy.

Posted by DMV
are you kidding me?

have you seen him stare at you? he obssesses over you. he knows damn neat all of your secrets already. find some out about him.

he is good at hiding his feelings, but sometimes it will fail when he is in your presence and he will lose control. he wont like that at all. but he will also love it.

i wouldnt believe a damn word that he says. always watch his actions.

Well I have seen him stare >.> Actually he doesn't know many of my secrets. All he knows is what I've put on facebook. I try to keep the mystery going and let a few things slide every so often. I let him do a lot of the talking last night tho. Found out where he went to high school, that jaager does bad things to him, that he got fired for working only an hour a day and getting paid for 5 hrs xD...I mean he just kept spouting off the stuff last night. I even found out there was a mushroom growing in his kitchen...which I find hilarious lmao

Oh I know. I catch him on stuff sometimes. I don't say anything tho... I just smile and take notes in my head. What I like is that I can get him to stop doing something if I just ignore the bad act. He kept saying my mom was hot, purposely trying to get some sort of reaction out of me. I just looked at him and smiled. He asked why it wasn't affecting me and I just said "should it?" And walked off to do something else. He didn't mention my mom for the rest of the night 😛

Posted by ellessque
the phantom hair sniffer on the sly 😛

He was seriously enhaling my hair. My hair feels violated. o.0

Me and my sister think it's the shampoo were using because we both have the same kind and a guy kept sniffing her hair to the point where he drooled in it.... So I guess the scent is just so intoxicating guys can't help themselves. Also makes my hair really soft 🙂

Posted by GeorgiaPeach
It is really hard for fwb relationship to turn into something bonafide. He has a bunch of issues from past relationships and that is his excuse for not dating you right now. If he doesnt know at this point, then you need to move on. You seem like a really nice girl dont waste your time with this guy.

😱 But who will violate my hair?

violate your hair...lol

what is his venus sign?

I wish I knew. He was adopted so idk if he even knows what time he was born.

all you need is his birthday and place of birth. his time is used to determine house placements and synastry

Or at least back off until he can decide that he wants to be in an exclusive relationship with you. He shouldnt be getting anything from you (time, sex, hair smelling sessions, etc) until this happens. Dont throw it up in his face or anything. Just shift your focus from him to yourself. You deserve better and when you realize that, you wont be hanging with some guy who doesnt know what he wants. If he is rocking your world in the bedroom, there is no coming back from that. So you can hang it up, I dont know anyone that strong. Your best bet is to not let yourself be in a situation where you know you will be alone with him. No spending the night at each others places. Public places only.

i disagree.

you can chill alone together. snuggle, cuddle, do ya thing

i do agree with having your own life and not putting him first all the time.

enjoy your courtship

Posted by happykitsune

Posted by GeorgiaPeach
It is really hard for fwb relationship to turn into something bonafide. He has a bunch of issues from past relationships and that is his excuse for not dating you right now. If he doesnt know at this point, then you need to move on. You seem like a really nice girl dont waste your time with this guy.

😱 But who will violate my hair?

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lol

Posted by DMV
all you need is his birthday and place of birth. his time is used to determine house placements and synastry

Crap... I know it was somewhere in Texas....erm...ah! Do I have to know the exact place?

Posted by DMV
i do agree with having your own life and not putting him first all the time.

enjoy your courtship

Yeah, he's not first. I go about my life and do what I normally do...which right now isnt much cus I'm being lazy over break 😆 But my regular life as a college student consists of classes, hw and sleeping so I don't usually have time to put anyone else first.

Posted by WynterBourne
Which shampoo do you use?

Kenzia shampoo

Posted by KingofLibras

Posted by ellessque
I have a question for the male participants of this thread.

I've not participated for the most part. I've just read.

Would you consider what she's done/doing as FWB (friends with benefits)?

I didn't get that vibe from the two men who posted but then again, I may simply just be oblivious.

It's so strange how the advice differs between male and female.

men seemed to be "going with the flow"..."just let it happen naturally"...

...and then boom, a woman pops in and says the dreaded FWB word.

just curious. i will disable my claws. promise.

Uhmmm.. This isn't a FWB thing. For the scorpio guy this is serious shit, and this chick's nonchalant behavior is kind of disappointing. The whole button pushing is just an attempt to solicit a reaction and probe her weak spots.

I think if you cuddling with a guy, then its serious. Sex is not really something I would consider 'serious', its just an act, but intimacy of cuddling/snuggling and holding a woman is indicative of serious attachment. So if he does these things with you then his is very much more than just FWB.

FWB is just basically sex. No need for cuddling, no need to talk and get to know the person, just a jump off hoe, a number in my blackbook. A fucking nobody. I have no feelings for a FWB and I don't give two shits who she is FWB with aside from me. Just a trick, someone I respect even less than my real friends.

But a girl I would cuddle with.. that person is special. That is someone who is on my mind most of the day, someone I don't want to stop thinking about 😄

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Wow, well that actually makes me feel a lot better. Nonchalant? Are you talking about when I ignored him because he called my mom hot? Seemed to work in my favor. Or do you mean when when I called him out on the testing. I don't normally do it. Just thought it was funny that his reaction was a smile instead of getting upset about me not letting him test me. There were a lot of other tests, and I just went along with them. I just like to shake things up a bit sometimes when I feel like he needs a lil tug in a different direction. I do it cus I care >.<

Posted by KingofLibras

Posted by ellessque
I have a question for the male participants of this thread.

I've not participated for the most part. I've just read.

Would you consider what she's done/doing as FWB (friends with benefits)?

I didn't get that vibe from the two men who posted but then again, I may simply just be oblivious.

It's so strange how the advice differs between male and female.

men seemed to be "going with the flow"..."just let it happen naturally"...

...and then boom, a woman pops in and says the dreaded FWB word.

just curious. i will disable my claws. promise.

Uhmmm.. This isn't a FWB thing. For the scorpio guy this is serious shit, and this chick's nonchalant behavior is kind of disappointing. The whole button pushing is just an attempt to solicit a reaction and probe her weak spots.

I think if you cuddling with a guy, then its serious. Sex is not really something I would consider 'serious', its just an act, but intimacy of cuddling/snuggling and holding a woman is indicative of serious attachment. So if he does these things with you then his is very much more than just FWB.

FWB is just basically sex. No need for cuddling, no need to talk and get to know the person, just a jump off hoe, a number in my blackbook. A fucking nobody. I have no feelings for a FWB and I don't give two shits who she is FWB with aside from me. Just a trick, someone I respect even less than my real friends.

But a girl I would cuddle with.. that person is special. That is someone who is on my mind most of the day, someone I don't want to stop thinking about 😄

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i think this is friggin beautiful.

hes going to find the right button and push it

Well I swallowed my pride and texted him because I wanted to tell him something. Conversation didn't last long, but I feel better now that I said something.... so hopefully me texting him lets him know I wasn't too busy to text him

I'd really hate for it to get ugly. I'm very tolerant so he probably won't be pushing buttons anytime soon. Maybe if he catches me on more than 2 days of no sleep he will find a breaking point and reveal that weak spot. I'm very good at hiding what I feel like will hurt or ruin a relationship, but when I feel like it I can expose quite a bit of my feelings and run purely on passion. I have to be pretty comfortable with the person tho. Did that with a leo several times and got stomped on a lot...did I learn my lesson? Prob not, cus I'm always very optomist and willing to try it again

Posted by KingofLibras
Well if you enjoyed that, consider this. For guys, touching is loving. You want to touch your car and feel it beneath your fingers, same as you want to run your fingers through your girl's hair, hold her close to you and feel her warm body against yours. Its a very soothing feeling. If a girl loves through hearing things, a man loves by touching things. And not in a sexual way, but in a loving way.

I used to have this.. friend, and she was just that, a friend, and not my gf or anything. And I guess to her it wasn't a big deal, but she did let me cuddle with her. The problem was that such intimacy lead me to fall for her, but she didn't think much of it. Heck, even I didn't think much of it at the time, but much later, the most persistent memory is of me cuddling her, and it brings the warmest of feelings. I don't remember any conversation I've had with her, nor any of the stupid shit she said, none of that is important to a man. What I remember is how she made me feel when she was in my arms. And that is the feeling I bet most guys will refer to when thinking about the girls they like.

Come to think of it, I don't remember anything about other women aside from their first name with whom I didn't have any physical contact. I couldn't even tell you their last name or date of birth, but the ones I cuddled I can draw from my mind.

Sweet, sounds like all systems are a go....until I think of something and reanalyze the situation all over again 😱

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Posted by happykitsune
I'd really hate for it to get ugly. I'm very tolerant so he probably won't be pushing buttons anytime soon. Maybe if he catches me on more than 2 days of no sleep he will find a breaking point and reveal that weak spot. I'm very good at hiding what I feel like will hurt or ruin a relationship, but when I feel like it I can expose quite a bit of my feelings and run purely on passion. I have to be pretty comfortable with the person tho. Did that with a leo several times and got stomped on a lot...did I learn my lesson? Prob not, cus I'm always very optomist and willing to try it again

The idea of finding your weak spots is not to hurt you, but to protect you. Like if you have bad habits and he can help you avoid them, he wants to know you inside and out. Frankly if you are a bitch all the time, that is something he wouldn't want, because you being a bitch to him will pit you against him, which he knows he can't protect you from. A subconscious mind is much more powerful than a conscious one, and he won't be able to protect you from the things that are likely to piss him off.

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things are going to get ugly. that is the only way he will truly know who you are. inside and out. dont be scared of the process. it will bring you too so much closer.

this man will penetrate you saggi and you will do the same to him. i 2 thought that i could keep my emotions bottled up and hidden, but i was wrong.

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Posted by KingofLibras
Well if you enjoyed that, consider this. For guys, touching is loving. You want to touch your car and feel it beneath your fingers, same as you want to run your fingers through your girl's hair, hold her close to you and feel her warm body against yours. Its a very soothing feeling. If a girl loves through hearing things, a man loves by touching things. And not in a sexual way, but in a loving way.

I used to have this.. friend, and she was just that, a friend, and not my gf or anything. And I guess to her it wasn't a big deal, but she did let me cuddle with her. The problem was that such intimacy lead me to fall for her, but she didn't think much of it. Heck, even I didn't think much of it at the time, but much later, the most persistent memory is of me cuddling her, and it brings the warmest of feelings. I don't remember any conversation I've had with her, nor any of the stupid shit she said, none of that is important to a man. What I remember is how she made me feel when she was in my arms. And that is the feeling I bet most guys will refer to when thinking about the girls they like.

Come to think of it, I don't remember anything about other women aside from their first name with whom I didn't have any physical contact. I couldn't even tell you their last name or date of birth, but the ones I cuddled I can draw from my mind.

thank you for saying that. those are the moments we like (need) to hear about. I appreciate it!

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this is why i love libra men

@kit,

this scorpio will be your greatest adventure

@happykitsune it is crazy how your relationship reminds me so much of me and my sagg but its kinda like the reverse so we will probably be very helpful to each other. I will be thinking of my sagg all day 24/7 and I still wont text him or call him simply becuase I dont like the vulnerable feeling that it gives me if that make sense. I think Scorp we need a lot of attention to feel safe, secure, and love and if we dont get that, we still care and love the person but we back up just for the fear of getting hurt it's kinda how I protect my feelings when I am not getting enough feedback from my love interest. I will be thinking well maybe he needs some space since I havent heard from him and I will give him all his space and then I will get a text about why he havent heard from me or somthing of that nature then I will feel bad and do better with my communication then something will happen to trigger the process over again I just think it's a communication problem which I dont know how to solve right now so I know me and my Sagg are taking it one day at a time but I do know we feel like we belong to each other. SN: I only say this cause last night he spank my ass and said this is mine and I just said YES IT IS

Posted by scorpdiva
@happykitsune it is crazy how your relationship reminds me so much of me and my sagg but its kinda like the reverse so we will probably be very helpful to each other. I will be thinking of my sagg all day 24/7 and I still wont text him or call him simply becuase I dont like the vulnerable feeling that it gives me if that make sense. I think Scorp we need a lot of attention to feel safe, secure, and love and if we dont get that, we still care and love the person but we back up just for the fear of getting hurt it's kinda how I protect my feelings when I am not getting enough feedback from my love interest. I will be thinking well maybe he needs some space since I havent heard from him and I will give him all his space and then I will get a text about why he havent heard from me or somthing of that nature then I will feel bad and do better with my communication then something will happen to trigger the process over again I just think it's a communication problem which I dont know how to solve right now so I know me and my Sagg are taking it one day at a time but I do know we feel like we belong to each other. SN: I only say this cause last night he spank my ass and said this is mine and I just said YES IT IS

the vulnerable feeling makes total sense. your sag probably feels this way 2.

you do belong to one another. saggis can be possessive too.

the smack on your ass is LOVE. you are his property

@Kingoflibras, I hope that wasn't too much info but I gotta tell it like it is, and @ DMV so true

nice pic

thanks DMV I thought I would put a face with the name so to speak.

@scorp diva,

the stuff you post abotu your sag is very helpful. it helps me understand my scorp better.

This stuff is all very helpful info. As a sag sun, scorp moon I often feel the need to push and pull as well... being more communicative and giving space. I do this with all of my relationships tho.
Gah I am so tired... I work up after a nap to find scorp had text me like 2 or 3 hrs ago so I text him back....but I'm so tired i don't even know why I did it. And now I thiknk I'm gonna go exercise. Wow I'm crazy... bbl...if I don't die