Questions about Scorpios (Page 2)

Posted by QuietSt0rm

Posted by KingofLibras


Uhmmm.. This isn't a FWB thing. For the scorpio guy this is serious shit, and this chick's nonchalant behavior is kind of disappointing. The whole button pushing is just an attempt to solicit a reaction and probe her weak spots.


FWB is just basically sex. No need for cuddling, no need to talk and get to know the person, just a jump off hoe, a number in my blackbook. A fucking nobody. I have no feelings for a FWB and I don't give two shits who she is FWB with aside from me. Just a trick, someone I respect even less than my real friends.

FWB means different things to different people. Where I live, what you described is more of a fuck buddy. Fuck buddies are for sex only, not going out on dates, no conversation, no nothing besides sex, really.

FWB is a little different from cut buddies because you can go on a date with a FWB, you can talk to them and know them really well and actually like and respect them as a friend. Fuck buddies aren't friends, they're just fuck buddies and they don't get the same respect/treatment as friends. But FWBs are friends, which means the guy does have meaningful conversation with the girl other than pillow talk and they do things together as friends.

My point being, everyones opinions of the word differ. Believe it or not, there are some men that will cuddle with a FWB or even a cut buddy. You're obviously the type that reserves that for special women, but not everyone is like that. Women are being mislead on a daily basis thinking that just because a man cuddled with her after sex that it means he's serious about her. Some men are just naturally affectionate and want to fill that void.

A lot of women make the mistake in assuming that all men are alike or think the same. That's definitely not the case, just like not all women are alike.

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*sigh* yes unfortunately they aren't all the same. Which is why I'm taking all the advice you guys are giving me and applying it to the way I've found him to act. This is pretty hard work, but I think if there is any hesitation on his part its based on past experiences and the fact that he is testing me. Like when he takes up the whole couch and it appears as tho he doesn't want me there. I'm not one to just say "We suck it up cus I'm gonn

That's weird...the other part of my post got gobbled up.

What I was saying tho is I'm not one to just force myself on him...I dated a leo for a long time so I'm used to being yelled at if I didn't realize when he was layed out he wanted his time on the couch. That's wht I took with my from that relationship, but I'm slowly realizing how he works and that I can't apply the same principles to a different man. Especially the fact that he needs to go slower or he'll feel rushed and feel like this could end badly.

Posted by KingofLibras
Hmm.. well as a guy I don't know how other guys treat women, but that is kinda faggy to throw your ass off a couch. I guess women have to put up with all kinds of different guys out there, but in my experience most women were pretty similar, or at least the ones I've been attracted to.

None of them would throw me off a couch. The Leo would want space so he'd want me not to cuddle with him.

As for the scorpio he'd take over the whole couch when I'd get up to go to the bathroom then it seemed strange to him when I wouldn't fight to cuddle with him

Posted by QuietSt0rm
I don't think at this point you have to worry, because you only did it once, right? It's not like it's become a pattern or routine for you guys so I don't think he sees you as either of those right now. I think he sees you as a friend he's interested in, but wants to get to know you better. You wanted to test the waters. I can't blame you! LOL I'd like to know what the sex is like before I commit too.. I'm guilty!

But you let him test-drive it.. now give him time & space to make whatever decisions are necessary.. if he says he wants to take it slow, believe him. If he was interested in using you as either one of the above, he wouldn't ask to take it slow. He'd just use you up as you were available. But I know that I personally like to take it slow because I can be really impulsive in the beginning, and sometimes my mind changes after I've already made decisions. Maybe he just wants to be sure before making a decision. Which isn't a bad thing, but don't let the lines get crossed meanwhile. Don't *slip* and fall into one of those other categories out of impatience.

Yeah I'm hoping my stupid fire sign won't cause me to have any hot, passionate, unnecessary sex again. I'm proud of myself for holding out last night, but idk how long I can keep this up. I'm such a horny person... x.x help me

Posted by QuietSt0rm
LMAO I got mars in sagittarius so I understand. I don't like waiting either really, I hate to admit. :x

Yeah but I bet you could hold out on sex no problem. Sometimes I wonder if I'm a nympho *Sigh*

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Posted by happykitsune

Posted by KingofLibras
Hmm.. well as a guy I don't know how other guys treat women, but that is kinda faggy to throw your ass off a couch. I guess women have to put up with all kinds of different guys out there, but in my experience most women were pretty similar, or at least the ones I've been attracted to.

None of them would throw me off a couch. The Leo would want space so he'd want me not to cuddle with him.

As for the scorpio he'd take over the whole couch when I'd get up to go to the bathroom then it seemed strange to him when I wouldn't fight to cuddle with him

and that's just a man being a man. Sometimes I get like that too though. Sometimes if I'm too hot/sweaty after sex, the last thing I wanna do is cuddle.

As far as your scorp hogging the couch, then being surprised that you won't cuddle..I've done that too. Like just last night, for instance.. I sprawled out the whole length of the couch because I wanted him to lay behind me or between my legs. He sat in the chair and I asked "why you sitting way over there?" and he said I was hogging the couch. I still wanna cuddle.. just laying down. LOL

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Yeah I can be less affectionate when I'm hot after sex too. And sometimes when I really need sleep I will turn away from the person and not let them hold me because I need to feel like I'm alone so that I can sleep. Well, at that is if I don't know the person well enough.

Yeah I kinda figured. Sometimes I do stuff like that so that it's like they have to lay with me, but ya always run the risk of them not wanting to conflict so they find a safe place away from you... and then you just feel bad cus you feel like they don't wanna be near you when you were the one hogging up the couch in the first place 😆

Posted by QuietSt0rm

Posted by KingofLibras
Meh.. I can live without sex for years 😄

Try it sometime. It gets easier after first year

Yeah, you begin to forget what it feels like/smells like/tastes like/sounds like and so then it's not that bad.

But if you've had it recently and the memories are still clear, you'll be jonesin' like a MF LOL

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Well I've had it constantly for almost 4 yrs so I'm not able to forget its awesomeness....whyyyyy x.x

Posted by happykitsune

Posted by QuietSt0rm
LMAO I got mars in sagittarius so I understand. I don't like waiting either really, I hate to admit. :x

Yeah but I bet you could hold out on sex no problem. Sometimes I wonder if I'm a nympho *Sigh*

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sex is the greatest thing ever. its my vitamin.

the only time i would stop having sex is if i was proposed to and accepted. i wouldn thave sex again till i was married. i want the buildup

@DMV, likewise I have learn so much about my sagg from your post and information.

Hmm waiting till marriage after a proposal...what an interesting idea

Posted by KingofLibras
I got some vitamins in my pants. Come get some.

o.o

Posted by KingofLibras
I got some vitamins in my pants. Come get some.

i have a weakness for libras

Ok so I was trying to remember where he was born..and I'm pretty sure I remembered the city. But I'll ask him the next time we talk.

Anywho apparently he got venus in capricorn which is the same as me which states...

"Venus describes your affective life. On the day of your birth, she is found in Capricorn. You are a fragile and sensitive person and you give the priority to the deepness of your feelings and the steadiness of your relationships. Your senses do not respond to all forms of stimulations. Your affective life has a cautious, reserved, moderate and ??_ intense nature. You forge your feelings slowly. You distrust love at first sight. Like faithfulness, love must be earned. Nothing is readily given in this area. Your sensitivity is deep but discreet, intense but concealed and inclines you to caution: frivolous loves do not interest you. You value sentimental attachments based on total and mutual trust. You know the cost of misunderstandings and delusions and you never commit yourself thoughtlessly. Modesty is a quality in some cases. But why do you hide your feelings so often? As you protect yourself too much, as you want to avoid being hurt, you may get locked up in an ivory tower and you may miss passionate loves. You may uselessly complicate situations: life together is simpler than you may think. You must learn to trust it. With time, you will be at your best."

Sooo that explains why he wants to go slow and not jump into things. I'll admit I wanted to go slow as well from the get go, but the fact that I jumped right into sex and my friend (who is fire sun and moon) told me I better get him to commit now or he wouldn't commit at all. So that's why I had been rushing things. I'm hoping I got the city right because this description really makes me feel a lot better about going slow

but the fact that I jumped right into sex and my friend (who is fire sun and moon) told me I better get him to commit now or he wouldn't commit at all. So that's why I had been rushing things. I'm hoping I got the city right because this description really makes me feel a lot better about going slow

*stop listening to your friend. she knows nothing. this scorpio is going to do what hes going to do.

saggis and scorps should go slow regardless of any birth chart or regardless of what your friends think about the male culture of hit and quit it.

stop thinking to much and just be a genuine good friend.

all the venus in cap means is that he will weigh falling in love with you very seriously. but hes a scorpio and hes already made up his mind about you a long long time ago.

your starting to sound like a cancer and overworrying...just relax saggi

Posted by DMV
but the fact that I jumped right into sex and my friend (who is fire sun and moon) told me I better get him to commit now or he wouldn't commit at all. So that's why I had been rushing things. I'm hoping I got the city right because this description really makes me feel a lot better about going slow

*stop listening to your friend. she knows nothing. this scorpio is going to do what hes going to do.

saggis and scorps should go slow regardless of any birth chart or regardless of what your friends think about the male culture of hit and quit it.

stop thinking to much and just be a genuine good friend.

all the venus in cap means is that he will weigh falling in love with you very seriously. but hes a scorpio and hes already made up his mind about you a long long time ago.

your starting to sound like a cancer and overworrying...just relax saggi

The reason I listen to my friend is because he's right about everything so it scares me when he tells me stuff and I worry if I don't do them then the worst outcome with come into play.

But you're right. I need to stop overworrying.

I feel like it's my manly duty to say this for woman (or men? lol)reading be currently be a friend w bennies, or may be or consider being a fwb in the future.

Now ladies lets be clear that "KingofLibras" speaks for himself, when he says what FWB means for him. If you have a relationship with a guy and it's only a sexual one that doesn't mean he automatically thinks you're a ho or doesn't have any respect for you, or looks at you like the gum under his shoe. There is a such thing as 2 people being cool with each other and having a sexual attraction/chemistry but not enough going on a personal level to have a relationship with each other. Maybe it just doesn't click for whatever reason. But the sex was vicious! Lets say both people are comfortable with who they are, both people are mature-so they keep it just between themselves, they both know what it is and what it isn't, they both are comfortable sexually w each other (usually really important to a female), so they get it in every once in a while - shit in and out like a robbery if thats how they wanna do... and then both go back to their own lives. Perfectly fine if shit is understood.

There's no automatic disrespect for the chic just because you nailing and yall not dating or there's no relationship. I mean if yall watch a movie, yall watch a movie afterwards, whatever. Again the basics is sex with someone you're not dating, seeing, messing with, talkin to, or with. You don't expect anything from each other, no obligations or pressures etc

I remember a long. longgg. long time ago - I had a fwb and we were both strongly sexually attracted but we didn't have shit to talk about, just real small talk. A lot of awkward moments, we were cool but to put a long story short... we were out w friends at a lounge, and she did all the talkin by basically molestin me on the dance floor. How cruel woman can be! I'll just say there wasn't too much sleep later that night. But that's all we were and we'd get it in every once in a while, even when she moved - when she'd comeback around i'd have to blow that little backout! lol and she obliged. We had a good little thing going. Both eventually got in relationships so naturally that ended but it wasn't no lack of respect, or like if she needed a ear after we fucked i'd go "fuck you ho, i'm out" lol

Again be clear "KingofLibras" speaks for himself which is cool.

Hello! As a person who's been embroiled in a complicated relationship with a workaholic scorpio myself, here's the thing. He is DEFINITELY into you. Scorpios always love cuddling, and even the one night stand women will get their respect and their genuine affection. They understand and embrace human connections. There is never a madonna/whore conflict (not suggesting anything, just a turn of phrase I am using to illustrate my point).BUT they are capable of walking away from the woman once the breakfast is done if they have already decided they are not going to pursue something long term.

The good news in your case is he isn't walking away from you. Whether or not he is already with someone (which is what you seem to be suspecting) I cannot say. And if he is into you he will not tell you about the other woman till he has totallyu got her out of his life (which, again, he will try and do in the least painful way).

The trouble with Scorpio men - especially the workaholics - is this. They kind of tend to forget about doing things about a burning situation till the fire lands on their doorstep. In short, they have too many things going on to worry about this unless absolutely necessary. So unless you shut him off - respectfully, explaining that it all seems to dodgy to you and you need something clearer till you move forward - he will not get off his ass off that warm office chair and do something to keep you.

One he keeps you, you're his, he's yours, and you have loads of lovely cuddling and hair smelling to look fwd to.Good luck 🙂

Posted by sunnygirl
Hello! As a person who's been embroiled in a complicated relationship with a workaholic scorpio myself, here's the thing. He is DEFINITELY into you. Scorpios always love cuddling, and even the one night stand women will get their respect and their genuine affection. They understand and embrace human connections. There is never a madonna/whore conflict (not suggesting anything, just a turn of phrase I am using to illustrate my point).BUT they are capable of walking away from the woman once the breakfast is done if they have already decided they are not going to pursue something long term.

The good news in your case is he isn't walking away from you. Whether or not he is already with someone (which is what you seem to be suspecting) I cannot say. And if he is into you he will not tell you about the other woman till he has totallyu got her out of his life (which, again, he will try and do in the least painful way).

The trouble with Scorpio men - especially the workaholics - is this. They kind of tend to forget about doing things about a burning situation till the fire lands on their doorstep. In short, they have too many things going on to worry about this unless absolutely necessary. So unless you shut him off - respectfully, explaining that it all seems to dodgy to you and you need something clearer till you move forward - he will not get off his ass off that warm office chair and do something to keep you.

One he keeps you, you're his, he's yours, and you have loads of lovely cuddling and hair smelling to look fwd to.Good luck 🙂

Hm, I never suspected there was another women. He generally hangs out with the same circle of friends every week which are also my circle of friends. I'm not saying there aren't other women. Heck I have other guys I talk to on a regular basis. I've not stopped carrying on with my interactions with other men. I've decided that the only way I'll stop going on dates is he gets serious and we get into something serious.

Honestly I can't think of a way to shut him off. I respect that he's wanted to go slow because that's how his venus operates (among the others things he's listed that are causing him to go slow) and that's actually how my venus operates as well because we both have the same venus and mars.
If you have any suggestions about how I could "shut him off" I'd like to hear them. I don't think that's necessaril

...necessarily the best idea right at this time, but I am curious as to what your success has been with this method
(wow this is the second time part of my post has been gobbled up)

oh, that boy has secrets out the ying yang, they may be other women, a wife, Lord only know.....your venus in capricorn will be a blessing.

Posted by DMV
oh, that boy has secrets out the ying yang, they may be other women, a wife, Lord only know.....your venus in capricorn will be a blessing.

Haha I really hope he doesn't have a wife.

Well my scorpio just texted me asking me to come over... idk what i should do...

You better go...keep that Scorpio.
make him happy.

I ended up going over to his place. It was a nice night 🙂 Gave him a sweet kiss before I left too. Lets see how the rest of this week goes. I still can't tell if he wants to date or not. He spilled a lot of personal stuff tho and some of it was pretty dark, but nothing I couldn't handle. I have no clue how to get him to the dating point. Any suggestions?

Wow, I've grown so much since then. I'm even more confident with the scorpio in this thread now and we are good friends who share a lot with each other. Oh how time flies

Without having to read this whole thread, can you give us a summary on what happened with this guy, and why you are not together? Curious...

He isn't ready for a relationship. He's stuck with the same people living in the same place with the same minimum wage paying job. He can't afford a gf. Eventually I realized he wasn't going to make it happen with me even though I had put forth all this effort. We argued on the phone one night during the summer and that was the night before I ended up dating the sag. After that I didn't see him as someone I could date and he was immediately friend zoned.

We just hung out recently for NYE and I was very confident around him, unlike what I had been when I previously wrote this thread. I was able to talk to him just like I would any other guy friend.

At the end of the night I was feeling so down about the other scorpio splitting with me that me and this scorpio had a deep conversation about it and I ended up cuddling up to him and using him as a pillow. He made a comment "well now you decide to be sweet". But nothing else happened besides that.