re-invented your life

We scorp do this all the time so it's nothing new but I think I need to re-invent my life to find my happy, I am bored so I thought I would create this thread to see how others will do the same if they need a change in their life so I will start. Right now I am very content but I want to be just truly happy as you all have read from previous post I am dating a sagg who is a great guy but I don't know if he's right for me, so my plan and I have disucss this is another thread too that if by Valentine day he doesn't make it clear that he plans to marry me I plan on moving on and just finding my true happiness. My goal is to find my husband I don't want anyone taking that space or time I would rather be single and just have a good time until I met him and not deal with any un necessary drama if it's not leading me to my happiness. I am the type where I love either being in a healthy relationship or being single,free to do who and what I want. So I just feel like maybe we are better off friends so I will give him until like Feb 16 and then I will let him know we can be friends and maybe mess around Lol when I need some.

I hope I don't sound selfish but this is my new plan in life which is not to waste my time or years I am 32 so I feel like I dont have that time to give. I will keep you all updated and just to shed light on the dating with the sagg I feel like I am doing more in the relationship and he talks about getting me a ring in Feb so we will see I need to know he is serious about this relationship.

does your sagg know how much constant reassurance you need from him? or how the need to control the outcome of your relationship is so dire?

i feel like this post shoulda been titled "ultimatums"

i think your just scared of being hurt so you want concrete proof of his feelings and a ring/marriage could give you that.

please dont take any offense to my post.

@DMV no I don't take offense like you I like to know how others feel and if they dont agree that is alright also. With our relationship I don't feel I need constant attention but I do need some attention and I shouldnt have to do all the work in the relationship I dont think it's fair. Lately I have to always be the one calling or trying to schedule dates for us (if it is within his schedule ofcourse then he might say ok) he hasn't done anything on his behalf. I am just getting a little fed up with our relationship, ofcourse I want to tell him like right now at this moment but I want to see if maybe it's just me and I am having one of my moment so if he see that my attitude is changing I will break it all down to him. I just can't say it now because the way I feel it won't come out right and I do want to remain friends.

Okay I feel better today, yesterday I think I was just having one of my moods.

me 2....

i get that way 2...it helps to have sites like DXP and others to talk ourselves off the ledge. sometimes our own friends dont even understand or have grown tired of hearing us talk about the same things.

Yes it's great to have an outlet like this to get our feelings out when are personal friends will get tired of listening to us babble about our relationship.