Sco-man/ Libra female

Il try to keep it short...but i really need to understand this....

Libra female September 29 1988----Scorpio male November 2nd 1985

PAST/// Known each other for 5 years but only more so lately. I was always able to talk to her and be there to listen and have stimulating conversations. In between some relationships we had with other people we would talk and meet up, dinner, sex conversation and a little intimacy watching movies on the couch. But nothing much more came of it do to long-distance. But she always kissed me goodbye and gave me this look, the "im at your mercy look". Anyways there were also a few other occasions when we tried to get together in between relationships but personal and professional priorities wouldn't allow it. I was seeing a girl that was friends with her at some point and she confessed to her that i would always have a place in her heart.

Now the present....

We started to talk again casually around Feb 19th and things escalated from there. She made plans to fly 200 miles to come see me and she did. Things were great and since sex was our main attraction plus the stimulating conversation..we decided not to have sex the first day we saw each other and we didn't nor did we the second day. We went snowboarding did yoga went out for sushi with friends and everything was nice but I could definitely sense the attraction. We started talking more and more text messages random e-mails during the day video chat and occasionally we fell asleep with our laptops on our beds with the video chat open "like sleeping beside each other". But it was long distance and I had gone down to see her twice and she had come to see me twice. So everything was great for the month and a half we were "seeing" each other.

complications....she was in her 4th year of university and finishing her undergrad. And lived in the same residence area as her ex boyfriend whom she had broken up with after on an off dating\fighting and make up sex for a year and a half. She was skeptic about where I fit in her life cause nothing is for sure for her graduate program nor does she know where she may end up. She also wanted to make sure I wasn't a rebound. Little snag happened march 25th when she said again she dose not know where il fit in her life she is so busy going to Europe for 3 weeks going to visit her sister in Vancouver for 2 weeks and then she says...why do i feel like where breaking up when we haven't really started dating. She slept on it then called m

then she called me saying I'm sorry I'm sorry well spend Easter weekend together and everything will be fine, i don't want to lose you. Everything was great again some ex-boyfriend issues poped up but it was the hurt and the fact that someone she loved didn't love her back and thinks that she was the issue. I was always there to console over school stress and friends problems as well as mixed and confused emotions about her ex.

Now im sorry this is long but this is really getting to me. So il try to end it off quick now.

I spent almost a week with her saw her parents her cousins and aunts and even made plans for a summer camping trip in august. Everything seemed great i said i loved who she was and she said naw i think you love me, and at one point whispered she loved me to see if i would hear and how i would react.

The last two weeks

After seeing her for a week i didn't hear a word from her for a week, so i emailed and asked her if she was avoiding me because every form of communication doesn't seem to get threw.... she responded and said she had another panic attack about life and school and everything and doesn't know where I fit in her life, but told me to just drop it for now cause it will pass. Couple of days later she made it clear that whatever we were before we no longer are now.


so from hot "I love you your amazing and one of if not the nicest guy she knows and that i treated her well the time we spent together" to sorry but i don't think im ready for a relationship im off to europe il send you an e-mail from overseas.... no more contact


The thing that racks my brain is these key points...and since im a Scorpio im obsessing over this and i know i shouldn't.

Key points.

- In the beginning she asked if i were to stray would you peruse.
-3:15 am drunk phone call after she said we are no longer what we were.
- she wanted to video chat a.s.a.p when she thought I accidentally messaged a "why to i get fucked over my girls text" to her and not a friend with the same name.
-She said i love you first
-the whole pet names great sex passion respect and other things that i look for in someone.
-she would keep saying your not gonna feel this way for ever you'll get tired of me and i reassured her no.
-after the were not "seeing" each other anymore she was upset and stressed and we talked and she said you ground me.
-sent her flowers after that "break-up" in the end before she went to Europe cause i figured 4 years of univer

university you should be proud and it was my intentions before her change of heart.


Ok so i really liked this girl...i had been in a 5 and a half year relationship before her and I know what im looking for and what i can and cant deal with in a person. I wiash it would have lasted longer cause it seemed like it was cut far too short. The last time i saw her face on video chat we talked for a half hour, she thanked me for the flowers and gave me this smile and look that seemed like she still liked me...not to mention she said i know you hate me but i still have feelings for you..


so to not ramble on anymore here's my question


Was this thing a fling? we had fun another chapter in the book of life.

Was I used to help her get over her ex although they had broken up 2 months before but still argued on occasion.

or is it legit that she is confused in life which is what i think...she doesn't know where she will be in 6 months and i just add more confusion to the fact that she is stressed and needs to make life decisions based on intelligence and not let her emotions guide her life.


Im a sun Scorpio and Moon cancer i think she is sun Libra moon Gemini.

I just over analyze way too much get obsessive and very emotional. not sobing and breaking down but i feel like my heart is in a vice...

any comments would be amazing

thanks all

Everything in your post makes perfect sense and is strangely similar. I will just need to see where it goes and try to keep it cool.I enjoy hearing peoples insight and it is somewhat of a emotional stress relief. I know this post is long but i appreciate anyone who sits and reads through all of it, any comments or constructive criticism is encouraged!

Thing is im kinda noobish with relationships and i know what you mean shouldn't and not couldn't...because I was with a Pisces who is supposedly one of if not the best matches for Scorpios for 5 and a half years. I would love to hear your opinion regardless because any form of criticism is great... i won't base my decision solely on one opinion but take it all in and figure it out myself from there.

Your saying 2 months after and old..and lingering hurt relationship is too soon, but would i be considered a rebound or infatuation because it was too soon or is that where this Libra's confusion kicks in. Cause balance, communication and fidelity are the only 3 things i can't not have in a relationship...and with this girl it seemed like the relationship was a partnership of Mind, Body and soul... i dunno lol damn being a Scorpio at times.


But yes meg regardless I would love to hear good and bad bias or unbiased because I know not everyone is the same but if i notice similarities then...we'll it's hard to ignore the facts you know?

So is it typical for a libra...or women in general to keep you around as a kickstand? " and by that i mean something to lean on or be there when needed"

This Libra expressed all these emotions towards me and kept me around for awhile...then when here insulting and verbally offensive ex boyfriend of a year or so decided to get back together with her she jumped on it in a second... I can't blame her im just as over dramatic and whould have done the same with my ex if it had only been 3 months...but the whole break up not dating..have sex get back together..break up hate each other saying spitefull things...then break-up and hate each other again things seems unstable and it wont last between them...


5 days before they were officially dating she mentioned she was going to be in town and we should have dinner when she's in town, getting back with an old fling dosent happen over night...and on her way to meet him she got stock because of teh ash cloud in a city and messaged me.We all know the infamous "in a relationship" status on facebook or other social networking sites...but why did she even bother with me...even with our past history..

So now im blocked from facebook cause she dosen't want me know know...I hate being the in case of emergency break glass...and she didnt want to explore her feelings for me even more even if she said they were intangible, and I messgaed the only way to find out is to explore...she responded she still had feelings for her ex and if anything she needed to explore that more..


Sure i should cut my losses but I dont understand why bother..why keep me around...did she even care...why do the things we did and say the things we did to each other if it was nothing..Maybe it wasnt the right time but as a Scorpio it's difficult to not have resentment..and im trying hard not to


Any adivce bad or good wether i wanna hear it or not is accepted..

thanks

I posted this in the libra forum also..it's easier to deal with these types of situation when you let it out...so that the irrational and stinging side doesen't surface..wich has been something ive worked on for a while now...any insight or help

Posted by MegStings
Sorry! Didn't realize you replied to my post :p

I don't really wanna do a repeat thing about Libras.. Go to the thread I created in this forum titled Damn libras!!!!!! That should give you some information on the situation I had. There is one person on here who seems to criticize everything I have to say about Libras so I'd rather not bring it up because I am getting sick of it.

What happened to you seems typical of what has happened to friends of mine in Libra/Scorpio relationships as well.

Tread lightly esp. with water sun and moon. I have a pisces moon ... It can be really difficult to get along with air signs. Don't get me wrong tho I do have some Libra FRIENDS. Heh.

What— Who's criticizing what you say about Libras? Maybe cause they can't handle the truth. SMH. It's no secret that Libra/Scorpio is not up there with "matches made in heaven" so no need to fight about it.. I can guess luckystar and there's another one who refuse to believe anything different though. But Libra doesn't have patience to unravel the layers to the complex Scorpio. I wrote somethings about Libra and ___ water sign anyway because someones in the cancer thread talking about it.

Try to stay on topic if possible please...although this is a forum on horoscopes there's much more involved..and im assuming if there are similarities, its cause people have relationship that may have been in the same category... let's not forget everyone is not the same and the sing does not Solly characterize a human but merely what may pull them one way or sway another..

We all have experiences in life that may be completely out of the norm of the horoscopes..

That being said.. I wish it were a life lesson...but nice guys finish last...and no matter how well you try to treat someone or at peace you are with yourself and bring that to the table...I still seem to get myself into the same issues.

I spoke to my ex a pieces i dated for 5 year about this recent libra and explain that when we ended...it was all her and sometimes people just move on or don't mix anymore..

Regardless I never go search for love..and im picky but when I see something in someone I like i can't let go of the connection especially if they have a lingering one..especially if her ex was an ass to her

They say let go but if there's some true scorpioness in me it's persistence and until im told leave me a lone I wont give up..and not in annoying obsessive way...

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luck sleeps in the sea
luck sleeps where she wants to sleep
she just don't sleep with me

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