Scorp Female and Cap Male

I went on a few dates with a Capricorn man I met online. I have to say the 1st couple dates I wasn't completely swept off my feet in the chemistry department, but he is funny, smart and we have good convos so I continued to talk to him. HOWEVER, on the 3rd date I couldn't stop staring at him, realized how attracted I was to him and then we finally kissed on a (full)moon-lit beach, after he picked me up, had long stemmed roses sitting on the car seat for me, bottle of wine at dinner....now I need to know what I need to do to keep my cool LOL. I'm new to "dating", got a little screwed up by a Virgo the last 6 months. Everyone is telling me that I should date around and not stick to one guy, you could say Cap is now wooing me, saying romantic things, asking when to see me again, contacting me, etc. So far so good, but I said the same thing with the Virgo for 3 months until things changed. I don't want to get hurt but I don't want to have walls up either.

HIM
Sun Capricorn 9??11'03 in house 7
Moon Virgo 9??34'06 in house 4
Mercury Sagittarius 21??12'34 in house 6
Venus Capricorn 3??51'38 in house 7
Mars Leo 9??18'27 in house 3
Jupiter Cancer 0??00'01 in house 1
Saturn Virgo 0??11'57 end of house 3
Uranus Scorpio 15??16'01 in house 5
Neptune Sagittarius 16??42'23 in house 6
Pluto Libra 16??35'16 in house 5
True Node Libra 10??23'13 in house 5

ME
Sun Scorpio 24??59'57 in house 6
Moon Taurus 14??10'27 in house 11
Mercury Scorpio 18??42'34 end of house 5
Venus Libra 8??48'08 in house 5
Mars Cancer 1??42'43 in house 1
Jupiter Aries 15??37'02 in house 11
Saturn Leo 2??57'59 in house 2
Uranus Scorpio 4??11'23 in house 5
Neptune Sagittarius 10??54'13 in house 6
Pluto Libra 10??47'05 in house 5
True Node Scorpio 21??48'28 in house 6

We are both Ascendent Gemini.

Posted by amethyst2002
That's because a guy's true self comes out after 3 months. They can only hold up that facade for so long. It's kind of a general rule of thumb - give em 3 months and see what happens.
If you're that worried, go with the flow and don't make anything serious of it. And DON'T SLEEP WITH THE GUY right away.

So, should I date/talk to others still? It's like the only reason I would date others is because I don't want to get hurt and because everyone else tells me I should. Otherwise, I am perfectly happy sticking to one person at a time (but maybe that is the mistake I made with the Virgo). Cap hasn't asked if I was seeing anyone else yet, the closest we came to talking about dating others is I said he has more time than me to date; I only have 1 night a week/1 weekend day off which makes it nearly impossible for me to date more than one person at a time.

My other question is do I tell him my concerns about getting too close with someone (especially physically) too soon or do guys not want to know these things? I want to be honest but don't want to come out and say, "well I had a bad experience and people change after 3 months" etc. Do guys think this way too?

Posted by Honey1306
I am a Cap girl with a Scorp guy and all I can say....my best match ever. I don't look too deep into the whole chart but all I know is the two of us want the same deep down core things. Consistency, committment, loyalty, and no games.

Just go with it... 🙂

I think cappy men.. I need to try one atleast one more time. I dated one and he was hardheaded and lacked ambition.

Posted by dietdrpepper
I went on a few dates with a Capricorn man I met online. I have to say the 1st couple dates I wasn't completely swept off my feet in the chemistry department, but he is funny, smart and we have good convos so I continued to talk to him. HOWEVER, on the 3rd date I couldn't stop staring at him, realized how attracted I was to him and then we finally kissed on a (full)moon-lit beach, after he picked me up, had long stemmed roses sitting on the car seat for me, bottle of wine at dinner....now I need to know what I need to do to keep my cool LOL. I'm new to "dating", got a little screwed up by a Virgo the last 6 months. Everyone is telling me that I should date around and not stick to one guy, you could say Cap is now wooing me, saying romantic things, asking when to see me again, contacting me, etc. So far so good, but I said the same thing with the Virgo for 3 months until things changed. I don't want to get hurt but I don't want to have walls up either.

HIM
Sun Capricorn 9??11'03 in house 7
Moon Virgo 9??34'06 in house 4
Mercury Sagittarius 21??12'34 in house 6
Venus Capricorn 3??51'38 in house 7
Mars Leo 9??18'27 in house 3
Jupiter Cancer 0??00'01 in house 1
Saturn Virgo 0??11'57 end of house 3
Uranus Scorpio 15??16'01 in house 5
Neptune Sagittarius 16??42'23 in house 6
Pluto Libra 16??35'16 in house 5
True Node Libra 10??23'13 in house 5

ME
Sun Scorpio 24??59'57 in house 6
Moon Taurus 14??10'27 in house 11
Mercury Scorpio 18??42'34 end of house 5
Venus Libra 8??48'08 in house 5
Mars Cancer 1??42'43 in house 1
Jupiter Aries 15??37'02 in house 11
Saturn Leo 2??57'59 in house 2
Uranus Scorpio 4??11'23 in house 5
Neptune Sagittarius 10??54'13 in house 6
Pluto Libra 10??47'05 in house 5
True Node Scorpio 21??48'28 in house 6

We are both Ascendent Gemini.

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Thank you all so much. The replies here are all reminders of what I need to do for myself. This time around I'm going to try to lead the guy lead, pursue, initiate contact, when to be exclusive, how serious we are etc. Not that I won't reciprocate but I will do my best not to control but also not be suspicious. The sex thing is a diificult one. I'm going to try to hold off as well but not easy for me. I just have to think about how I will feel down the line. There is already flirting and our convos going in a sexual manner and in feel like I need to refrain. Obviously he is interested...for now. On the dating site he posted he wants long term. The other issue for me is not using text as a way of communicating. But I fall into the trap with guys. They have to make an effort on the phone! Btw I don't regret sex with the Virgo it was awesome and I learned about my body with him too. It's just the emotions that come with it. Is it ok to explain to Cap why I want to wait when the time comes up?

I think it gets to a place where you should explain yourself, then you should. I think you should just be honest. Just say you want to wait, you don't need to go into much detail.

I also recently met a much older Cap. We had great chemistry, but he was obviously trying to get into my pants asap. He was actually not like most typical Caps. Could me the mix of his venus/mars. I could tell he had a temper, and was impatient.

I wanted to wait to get physical with him, so I just laid it out once it got to the point where I felt I needed to explain myself. He was cool with it at first, but ;ater on he started being an a $ $ and basically told me he doesn't like waiting. So I told him to not wait, keep it moving. Moral of the story, if a guy likes you for you he wouldn't mind getting to know you before you have sex. Sex complicates things, and if he doesn't respect your wishes, he is not worth it imo.

*IF it gets to a place..

Yup, seems like they are the same breed of Cap lol. I really don't get it though. Looking at what I have of his chart, it doesn't add up. He actually has a Taurus moon, which matched great with my Taurus moon. I feel like that double earth should keep him grounded and CALM. But NO.

I really think his good looks and charm just have his ego larger than life lol.. I'm pretty sure he's used to women falling at his feet, so he may not have been used to resistance. *shrug* *sigh*

Posted by elihope69
wow sounds like a perfect date! dont pass judgment on this guy just because of your last relationships. give it a chance or it will never work. just my scorpio coming out but sounds like hes "pullin all his best tricks out of his hat". dont give it up to early. i like the 3 month wait period as well. as amethyst said.

Ya, his latest "trick" was to write me a sweet poem about our last date and he emailed it to me last night. Also, yesterday there were a couple of times in text msging that he referred to being intimate (not totally perverted or anything, more in a joking/teasing/flirting way I guess) but it made me uncomfortable and I just don't want to go there yet, especially to do talk about this early and in text. I guess I made my point clear, so he retracted and said "oh great now you think I have sex on the brain, awesome"...and he changed the convo to ask how my day was etc. He's a guy so obviously he does, there was chemistry so of course I do too! But, having thoughts and taking it slow are 2 different things. I feel so much smarter this time and I'm not falling for anything (I hope LOL).

Another update...he had a surpass date planned yesterday. He picked me up at 830 am and finally told me that he had booked a tour of wineries for us. It was so sweet he remembered from our last date that I told him how I grew up in the area but never been to the wineries. Then on the way home about 5pm I asked if he wanted to come back to my place to watch a movie and eat. I said jokingly "unless you want to go home or if you have another date planned". So he said he cancelled any dates he had scheduled after our first date. He just mentioned when you find someone you like it's a waste of time to date others.

So, when it came to the physical part we did "make out" a lot but I was clear that was going to be it. It is very difficult to invite someone over that i am attracted to mentally and physically where there is chemistry to JUST kiss. But I wasn't ready for sex on the 4th date either. Today by text he told me he likes to take it slow as well but he is not good at reading me. He said he gets nervous and self-conscious if he feels like he's going to far/not far enough. But I told him I don't believe that he likes to take things slow that he's a guy and I'm sure he would have gladly accepted had let him go further. He of course agreed! He basically said sex is a conundrum waiting is about emotion, sex is best with emotional content the deeper the better and it depends on how 'slow' is defined. But he also said I turn him on and he wants to please..so obviously he's just stating the truth that he wants to get laid haha. I think I'm torn about what is right for me at this point.

*surprise date

Posted by dietdrpepper
Another update...he had a surpass date planned yesterday. He picked me up at 830 am and finally told me that he had booked a tour of wineries for us. It was so sweet he remembered from our last date that I told him how I grew up in the area but never been to the wineries. Then on the way home about 5pm I asked if he wanted to come back to my place to watch a movie and eat. I said jokingly "unless you want to go home or if you have another date planned". So he said he cancelled any dates he had scheduled after our first date. He just mentioned when you find someone you like it's a waste of time to date others.

Very sweet of him 🙂

But I told him I don't believe that he likes to take things slow that he's a guy and I'm sure he would have gladly accepted had let him go further. He of course agreed! He basically said sex is a conundrum waiting is about emotion, sex is best with emotional content the deeper the better and it depends on how 'slow' is defined. But he also said I turn him on and he wants to please..so obviously he's just stating the truth that he wants to get laid haha. I think I'm torn about what is right for me at this point.

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He is guy. Of course he will have sex with you, no problem. What happens after that will be a different story.

I think you may be over thinking things. You KNOW he would have sex with you, but I think you are trying to doubt his intentions. You may be digging more than you should. Set the stage for what YOU want. Don't over think, or over talk it.

My mind's tellin me NO..but my body's tellin' me Yesssss.... (lol, sorry I had to ;

Posted by amethyst2002
That's because a guy's true self comes out after 3 months. They can only hold up that facade for so long. It's kind of a general rule of thumb - give em 3 months and see what happens.
If you're that worried, go with the flow and don't make anything serious of it. And DON'T SLEEP WITH THE GUY right away.

I like this. Good advice to follow

Posted by cowpuncher
Wait a while for sex and he will always respect you more for that. He'll also think of you more as "wife" material. IMHO you've got him, reel him in at your liesure. 🙂

Well, another update as a follow up from my last...we didn't actually talk on the phone until 3 days after I saw him. He started the convo in text (the one I shared above about sex) but I told him I can elaborate on what I feel but not in text (this is the mistake I made with the last guy where the phone commmunication died down and I was NOT okay with having certain convos by text only). So, last night we had what he calls "the sex talk", about testing for STDs, he said he hasn't been sexually active in a year (do I believe him?), I explained how it was too soon for me last time (4th date, met online, don't really know each other, etc), it's not that I have no drive or that I'm not attracted/turned on by him but I need to be comfortable and do what feels right. I said I'm not a "just sex/casual sex" kind of person, that it changes things, explained how *some* women get emotionally attached, etc. He agreed, explained to me how men are designed to "conquer". We also discussed our problems in our sex lives with our exes.

Basically he said he felt much more relaxed after I told him what was on my mind, because he wants to do the right thing...I asked what he meant/if he meant the right thing with ME in mind. He said yes, that's what he means, he wants to be a gentlemen. He said he likes talking with me, being with me and it feels effortless, yet still exciting. He also said he has a healthy sex drive, it wont take much prodding, he doesn't remember every turning down a women that he wanted. So I asked "a woman you wanted sexually or wanted HER", that it makes a difference. He said "in your case, there is no difference".

We did not have the exlusive talk as some people say you MUST have, but he told me he's not seeing anyone else (actually he hasn't logged into the site we met on since our 3rd date and told me that after our 1st date he cancelled the others that he had planned). And neither am I. I still have mixed feelings about having to HAVE *the talk*. Anyway, this long phone convo was so good for me/us if it goes anywhere. Mainly for me since I just started dating this year, I really need to learn and do what is right for ME. I realize that I can sound jaded but because of th

I forgot to add that he has put thought into me and being intimate and I appreciate it, as suspicious as I can be, I think he is sincere and genuine (but I said that about the Virgo too haha). He told me last night on the phone, how he thought about our last night together and understood that maybe my body was responding to him, but he realized mentally I wasn't quite there (when we at a point where I wanted him to cool it when we were making out, because I was turned on but didn't want to go further). IDK, I think it's cool that he observed this and shared it with me.

Yikes!!! He told me he's never been in love with anyone like this before, it's not just physical, that he's so lucky, that he didn't think he'd find me. It's been 7 weeks since we met! I didn't say anything back to him, I was speechless. We were kissing at the time (it was morning, before we had to get up to get ready for work, he has already spent the night, we shopped and cooked dinner together) so that helped because I felt like I had to say something back but I couldn't. How am I feeling about this? He's wonderful, I really like him a lot, he's a great guy, I'm happy and feel lucky too. But, I'm scared, it's so soon. The last guy didn't tell me he was in love or loved me, but at 2 months he told me how strongly he felt about me, that he hadn't felt that way in a long time, and then at 3 months he was gone. So, I know it's not fair to think Cappy will do the same, but I have to be wise too. Also, I'm afraid maybe I didn't hear right, because he whispered it. What if he didn't really say that LOL.

Two days ago you were on the Virgo board talking about you and Virgo are meeting up for dinner ... and how you made sure to mention to the men about each other.


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Not the best match but not the worst. I think Cap man and Scorpio is more to your advantage though than the other way around.

Posted by prettyladii
Not the best match but not the worst. I think Cap man and Scorpio is more to your advantage though than the other way around.

Are you saying that based on our charts I posted or just the general combo of Cap male/Scorp female?