Scorp Women--do they only like challenge?

I read that they love a challenge, but at the same time they value loyalty and want to feel that they practically own you.

I don't know how I always end up getting into these Scorpio chicks. I'm saggitarius but on 12-21 so I'm also sort of capricorn apparently.

I had been holding back with this scorp girl. She has been coming after me for months, doing all the work.

I always had the sense that she was lining me up to replace her current bf... so I gave her space. That's not really my style , to be a home-wrecker. Finally she comes up to me out of the blue and tells me yeah she's breaking up with him, moving out, and oh yeah, in a few months moving to another country. I say you're young, your'e at the age you can do something crazy like that. And she's all, but you can too. You have no wife or kids. You don't need to be here either.

A few days later the whole facade crumbles and my lips flap. This awesome chick that I have developed a genuine rapport and attraction with (again, her doing all the work) is apparently moving away and I freaked.

Through her mystical shennanigans, somehow she got me to tell her I had some feelings for her when that was the last thing I would have dreamed of doing. Like being hypnotized, you walk right into their traps then start saying crap and then you're like "was I just drugged?" And the weird thing is, even though I told her I cared, she acted like she didn't believe me. That I was so guarded and mysterious. That my attraction was news to her. She thought I hated her. B.S. She knew.

Now I don't know where we stand. I opened my mouth too soon and I just instinctively knew to give her space and let her come to me if she so chooses. She's starting to re-initiate contact.

My cynical side says women drop you when they know you want them. This isn't one of those outawardly sexual, attention seeking scorps, but the more quiet, intellectual, artistic ones. So I'm basically done.

A year ago I was at this very site, posting about ANOTHER SCORPIO. Of course, she was of the obviously evil, maneater type. I'm much more cynical and aware these days.

Anyway, what's your take on the "Scorpios love challenge but also want to know they own you" thing?

Saggi: "She has been coming after me for months, doing all the work."

And you were not forthcoming by the sounds of things...so if you like her then show it to her. So far she's been doing all the work.

Yes we do like a challenge always..if things are stagnant, we'll mess it up just to initiate some kind of challenge..and yes we do like to be in control..moreso than any other woman of the zodiac..but we also like the man to be a strong, in control type..no walkovers thank you.

Well, she WAS doing all the work, but like I said I spilled the beans. I told her that I was interested in her, that she was a girl that I wanted to date, but that I was concerned about the fact that she was coming out of a LTR and that if she was really moving away I than I would be hesitant to get too close because I'd miss her if she left. That's about as forthcoming as it gets. I've never been a pushover with her though. I have no problem putting her in her place, but I have to look after me too. I don't just open up to anyone, I did to her, but it's hard to see potential with someone who claims they are moving away.

So as far as challenge I pretty much let the cat out of the bag, which isn't my style .

Yes in that case you have been forthcoming...and what you said to her is what most in your situation would say...Unfortunately at times we do expect someone to drop everything and follow us wherever we may decide to go...However, the fact that you don't, shows your in control of your emotions...trust me thats a good thing..I like and respect that..Not everyone can up sticks and move half way across the planet just to be with someone...these things take time..and yes if she's just come out of a LTR then depending on who did the finishing, she should not be considering another relationship. However, her wanting to move abroad and start afresh, I can totally understand that..I have done that myself in the past..and that isn't to get over someone, its just cos a new beginning is just sooo refreshing..

Scorpio girls have a way with Cappy boys...to us they declare everything..My cappy guy friend (about whom I came on these boards originaly) said the very thing to me...I can't believe half the things you make me say to you...yet you never give anything away..I trust him with my life..and you don't understand how hard that kind of bond is to find...Alas we remain friends because he doesn't know what he wants and I am not prepared for the dilly dallying..you either like someone or you don't...I care about him immensely though..So your a sagi/cappy cuspian..they are usually a fun bunch..

Erm, I don't know what to suggest really...but I don't think you should feel as though the cat is out of the bag now and you don't have the control anymore (which is what its really about here)..there is no harm in telling someone how you feel...I would rather die knowing I told someone I loved and cared for them then never allowing myself to do so due to my pride/self-control etc..

It IS hard to believe someone who wants to leave a country but yet they say they care and love you and want to be with you..In a similar situation myself..so I know how you feel there!

She did the finishing. It seems like she wanted me, so had to end that relationship. This has been going on for several months, and I've gotten every indicator that she wants to be with me. So like you said, her up and moving if she's so interested doesn't make sense.

Of course, I never would have even told her any of this stuff if she hadn't told me she was leaving. Before it was that she was going to move just a few hours away, and I didn't respond. Then the different country comes into the picture. I'm trying to be a classy guy here by not trying to move in on a girl who is in a relationship. Now all this stuff is happening at once. It doesn't make sense.

I know I walked into some sort of trap, just don't know what the bigger picture is. In any case, obviously I woudn't stand in the way of someone who wants to spread their wings and all that crap. And I don't want some short term fling either with someone I have known for almost a year.

I guess it will work itself out somehow though.

Awww you sound so sweet...I think you should just bide your time, be there, keep in contact and see what unfolds that is if your emotions allow you to...if you know for definites she is going then it depends on how you both intend to take this further...You should ask her outright what her intentions are too. You can't just figure this out on your own..She plays a big part as well..

I guess she feels slighted in some respect..She finished her relationship to be with you and now your not accommodating cos your not moving away with her to be with her (yes at times we do want the moon on a stick). Don't let her make you feel guilty in any way though..things have a way of working themselves out...She doesn't strike me as the drama queen or one of those needy, clingy types..If she needs to get away then its probably for her own reasons..that doesn't mean she doesn't care about or love you enough..thats not the case..

I need to go take a shower and go out..have to visit daddy!

Good luck!!!

I'm only sweet on the inside. On the outside I'm sarcastic and mysterious. LOL.

It's not like we were dating. This is one of those things, that happens without talking about it. We work together. It seems that she had been doing all this stuff and I was being so much of a challenge that she couldn't tell my intentions. My goal was to get her away from this dude (if it was the right thing obviously). Looks like that happened. She basically layed it down on the line and forced me to tell her how I felt. Now she knows. Like you mentioned, I'm going to blame it on the sag/cap cusp thing.

Women are supposed to do that stuff first. That's why I feel weird. She didn't ask me to move away with her. But she wanted to know how attached I was to living here still. Which is the same thing I guess.

Women always say one thing and mean something else. I'm just trying to not get too ahead of myself. Not sure how I'm doing with that. LOL.

So we'll be in contact in any case. If she's serious I probably am too. If not, then that's life I guess.

Thanks for the chat, missmorals 🙂

yes you have been scorped.

My advice, from one capguy to the other: Stay in contact, don't give up.

I'm in a similar situation with a scorp, but she is attached...not leaving. just let her know you will be there for her, they seem to like that.

I don't feel so bad when I know I've been "scorped", lol.

I've invested a lot of myself already into her, even though we're not together. I've always thought she was a keeper and that has been my whole goal anyway. And I'll be there for her if she's still in the same country.

;P

Your welcome!

And theres nothing wrong with being sweet on the inside..on the outside you can be a lean, mean fighting machine..as long as you have a soft centre...and we can Scorp that out of you..hahaha....you've been scorpionised....wooohooo

partaaaaaaaaaaay

OH MY GOD!...My Aries man just phoned me from the army barracks...

Awwwwwwwwwwwwww...I love him to bits....god I miss him...

I agree, sometimes when feelings have been expressed to ME, I may lose a little interest in that person, maybe in the short term.
I guess it's the line between superficial/predatory conquest, like you mentioned, and wanting to have an actual connection with someone.

Which you can't really have if you're pretending.

Hmmm, Missmorals, how is it a scorp dating an Aries?

"I think that scorpio women are the best!!!"

Yes we are....

QueenScorpio...yeah its early days and I adore him....In the long run I can imagine it getting tiresome..but I don't mind at this stage..brrrring it on...He's my baby...

Come on Roxi..you've had 20 years with the wrong type of Aries..had it been the other one, I am sure you would've been in wedded bliss up till now..awww

Wow Ashton is just soooo fit!

Raarrr

I can't wait to see how this pans out because i'm a Scorpio woman who really likes a Saggitarius man and is really not sure where it is going to go. He lives quite away from me too but we do keep in contact. I had no idea that women were supposed to reveal their feelings first I have always had men do it first. I think he likes me sometimes and then other times he acts oblivious so it all gets really confusing but I don't want to tell him because I don't want him to lose interest.

Hi Saggit,

To answer your original question, yes, a scorpio would definately do that.

Siren said--

"I had no idea that women were supposed to reveal their feelings first I have always had men do it first."

Maybe that's why you're called siren, men do stuff they would never do normally as they chase a mirage into the middle of the sea and end up crashing their boats against a bunch of rocks.

Women always speak up first. ALWAYS.

Just not in my case apparently.

BTW he's not going to lose interest. If he actually has interest, he's waiting for you to say something so he doesn't have to feel like a wuss and do it first.

well alpha male is certainly a scorp woman. They just dont' have the balls as a man. 🙂

guys nice things i read. I hated though in a way. Because i still care about my scorp woman but we dont' speak over a month. Excuse me for interrupting.