canser help w/ scorpio woman

im a Canser and have recently broken up with my gf of 2.5 years
but i feel like i now know what i did wrong but im not sure how much time to give her before its too long
because she did tell me that she "needed time"
I would apreciate any help
thankx

im a Canser and have recently broken up with my gf of 2.5 years
but i feel like i now know what i did wrong but im not sure how much time to give her before its too long
because she did tell me that she "needed time"
I would apreciate any help
thankx

well be more specific. what did u do wrong?

i will try to help u being that i am a scorpio, but i have to admit that i enjoy seeing u squirm....lol

heheeh thanks for that.......lol
but if you want it ill give it to you
ok so basically we got along great in our relationship for a long time but it was only until
I got out of school and we didnt see each other as frequent that i started to get angry and sad if we didnt have time to hang out,soooooooo those mood swings that I gave her mad her feel bad and kinda drove her to tell me that "she needed time".
At first i was like WTF!!!!! and now i realize that the more that i asked and asked for her to come back to me drove her away further and further. Sure I did doo some ReaLLY stupid things like
1. shout at her for walking with a guy (that I later found out she was just tutoring)
2. checked her myspace because I thought she was cheating (witch she wasnt)
3. checked it again because my friends told me that she was talking to some guy alot at school (whitch I found out was just a "nice guy")
so Ive done many bad things before but I apologized and we seem to be ok, kinda like "half full" now
but theres that whole issue about giving her her "space" thats driving me nuts.
I dont know how much space is too much or if I give her sooo much space that she will forget about me..u know.
well thats about it ......
she did say that we might hang out this weekend .... and if we doo, I dont know if I should reveale my feeling for her, about how i feel or if I should play it cool ———
BTW we "split" @ the begining of MAY

Let's get something straight, there is no way she could forget about u even if she tried, she wouldn't be able to resist. she may be enjoying the fact that ur freaking out and is letting u. u really have to be sincere with ur apology. but i would have to say if u did something really nice for her she might open up some more(and be creative, think of something specifically catering to her likes). us scorpios love when a guy is hot on our ass, it gives us a high, so she may be toying with u a little bit to get u to straighten urself up. so if u don't like this feeling, u better start behaving buddy!

but take it easy, don't go overboard, and dont act like a pyscho with the thinking she's cheating on u. she's not interested in anyone else. if she put up with 2.5 yrs of ur weird cancerian behavior then she loves u.

oh yeah, and make sure u use protection when u guys make up!!

WOW OMG
its like im talking to her .......how wierd
but your soooooo right
now that I think about it she did "once" tell me (during a small fight ) to get my sh*t straight but i really never understood that until recently. She did always want me to grow up, because when i was with her i used to feel like it was ok to act like a little kid,
i never took into cosideration that she possibly might of wanted me to be more of a "man" u know
becuase her best friend did* tell me that she always wanted what was "best for me" and that gave me a hope.
well ive been very strong lately because of this time appart it has aolso made me very independent but i just want to show her that now that im this "stronger" person, i can meet her expectations that she had for me
but i know that if I say it bluntly she wont byu it I know that I have to show her but
I dont know what to doo———
so.......................................
if you dont mind do you think you can help me a little bit
and if you can here are the decals* about her
1. vegetarian
2. loves animals
3. likes it when i make her laugh(im good at that)
4. likes indie musc
5. wanted me to get a Fou' hawk like forever....lol

but yeah thanks



btw
i dont know how you knew .....but yeah
the bed"time" is AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and yes mamm' i will use protection lol

ok first thing, make sure u are doing this for YOURSELF and not just because u want to get back with her. because once u get back with her, theres a chance u may just go back to your ways. and if u go back to these ways, your ass is getting the boot again. and remember, there's only so many chances you are going to get from her, especially since u two seem to be younger. please make sure you are really ready and u understand what you did wrong and that it is not the right way to be!! thats the main thing u need to do in order to "grow up"...recognize your mistakes and u will be a better person.

as far as what special thing u can do for her, only u can decide that. because only u know what will bring out that intense connection u guys have. but i will give u an idea since i know how unimaginitive u men are....lol. if there is a zoo nearby (since she likes animals) take her there and i'm sure there will be tons of things that u can joke about with her there. or maybe get her favorite veggie takeout and take her to a nice park and enjoy the outdoors or maybe even by a lake or something. do some research and see if some indie bands are playing nearby and get some tickets and take her there. the reason i say to do something she likes is to get her to open up to u. and if u make the time worthwhile and u change ur ways for real, she'll be all yours. the jealousy thing is unnecessary and would turn me off as well so cut it out if u want to keep her. she's a scorpio, its not her fault guys are around her, but just remember she wants YOU!

what are your ages by the way?

just be very gentle with this situation, take it easy at first, only try to see her once a week, call maybe twice a week to say hey. and when the time is right, when u two get that intense connection, look into her eyes and tell her you love her but not only with the words, but with your soul. and then she'll be yours forever.

well Mugen, this is how someone would get to open back up. good luck, and just make sure u really do grow up for yourself (i'm having doubts that u are).

thanks again
well she is going to be 18 soon and im going to be 20....... I kow that bye now your probably like WTF hes like a little baby (hope not)
but scince ive been with her I could just feel a connection that i havent felt with anyone that ive dated in the past .
Her childhood was very depressing to listen to ,but then again, i cant picture her saying it again to someone else. Ive also shared many deep secrets of unfortunate events that have happend in my life ,and its because of things like that, that i feel that our relationship wasnt just some "puppy love" kinda thing.
well thanks for telling me that its not her fault gyus talk to her and stuff, your right shes a very atractive girl adn I can see why gyus are like that ......
little history lesson ,....sigh*
I had a gf when I met "her" and a week later.... I had broken up with my girlfriend to get with my -now- ex
the whole story is really cute & twisted (ill probably tell you later all the details)
HA! its funny why i never thought of the zoo GIVEN THAT I LIVE LIKE 30MIN FROM THE LA ZOO (im a morron)..but strangly enough weve never been there
its things like this that give me hope that theres many MORE things that we havent done and that theres still lots to explore in our relationship if we get back togeather
ohh and thanks for the sorta "tough love"
i guesse i really never learned from my mistakes in the past .... it just sucked that when ever we had a argument or something we would just either not talk about it and never resolve it and just make love lol
i know now, thats not how things should of worked out in a relationship (there was a point were she asked me that if that was all that i wanted from her and I got really EMO i never knew how to tell her that I would never use her like that)

but i doo feel that ive learned from my mistakes
so i can finaly show her that im a different man but
still that funny cute gyu that she fel in love with
i guesse i j/need to give her time...


btw have you even just "needed time"
like for yourself?

oh!!!
p.s.
your really helping me improve my mood
and are making me realize many things that i thought
were right were actualy wrong
thx

wow soo true
here we go again with growing up thing lol
In this past month that we havent been togeather
i realized that everything EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
that i ever did while with her was! for her
i never did anything for myself and I hoped that my constant
love for her would make her happy, I know there is a fine line between love and obsession
and i think that i got wayyyyyyyyy to close to crossing it
basicaly now, im doing things for myself and taking charge and making my own decisions and not having to feel that
i need her approval for anything.
its just that I would like for her to share my new life with me again
that all ...but yeah i do alot more thing for me
not for her anymore ..... because i know that it was my behavior of being TOO lovy-dovy that made her kida drift away from me because she had no space at all

all human beings "need time", some of us are afraid to admit it for whatever reason. i'm sure though she said SHE needed time, but really she did it for YOU because u needed to reflect on what was wrong in the relationship. she actually seems pretty smart for 18 if she's doing what i think she's doing. don't let this one go with your immature behavior.

in relationships, u don't necessarily have to talk about the problems, u really just have to recognize them and fix them. and plus, u 2 have a special connection where u dont always have to use words to communicate with each other. she will know ur sorry. but something like the jealous behavior, u might want to apologize for that, like i said, when guys are having an intense connection. but dont scare her away by over doing it because she will think u are just saying it to get back with her.

about the zoo thing, like i said u men are unimaginative so it doesnt surprise me that u never thought of that.

btw, i am involved with a cancer guy for 1.5 yrs now and he's been distant for 6 weeks. so i know a lot about that connection that u have with her. also i dated a cancer guy years ago (but didnt know he was a cancer at the time) and it was the same feeling. funny thing is, both of these guys were born on the same day but 5 yrs apart.

u have to remember that there are 3 lives here....you have your life, she has her life, and you both have a life together.

u probably did turn her off. and u putting all that effort into her shows signs of insecurity. its ok to do things for her and because of her. but u always have to do things for yourself. the most important person to you should be yourself. if u dont take care of yourself and love yourself, there is no way you can do that for someone else. i had a feeling there was some of this going on here. i would maybe even say even though it has been a month, and it feels like forever, maybe u need some more time to straighten things out with yourself. u need to do that for yourself, u deserve it.

thanks again!!!!!!!
man i never saw it like that
as if like I owe it to myself for putting so much effort no'
i guesse she DID do this for me even though she needed time for herself aswell.
WOW!!!!!!!!!
just now i realized that ... the biggest reason she hasnt wanting to be in a relatonship
was because she wanted me to learn from this whole experience so she could feel comfortable being with a more independent and confident me again, but instead of learning from it I took it to the heart as a personal attack at me then,..... got mad,I shouted at her, witch for 2 years i never raised my voice at her once, i also became really sad, even depressed and
a little crazy,desperate,EMO. thats what was my biggest mistake and my most immature one.
wow i really feel like I just had a break threw with myself ( i know it sounds dumb but I really feel like that right know)
thankyou again for OPENING MY EYES *_*
I guesse now all i need is to give her time to feel comfortable enough to talk to me again in private
but until then im definatly going to keep on reflecting on ALL my actions in the past because what has happend happend already i cant change that and I know that.
Im just going to be a better person so she can see who I have become :}

Its strange though ..... like i said before I feel like im talking to her or more like her consience*
you know when you said that thing about loving myself i was like wtf(in a confused way)
but its true though .... i didnt take care of myself that much and I was basically a JerK to her for anything!!!!!!!
man I was soo stupid

thankfully now im on a better track and im taking better care of myself because im really taking advantage of this whole time appart to see who I really am "aolne"
and I can now say that I truely "LOVE" myself
honestly If someone were to ask me if i loved myself while i was with her i would of said like WTF are u talking about.
so thanks for making me realize all these missing aspec that I didnt know that I needed to have to be happy in a relatonship not for my partner but for me aswell

thx a 1000000

no problem! looks like ur on ur way to becoming a man....good for u, and dont forget to take your time with things....there's no rush for anything. it may take a long time for u two to get back together, so just be patient. and if u dont get back together, just remember what you learned from this. i really do believe everything happens for a reason.

the women here on the cancer board are all very helpful. they helped me and we all help each other. i dunno where they are tonight, looks like its only me, i'm here cleaning my apartment because i'm having company for the weekend. so anyways, whenever u need anything, don't be shy. and dont forget to keep us posted. take care of yourself!

thanks soooooooooooo
much again and im glad that you took the time to listen to my story
thaks agian !!!!!
ill keep you updated if you dont mind
thanks and good night

thx thx thx thx thx thx thx thx thx thx !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dude.. if and when you get her back.. never, ever let her go again. If it happens again, you have only yourself to blame. Do whatever it takes because you don't want to be kicking yourself 5 years down the road knowing she was the one you let get away. No joke, for a cancer male, a scorpio female is THE one.. everything else pales in comparison.

thanks alot SRG
for your support well as i said before ill keep everyone posted
and yeah man she has given me enough chances and I know its because she still cares
dispite everyting thats happend
ohh and bye the way is your

SRG (sargent)
or Sergio

becuse if it is
man thats trippy
cuz thats my name
Sergio

later \dude

Take into account what you did wrong, learn from your mistake and make sure history doesn't repeat itself. Not everyone gets a second chance so go for it.

how did that happen?

she's a scorp, just have sex with her, thats all she knows. then once ur done ask if about that "needing time" thing and she'll say "time? what time?"

Did u two manage to talk things out? What else did she say? If she hasn't found someone else yet, I'm sure she'll consider getting back together.. unless she's disgusted with u..

If a scorpio wants to be with you, she will be. Not to sound "harsh" but I wouldn't call her and my guess is, its over. I have never "kind of" broken it off w/ someone. I'm kind of all or nothing. If I wanted to be with you, there is no way I would let you go and say "i need some time". That's just MY scorp opinion. Others may not feel the same...

I Kinda like the way you think.

thanks 😉 (If that was directed towards me)

It's vague, yes. But "need time" is never good. She's say'n, "buh bye"..

"hahahaaa.....that tickled me.....so you're 'kind of' all or nothing —"

Somewhat all or nothing, Bling. You're quick 😉

yea.... id give up on the scorp.....she probably doin' someone else by now.

"yea.... id give up on the scorp.....she probably doin' someone else by now"

lol I resent that comment. let's just be clear that Mugen dug his own grave by being a pyscho jealous obsessive boyfriend.

lmao....even the scorp wannabe is taking offense to that...luv ya lucky!

well ok ....theres a 67.9% chance shes doin someone else, and a 100% chance someone is trying to do her......🙂