Question for Scorpio Women...

"and tell him that you expected him to change and try to win you back?"

What?

You call a dude that is an ex and tell him that you expect HIM to change and to try and win you back?

lol, think highly of yourself, do you?

I'm not bashing on you, lol

You just admitted that this wasn't about you and I'm not the only one who took this wrong . . so, this one you can take because you DID post it in here sounding the exact way I took it.

Silly girl,lol

sweetheart, it appears to me that all women do this from time to time . . play head games. I think it's just that morals and values have changed. Women have been empowered over the years and we are becoming stronger . . being demanding now. It used to be men who did the commanding of women . . roles are reversing these days.

So, it's likely that she did just what he said she did and I don't think it has anything to do with being Scorpio, rather, just a female who feels stronger than men.

Message posted by: sweethearts_1969 on 1/9/2007 11:26:49 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.97
After you break up with a guy that you cared about and that you were in a long term relationship with, do you keep in contact with him and and tell him that you expected him to change and try to win you back?

No..when I am done I am well and truly DONE..no looking back or mulling over what could've been corrected. Your last sentence implies you are not really over him..so your not done..

Sweethearts: "She even shows up at places that she knows where he will be and he gets all out of wack because he still cares for her and then he told me that she told him something like that and it's really screwing with his head"

He should tell her to fk off basically!

"From what I know about the situation it seems to me that she likes give him a little taste of what he lost to stay in control"

Yeppers. Only he can put a stop to it..he's still obviously attached to her for allowing her to get her own way with him. Emotionally.

"After you break up with a guy that you cared about and that you were in a long term relationship with, do you keep in contact with him and and tell him that you expected him to change and try to win you back?"

Even though my sun sign isn't Scorpio, I have a lot of Scorpio in me, especially when it comes to love, so I'll take a stab at this.

If I cared about him a lot, I wouldn't break up with him. Hence, I would still be attached and I would try to keep in contact with him. I wouldn't ask him back, but I would still try and keep some contact.

Now, when I am completely over a guy, that's it. There is no going back, nothing he can say or do will get me back. It's over.

Well, is this the same Virgo guy that you like? If so, he's f'ing around with you! You like him, he knows it and he's letting you know that his ex is still in love with him too.... so it sounds like he's kinda playing you....

"After you break up with a guy that you cared about and that you were in a long term relationship with, do you keep in contact with him and and tell him that you expected him to change and try to win you back?"

Nope. I was in a long term relationship and I broke it off. He wanted to remain in contact, as friends, but I believe that he was hoping to get back together. Because I respected him and didn't want to hurt him any more than I already had, I didn't want to lead him on. I was friendly whenever he contacted me, but I don't initiate contact or encourage getting together.

Sounds like your friend's ex was using manipulative methods to change him in some way ... she ended it in the hopes that he would realize what he was losing and change to suit her. Looking at her actions after the breakup (contact out of the blue, freaking out when he's dating someone else) she obviously still wants him, but seems what she really wants is someone she can control.

Yuck!...Cancer dudes are sooooooo clingy!

Your kidding right? Scorpio women don't usually do that. BUT this is a Scorpio/Cancer relationship so maybe she is trying to manipulate him. They say water signs are manipulative and that Cancer's like to be manipulated.

Still...my pride wouldn't even allow it. Scorpio's are stubborn and I myself am double Stubborn. Sun in Scorpio and Moon in Aquarius-Pffh double fixed in beliefs!

I think cancer is allowing himself to be manipulated...Oh dear..
My friend at work is a Scorpio male with cancer chick..things aren't good..they've only been married a year