Scorpio and Public Speaking

I can't stand speaking in front of a group of people....I like to work behind the scenes of Cancer Research....There was one time in my life that I had speak was when I had to teach a bunch of nurses a computer course in Wordperfect ages ago and I was so nervous but I did it and it got easy after the frist day but today I have to speak to a professor about my job with the Dir. and other co-workers in the conference room about what we do in Clinical Trials...and I really don't want to.

Am I the only one who feels this way?

ugh, i HATE public speaking. i know this is directed to scorps, but i have to say it: you're definitely not the only one who feels that way.

i'm taking a speech class to try and get over the nerves. my professor said that, typically, students rate public speaking as one of the three worst things you can do in life. the woman majored in speech, and she still gets nervous on the first day of class! she admitted to it, but it was obvious because her voice had this weird little warble.

i hope i didn't make you more nervous with that, but i guess what i'm trying to say is that everyone gets the jitters before having to speak in front of people (even sometimes after years of doing it). makes ya feel self-conscious.

it may sound silly, but it helps to just admit it. if you're really nervous, just saying that you are will make you feel better, you know, "i'm not used to this, and i feel like i'm all nerves today...so bear with me". it calms me down a lot, and chances are anyone you're talking to will be able to relate.

Oh gosh no..SL.

I hate anything that draws attention to myself and anything where the eyes are all focused on me. I was just thinking about this earlier and how much I hate to walk into an unfamilar place. I don't know if I think the 'boogie man' is going to jump out and get me, but it bothers me nonetheless.

No you are not alone..

Good Luck with your presentation!!!

Well I was informed that all I have to do is talk about the Regulatory part of Clinical Trials...hell I don't want to do that either......The Dir tells me I am good at what I do and she will forever keep me but damn can she just keep me from at least speaking...I just started talking in meetings....I normally just sit there and listen and take notes....

chocolate, you read my mind. instead of backing away, just face it head on. you're good at what you do, so take a deep breath and let people see that.

I used to be petrified, now I just don't care...I go in the room with the "step aside please, I'm in charge here thank you" attitude and it works.....but when I am about to do a demo in front of a group of fuddy duddies, everyone in the office is like aren't you scared...No...the secret is....don't think about it. Imagine you are the only person there talking to yourself...

The thing about professors is that, much like dogs, they can smell fear, and when they do, they pounce on the target, their beady little eyes alight with madness, their throat full of terrifying shrieks, and their mouth full of jugular. You wish to avoid that. In order to do so you should show professor clearly that you are not afraid of it. This can be achieved by shanking one of the professor's underling. Do it nonchalantly, as you walk toward the designated speech-dispensing area, all the while maintaining eye-contact with the professor. Perhaps smiling ever so slightly.
The speech should be smooth-sailing after that.


Either that or just imagine them in their underwear. Whatever you're most comfortable with.

Well I thank you all...

MM your are so hard core.....

Well I went to the meeting and when the Dir told the doctor actually who is trying to come here to work at Howard ...well she introduced me as IRB Regulatory..and the man was like "Oh yea you the boss your the one we have to see....you have all the answers" and I just smiled and laughed shook his hand and said nice to meet you.sat down and was like what is the big deal!!!! it's just regulartory, I know we need that to put people on studies it needs to be approved and all but I seriously don't think my job is all that important....

Well anyway the Dir was like SL do you have something you want to say...and the doc said oh yea regulatory do yall have this and I said no then he did most of the talking and I just sat there listening....then the doc said something else and I said we are not ther yet....so I did not say to much of anything.......I mean I got really hot and started sweating...this a fear that I must conquer and I will eventually but right know I am not there.....

SL: "MM your are so hard core....."

LOL..I know..aint it fookin great!...(you see, positive affirmation!!)

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"LOL..I know..aint it fookin great!...(you see, positive affirmation!!)"

Yea I guess.

As you get older you not only get wiser you get more sensitive and caring and your not as hard core....and I think that is where I am I can be hard core if pushed but it takes up so much of my energy for me know at 46 I am to tired to be hard core.

Hell I have a hard time still expressing my feelings...I have to make sure that my emotions are calm and I still get nervous.....

Scorpionlady , I can relate to your nevourness ... However, I have to thank my teachers and my bosses , they all seem to enjoy "pushing" me to speak in front of the public...I am still abit nervous now, however , when I begin to speak , I forget the people around me and totally absorb into my speech unconsciously at those times...There is a breathing technique from meditation can help you to calm yourself before the public speaking : close your eyes , breath in slowly and deeply with your nose then breath out with your mouth , do it three time. After that , close your mouth and just breath in and out slowly and slightly (not deep breath like the first 3) with your nose .
During the speech, it helps to find a "focus" spot to look at in order to avoid seeing the audiences since you might be affected by their facial expression!
Normally,it's best to look at the wall at the end of the room(do not find a spot above the person's head much) if you are standing - pretending with your audiences that you're looking at them but you aren't - this also gives a benefit that you're confident and friendly. Of course, sometimes ,during the speech , you can look at some of the people and smile abit(don't overdo though or you can look too weird!)then subtlely withdrawing and returning to your chosen " focus" spot!
If you are siting , ( damn ! I used to be cornered by three managers and coworkers!) ,my presonal experience is that if it's possible , try to look in the eyes of your boss(no staring , please!)not his face when you began , again accompanying with a little friendly smile then slowly moving your focus to others in the room , not their eyes but the walls behind them ! Again , sometimes , try to go back looking at your boss after you feel relaxed as you go on with your speech.

Confessing you're nervous to gain sympathy is also a good technique , however , it's a double-edged sword as it's like putting "life" in the hand of your audience! If you've a nice audience , it works out nicely . If you don't , you're in a big mess as they might try to worsen the situation for you (yes, there are mean people!). So think carefully!

Sometimes , a slight joke and humours can work nicely ! Again,double-edged sword !

Finally, "practice make perfect" . Good luck! 🙂

I cannot put into words how much I loathe public speaking. But, believe it or not, the fear goes away eventually.

public speaking is cool as long as i'm confident in what i'm speaking about...so the trick is: do your research on what you're saying so you can feel confident that you're right. and even if you're not right it doesn't matter, because people will think you are because of the vast amount of confidence you display

that's why i like missmorals, she takes care of business. confident women are ultra-sexy ;D

Oh SHIT!! one of my favorite things to do: command an audience and make them listen to me....great way to express/discover your emotions about something.....love it....I'm not a Scorp, but I do love it....I'm not shy, but I am reserved...just the way it is self-confident, but quiet.....I'm interested in making a system work for everyone, and I just like the idea of being of influence to rule justly: I think I've got ALL the right answers and CAN'T be wrong lol 😛

I mean Scorps are rather passionate folks right? well speak it from a personal stand point if that's where you derive your confidence from: when it comes to emotions, who the hell can tell you how to feel in relation to something? You might just inspire some low-life.....😛 lol Most speakers THINK that (This might be becuase I'm a sidereal Leo) speaking has to be impersonal, and without feeling, but it dosen't.....speaking comes from innerconfidence and belief in what you're selling....you've gotta feel it....if you're gonna speak it....

I love public speaking, because it gives me opportunity to inject bullbutter into other people's minds. Don't worry if you are at a loss of words. When that happens, i usally take a excerpt of Hitler's speech and deliver it to the audience, The results will amaze you, I guareentee it. 🙂

But seriously when you are at a loss of words, admit the truth and say this and walk away.

"opps, I can't remember my lines"
"sorry, i have nothing to say"
"alright, I'm done"
The audience will usually admire you because it shows you have balls to admit your faults , and not just deliver the standard bullbutter to the endlike everyone else.

So I had a performance review the other day and my boss gives me back this feedback...."your tone of voice is very affirmative, positive and strong, you are a strong person and really enthusiastic with it..which is great for the team..you ability to teach others is outstanding"

Yah man..I rock!..

The key is like Scorpion_wreck said to know what you are talking about...then theres no fool on the planet that can have one over you....Knowledge is power...and power is my aphrodisiac...muahahhahahahahhaha

Chocolate and I are best friends (in all manner of speaking)...I love that chickette! 😉

Yes and scorpios are passionate in speech..especially if it is a subject close to their heart...

I have been told I sound like a man 😢 but I equate that to sultry and sexy....positive affirmation...

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Turn negative into positive....