Scorpio Personality

Hello fellow Scorpios,

I am a typical Scorpio..intense, jealous, secretive, want to be in control..etc

I find that people rarely ever approach me.. and I dont always understand why. I look sweet and I smile quite a lot but I am reserved too. Im surely not boisterous.

But I find I am treated invisibly when I am in a room full of people. I am a better conversationalist on a one to one basis. I hate gossip and dont engage in it.

Fellow Scorps help me understand myself?

Thanks in advance.

I find women tend to ignore me a lot. Does this happen to you?

Thanks Roxi and Scorp in law,

Oh Roxi I am female and Im fairly new to this forum. Scorp in law summed it up well that I tend to 'feel' a rooms emotional energy. I can tell right away who is worth approaching and who isnt. Besides, I am VERY suspicious with strangers and I dont know why. I feel anxious around certain people too. I cant talk about superficial things to any person for more than lets say 5 minutes. My chats have to be meaningful and preferably deep.

Well, at my previous workplace when I first started, the girls would all go off for lunch and not invite me. I couldnt understand why. I was smiley and attempted to be friendly with them. Yet whenever they saw me, they would either subtley look away or start talking to other people.

We had 2 new girls then start work there...and they were both invited out to lunch on their first day! Why not me? I may seem bitter - but I am quite indifferent. Im just confused thats all - it doesnt make sense...

Roxi,

That is exactly how it is. Im 26 and most of my colleagues are much older (least 10 years). However, there are some my age, and they just 'stick' together.

Maybe it is because I am aloof...I am always in a world of my own. lol

It is a horrible atmosphere to work in...depressing and they used to make me feel worthless and shunned aside. I am now in another job but am handling myself much better.


Sometimes I think I am the only one thinking this way..you know..being so deep and looking into things so much...

Thanks for your support Irishlibra.

I just dont like it that girls want to make you feel so worthless..I used to believe it too. That I am not good enough. But not anymore as I have grown older and wiser.

I remain professional at work. I dont engage in gossip and keep smiling to everyone. Most importantly - its not Fake either..I actually mean it. I find it difficult to smile I people I dont like. I do like my current work colleagues... its just this clique of girls that I face in nearly every work environment Im in.

*sigh* Oh well..

This is going to sound arrogant - but I do get a lot of attention from men.

Im happy for you irishlibra that youre in a much better place now. The work environment really does make a difference to our mental well being.

I agree with a lot of users who have just posted. A lot of people dislike me and don't even know me but you have to LEARN to not give a flying youknowwhat because if they were worth your time then they would take the time and get to know you. A lot of people who just marginalized me because they felt threatened, jealous, or etc. are people I would do without ANYWAY. Some females act that way and some males do too.

And girl, it's not arrogant to state you get a lot of attention from men. It is what it is.

You women.

Grrr.....

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IL, that's a lot of detail.

Is that common for Libras?

"im pissed thinking about it again!"

Damn woman, you must have some water in you somewhere.

I have noticed that the women in senior level are okay with me...level headed and easy to get along with. I can have a good conversation with them and walk away feeling good.

When I observe closely, it is mainly women who are 'at the bottom' shall I say, or women with no particular skills or ambition that attempt to bring other women down with them.

Good on you Roxi! You showed them. Scorpios are great game players and we play the game well. Its just that I havent 'played' recently because I want to become a better person... but I know that If i played...I would win.

I could really wind these women up at work if I wanted. The ball and power is on my hands. Making them jealous deliberately by flirting with men and blatantly ignoring them would work a treat and I would walk out with a smug look on my face. Oh the thought of it makes me smile.

If they push me..or cross that line..they will see my nasty side and it wont be pretty.

"Yes, I have observed this first hand many times. Women have it in for other women. I think the root is jealousy."

Really?

I've found men to be more the problem. 30-something year old men cracking on to me, trying to fill the void in their unfulfilling marriages. Lol.

Btw, i have never competed for a man and they have come running for me. Treat em mean, keep em keen i say 😉

jealousy is dangerous for the world ...sometimes I think it's like virus ,spreading around the world ...I wish I have a big cloth to wipe away all darkness in every corner of human being......

"Btw, i have never competed for a man and they have come running for me. Treat em mean, keep em keen i say."

That kind of strategy turns me off. Explains why I don't go for Scorpio women.

Rox,

Just my impression from the boards that there are three types of men drawn to Scorp women. Type 1 is the man without passion who is drawn to the sizzle of a Scorp women. Type 2 is the passionate man who is softer in presence, and likes the complementary hard edge of the Scorp female. Type 3 justs like the abuse.

dearest rox,

I guess if you're down with ST passionate affairs, the options open up. Let's see. They see we go best with earth or water, minus Taurus. So let's look at the options, shall we?

Pisces, Cancer - Type 2
Virgo, Capricorn - Type 1
Everyone else - Type 3

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"Fellow Scorps help me understand myself?"

I tried to come up with some comment on this phrase..but couldn`t.
I am losing it.

You dirty lady..
it`s somewhere under the table,can you bend and look for it?

To your initial question scorp -sting for some men, we seem intimidating, to some women as well and yeah, I must admit I had a jealous female or two hating on me.... so yeah, but once I open my mouth they say, we would have never known you were this cool. It must be a look we have on our faces. I swear I have been trying to figure this out myself.

Oh yea, I can identify with the jealousy from other women. Or at least that is what we are calling it. I have had more women give me a look, like they were scared to talk to me. It's like if you said 'BOO' they would run and hide!! Kinda funny, I think!! And I add to that mystery by not uttering a sound.

So glad that this issue is being addressed, at least now, I know that I am not some sort of freak!!!

Oh yea, I can identify with the jealousy from other women. Or at least that is what we are calling it. I have had more women give me a look, like they were scared to talk to me. It's like if you said 'BOO' they would run and hide!! Kinda funny, I think!! And I add to that mystery by not uttering a sound.

So glad that this issue is being addressed, at least now, I know that I am not some sort of freak!!!

I am 26 and petite (only 5'0'') and have a sort of baby face. I don't see how this can be intimidating or threatening in any way. In a way I am still confused as to why women are a bit funny towards me.


''the most important thing to remember is not to let them 'win'.''

You hit the nail on the head here Roxi.. this IS the most important thing. I am so glad as Scorpios that we have this capability to not allow others to win or 'conquer' us.

I have even been labeled as 'snobby' or 'stuck up' and that is not my intention at all. I think it is a cop-out for the other person/people. They don't want to take the time or the effort to get to know what is beneath the cool exterior. And unless they look to me like someone I want to know better, I will mentally flip them off.

Maybe because we have pride and this shows on the outside?

I find myself to be a bit of a perfectionist and like to mainly go for refined things in life.. from food to hair..etc

This can give the illusion of being a 'snob'.

I am actually very friendly when approached. If people need my help (and ask nicely), I am more than happy to give them my time, attention and listening ear.

I like cancers.

I make an effort to go over to your board from time to time, but it doesn't seem like much is going on there. Oh, the usual lush-fest and cute Crab-Taurus sizzle.

And did I say you guys are hyper-sensitive?

I find it is the pther way around. I have a Cancer female friend and a Cancer male friend. They are very similar.

They talk talk talk and it is always me that listens. I do have a soft spot for them.. I love them. But they also acknowledge me as well and my needs. I wouldnt call them selfish because I think they dont trust many people so they talk about their inner feelings to me. I love it that they can turn to me.

I really do think that Scorpios provide strength (emotional) and protectiveness for Cancers and in turn Cancerians provide loyalty and love.

I have never loved anyone as much as I do the Cancerians in my life.