scorpio girl need advice was dating a cap guy...

for about three and 1/2 months and then he broke it off. I asked him right then and there if he just wanted to be friends because he didn't seem happy and he said he guess that would be the best thing for right now time will tell. This was last month some time, then i asked him if he was cool with being just friends a day later and he said he has no time for anything else and that he think he jumped into the relationship too fast. He went on vacation with his guy friends a couple of weeks ago after this conversation and i had stopped calling him and he called me and said why i don't call him anymore and in the same sentence he asked me to do him a favor by putting $ 60 in his bank account. I was so shocked because i never in a million years would think he would give me or trust me with his account number because of girls doing him dirty in the past and stealing from him. Lastnight we met back up because he gave me back my money and ask me if i had a boyfriend yet and i said no i don't have a boyfriend. He also asked me what i was doing later in the week but i really didn't respond. He said that he would call me but i know he won't. He is always updating me on new job offers and the moves he will make soon. He says he just want to make money and i guest that is concern right now. I just feel like he is the one for me and i need to be in his life for some reason. I feel like i need to be the one to mend his heart for some reason. I am in love with him and i know 3 month is too soon but we connected from the day we met and i don't know what happen. I can get a little carried away with calling him and texting him but i stopped. My question to you is do you feel i should move on or hold on and keep being his friend? Or should i just move on?. And about the account number thing was that a test to see if he can trust me?

Oh boy!...good luck...I liked a cappy once..to this day we are still friends..been 2 years now..but he never could make out whether he wanted a girlfriend or not..all the dilly dallying got on my bloody nerves so I pulled the plug on that...one minute he wasn't able to live without you, the next he would be too scared to do anything, and the next he had no idea what he wanted and wanted to just be friends..and yes I too felt I could "save" him...from what? himself?...Nah couldn't be arsed with that..too much emotional energy wasted..The way it currently stands..I told him I never want to see or hear from him again..the guy nearly started crying..and really did make the effort to stay friends..went out of his way...so because of all the effort he made..we remained friends..I don't ever call him, don't ever need him..he comes to me himself...its better that way..we are just friends..they are better as friends..much better..He will make someone a really good husband one day..cos he's utterly adorable..and funny..but as for me..I couldn't deal with all that undecisiveness..

So good luck...if it works out, I really do think Capricorn are a great match for Scorpios

Yeah break away if you want your sanity!....of course not all are like that..but majority really do fuckin dilly dally at the beginning..they have no idea what they want emotionally...good friends though..

Sooo true!

But how much fuckin time do you need? gawd sakes....You either like someone in which case you try and make it work or you don't in which case stop with all the "lets be friends first and see where this goes" bollox....shit aint hard...

I think Capricorns would make great partners as they are so patient and understanding and very funny..one of the few signs that geniunly make me laugh out loud...however they just take toooo flippin long to make a decision...by that time a scorpio would be bored shitless...

Capricorn man/scorpio woman, I have seen quite a few of these...the other way around, not sure..

"Well, I do know that when a cap gets into a relationship they try to get into it for the long term"

I don't think anybody goes into a relationship thinking its short term and doomed for failure...things happen, people change..just have to deal with it..can't put life on hold just cos you seem to think it won't last..This is the only gripe I have with Capricorns..they just don't allow themselves to have fun..everything has to be so bloody doom and gloom...If they could just lighten up they are the best around..I am sure being ruled by Saturn may have something to do with that..must suck big time..

"I rather use that time, make some money, read a book and go somewhere fun"...Are you saying a short term fling restricts you from doing those things?..you can still do that...I personally don't go into relationships thinking its a short term fling..but if it turns out to be one...it matters not...life goes on..I don't look at it as a regrets..everything happens for a reason...must be a cappy thing..as two of my other cappy friends say the same thing...

Love is in the air.........

**romantic music plays in the backround**
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I know..can you imagine the pent up agressive s*x...man!!...both of them sooooo need to get it on...look she's even asking where he lives now...what next...

Ooooh smackdown!...

Its getting hot in here...so take out all your books...

Also one I went out with turned into a unbalanced stalker after only two dates. He did not understand the meaning of the word no.

Sounds like any ex-scorpio of mine. Oh man 😢

Sagigoat: "I sometimes feel like he is seeing me as a counselor. However, he does not volunteer info that truly matters to me. Info that would help me feel closer to the real him."

Guilty...I don't see anyone as a counselor but i don't readily share information..but if we are intense with you, we like you..its not bordering on stalking or anything..its called determination..to get what we want..not all can handle the intensity...we are the emotional dynamos apparantly and well a goat is shit scared of emotion...

I've been with my capman for 8 years. Really, caps are not passionate? Because that is the one thing that I fell in love with in this guy. He is the most passionate man I've met. In and out of the bedroom. As far as some of the other things being mentioned in this thread, much is true. He begged me to be with him, then when we started living together he had MANY doubts. We've broken up quite a few times, but something keeps pulling us together. Maybe it's the fact that we have seperate bank accounts and as long as my part of the bills are paid, we NEVER fight about money. Maybe it's the control thing. He thinks he wears the pants in the family, but he can't even unclog a sink. He doesn't even know where the dishwasher is.

I don't know. It's a strange mix. Two control freaks who always have to have the last word. But love each other to the point of almost obsession. It's almost a love/hate relationship. Would I have it anyother way? Well I'd walk all over a man that showed weakness. This man always keeps my respect. What more can I say?

Mr. Neg, I know you were being a smartass but what you said is actually true. They definately drink with all their hearts put into it.

I once loved a Cap guy.

We were both young, dumb and inexperienced...but its unforgettable. All those things happened; where he couldnt make up his mind, we'd break up because I wanted decisiveness, he'd come back begging and when we were apart it was torture. All familiar.

However, I also havent ever, ever experienced such a natural, strong connection with anyone ever since (its been 5 yrs). He'd look in my eyes and just "get" me, and vice versa. We were so in sync, the understanding was so effortless, so non-verbal.

My experience was that he was so concerned with doing the "ethically right" thing that he wasnt able to enjoy the moment. He'd sabotage the whole experience. He was too uptight sometimes. Too pessimistic.

My bro&dad are Caps too, and they're super hard to convince. They need time to wrap their head around new ideas as they can be conservative sometimes.

Caps so far have all been amazing listeners though. Really sensitive on the inside--they arent as cold as they seem, its just Saturn at work. They're actually lovely, vulnerable inside. Almost like children. They're not boring...they just need to be in the right frame of mind and feel safe. They'll be extremely romantic and passionate when they feel safe.

Frustrating stuff: Fear of taking risks. Sometimes lack of passion in bed. Hot temper. Coldness. Masculine pride.

Honestly though, when you work around the shortcomings, its a great match. They're loyal and they care. They love you crazy inside even if its hard to express it the way we'd like them to.

This all said, it takes a lot for them to let go in love. They are more naturally "loners" than comfortable being part of a couple.

In terms of how they see us scorps,

-I think they admire the passion easily expressed.
-Of course they find us sexy (vice versa!).
-They hate how we hold on to stuff and drag it on and on.
-They hate being criticized, especially in the "know-all" way we do sometimes.
-They arent so comfortable talking about their emotions as we can be, so they dont like interrogations.

Overall the love is lasting and the feelings very real. After all, its earth and earth makes water feel grounded.

Just a few ideas. Just my experience.

Kafka, I agree with everything you said except the lack of passion in bed. My capman is hot as hell in the sack. Still, after 8 years! Everytime!