Scorpio Guy...Vanished!!

New to this forum.

Been reading all these posts on the scorpio male. They do drive us up the wall don't they?

I got to know a scorpio guy online. Initially it was insane. We would chat to one another for like 15 hrs a day on msn. It was like a drug, we just had to have a 'dose' of one another. 3 weeks down the road, i guessed something happened at work for him (saw something crappy he posted on his facebook 'bad f***ing day. can someone pls shoot me') and he just suddenly went 'offline' for a few days. Saw him online a few days later and he was throwing a b*tch fit for no reason when we chat. According to him i was not paying attention to the the conversation at hand and that it's annoying and it shows that i lacked courtesy! Imagine that! All i did was not probe when he said 'clearing some stuff at work before my break'. I didnt wanna ask what break he was talking about. Somehow or rather i felt that i didnt want to be too much of a busy body. And he got pissed at me for not asking?!

I was rather mad myself, but i let things cool (for 5 days), before i contacted him again (yes me) on facebook.

He loves doing the 'disappearing act'. All of a sudden, after going offline for a good 1-2 weeks, he will start talking to me again like normal.

He's working in another state and was preparing to come back home, for a short break. We started chatting as before but he started being kinda 'mean'. He started posting mean and irritating stuff on my fb wall but to his other frens, the post was not mean at all! It was more of the teasing kinda mean? Will keep insisting that there is something wrong with my brain and that he's surprised that i don't know that. Yeah on my wall..for everyone to see. He also kept asking me to come over to his place to meet up with him when he's back, to chill. 'i like my friends to meet my mom, it shows that you are sincere to be my friend'. I actually declined...good god..i've yet to even meet him!

So, when he finally flew down, he surprised me by calling me at ard 1am. I took it that he called me the moment he got off the plane. I didnt pick the call...you guessed it..i was in bed..duh. I never did ask him about this though.

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It was so hard to meet this monkey!!! I was having a rough time at work, it didnt allow me to take the day off or time off. And he was busy 'partying' the nite away with his friends. We just couldnt set a time to meet. We got really frustrated and conversations on the phone (it can last for 2+ hours sometimes) or online will only end with 'so are u coming down NOW to meet me? No? Alright then. BYE!' and he'll slammed down the phone. And i will do the same, when he said he's too packed to meet or beginning to get on my nerves, because at times, he was just purposely being difficult!! Arghh!

Up till the day he was to leave, we were still arguing about meeting up. I even sent him a bitchy 'goodbye, u moron..i hate you' sms before he left. Which he didnt reply to..obviously.

Thinking that he already flew back, i did feel kinda sad. I really wanted to meet this guy but i know life has to go on. I met up with my girls for dinner the next night. That was when my phone rang..and you guessed it. He was on the other line...postponed his flight. When asked what made him stay..'i've yet to meet you..that's why'. A joke i believe. We met up finally..2 days later...and it got more confusing.

He was a real sweetheart in person, surprisingly. And about scorpio and their nature to STARE, i got that for a good 20 mins when we met. He just stared at me without blinking, sometimes with a cheeky grin, sometimes with a smile. He just smiled and shook his head when i asked what's the matter. And he was touchy, will grab my hand and say 'is this the scar you were telling me about the other day?'.And i don't understand why he kept looking at my lips, while we were talking over dinner. I got paranoid, so i will take the napkin and gently wipe my lips, just to make sure, no ketchup or whatever. haha.

I think we were too comfortable. We were leaning against each other. I rested my head on his shoulder and he will in turn rest his head on mine while we sat at some bench at a park to talk. Kept on saying he likes the smell of my hair. He will touch my arm and will just look at me with that grin. We held hands playfully, and he was asking me not to leave as yet, that we should hang out longer. But as i have work early the next morning, we parted ways at around midnight. It ended with a normal hug and a peck on the cheeks.

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He called me the next day, telling me where he was, what he was doing, what am i doing..sounded all cheery. But as he was meeting his friend, he cut the conversation short and told me he'll call me back. I texted him at around 9 the same night, telling him, i wasnt feeling too good, and i was going to bed. *work suck*.

After that call and up till now, he's yet to even call me or text or whatever. It's been 9 days. 9 long days. I don't even know whether he has left, whether he's still here. I saw a new photo of him and a lady fren of his on his facebook page. He was tagged, but he untagged it afterwards? Is he just a player, a nutcase or just an ass?

What is going on?

I know there are WAY too many fish in the sea to get all worried and bent out of shape because a guy didn't call me back. But i am honestly lost at what's happenening? What did i do? What didn't i do? what the hell...

Yes i like him and i don't want to lose him as a friend..

Sigh..i guess i was thinking too much into all this...he can disappear...really...

Ms Flowerpot

what is your sign?

I think SCORPIO man has genuine interest in you. I will need to repeat this, but SCORPS do not waste time for casual relations. When we decide to meet you, we have romantic interest in you. We start by hoping that it will continue. I can tell this to you also about the guys. If he were NOT interested in you and perhaps just wanted sex, you would know. He'd just flirt and tell you about having a 'fun time' together. For FWB, he would not pick someone long-distance. It is not practical.

His STARE and GRIN is obvious for he was intruiged by you.


You need to make the call. He didn't disappear on you. You texted him that you do not feel good. I understand it was due to your work, but he may have misunderstood and thought it as a courteous excuse. He may have thought you are not interested in him. We SCORPS, my dear, can be paranoid and over-analytical. Why don't YOU make the call? Let him know you are still interested in him. I'm sure you have been in his mind.

good luck!

"I saw a new photo of him and a lady fren of his on his facebook page. He was tagged, but he untagged it afterwards? Is he just a player, a nutcase or just an ass?"

That kind of behavior speaks for itself...He's dating someone(s) at the moment thus the disappearing act and untagging the photo...Please be careful, research shows FB has the most Narcissist and Psychopaths out of any other social network lurking looking for new prey-women.

You met, he most likely wasn't feeling you that much, you know the whole he's just not that into you statement that sucks ass each and every time we hear it but it seems to be one of those kind of things...If he's still partying, still jet setting via his job, he's being tagged by women in photo's well he's not ready for anything real, that's obvious...I'm sure he enjoyed his time with you but If he's leading a high functioning life style then most likely he's lost interest in being your online/phone buddy, once people meet in person it changes the dynamics of the relationship, everything changes, phone calls stop, text messages are far and few inbetween, emails are shorter and become non-existent....

As for losing a friend, find a new friend, it's clear he wasn't really your friend or he wouldn't treat you this way, being mean and insulting you on FB is not nice no matter why he's doing it, chastising you for not digging into his life and making it seem like it's your fault is another RED FLAG that this guy has issues, if he's being mean then he's going to be that way later....You might have taken this way serious but it seems he's just having fun. Also the disappearing ACT is the #1 sign that a man is not serious, if he's disappearing without getting sex what do you think he's going to do if he gets sex? Disappear, no someone you want to be in your life if he's known to disconnect so easily....

not someone you want to be in your life if he's known to disconnect so easily....

she wants to be more than friends that's obvious, if he was truly a friend she wouldn't be so high strung and worried about losing him, she would be patient and allow him his space...It's okay to drop an email to say hello, how are you doing but if she's the one predominantly doing that then he's not much of a friend to her, reciprocation is very important in friendships, it keeps things balanced and not so one-sided. If all she feels is friendship, real friendship without the romanticism and hoping to be his girlfriend then yeah it's cool, call, email etc but if your reaching out to him because you hope to be his girlfriend, to be more than a friend as in building a love bond with this man any energy you give him sends off an air of desperation and you can watch him run for his life after that LOL it's best to leave him alone and allow him to initiate or you risk feeling rejected if he's not behaving like he wants to be more than a friend.

Hi guys..thank you for all the posts...be it brutal or not..

Appreciate it.

I am a taurus lady by the way.

buttercupSG - i forgot to add that i sent him a text and even called him 2 days after the date, to ask him when is he leaving. No response from him at all. I tried, not as though i didnt.

He actually called me before he left town last friday. It was a surprise really. Never thought he'd call to say good bye and 'i'll see ya soon, in 6 months'.

I had the 'privillege' of chatting with him online last night. A good 4 hours. Before we knew it, we were talking about horoscopes. I just had to ask about scorpio and the disappearing act. Without hesitation, he admitted to being a master in the 'disappearing game'. 'I went missing on my family once, for 2 months. They were frantically calling and texting, but i didn't feel like replying. I was hopping from one state to another. Until they threatened to file a missing person report, only did i get back in touch. It happens from time to time, and i don't know why still'.

Hmmm..what's more surprising was the fact that, some of his friends didnt even know he was leaving town on friday. Even the lady in the pic ('she's my close friend since high school'), he didnt even tell her (how did i know? i saw her post on his fb wall, she was surprise he left as he didnt even tell her). Strange fella he is.

He also came clean to why he was being such an a** about the meetup.

'I test people to see if they are genuine to be my friend. You came up with all kinds of excuses when i asked you repeatedly (yes he asked me like 4 times) to meet. It may be valid reasons to you, but as it has nothing to do with life and death, those were just plain excuses to me. And because of that, you lost points after points. Everyone has a scoreboard, and so do you. Your points are rather low right now, but you're still surviving'.

I am running low on points? I didnt even wanna ask how can i 'increase' those points.

Yes, i like this complicated being. His smart insults infuriates me, but it will make me laugh at the same time. But i learn that, if he goes missing and you try to get in touch and you get no response, just leave him alone for a while.

Just give them the space and they'll come back, that is unless you did something to purposely hurt them.

So i am happy with the info that i got. To be more than friends is out of the question now. The quest for now is to understand what makes this man tick...

This guy sounds a bit egotistical to me! Please be careful!!

Ms. Flowerpot --

I do the same. I disappear on people sometimes. Not that I mean not to contact them, I always do, but sometimes there are issues I do not wish to be confronted with. I don't know the answer myself yet, or I haven't prepared for things yet. So I put the calling/writing on the back burner. I know... bad bad habit to get into.

However, if my friends call me, also repeatedly... I very much appreciate them for pulling me out of those down times. Don't worry calling or contacting your Scorp man. It will make him feel secure. If he doesn't like you contacting, he will tell you, but I am sure he won't, because I still believe he likes you more than the rest.

That point system.... I do the same. It's not 'points' that you accumulate to get your value up... it is more like a check system... It is rather a comparison of past experiences versus present. He wants to know how things may turn out with you. It is a good thing! We do the check system when you are a potential partner to us. We usually enter relations hoping it will be longterm. We want to make sure that we are not imagining things. Our feelings for you run deeply, especially when we let it go for you... you definitely will know.

Also, I believe he is being honest with you. He is open. He is not bragging, he is communicating and trying to explain (in his own way) how he feels about you. This is also a message asking.... *Please do something to get closer to me✨

Hope this helps.

MsFlowerpot, I agree completely with FUMRedFairy_tales.

You sound like a wise woman here:

"So i am happy with the info that i got. To be more than friends is out of the question now. The quest for now is to understand what makes this man tick..."

Bravo.

Keep doing what you are doing.

🙂

You guys are so funny....

I am taking my time. Just his online buddy for now. He's so far away anyway.

Think i drove myself almost mad the other time round. Which was kinda stupid.

so bascially we haven't spoken in two weeks