Scorpio man and Cancer woman no longer dating and barely even talking. Is this situation permanent?

I made a post over a month ago about my situation with a Scorpio man. Long story short, we dated briefly, he was crazy about me but then that excitement for both of us died down a bit. Months later, he says he isn't ready to date and i told him I can't be his friend.

i didn't want to be friends with him because I didn't want to continue having feelings for him and i didn't want to hear him talking about other women. But as time went by, it became more about the mean and rude comments he made while we dated and still makes. A lot of those comments were about my virginity. for example, If we were with a group of people and they would bring up sex, he'd saying something like she has nothing to compare to. The comment itself isn't bad but the way he said it and the fact that he would talk about it with others so casually when it's personal for me really hurt. he would talk down to me and make me feel like there is something wrong with me for choosing to not have sex. Another time, we were talking on the phone and the topic of sex came up.. he was talking about me not knowing how to do something and he accidentally said "I just don't want to be disappointed" it just slipped out and he try to cover it up by saying something else. but the damage was done.

one time he said "why should i suffer the consequences of your choices?" but he wasn't "suffering" because of my choices, it was because of his actions.I would have slept with him but with his comments, jokes, and lack of any serious effort sometimes I felt like he didn't care about me and i became really nervous because of his experience so I hid behind my Cancer shell.

about 2 weeks into our "not friends" phase, he came up to me and hugged me.. I didn't react well because i was shocked and confused by that. it's been about a month and a half since we "ended" (we were never official) things. he'll talk to me at school whenever our mutual friend comes by me to say hi. but he hasn't made any attempts to contact me. every time I try to forget all those things and just be normal with him, i can't because i feel really hurt.



If he actually cared about me, wouldn't he have tried to contact me during this time? I don't think he really understands that I can't be friends because I feel hurt. he'll talk to me at school like nothing is wrong (but only when our mutual friend is around). so if he can talk to me in person, then why not try to text or call? how can you have feelings for someone and not make any attempt to really reach out?

If he did in fact have feelings for me, have i completely lost my chance by pulling away and not being friends with him?

Posted by xonimi
I made a post over a month ago about my situation with a Scorpio man. Long story short, we dated briefly, he was crazy about me but then that excitement for both of us died down a bit. Months later, he says he isn't ready to date and i told him I can't be his friend.

i didn't want to be friends with him because I didn't want to continue having feelings for him and i didn't want to hear him talking about other women. But as time went by, it became more about the mean and rude comments he made while we dated and still makes. A lot of those comments were about my virginity. for example, If we were with a group of people and they would bring up sex, he'd saying something like she has nothing to compare to. The comment itself isn't bad but the way he said it and the fact that he would talk about it with others so casually when it's personal for me really hurt. he would talk down to me and make me feel like there is something wrong with me for choosing to not have sex. Another time, we were talking on the phone and the topic of sex came up.. he was talking about me not knowing how to do something and he accidentally said "I just don't want to be disappointed" it just slipped out and he try to cover it up by saying something else. but the damage was done.

one time he said "why should i suffer the consequences of your choices?" but he wasn't "suffering" because of my choices, it was because of his actions.I would have slept with him but with his comments, jokes, and lack of any serious effort sometimes I felt like he didn't care about me and i became really nervous because of his experience so I hid behind my Cancer shell.

about 2 weeks into our "not friends" phase, he came up to me and hugged me.. I didn't react well because i was shocked and confused by that. it's been about a month and a half since we "ended" (we were never official) things. he'll talk to me at school whenever our mutual friend comes by me to say hi. but he hasn't made any attempts to contact me. every time I try to forget all those things and just be normal with him, i can't because i feel really hurt.



If he actually cared about me, wouldn't he have tried to contact me during this time? I don't think he really understands that I can't be friends because I feel hurt. he'll talk to me at school like nothing is wrong (but only when our mutual friend is around). so if he can talk to me in person, then why not try to text or call? how can you have feelings for someone and not make any attempt to really reach out?

If he did in fact have feelings for me, have i completely lost my chance by pulling away and not being friends with him?

He's playing you like a damn fiddle

It was never about connecting with you as a person. He just wanted to fuck you.

I read this post and your last post.

Be very, very glad you didn't give your V card to him.

He sounds very callous, selfish and cruel. How in the world you would be attracted to someone who expressed disappointment in your "performance" before you were even together is vile. Sounds like he just wanted you to give it up, and he was stringing you along.

You were right to stay in your shell.

Try very hard not to worry about his feelings for you, and I won't call it "losing your chance" as much as "dodging a bullet." He seems to have a fantasy girlfriend in his head that does not exist. You would have disappointed him because of his expectations, not because of anything you would have done or not done. For the record, any girl will.

Even the fact that he only talks to you when his friend is around... seems to me he just wants his friend to think he's a good guy, it doesn't even have to do with you.

^^^^^ ++++ infinity.

He's trash, ice him out of your life and move on.

Kick him to the kerb... sounds like a right twat.

Posted by LunarMaiden
He's trash, ice him out of your life and move on.

I wish it were that easy. Unfortunately, I fell for him fast and hard.

Posted by xonimi

Posted by LunarMaiden
He's trash, ice him out of your life and move on.

I wish it were that easy. Unfortunately, I fell for him fast and hard.

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Focus on all the crappy ways he treats you. If you love yourself you wouldn't stand for that.

Posted by GalOnTheCusp
I read this post and your last post.

Be very, very glad you didn't give your V card to him.

He sounds very callous, selfish and cruel. How in the world you would be attracted to someone who expressed disappointment in your "performance" before you were even together is vile. Sounds like he just wanted you to give it up, and he was stringing you along.

You were right to stay in your shell.

Try very hard not to worry about his feelings for you, and I won't call it "losing your chance" as much as "dodging a bullet." He seems to have a fantasy girlfriend in his head that does not exist. You would have disappointed him because of his expectations, not because of anything you would have done or not done. For the record, any girl will.

Even the fact that he only talks to you when his friend is around... seems to me he just wants his friend to think he's a good guy, it doesn't even have to do with you.

The fantasy girlfriend is very true. He said himself that his problem is that he has unrealistic expectations for a girlfriend.

I'm just torn because most of the time he's not like that. Most women I've spoken to, who've been with Scorpios, say they tend to be cruel sometimes.. it's "just their dark humor"

I know I shouldn't think twice about any of it but for some reason I'm having a very hard time letting him go.