scorpio men coming back/changing out of no where

So i was seeing this scorpio sun/venus, pisces moon, virgo rising dude for about 2 months. things were going great. he introduced me to some of his family, called me nicknames princess, and was always making plans on things do with me in the future, and talking 24/7 on the same level of interest and intensity. he'd been super overhauled at work and hadn't had much time for me (which i understood) so we were hanging out less and less bc if he wasn't sleeping he was working and vice versa.

He took this past week off of work to move some stuff home from his old place (2hrs away) and was gonna go take yoga classes smoke weed and sleep ya know. and we hung out the tuesday before he left and all was normal and then we had plans also Thursday to hang since he was leaving friday after work. thursday morning comes and he messages me about work stuff and all normal and then completely vanishes. no replies for the rest of the day, and no snapchats. gave no reason on why he wasnt coming over anymore or anything. so I asked if everything was okay and i didnt get a response at all. come saturday i haven't heard back from him in 36hrs and ended up just sending a "hey if you're over this ill take it as that and give you your space, hope you have fun on your trip and hope its beneficial to you" and got a "sorry i dont know what i want i think you're a great person but I'm not ready for anything right now i know that"...

things just seemed to change a full 360 our of no where. we had a super strong connection that I'm sad to have seemed to lost, but for what ya know? and i would be open to making something work later on if he was open to it but I'm not sure if i should even try or what

so sorry for the novel but i guess has anyone else gone through something like this or have you done this sort of thing and what was the outcome.

thanks -- cancer sun, leo moon, virgo venus, libra rising

Have you called him? On his physical line, not on the internet? Was he online? I am very anxious about all this internet stuff, I find it invasive and somehow... "second hand". Something might have happened and kept him busy for the weekend.

Also, as a general rule, what burns fast in the beginning dies even faster. If we want something serious, we should take it slower and allow us to get to know each other properly. 24/7 is not "properly". Interest is lost too fast, because we open up too soon and there is nothing entertaining to do together and learn about each other. It basically kills physical dating, because everything is already known.

" It's not you, it's me"

That's all. Move on.

Posted by tiziani
Some weird guys out there nowadays.

X1000

Posted by Scorpio123
Sounds like something happened back home? Maybe an ex? I wouldn't push him if he seems like he's resisting it cause Scorpios can feel quite suffocated if someone comes on too hard, but he sounds more conflicted.

Maybe ask him what is he looking for then, or if he even wants anything with you? You should ask him, he showed interest and now backing suddenly and he needs to give you a legitimate reason as to why, it's the decent thing to do.

I also have Scorpio sun/Venus and Pisces moon and I'm constantly erupting with thoughts and emotions that can overwhelm me. Your patience and stability can help him feel like he's safe to express his scary feelings.

I have yet to find someone with his placements. but I dont think and ex, his "home" is where i live and with how much we were in contact I dont think anyone else could have popped up. i know his only real ex is in cali and moved in with a new guy.

but ya i know being a water sun/moon/venus is probably overwhelming, and know that is has taken over him a few times (which we got over) which is why i was so surprised by this sudden change.

my birthday is also this upcoming tuesday and sadly want to spend it with no one else but him, and would be willing to reach out but wouldn't know what to say/not push him away more. scared of losing him if i dont try but also if i do and it pushes him away more. its been a week since we last spoke so I'm thinking bout taking the plunge just to show i care

I'm a Virgo sun, Pisces moon, scorpio Venus. I don't play games like this. He needs to give you a reason as to why he led you on.

I'm a Virgo sun, Pisces moon, scorpio Venus. I don't play games like this. He needs to give you a reason as to why he led you on.

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Posted by leolovee

Posted by Scorpio123
Sounds like something happened back home? Maybe an ex? I wouldn't push him if he seems like he's resisting it cause Scorpios can feel quite suffocated if someone comes on too hard, but he sounds more conflicted.

Maybe ask him what is he looking for then, or if he even wants anything with you? You should ask him, he showed interest and now backing suddenly and he needs to give you a legitimate reason as to why, it's the decent thing to do.

I also have Scorpio sun/Venus and Pisces moon and I'm constantly erupting with thoughts and emotions that can overwhelm me. Your patience and stability can help him feel like he's safe to express his scary feelings.

I have yet to find someone with his placements. but I dont think and ex, his "home" is where i live and with how much we were in contact I dont think anyone else could have popped up. i know his only real ex is in cali and moved in with a new guy.

but ya i know being a water sun/moon/venus is probably overwhelming, and know that is has taken over him a few times (which we got over) which is why i was so surprised by this sudden change.

my birthday is also this upcoming tuesday and sadly want to spend it with no one else but him, and would be willing to reach out but wouldn't know what to say/not push him away more. scared of losing him if i dont try but also if i do and it pushes him away more. its been a week since we last spoke so I'm thinking bout taking the plunge just to show i care

I would say just call him on the phone and be calm and collected and understanding, giving him the benefit of the doubt could help. I've pushed away people I knew I loved cause I was so scared cause it feels like you're putting your head down on the chopping block!

Maybe he's got unstable circumstances that he feels he can't be a worthy partner in a relationship? Is he struggling with a job or anxiety or anything like that?

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I ended up seeing him in person last night snd we talked, and he wants to get coffee/smoothies and talk some more. The last part is really the thing i believe. he said he misses me and cares about me so much but he works so much and is depressed from it. which i know but he hadn't admitted yet. he has no time for himself and isn't able to give me time as well which i understand, and knows i want more which i do, but i also would be willing to change that bc he means so much to me but his happiness for himself is more important to me so if thats not an option id rather him be able to do that as well. i will probably come to some sort of something when we talk more. (i was out for my birthday and was extremely drunk and dont remember everything he said whoops) thank you for your input though, especially being his placements, its been really helpful

Posted by leolovee
So i was seeing this scorpio sun/venus, pisces moon, virgo rising dude for about 2 months. things were going great. he introduced me to some of his family, called me nicknames princess, and was always making plans on things do with me in the future, and talking 24/7 on the same level of interest and intensity. he'd been super overhauled at work and hadn't had much time for me (which i understood) so we were hanging out less and less bc if he wasn't sleeping he was working and vice versa.

He took this past week off of work to move some stuff home from his old place (2hrs away) and was gonna go take yoga classes smoke weed and sleep ya know. and we hung out the tuesday before he left and all was normal and then we had plans also Thursday to hang since he was leaving friday after work. thursday morning comes and he messages me about work stuff and all normal and then completely vanishes. no replies for the rest of the day, and no snapchats. gave no reason on why he wasnt coming over anymore or anything. so I asked if everything was okay and i didnt get a response at all. come saturday i haven't heard back from him in 36hrs and ended up just sending a "hey if you're over this ill take it as that and give you your space, hope you have fun on your trip and hope its beneficial to you" and got a "sorry i dont know what i want i think you're a great person but I'm not ready for anything right now i know that"...

things just seemed to change a full 360 our of no where. we had a super strong connection that I'm sad to have seemed to lost, but for what ya know? and i would be open to making something work later on if he was open to it but I'm not sure if i should even try or what

so sorry for the novel but i guess has anyone else gone through something like this or have you done this sort of thing and what was the outcome.

thanks -- cancer sun, leo moon, virgo venus, libra rising

got locked out of my other account bc i couldnt remember my email for it but update:

we are meeting today to get coffee after running into each other at the bar friday night. he said he missed me and we talked for a long time but i dont remember too much besides he knows he's depressed and work has taken over his happiness, and he has no time for himself let alone me. I'm not sure if he is pushing me away bc he thinks he can't give me what i want or if he's afraid of getting hurt, i do remember he said he was in a relationship with 5 years with a girl and she's very much moved on (diff state, new guy, living together whole thing). if he likes me enough and cares bout me I'm not sure why he would try to end it, besides the work situation. any advice on how to shape something like "i want this to work if it can but if its not what you want right now i understand" but i dont know if he's so convinced that his life is so miserable in many aspects that nothing is worth trying to save.