A Balanced mind (Sun & Moon)

Everyone, because this is what falling in love is about: a chemical attraction that triggers hormones to help us breed. Mother Nature is smart That's why we fall in love by appearance and not by the real person, since there is zero time to know that person and the above named hormones inhibit our perception of him/her (pink glasses effect).
Real love is the one that is oriented to the person, and not the idealization of him/her, but most of the couples don't make it past the falling in love phase, when the hormones are diminished and they actually start to truly know each other.
There are introvert people that NEED that time! And we don't talk about love either! I need the same time alone time in my work environment. It helps me concentrate more, be more efficient and more assertive when it is really required. I cannot work in noisy environments and when someone is constantly buzzing in my ear with small talk that is not related to work
Besides, nobody begs. If you need to beg, you are not compatible. Even though one of the two always gives more than he receives. I wouldn't bother to stay in such a relationship if my expectations are not met. But not taking into account how the other person feels is purely self-centered, so a huge red-flag for me.
Yeah, Aquas don't really like to say "no", so instead of that they prefer to go blank, which terribly annoys people. It's a shame actually that they do this, but when you know them well, you can see the signs. When my Aqua is not excited about some initiative of mine, he says "I don't know". This is our code
Me telling him it's fine if we don't do that is the code to make him not feel bad for turning me down. Also, sometimes it takes him a while to say "yes", so I never pressure him on something. I only present him with a variety of possible choices and he picks the ones he is in the mood to actually do.
Also, when he needs his time, I only ask about when to expect him to show up again and he gives me a timeframe, even though before he was not doing it and it was quite messy for me (in terms of organizing my own time). This helps me do my stuff as well and prevents me to reach for him before that, because I am also annoyed if someone disturbs me when I am "idle". He understood in time that it is important for both of us not to keep the other one "head in the fog", as we say in our country, so we both work around each other and respect the partner's needs.
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I don't go back to an ex if the bridge was burnt. No chance. I am aware that the reasons that lead to the failure of the relationship will not disappear, so it is much better to let go and find a true connection with someone else. But lessons are learned and not repeated again. It's called life experience.


What if the bridge was not burnt?
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I do not play with people's feelings, so I always make a proper closure. In the most civilised terms. Therefore, yes, the bridge it is burnt. This is the mature way of dealing with non functional relationships.

I don't go back to an ex if the bridge was burnt. No chance. I am aware that the reasons that lead to the failure of the relationship will not disappear, so it is much better to let go and find a true connection with someone else. But lessons are learned and not repeated again. It's called life experience.
Your friendship is already ruined. Keep him at arms length and strictly professional. Tell him you need your space. And, of course, never get involved again with work buddies. It's always a recipe for disaster. If you don't reject him firmly he will keep hoping. This will end when one of you will get involved in a real relationship. Sad, but true.
If you don't have feelings for him, why to string him along? He likes you, believe him. Just have a very sincere talk with him that you two cannot be together and you should not cross the friendship line. Do not allow him to catch even more feelings, because he will suffer a lot more.
Slowly drift away. Are you in physical touch with this group?
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How do you know when one REALLY likes you?

You will know; I feel like a treetruking idiot now, but I purchased gifts, spent an enormous amount of my free time talking to my amor. Tender in my words, careful with what I say. Touchy- feely. Another thing is a Libra will tell you.


Are you the leeb or is the love interest...
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She is the most pushed-up libra I've known. With lots of interior conflicts. Blunt, but true.
Virgo is a mutable sign, like the Geminis. The most loyal are the fixed signs, except maybe the Taurus, that may be too much sex driven and curious.
A Virgo friend of mine cheated on her Gemini husband with a married Taurus man. Anyway, my Virgo mother is long time married to my Gemini father, without any side thoughts ever.
So, I don't believe it's a matter of sun sign, but of heart and commitment and personal choices.
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How would you describe the personality of libra sun virgo moon?


Shy, they don't talk unless asked. Very good observers, rational, always answering after a long analysis of all facts. So you can undoubtedly trust the interpretation of a Libra Sun - Virgo Moon. Dedicated to their work, perfectionists. Pleasers, they like to be appreciated and generally are due to their conscientiousness and seriousness. They do not deal well with stressful situations. They need a calm environment, reason for which are prone to anxiety.
Do not forget that Aquas are very stubborn and they can obsess about certain issues. It is all in their heads. Sometimes they keep complaining about the same things over and over again, without trying to actually reach a solution. I also hear constant complaints about job issues from my Aquarius, but digging deeply into the matter I realized it was only a way of expressing other stress related issues. I emphasized a lot to take it more lightly and he is improving, yet I am extremely careful with his anxiety physical manifestations and make sure he really relaxes while being at home and he sleeps well. Being unconditionally but healthily supportive helps a lot. Also, driving his attention away to more pleasant thoughts or activities, music, hobbies and entertaining talks and keeping him away from stressful things, ideas, facts. Sometimes I feel like he is fragile like a glass...
Reach your mother as often as you can and actively listen to her, but it's of no use to find solutions if she doesn't want to.
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I see only sex here and very little attention from the Leo man. Usually women engaged in fwb catch feelings first. Beware. It will end when the Leo wants, because he is in control. He stated clearly you were being used only for sex, also he was unresponsive when you tried to suggest exclusivity.


It is only sex.. But why does HE act so funny about it?! And I understand the fwb thing for most woman. But as I stated, Im never really happy when the "relationship" starts. I LIKE the lust we share!

And whoa whoa whoa! Double standards! Lol. We are EQUALLY using each other for sex! He's using me cause I'm the girl?! Not fair.

He claims he's too busy with work and his daughter for ANY relationship right now. Not just with me persay. I asked for exclusivity to "pull the condom off" so to speak. Not to put a ring on it!
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I am aware you were talking only about exclusivity between sheets. Enjoy it, since this is what you want, when HE wants it, though

I see only sex here and very little attention from the Leo man. Usually women engaged in fwb catch feelings first. Beware. It will end when the Leo wants, because he is in control. He stated clearly you were being used only for sex, also he was unresponsive when you tried to suggest exclusivity.
Both me and my Aqua are introverts and we are the best friends one to each other. We reach out maybe once or twice per month, visiting friends or relatives and socializing as normal people do, having great conversations and enjoying our time with them, but then we go back to recharge ourselves in each other's company. Well, at least we are sharing the loneliness
This is the reason for which our holidays are no longer than two weeks at a time. It is consuming to spend too much time surrounded by people we do not click too well with, even if they are our own relatives.
An introvert doesn't really change. Your mother should try to get out more with the people she is comfortable with (you, by example). There is no need to have new friends, but to try to enjoy the ones she already has. Aquas seem not too willing to initiate though, especially if they feel moody, but you can suggest various outdoor activities, by example.
Strange... everyone that is in love with their partner believe their SO is their twin flame...
Air signs are often interested in the social media activities of various friends. Take it lightly.
You will be fine. Mind that Aquas almost never fall in love at a first glance. After an initial "honeymoon" period in which they actually study you, they may realize you are not the one. Unfortunately, they are so charming that other signs fall in love before anything is settled down. Aquas are very slow committers, if ever. Your were fortunate though because he was honest with you.
One of the reasons I refused to ever get involved with classmates or work buddies is exactly this. I settle down very rarely and invariably I hurt people when I realize I may like them, but they are not suitable for me, so I look for partners outside my day by day activities. I advice you do the same.
The Aqua I am seeing has nothing to do with my job and it works like a charm
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Sounds like a typical aqua. They come on super strong fill your head full of beautiful lies and then decide they just aren't interested.. They don't seem to really understand how much that hurts others. Their actions don't match their words. Don't waste another minute thinking about him. Find someone who means what he says......


Actually not. They behave like this in a natural manner. But the girl fell for him, so she started to "see" things that don't exist. He was very clear by telling her he was not interested, but she kept hoping, since his behavior didn't change much. I didn't see any confessions of love, only a very nice, friendly and supportive guy. They are gentlemen, so such an "accidental" confession usually gets ignored by the girl. And then.. confusion and false hopes!
The "on read" thing was accidental from him, you took it as a game and wanted to respond/be responded in the same manner. This Aquarius seems to be the shy type. You having the lead would not bother him, but you overthought it again. He was interested in you, but not enough. He probably knew he would have problems with his visa, so it was not worthy for him to get involved romantically with you. It seems he is just being friendly.