Scorpio Roomate off the rails....

I'm somewhat confused by this Scorpio female's behavior. Don't slaughter me Scorpios, but I don't like this girl. I pulled her out of what she made seem like a desperate living situation and moved her in, even though I didn't really want a roommate. (I see now that was just an act, because she's doing the same thing all over again)Then after 5 months of living there, she kind of just lost it. I mentioned that one night she woke me up and to please try to be quieter on a work day. I was nice, and then she snapped. I also told her I was moving out of state in a few months and I would like for her to take over the apartment. I have one of the cheapest apartments in NYC. It's a find. I feel like I was nothing but nice to this girl and she was always just looking for drama. Then she goes and post on Facebook all of these lies about me, blocks me, and of course one of our 100 mutual online friends shows it to me. So I then calmly approach her a week later (She hid from me in our apt for a week) and told her hey, I don't like how you handled the situation spreading lies, but I don't really care about people's opinion of me, so can we please discuss the details of our arrangement. (Move out date, Security, Utilities etc.) She let me know she was moving, and I let her know the same. It seems we —made nice?? ??_then again a week later, she freaks out and is like I JUST HAVE TO GET OUT OF HERE!!! Meanwhile, I was barely home. I think honestly, the quietness and peace freaked her out. So she moves out 15 days before she is supposed to and demands her security back. She wrote me a bunch of crazed accusatory texts, won't speak to me in person. I basically let her know she wasn't a good friend so to stop bleeding that excuse to death:

(—I really care about the friendship but??_??) and that I would do what is fair with her security and return it after the landlord has reviewed everything. I just found out she was also texting my boyfriend harassing texts. They used to be friends, but he wrote her asking her where the nearest home depot was and because it was at 9am she wrote back, —Were you trying to wake me up or something because I woke you up when I came in last night!?!— He was like??_what, no. haha. I feel like she's having a breakdown. Anyways, fast forward a week, I'm trying to give her security back. She won't answer my texts/emails. Won't return the keys (luckily I made copies). I had my boyfriend text her asking for her mailing address so we can send her security. She wrote back I don't want anything to do with either of you (GOOD). So Idk!? I??ve never had to chase after someone to give them their money back before! What is going on? I feel like she's gonna pop up in a year and demand it back, or is using this so she can try to spread more drama??_??She never gave me my security back—?_. What should I do? I just wanna be done with it all, but I sincerely do not want her money. I'm looking for insight, because this girl is frustrating, but it's not worth the fight.

Keep the money safe and don't touch it. That way when she does demand it back you can easily give it to her without a second thought.

I have a very close scorpio friend? & I find myself needing a break from her very often. I actually do not see out friendship lasting the test of time. I find that she is mean. I'm a leo so I'm nice even when I don't feel like being bothered with you. & when you're annoying me instead of saying mean cutting things, I just stay away for a little while until I feel better. She's so mean! Scorpio is one sign I will never understand.

@OP the way you told the scenario sounds so one-sided to me like she's just gone cray cray without any apparent reason. That's ODD at the very least. No one acts aloof/indifferent without any reason unless they're a nutcase. There's more to this story. I'm not buying this whole you've been nice to her and she's just mean towards you story.

If you want insight, see how you contributed to the downfall of this relationship first. That's better than telling this "Oh I've been really nice but she's been mean and difficult to put up with." story.

As always drama follows you and you pinpoint it on other people.

It's good you have me on block, or you'd have a meltdown each time you posted.

Posted by AesmaDaeva
If you want insight, see how you contributed to the downfall of this relationship first. That's better than telling this "Oh I've been really nice but she's been mean and difficult to put up with." story.

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the sad truth is she will never see it... leos and their phathological narcissism.

OP do youself a favor go and live your happily ever after life and stay far far away from scorpio women in the future.

Posted by JBG
I have a very close scorpio friend? & I find myself needing a break from her very often. I actually do not see out friendship lasting the test of time. I find that she is mean. I'm a leo so I'm nice even when I don't feel like being bothered with you. & when you're annoying me instead of saying mean cutting things, I just stay away for a little while until I feel better. She's so mean! Scorpio is one sign I will never understand.

100% . It's always been this way for me with Scorps. I don't like ppl that are mean for no reason. iF you hurt my feelings fine, but it better be trying to better me or our relationship. Not just cause you're a dick.

Posted by Impulsv
U probation did something to dislike u. U forget u can be nice outside but we see ur intent. Isn't this the one u didn't like cuz felt she contacted ur boyfriend too much. N mad ur boyfriend always helped her out. So all this time uve been nice when underneath u can't stand her. She saw that so she doesn't like u either. There simple as that. She tried to contain her dislike now that u don't need to live to together she's showing it while u still act nice.
I dunno this is it or she's phycho like u say.

Yea you're right. I never really liked or trusted her. I just know she's an exhausting enemy and I thought this would be mutually beneficial, which it was, for both. So I don't regret playing it smart and mature by not starting an unnecessary conflict. I think we both 'felt' what was underneath on both sides...
My point is I'm trying give her security back haha. It's that simple.

Posted by AesmaDaeva
If you want insight, see how you contributed to the downfall of this relationship first. That's better than telling this "Oh I've been really nice but she's been mean and difficult to put up with." story.

I don't REALLY want insight, I just want to figure out how to get her security to her so I can be done with her forever. I've literally never met someone I think is crazier and I don't like how she speaks about others. I want nothing to do with this caliber of person.

Posted by LittleMissPerfect

Posted by AesmaDaeva
If you want insight, see how you contributed to the downfall of this relationship first. That's better than telling this "Oh I've been really nice but she's been mean and difficult to put up with." story.

+ 10000

the sad truth is she will never see it... leos and their phathological narcissism.

OP do youself a favor go and live your happily ever after life and stay far far away from scorpio women in the future.

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That's the best advice I've seen yet. Trust me, I do.

Posted by Jynja
You tend to place unrealistic demands on people, but can't seem to face up to the ones they put on you.

When you were in a critical place with your friend, did you offer to hear her out at all? Perhaps, in your mind, you were the one that offered her a place to stay so you wrote her a list of rules to follow and went about dropping hints about what you like and what you don't.

Taking the so called "morally high ground" and leaving her feeling stifled.

Actually I did. I went to her and asked what was going on. I listened. She was scared to tell me and I told her I was glad she shared that with me, I respected her opinion, and wanted her to be happy and would help her look for another place. She then went and posted a lot of smack talk on Facebook the next day. Regardless I don't need to figure out tit for tat. I have some great friends and family. I just need to get this girl her security back before I leave the state cause I don't want any attachments.

Posted by Impulsv
Lol I don't think honestly that she understand us. Having been married to Leo what they call nice is fake. My ex was always about out appearance
Did something nice but talked shit behind for having done it. So when we showed dislike it's us being rude.
He always showed smiles but was unhappy with people. He was too good for them.
So I can see how she sees this as in Leo's mind u should fake what u feel n just act nice. Present nice take the higher ground ( kingly) in their eyes but for talking shit behind n being a hypocrite is fine. For a Scorpio we despise that, we despise fake we despise hipocracy. So one does not understand the other. That's all. Now not all Leo will four female loes are great. I think it's like an evolved or non evolved.

Lol nah, if I don't like you I show it. I will be very quiet and it shows on my face. I never seek anyone out to be rude or cut into them, but I'm transparent if I don't like you. I do try to be polite, but I never say anything I don't mean. I will just go quiet. With her, I was just very quiet. I would say hello and go to my room, when she'd gossip, I'd say I was tired an walk away. When she cut into a friend I told her I didn't like it. It was pretty simple. But yea, I guess underneath it I really didn't like her personality and it took me some time to even see that.

I guess she is stinging herself now...because I tried to give the apt that she 'loves' to her, and she moved out frantically instead of chilling for like 2 more weeks...then she's missing out on her money. Trying to take control maybe?

anonymousheart,

If you act like you're a boss. Scorpio won't take that sh!T lightly... She did blocked you

that means.. You have lots of issues. Scorpio doesn't like drama at all.

Here's my Advice:

1. Show some deplomacy to contact her. Ask her Bank Acct Name & Number. Deposit it.

I once had a bad situation before I LEFT all my investment for the sake of myself.

Scorpio once can't handle the situation they just LEFT for GOOD!

Now, you felt guilt and fears if she comes back and DEMAND. which is I DON'T THINK SO she will.

But for you to free... DEPOSIT it.

and she is not stinging herself....

She is grieving... you just can't understand.

Im a double scorpio with a rising aquarius and I have been going insane lately. Like really prideful especially, and I talk back to everyone a lot more hastily then I usually do!

Bobbo92,

I am glad you manage your insanity.

but I demand respect, and if I don't get it lately then i get really frustrated

its so tough

When I freaked out. I look at my soul and whisper. ''CALM DOWN oh my soul''.

It's just too difficult being a Scorpio.

I see red especially since im a double

Bobbo92,

ALL Scorpio demands RESPECT. in any forms of relationship.

Scorpio are territorial people. Invader should back off.

Yea you're right. I never really liked or trusted her.

that right there is what pisses me off about leo women. you never liked her and get whiny because she sees exactly what you are doing and doesn't like you for that?!

I will put it in very simple terms for you:

she avoided you because she can't be fake as you are.

she left the apartment that she loved because she couldn't stand living with you for one more second.

she said she doesn't want the deposit because SHE DOESN'T WANT IT. if she ever want the deposit, which I highly doubt, she will tell you.


I will say it again: move on with your life and stop obssesing about a person who is no longer in your life. If you cross paths with her again just avoid her.

what i don't understand is this: if you have such a happy life with your boyfriend (yes, i read your other post) why you even care about the scorpio woman? go and plan your wedding or something and let her be ffs.

Ok ladies some of you are being unfair with the generalized opinions of Leo women, yes I have seen some Leo's that are like that and I stay away from those, however I as a Leo when it comes to not liking some one I am straight forward and honest about it, it usually doesn't take me long to realize if I like your vibes or not, I am polite but I don't like fake people it annoys me, I've been accused of being anti social and mean just for being honest and telling them " don't talk to me because I don't like you and I really don't want to say something that might offend you so let's just agree to stay away" I've been accused of being mean and bipolar just because if I don't like something I simply say it, if you pissed me off bad enough I simply cut you off, no explanation, no warning and if after I cut you off you insist on finding out why I tell you to your face, no sugar coding, no sparing your feelings and then tell you not to contact me again! I'm very in patient so I don't have time to stand around playing nice with someone I don't like or doesn't like me just to be polite, fuck that either you like me as I am or you don't I don't give a fuck and I don't have to like you, you don't pay my rent or put food on my table so hey not trying to offend no one but I am a Leo and they tell me my problem is that I am too honest and mean

Oh and if some of you are thinking about using my little problem I had with Scorpio of the lack of honesty and communication that was completely different because I did like him, that was more a situation of confusion in the love/relationship department when it comes to the other areas of my life I can be ruthless

Posted by M143

Bobbo92,

I am glad you manage your insanity.

LOL!
IDK why but you always crack me up M143. Anyways, thanks for your always colorful & insightful advice. What ever happened with the Taurus?

Posted by LittleMissPerfect

Yea you're right. I never really liked or trusted her.

that right there is what pisses me off about leo women. you never liked her and get whiny because she sees exactly what you are doing and doesn't like you for that?!

I will put it in very simple terms for you:

she avoided you because she can't be fake as you are.

she left the apartment that she loved because she couldn't stand living with you for one more second.

she said she doesn't want the deposit because SHE DOESN'T WANT IT. if she ever want the deposit, which I highly doubt, she will tell you.


I will say it again: move on with your life and stop obssesing about a person who is no longer in your life. If you cross paths with her again just avoid her.

what i don't understand is this: if you have such a happy life with your boyfriend (yes, i read your other post) why you even care about the scorpio woman? go and plan your wedding or something and let her be ffs.

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Lol, you're soooo moody I can feel the energy from this post. You are so biased that it cracks me up. I'm just trying to give her money back. It's legal, not personal. Just business, but yea. I'll take it. I forgot she dinged my guitar on her way out, so I'll take that money to repair it.

Posted by Arielle83
The fact that she has left without taking her deposit is like wow, she really wanted to get away from you!
Maybe she could feel your resentment...you did all these "nice" things for her, and maybe you wanted something in return...she could feel your disdain and wanted your neg. vibes to be rid of so she up and...

Moved on with life!

...like you should as well

Actually no she's still posting about me on social networks. She hasn't moved on.
It's true. She was acting like she was suffocating, but I was working so I barely saw her. It seemed very contrary to reality. I think maybe a lot of things in her life were compounding and caused her to react emotionally in a way that seemed from an outside view, disproportionate to reality.. I didn't want anything I return. But anyways, yea I will move on. 🙂 Thanks

Posted by confusedInsane
Ok ladies some of you are being unfair with the generalized opinions of Leo women, yes I have seen some Leo's that are like that and I stay away from those, however I as a Leo when it comes to not liking some one I am straight forward and honest about it, it usually doesn't take me long to realize if I like your vibes or not, I am polite but I don't like fake people it annoys me, I've been accused of being anti social and mean just for being honest and telling them " don't talk to me because I don't like you and I really don't want to say something that might offend you so let's just agree to stay away" I've been accused of being mean and bipolar just because if I don't like something I simply say it, if you pissed me off bad enough I simply cut you off, no explanation, no warning and if after I cut you off you insist on finding out why I tell you to your face, no sugar coding, no sparing your feelings and then tell you not to contact me again! I'm very in patient so I don't have time to stand around playing nice with someone I don't like or doesn't like me just to be polite, fuck that either you like me as I am or you don't I don't give a fuck and I don't have to like you, you don't pay my rent or put food on my table so hey not trying to offend no one but I am a Leo and they tell me my problem is that I am too honest and mean

Thanks for standing up 4 us. It's ok, the Scorpio lot just doesn't really understand us and vice versa. I kind of let it roll off my back and embrace signs I have a greater understanding with. Leo is the Sun, Scorpio is Death and Darkness. We don't suit one another. I can respect them from a distance for their drive in their work, but that's where the line is drawn.

Posted by anonymousheart

Posted by confusedInsane
Ok ladies some of you are being unfair with the generalized opinions of Leo women, yes I have seen some Leo's that are like that and I stay away from those, however I as a Leo when it comes to not liking some one I am straight forward and honest about it, it usually doesn't take me long to realize if I like your vibes or not, I am polite but I don't like fake people it annoys me, I've been accused of being anti social and mean just for being honest and telling them " don't talk to me because I don't like you and I really don't want to say something that might offend you so let's just agree to stay away" I've been accused of being mean and bipolar just because if I don't like something I simply say it, if you pissed me off bad enough I simply cut you off, no explanation, no warning and if after I cut you off you insist on finding out why I tell you to your face, no sugar coding, no sparing your feelings and then tell you not to contact me again! I'm very in patient so I don't have time to stand around playing nice with someone I don't like or doesn't like me just to be polite, fuck that either you like me as I am or you don't I don't give a fuck and I don't have to like you, you don't pay my rent or put food on my table so hey not trying to offend no one but I am a Leo and they tell me my problem is that I am too honest and mean

Thanks for standing up 4 us. It's ok, the Scorpio lot just doesn't really understand us and vice versa. I kind of let it roll off my back and embrace signs I have a greater understanding with. Leo is the Sun, Scorpio is Death and Darkness. We don't suit one another. I can respect them from a distance for their drive in their work, but that's where the line is drawn.

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You are welcome :-) but...and don't take this to heart, I don't necessarily agree with your statement about Scorpio being death and darkness and we not suiting each other, I actually know that they can be wonderful friends, loyal and dedicated if you treat them right. I actually get a long with the scorpio sign more than any other sign, sure they can be dark, judgemental even but they are just misunderstood, I guarantee you if you have their trust and there is a fight to the death Scorpio is the one you want by your side. Perhaps bein

^ I agree with Arielle for me is most Scorpio women are very lovely...until you cross them and sometimes even than depending on what it was when they care for you they can forgive...some Scorpio women are just down right nasty does are the miserable ones stay clear of those But than again this is true for all women wether you are Scorpio or Leo, Sagittarius, or Gemini is a being human thing not a Scorpio or Leo thing

Well, what I meant is that the sign LITERALLY represents darkness, rebirth, and the underworld. These are things that are associated with the Sun Sign in just about everything you will ever read.

Sadly I only know one that is very lovely. I guess this one was one of the bad ones. Come to think of it I know a very nice Scorpio man who is very dedicated to his family. He's still emotionally volatile. I guess my libra bits really are turned off by overt displays of emotion...

Don't feel bad it took me years until just recently a couple of months ago to truly really begin to understand Scorpios and I've been surrounded by them all my life. I sill don't understand them completely and no one ever will, but if you can focus on the good things about them instead of the bad you will do just fine.

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Posted by Arielle83
The fact that she has left without taking her deposit is like wow, she really wanted to get away from you!
Maybe she could feel your resentment...you did all these "nice" things for her, and maybe you wanted something in return...she could feel your disdain and wanted your neg. vibes to be rid of so she up and...

Moved on with life!

...like you should as well

Actually no she's still posting about me on social networks. She hasn't moved on.
It's true. She was acting like she was suffocating, but I was working so I barely saw her. It seemed very contrary to reality. I think maybe a lot of things in her life were compounding and caused her to react emotionally in a way that seemed from an outside view, disproportionate to reality.. I didn't want anything I return. But anyways, yea I will move on. 🙂 Thanks

It's rare that I can ever be consistent with a scorpio woman as a friend, I can only deal with them in small doses. But yeah...they can be shit to live with for sure...

I lived with this scorpio chick when I was 19 and she was 23. I remember when she thought she was right about something, when we were disagreeing, she would actually yell and scream until I agreed with her. She always had to be right or have her way. And she would always try to cock block me as well...she was an effin headache...

I found it funny someone saying scorpio women stay away from drama. HA!

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Most of the ones I know get along fine with me and vice versa. My scorpio sfam came out for a week visit and she's one of the best house guests I've ever had! If I ever have to have a roommate, she's the one I'd totally love to share a house with. Our energy is on the same level, we like a lot of the same things, both fine with space and spending time together so the flow was effortless. I've had other people who I can only handle in small doses. A Sag friend who I will NEVER room with. Hell, I can only take half a day with her and she starts to drive me nuts. A virgo and a libra who have boundary issues, but they're sort of adopted family, they're super young, so I try to keep that in mind when they've visited, but I'm always glad to have my

You claim you want insight (that I have given to you TWICE) when in fact you want validation, which most certainly will not get from me. I'm outta here.

Posted by anonymousheart
Well, what I meant is that the sign LITERALLY represents darkness, rebirth, and the underworld. These are things that are associated with the Sun Sign in just about everything you will ever read....

Scratching the surface of human emotion, fire sign style .

^^^Irony

oops, was pointing to Juicy.

Anonymousheart,

About my Taurus...He reconciled with me and I don't accept. I am done with him. Now he kept posting

his bitterness to other site and I confronted him via email and he kept denying which I knew he can't

accept his defeat. Now, he still playing my mind.. telling me he's now in canada. I dont care enough

other than stop posting this bs in my face and blaming me for what happened and let people know. *smh*

and oh I called the security guards just to confirmed if he left... he is still in his pad.

damn. He cannot play a Scorpio...The Scorpio will play a lot. He'd better be honest.

I know he is keeping me at bay while devouring other women... He cannot stand a Scorpio, like me.

and he sent me email... one day will meet. I will stand what I know is right...

He will suffer the consequences but it will make me free from his ungodly ways.

Well, as suspected...the Scorpio pops back up when she needs money. She called my boyfriend and 'with concern for him' proceeds to tell him seemingly incriminating details about me (made up). Then asks him to extract an amount pulled from the sky greater than her original security deposit haha. She cray cray!!!!!!!! I mean...wow.

Posted by TachiMichi
you could always kill her.

we Japanese have saying -'the only cure for a fool is death'.

this does not mean physically always.

in this sense, kill all ties so it will be like ceremonial death.

keep money to the side in case baka onna comes back. give it to her. then kill her again.

either that or just altogether move on.

any way you choose, bitch must die.

LOL
No thanks. She'd probably spend the rest of her ghost years attempting to haunt me...
But ty for giving me a good laugh :p

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Posted by anonymousheart

Posted by Impulsv
U probation did something to dislike u. U forget u can be nice outside but we see ur intent. Isn't this the one u didn't like cuz felt she contacted ur boyfriend too much. N mad ur boyfriend always helped her out. So all this time uve been nice when underneath u can't stand her. She saw that so she doesn't like u either. There simple as that. She tried to contain her dislike now that u don't need to live to together she's showing it while u still act nice.
I dunno this is it or she's phycho like u say.

Yea you're right. I never really liked or trusted her. I just know she's an exhausting enemy and I thought this would be mutually beneficial, which it was, for both. So I don't regret playing it smart and mature by not starting an unnecessary conflict. I think we both 'felt' what was underneath on both sides...
My point is I'm trying give her security back haha. It's that simple.

Sometimes conflict clears things. Avoiding conflict doesn't deal with the issue or the real emotions of it. Avoiding the conflict can make emotions fester beneath the surface and can make them boil to explosion. Room mate situations never really work out: they can turn friends into enemies forever.

The first thing that you did that set you two on the wrong foot together is that you came across as controlling/authoritarian -- condescending in a way.

Keep contacting her until she tells you how you can give the security deposit back to her, it would be the right thing to do.

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Makes sense and I agree with you. I did try to contact her, but she'd rather play games and make one last sad attempt to cause trouble. DEFLECTED! Movin in 3 days. cyaaaaa. She can either a) return the keys/ get the ACTUAL security deposit (not her invented number) or b) give me her address and I mail it when I leave. Instead she's pathetically squirming posting on Facebook..still...bothering my boyfriend. Who knows who else, but it's not getting her any closer to getting it back. My terms are clear.