Scorpio venus sting

The sag sun/scorp venus stung my heiny hard. Cus I didnt want to speak to him tonight. He'd been pissy all day cus he is sick. Im sick too so I didnt confront, just said we'd talk tomorrow. He literally said if I didnt speak to him tonight, then our weekend plans were cancelled. He was gonna sleep over and bring his teenage son to a b ball game here ...The dumb dick shot himself in the nuts.

I replied that was his choice to make, but dont threaten me. He said I was moody and he wouldnt stand for it. I gave no argument, I've learned to let people make their choices.

When I said to tell his son I was sorry the weekend did happen for him, he stung me by calling me a "child manipulator" and it wasnt going to work. As if I were expressing my apologies to his son as a form of manipulation. His words were stunning to me. The dark side was a shock. My former scorpio sun never, ever spoke with such hate to me.

His aries moon showed before and I gave in to it. This time I couldn't. I was not going to feed his shitty behavior. Nothing like this had ever occurred thus far. Im bummed. But I had to take care of me first.

He knows me well enough by now to know I am sincere about children. Especially his son who has had recent troubles. It was a big deal, this weekend and I did feel sorry. He is pissed cus I didnt give him his way and I didn't *fight* and say Noooo dont cancel the weekend. He wants to conquer and control me. If someone throws out an ultimatum they'd better be ready to accept the outcome.

I won;t coddle a 48 year old man. Earlier today I contacted the arena where the game is to ask if there could be an exception for an off duty cop to carry his gun inside. He told me he hates going anywhere without it. Its security to him. He doesnt live here so he didnt know what to do. So I emailed the guest services and got permission and instructions for the procedure. i emailed him their reply as a surprise,he didnt know I was doing it. I wanted to do something special for him. Fuck me for that, I guess.

Sad and funny part of this all? Earlier today before things went to shit....we had a nice, erotic text exchange where he told me alllll the awesome things he was gonna do to me this weekend. It was pretty much a given he was gonna get laid.

He cock blocked himself.!!

How do you manage to consistently rope nut jobs? And why is their residence always so distant to yours? I suggest you try a new online dating site or another route all together. Actually, why don't you just hang out with DMV? She will hook you up.

Thank you Cheeky 🙂

I'm bummed. Enforcing boundaries always runs the risk of loss. But it's better to lose him...than to lose ME!

Hello BGP,

The man in question sounds like a childish/manipulative man purely from what you had written. Cut him.

*Side note for stings on your heiny, wear metal panties* 😉

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Hello BGP,

The man in question sounds like a childish/manipulative man purely from what you had written. Cut him.

*Side note for stings on your heiny, wear metal panties* 😉

Hi doll 🙂

Yes, Im knitting myself a pair of teflon tighty whities now. thong, of course. with a pink bow 🙂

Update:

So....we've had a few texts an a brief convo and here's the poop. He felt rejected when I said I didnt want to talk to him. He thought I didnt like him any more. So he reacted in fear by issuing the ultimatum. Dumb man..his big ass ego told him to grab me gave man style . Didnt work, obviously.

But now...he is clutching onto the rant VM I left him after he accused me of being a child manipulator. ya see, he can only see how *I* hurt him, not HIS part in any of this. So...he is trying to control me still.....said he would call me back yesterday after he got a police call...but he didnt.

So....Im gonna move on about my day.....🙂

Posted by BigGirlPanties

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Hello BGP,

The man in question sounds like a childish/manipulative man purely from what you had written. Cut him.

*Side note for stings on your heiny, wear metal panties* 😉

Hi doll 🙂

Yes, Im knitting myself a pair of teflon tighty whities now. thong, of course. with a pink bow 🙂

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That's the way to do it and I hope you're doing well 🙂 pink bow and all!!

Posted by BigGirlPanties
Update:

So....we've had a few texts an a brief convo and here's the poop. He felt rejected when I said I didnt want to talk to him. He thought I didnt like him any more. So he reacted in fear by issuing the ultimatum. Dumb man..his big ass ego told him to grab me gave man style . Didnt work, obviously.

But now...he is clutching onto the rant VM I left him after he accused me of being a child manipulator. ya see, he can only see how *I* hurt him, not HIS part in any of this. So...he is trying to control me still.....said he would call me back yesterday after he got a police call...but he didnt.

So....Im gonna move on about my day.....🙂

Red Flags

Insecure, Manipulator, Egotistical, Childish, Possessive perhaps?

*all only based upon the information you have provided though*

🙂

If this helps, I have scorpio in venus and I am very sensitive to rejection, especially from a lover. I don't like to be told no and it pisses me off not to get my way in matters of the heart. A soft word, funny text, etc. gets me over it pretty quick.

When he gets like that, try to say/send something funny or smart assy in a cute way. If you can make him laugh, he'll be over it. Like when he said you wouldn't see him that weekend, say "dang! and I was going to hang upside down on the chandelier for you". Something really ridiculous that will make him smile. Works on me anyway! 🙂

Of course, if he's really, really pissed off, it could make him madder.

Thanks guys, you give some excellent perspective and ideas. He and I have spoken. We had a heart to heart yesterday. It was needed. I shared my thoughts totally and was gentle but firm. He was dead silent and heard every word without interuption or argument. He took responsibility for being fearful, thinking I was rejecting him and never wanted to see him again.

I laid some important boundaries and said this would never be acceptable again. I told him I have always lost a part of myself in relationships and I wasn't willing to repeat that, and if an ultimatum is given, i will always accept *me* over him (or anyone).

He apologized and we made an agreement on how to better communicate. Fear really makes people feel powerless, thus instilling the need to control.

Lol..how wrong you are, sir. Leo and Sag are rated highly compatible. As are our venus' (scorp and cancer). Btw, My pluto is in Virgo.

He and his son came for the weekend and we had a great time. He made a lovely effort of following through on the stuff we'd discuss. He was grateful and respectful. One of the few draw backs is he is very verbally non-expressive of emotions.

You're right, Seraph. Love is a verb, an action word. So actions are more important than words. I have to remind myself of this often. But, the thing is for me, my *love language* is verbal acknowledgement, ie: words of affirmation.

( http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ )

One thing he did that showed me a loving action: He is a die hard Notre Dame fan. I am a die hard UMiami fan (My son is a student at UM). Told me he'd never wear a UM t shirt. When he came here, I asked if he'd take a pic in front of the UM sign on campus. Said yes. I thought that was a nice gesture. Later, I gave him a UM t shirt, said he didn't have to wear it, but its his. To my surprise, in the morning, he wore it. Then his son put on HIS UM sweatshirt and we took pics. He wore it all day. To some it may not mean anything, but to me it was a loving gesture.

I'm on the hunt for a Notre Dame shirt to return the favor 😉

Posted by BigGirlPanties
Lol..how wrong you are, sir. Leo and Sag are rated highly compatible. As are our venus' (scorp and cancer). Btw, My pluto is in Virgo.

He and his son came for the weekend and we had a great time. He made a lovely effort of following through on the stuff we'd discuss. He was grateful and respectful. One of the few draw backs is he is very verbally non-expressive of emotions.

i actually dont fucks with leo men. too damn bossy.

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Posted by BigGirlPanties
Lol..how wrong you are, sir. Leo and Sag are rated highly compatible. As are our venus' (scorp and cancer). Btw, My pluto is in Virgo.

He and his son came for the weekend and we had a great time. He made a lovely effort of following through on the stuff we'd discuss. He was grateful and respectful. One of the few draw backs is he is very verbally non-expressive of emotions.

i actually dont fucks with leo men. too damn bossy.

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i actually like a bossy man. never used to cos i don't like being told what to do but when it's stuff like what we're gonna do, i'm happy just to be pointed in the right direction and even happier to sit in his shadow. too many years of being in the driving seat and taking responsibility for everything i guess. i need a rest. there's a leo shaped gap in my life right now which i'm gonna fill eventually 😄

personally i find sag's tip the balance from bossy to controlling and i don't like it. bossiness when it comes from a place of love is a great think i think and i need someone to give me that 'structure' cos i'm a laaaazy biyotch!!

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Posted by BigGirlPanties
Lol..how wrong you are, sir. Leo and Sag are rated highly compatible. As are our venus' (scorp and cancer). Btw, My pluto is in Virgo.

He and his son came for the weekend and we had a great time. He made a lovely effort of following through on the stuff we'd discuss. He was grateful and respectful. One of the few draw backs is he is very verbally non-expressive of emotions.

i actually dont fucks with leo men. too damn bossy.

i actually like a bossy man. never used to cos i don't like being told what to do but when it's stuff like what we're gonna do, i'm happy just to be pointed in the right direction and even happier to sit in his shadow. too many years of being in the driving seat and taking responsibility for everything i guess. i need a rest. there's a leo shaped gap in my life right now which i'm gonna fill eventually 😄

personally i find sag's tip the balance from bossy to controlling and i don't like it. bossiness when it comes from a place of love is a great think i think and i need someone to give me that 'structure' cos i'm a laaaazy biyotch!!

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i totally agree. i like a men who can take the wheel but i dont like men who boss me around. do this and to that. fires signs are good for that. which is why i dont mess with leos and aries. sag men are a o.k.

No derailing 🙂 Its cool.

We had a great weekend, he was very sweet. When I drank too much coffee and became a bit tachacardiac as a result, he demanded I surrender my starbucks cup to him. 🙂 It was lovingly bossy. Then he took my pulse and told me to sit and rest. He wouldn't let me get up till it passed. And he tossed my coffee cup when I wasn't looking. I have to say I found it endearing.

The next day I went into fear based pull back mode. 😢 Intimacy is scaring, kids.