Seducing a Scorpio

Hi guys-
I have a frustrating problem, but I am confident you guys can help me sort it out. I have a Scorpio guy friend that I am falling for. I am a Scorpio also, and we seem to have a special sort of "bond". Lately he wants to hang out all the time, and we talk for hours on end. He says he has a "secret question" that he wants to ask me, but then has told me that instead of asking me, he wants to just find out the answer. I know that the question involves us dating or being together, so why won't he just ask me? I've asked him that, and I get no clear answer. Is he just playing games with me to see my reaction, or does it sound like something real is there? We are both in college, and I feel that this sort of thing is very immature. I would just come out and tell him I like him, but I know he already knows that because of how well we know each other. If I like him and he likes me, why won't he do something about it? This all makes no sense and I have no patience. What should I do?

I'm a female scorpio who has a male scorpio friend. I have found that these guys love to play mind games sometimes. Just act like you're indifferent instead of playing along. He'll eventually tell you if he really means whatever this is all about. Scorpio guys have huge egos , and I'm sure he is playing some psychological game. It might be hard with you being a scorp too cause you will might end up creating your own games ......see where this could go?

Hello there!
I am in love with a scorpio guy too.And he actc exactlly like you two have described.He is always back and forth,but more often back.I have promised myself thousands of times to forget about him,but when we meet,he stares deeply into my eyes and i completelly lose myself and forget about everything.But he would not tell me if he cares for me.What do you think should I do?Thank you for your support.

I would use the "cheese" theory given to me in a former post by the one that refers to himself as "i-sun" ;?)

Think positive, be positive and act positive.....! Don't get negative, just have faith!

That's all....

Seagoat

I'm a Virgo and my man is a Scorpio. At the end of our first date, he left off by telling me, "I have other women, you know." So I told him, "Yeah, so, I have other men." It has been to say the least, at times a contentious relationship, head games galore - mainly my games (after the "I got other women" remark, did he think he was going to get away with that given Virgos are so self-possessed?) The relationship, though, has lasted 16 months and for the most part it was fun, loving and supporting. BUT, two months ago he stopped calling me. I telephoned angrily why hadn't he called. He said he should have called. I told him to at least keep in touch, but he still didn't call. Then two weeks later I saw him and he broke off with me, furious, telling me that he was very upset about my angry call to him. I asked him if this break up had to do with another woman. He said it wasn't about women he just wasn't happy with me that I should move on. I said I would move on. Two weeks later he called to see me. We talked, I apologized for whatever I did to make him unhappy. We hugged, said he didn't want any sex and he left. A week later he called again this time he was amorous, invited me to go on vacation with him, told me that he wanted to be in his life and wanted me to want him in my life. FINALLY, I realized what sent him into this crazy funk, in passing he mentioned an incident that happened 9 months ago, when an old boyfriend (of 20 years ago) called me to wish me a happy thanksgiving and I talked to the ex-boyfriend while he was there insted of tellling the old boyfriend that I was busy with my new boyfriend. Is this a true Scorpio or what? Nine months keeping this anger inside and two months of manifesting it. So, 209.188.209.40 take my experience for what it's worth. Think back to see how, when you may have hurt him without you realizing it. My Scorpio would be jealous of men in my present life and even if I wasn't interested in them. He acts at the time like it's all fun and games, setting me up, asking questions about the guy, and then, WHAM! When I least expected two days, a week later, he blows up, but I never expected that he would carry this inconsequential (to me) call from a 20-year ago boyfriend to the level he carried it. Keep the faith. Good luck.

I'm 66.172.129.209 above. I meant to say that he wanted me to be in his life and he wants me to be in his life. Sorry, I was at work and in a hurry. Now I'm at home. Anyway, as I was saying 209.188, think back and you may have said or done something that made him go over the edge. Can you send him a card? I sent my Scorp a card quoting the line he used to pick me up the first time we met and I turned the words around. It seemed to work, or maybe it's Venus in Libra - which brings harmony to relationships, I read. I was devastated when he broke up me this time. I always broke up with him because I didn't trust him. But reading and asking questions on this site about Scorpios helped me immensely. Also, I read a book "Relationship Rescue" by Dr. Phil, the guy who appears on Oprah. It really gave me the clues to see where I set myself up - mainly - I blamed him. I realize now that if I want the relationship to change it's up to me. I have the control to change it no matter how many times he says that he's in control. That's Scorpio talk. The truth is that to change a situation you have to take control and the responsibility to make it better.

If I was in love with a male Scorpion, I would scratch his back and massage his body hair, if he had any! It doesn't take much - in fact, if you start, he may not let you finish!

I'm a scorp and I recently surprised my Leo bf by reminding him that I've never forgotten about the time I found his ex-girlfriend's phone number in his car shortly after we began dating 3 yrs ago. Turns out she had called him and he took down her new (at the time) number. Well, I was pissed about it at the time, but 3 1/2+ years later, when he got mad at me for speaking to my ex on the phone, I quickly reminded him of the fact that he made the rules all those years ago, not me. If he wants to change the rules now, that's fine, but he can't get mad at me for doing the exactly same thing he did. He was shocked that for all this time, I remembered the incident and filed it away. We do that, we will forgive but we never, ever forget, and in an argument, you may find that we will bring up things that anyone else would have long forgotten or gotten over.

Just my 2 cents : )

I'm 66.172.129.209 above. Thank you Phoenix, now I know what to expect during the next 3-1/2 years 'cause I sure have flirted a lot and tried to make my Scorpio jealous. Hey, I didn't know Scorpios are so unforgiving. I was just trying to find out if he really cared since he acted like such a cold fish. I guess after 1-1/2 year he must care since he stopped acting like a cold fish. I also stopped trying to make him jealous and instead started to get into astrology. I've learned a lot not only about him but about me. Thanks again for your response.

Hey no problem : )

Also, remember that our exterior looks are very different from the way we feel--ALWAYS. We can appear to be aloof and cold, but that appearance that we consciously strive to put out there is in direct proportion to how passionately we feel inside.

-phoenix

P.S. We really do forgive much of the time--but I'm just saying we have memories like elephants : )