Getting revenge?

What do you guys do to get revenge? Right now I'm seething with anger because I found out my best friend of 7 years is two-faced, speaking negatively about me behind my back. I'm a Scorpio, and my moon's in Aries. I want to yell and lash out and confront him, but I feel that I should carefully think out my plan. Any suggestions? >🙂

As much as you want to get revenge for this horrible betrayal, think of it this way: why waste an ounce of your precious energy on this person? Will your act of revenge change what they did to you? It will probably only serve to hurt temporarily, with no lasting results. The only lasting results will be those that you feel. You will feel defeated in the end, because you allowed such a crappy person to drag you down into the depths of negative behavior. You are stronger than that. I heard a great quote once: "The best revenge is a life well led". I promise you that the universe, fate, God, or whatever unseen force it is that keeps our world in balance, will exact its own revenge. What is thrown out, always comes back. It may take years for this person to fully grasp what they've done to you, but they will grasp it somehow; some way. It is the natural law. In the meantime, realize that you have a divine opportunity to see what you DON'T want and what you DON'T need, in the future. You are actually in a better position now that you know who you were really dealing with, rather than living in blissful ignorance. You are in the uppermost positin right now--show that you are superior by bettering your own life rather than ruining anothers'. Trust me, both methods end up having the same effect. It is better to make the best of this for yourself, than to make the worst of this for this back-stabber.

Good luck to you!
Heather

Thanks Heather! I was thinking of just not bothering with him. It just hurts so much to know that the person you thought was your best friend thinks you're "a spoiled child on pms." His life is shallow right now, so I figure that's his punishment right there. By the way, he's a Capricorn.

~Mario~

Mario, no problem...you see? "His life is shallow right now"--I knew that before you even said it, because only someone whose life is meaningless to them goes through life faking deep connections and loyalty to people. Everything is a front with people like that. And it will continue to hurt, the fact that he knifed you in the back. But every time you start to get upset about what happened, remember that you would have seen his true colors eventually and you are so much better off without disloyal people in your life.

Love to ya,
Heather : )

Forgot to add: better that you saw his true colors now, instead of another seven years down the road.

Keep your head up Mario : )

Heather

Thanks, I've finally calmed down. You really have a way with words. 🙂

~Mario~

Well wasn't that a sweet thing to say, thank you! : )

I am glad that you are feeling a little better now. Get some sleep and know that I've been where you are, and I promise you it's going to be okay in the end Mario. No one deserves a "friend" like that.

You'll be in my thoughts...
Heather

I have noticed the best revenge is to do nothing and watch how "What Goes Around Comes Around". I have endured each adversary's assault and noticed that they (by their own efforts)do themselves in. I do practice forgiveness by wishing them the best and all good things for 2 weeks. This alleviates the anger in me. In the beginning, it feels like I'm lying, but by the end of the 2 weeks, I really do mean it. I try to keep my side of the street clean, and good things come to me.

Im' finally back from vacation... Vegas was awsome!

but anyways listen to heather she knows alot. she is somewhat of a psychiatrist! she is good

hi heather!

Indeed...!!!

Heather, I'm so glad you replied to this first and set the tone for this thread. That quote of your about revenge was very inspiring and I will definatley be quoting you in the future...

Most excellent advise...lets lose the hate People...

Take care guys...

durrie, hey there! Thank you--I'm so honored that you thought what I said was inspiring. : )

i-sun--I was worried about ya, I'm glad you're back and you were on vacation rather than abducted by aliens (ha ha)...thanks for the compliments!

Well, love to all of you,
Heather

P.S.: 206, I love your method of "keeping your side of the street clean". Great philosophy. I truly believe that whatever energy you exert upon your eniviornment and the people in it, finds it's way back to the source. So plotting, scheming, and wishing negative things to happen to the one who wronged you, will act as a boomerang and somehow screw with your own life. The other side of that coin is that the more positivity you throw out, will also find it's way back to you. Thereby achieving what you rightfully deserve and perhaps that in and of otself, is the best revenge--to let the other person wallow in their own destructiveness while you keep climbing up the mountain and learn something from all of it.

Take care,
Heather

That would be, "...in and of ITSELF"...

Heather

And "ENVIRONMENT". Jeez. lol.

Heather

Hey Mario!

I must admit I'm a tiny bit offended by your "BTW he's a Capricorn". I can understand you're angry with him but in this case I hope it doesn't matter whether he's a Cappie or not. I'm a female Cappie myself and frankly I am proud of it! Us Cappies are usually very loyal and trustworthy, up to a point we're being used or dependant way too much. So the fact he's a Cappie has nothing to do with his betrayal hopefully....It has more to do with his life being superficial, or in his case I think he's lying to himself. People with a superficial life are afraid of themselves and suppress their own needs and emotions, including the bad ones. I've suppressed my feelings for a long time, most people say Caps are logical and boring. It's all a matter of self-protection I think....Nowadays I don't suppress any feelings anymore and therefore I don't act like a Cappie AND my life is full of depth! Your shallow friend is NOT worth the angry feelings because he wouldn't understand your revenge anyway....So forget about him alright? See it as a useful lesson but don't be afraid to trust a Cappie next time! They ARE worth the friendship....😉

Seagoat

Ooooooo, here's a post I can relate to! Yep, been through this and I know the feeling well. I understand your feelings of betrayal.

If it were me, I would DEFINATELY approach the best freind very soon-don't waste time to let more resentment build up. It would be unhealthy for YOU. Let 'em know you're mad but don't lose your cool. I think it's good to let them know you are very hurt and annoyed for all the derogatory things thay have said about you BUT, at the same time, be ready to back yourself up--give examples. This is elementary, I know, just had to mention it. If it doesn't work out, the two of you may have to take some time off from one another. They have to understand that you are a person to be respected. Period.

PS...don't take any "revengeful" measures...it's juvenile and that's what your friend will think of you. You're better than that, right?

right!

i-sun