Should I be open and tell a Scorpio guy I have started liking him..

So this Scorpio guy and I started sleeping together 4-5 months ago. We met at a party thrown by a mutual friend, she wanted to set us up and had already laid some groundwork prior to our meeting, but we also sort of connected instantly had a lot of fun talking to each other… and ended up having sex after the party was over..Tbh, in the beginning it was just sex for me, at the time I also had another romantic interest but things lead to nowhere and we didn’t have sex or anything just went out on dates a couple of times. I was open about it and after I decided to no longer go out with the other guy, I called him again and he came over we had sex again like nothing has happened..

Now,I have had FWBs before and never ran into a similar problem and was never the one to admit to liking my partner.. Also, tbh at the start I was convinced it was just sex for me, I was the one that has used the FWB term in reference to him (once) and I was more distant and wanted to set some boundaries.. While,he was the one that wanted more intimacy..but over time I think I started liking him, so I changed and became nicer, more open and way more caring towards him.. He seemed to be very comfortable around me since the start and even said he doesn't feel the need to filter what he says when around me. Of course he grilled me with a million personal questions, but I didn’t bulge and was quite open and have been honest with him about everything. Tbh,I was the one that needed some time to warm up and even explained to him that I am a little slower in letting people in, cs I have been hurt before and try to be cautious about that…Also at the start, I assumed he was also seeing others, but then he wanted to discuss hitting it raw and eventually told me that was not the case and I was the only one he was seeing atm (and the last person he had sex without condoms with was his ex gf..).It is just that we have this amazing sexual chemistry (he says it himself) and we are quite comfortable around each other. We have discussed previous relationships and know quite some personal stuff about each other.

Anyways, rewind to present day, he has been going hot & cold on me, especially lately – he will go from wanting to call me 'baby', wanting more intimacy, and buying me a sex toy to play with when he is not around.. to not texting me at all for days or making any time to see me.. He will always respond and be really nice when I contact him, but he says he is very busy and stressed out at the moment, so I do not wanna pressure him into seeing me, but still kept up the conversation and tried to keep it light and not insist on anything..

At this point I am not sure how to proceed.. I want to tell him I started liking him, cs I feel that if I do not do that I might just end up getting even more into him and then eventually find out that it is not reciprocated..Or, he might decide to go out with other girls or smth..Also,I tend to be very direct in my interpersonal relationships and just feel the need to know or to move on if he doesn't like me back..

Sorry for the long post, but I'd really appreciate any input from Scorp guys and gals on my situation 😉 Thanks in advance 🙂

Don't over complicate things with words. Words are meaningless. Actions are so much more important. Make yourself more available to him emotionally. Things will fall into place.

It goes with out saying that the two of you like each other already.

@Deedee86 - Thanks for the comment 🙂 I do agree with what you are saying and I am a firm believer in 'actions speak louder than words' 🙂 However, I feel that since we do not see each other that often and the tone of the interaction was initially set as 'we are just doing it'.. If I do not speak up and tell him how things have been progressing for me, he might decide that I am not interested in doing anything else outside of sleeping together and move on to seeking other women to actually date..

I read up a bit on the subject of telling Scorps how you feel about them, and I am fully prepared for him to go silent/cold on me for a while post having that convo, cs he might need to think about it and process. I am not planning on pressuring him or giving any ultimatums, I just wanna come clean about it. Tbh,I wrote the long post, cs I am scared that me being so direct and almost trigger happy might scare him and push him away :/

yea and tell him when you have your periods as well

If you choose to tell him, don't make it a big production. I can't speak for every Scorpio but I know that I hate that stuff.

Just tell him you want to be his girlfriend. He's clearly a little guarded with the whole FWB scenario. He's probably close to checking out if it doesn't get remotely serious.

He wants to fuck you without protection.

It sounds like you wouldn't agree and now he's suddenly lost interest in you.

Says it all really.

Hey everyone, thanks for the comments and the advice 🙂

I think, I will go ahead and talk to him. Now I am just wondering if I should do it before his upcoming bday, but I think I will wait cs I do not wanna ruin it for him in case he doesn't feel the same or if he gets upset or smth..

Tbh,I know it might sound weird, but I think due to my slightly weird astro chart combo (fiery Sun Vs. watery Rising) I have always struggled with holding on to people and being demanding when it comes to my own needs and feelings Vs. being 'the chill girl' and giving them too much space and letting them do whatever they please, cs I also believe in being independent and being your own person even when dating/in a relationship..

So yeah, finding that balance has been a problem in past relationships, so I wanna avoid that now by being open about how I see things (without being demanding 😉 ) and to do it before he decides I am not interested. Anyways, fingers crossed it goes well 🙂