Should I give up on this Scorpio?

My ex is a Scorpio. I'm not even quite sure if I believe in all this horoscope stuff, he doesn't, but here goes. I'm an Aquarius, and I know it isn't good. But then again, all the things that made us "incompatible," I liked. I liked his jealousy and need to be in control. Anyway...

He and I were together for 4 months, and loved each other very much. We have a lot on common and we just love spending time together. We broke up because the trust was gone. And I've read that's a big thing with Scorpios. I tried to get him back, but he wouldn't have it. He did, however, want to remain friends, despite the fact he said he really couldn't trust me.

So it's been about a week, and we've been texting and all, but without the lovey dovey stuff. He still confides in me, telling me when he's sad, except it never involves me, just how his day is going. He's asked me before to move on, and I'm currently in the process. But I just love him, I want someone like him, so I asked him to introduce me to some of his friends, and he kind of keeps blowing it off, even telling me once that "they'd just end up wanting to date me." Right now, we're in a bit of a "friends with benefits" situation, that I'm extremely not proud of, but I don't know.. I just want to stay in his life.

When he texts me, either he'll be sad, or he's telling me things that would seem like he's trying to make me jealous. Of course I'm getting jealous, but I don't show much emotion for him, unless he seems to be really really sad.

Does he still wanna be with me? Is he just trying to take his "revenge?" Should I just give up on him? Will he be back if I do?

Yes..? I'd like to know if I should continue to put up with this.. Just recently, he said he doesn't exactly see me as a friend, even though I'm always there for him. I told him it was okay, because I was patient.
Should I hang on for another chance with him? Leave him alone entirely? I really do worry about him. He's depressed so often, and it kills me.. But even as I help, he refuses it, and as tolerant as I am, it gets frustrating.

Sorry to say it this way but; You're young and 4 mos isnt a long time. My first bit of advice is to NOT ASK HIM TO SET YOU UP WITH HIS FRIENDS. Think about what kind of message that is sending....NOT GOOD. How would you feel if he said that to you? In any relationship, the best thing you can do is show that you are there for him to offer support and be a friend but dont be pathetic or let yourself get used or played & if it starts to 'feel bad' then bow out GRACEFULLY (i.e."I wish you well" and dont stalk - let it go if you have to, your gut will tell you when).
good luck! (I'm basing this on "people" not Scorpios but my Asc is Scorpio)

But he isn't exactly letting me in anymore. He is, but to a certain extent. Like telling me he feels alone and unloved and he wants new friends or something, and I don't wanna just be "Well, I love you" but instead I say something like "I'm there for you" cause we're supposed to stay friends, though we're pretty much friends with benefits right now. And he's only actually happy when we're planning to have sex. :/
Also, this talk of other girls, he told me he had a date with a girl he didn't even know, like right now. I think asking him if any of his friends would like to hang out or text me (As a friend, I made that clear) pales in comparison to "I'm considering going out to lunch or a movie with this girl I don't even know." He isn't texting me at the moment, but he's been texting me all day.
I don't waver when he tries to make me jealous. I did a few times a few days ago, but I was in a state of weakness and then I realized how unattractive that appeared. So now I don't.

Ok, I'm the same as Scorporella, when the trust is gone, its gone. I dont know if you did something really bad to lose the trust but that's pretty much the way it is w/ me too. I'll be nice and friendly w/ you but I WILL NOT TRUST YOU once I've been betrayed.
I'm gonna say something that may hurt but, if he's only happy when you're going to have sex and he's open about meeting other girls, he's probably keeping you around til he finds something better - and he's letting you know that and by still having sex w/ him you are accepting that. If you want to be his friend, try to be his friend w/out benefits and see what happens. Believe me, he'll respect you more as a friend, lover or foe if you dont put up w/ that kind of behavior. Be nice, be polite, be there but dont give him sex if he tells you he's looking for other girls. See if you have a real friendship w/out sex.
I may have been wrong in my interpretation but I stand by my comment to leave his friends out of it (regardless of what you mean by suggesting it).

Mkay, so I suppose I should leave him alone then? How do I go about this without making him feel entirely betrayed and just hate me forever? Because I think I've done a considerable amount of damage, and I don't think he will ever forgive me.. I just thought maybe because he's still confiding in me about his sadness and shortcomings, that maybe he was trying again. I've heard some Scorpios like to test.
I don't want him to feel like, since he was still keeping a bit open and then I just stopped contacting him entirely that I abandoned him..
But what you're saying is right, I don't like how he's going around looking for more girls. I'll try to end this friends with benefits thing. I still love him though, and yeah, I've got that hope, no matter how small and how often he tries to destroy it..
As for the friends, it wasn't so I could get closer to him. I'm just trying to move on, as best as I can with him still in my life.

He also just texted me something strange...
He's currently at work, and I took a while to reply, because I was spending time with my family. I got to see my dog and my niece who moved out from my house a few weeks ago. I was so happy. 🙂 And I told him this, and he seemed very happy for me.
I said "I know, I've missed them. 🙂 It's the best."
And he replied. "You're the best. But that's beside the point."
I don't get it.. That's the nicest thing he's said to me in a while.. What's going on? How do I reply to that?

Posted by ellybd


"Oh really? How so? 🙂" But that's just what I'd say. As a scorpio I can't resist fed lines like that lol.

Well, instead I replied, "Why thank you, I am. 🙂" because I read on here that confidence is a huge plus. Right?
And yes, he does that also when it seems I'm going to complement him.

He seems a lot happier right now.. It's nice to see him happy, but it's so difficult to read him.. I told him he seemed a lot happier right now, and he's yet to reply. Honestly, I'm a little afraid for his reason why. I feel rather useless if I'm not the one able to make someone happy when I've tried...

So... I don't know.
Is he playing with me?
Does he actually want me?
Is he trying to forgive me?

Like I said, I think I hurt him pretty badly, to the point where I really don't think he'd trust me again. I came to a few conclusions as to why he's sticking around, as opposed to regular Scorpio ways where they cut you off entirely. He's a pretty lonely guy, I'm pretty much always there for him. Will this work in my favor?

But I'm also still hurting. Keeping my own feelings into consideration, cutting him out entirely would hurt me still, as he's pretty much all I talk to as well. But I think I'd have a better chance of healing. I would, however, like to be his friend or try a relationship again if given the opportunity in the future. But I'd have to be given the opportunity..
If I initiate no contact, will he resent me for it?

Damn your 17 years old! I didn't even have boyfriend than.


Your so young! You should enjoy life. He'll keep stringing you along forever. If you keep craving that feeling they give you or ( the sex) Just find another scorpio, he'll make you feel the same way! That is what I did.



They are pretty much all the same anyway

Just being a Scorpio isn't the whole reason why I enjoy him. We have a lot in common and we have fun together.

He's so confusing though.. He was in a good mood last night, and before saying good night to be, he called me the old nickname he used to call me when we were dating. I don't know if it made me happy as much as it just confused me..
I don't understand him at all. :/

Posted by LostMonster
Just being a Scorpio isn't the whole reason why I enjoy him. We have a lot in common and we have fun together.

He's so confusing though.. He was in a good mood last night, and before saying good night to be, he called me the old nickname he used to call me when we were dating. I don't know if it made me happy as much as it just confused me..
I don't understand him at all. :/

I get confused too. Because it's emotional not logic

I was thinking the same thing.. But I've tried no contact before, and he seemed to agree. But minutes after I'd established it and was about to delete him from my Facebook, he started commenting on my status.. So I figured, okay, Facebook is fine, I suppose. The next day, it took him a while, but he began talking to me again, over Facebook. And then we were back to texting. :/ I have trouble with saying no with people I care about.

I'm afraid to abandon him for a couple of reasons. Firstly, I don't want him resenting me for not being there when he needs someone to talk to, which is a very big deal to him. He hates being alone. Secondly, talking to him sometimes gives me something to do. Thirdly, I feel that if I'm there, he won't get entirely over me so quickly, if he hasn't already. That's kind of a big deal to me, unfortunately..
But yeah, this is causing me a lot of emotional stress. And I don't think it bothers him at all, other than his usual gloomy moments that he's had his entire life..

And thank you. 🙂

Posted by LostMonster
I was thinking the same thing.. But I've tried no contact before, and he seemed to agree. But minutes after I'd established it and was about to delete him from my Facebook, he started commenting on my status.. So I figured, okay, Facebook is fine, I suppose. The next day, it took him a while, but he began talking to me again, over Facebook. And then we were back to texting. :/ I have trouble with saying no with people I care about.

I'm afraid to abandon him for a couple of reasons. Firstly, I don't want him resenting me for not being there when he needs someone to talk to, which is a very big deal to him. He hates being alone. Secondly, talking to him sometimes gives me something to do. Thirdly, I feel that if I'm there, he won't get entirely over me so quickly, if he hasn't already. That's kind of a big deal to me, unfortunately..
But yeah, this is causing me a lot of emotional stress. And I don't think it bothers him at all, other than his usual gloomy moments that he's had his entire life..

And thank you. 🙂

I mean in the sense as an aquarius you're thinking lets move forward and try to make this better, how can I help, tell me whats going on, lets solve this problem, give me a explanation to this, your logically trying to understand this.

I do that too, I'm a sag with a venus in aqua.


But with scorpios and forgiveness and all of that. It's emotional and not rational. So your not going to be able to understand it how you'd like.


I feel like emotion can't be tracked down. It comes and goes. It's unstable.


It's very hard for logical people to understand emotional people and the other way around.


Your gonna ware yourself out trying to figure this out and you may never get there.

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Posted by Sagittarius89
Damn your 17 years old! I didn't even have boyfriend than.


Your so young! You should enjoy life. He'll keep stringing you along forever. If you keep craving that feeling they give you or ( the sex) Just find another scorpio, he'll make you feel the same way! That is what I did.



They are pretty much all the same anyway

roflmao

I luff sags 😄

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Posted by Sagittarius89



I mean in the sense as an aquarius you're thinking lets move forward and try to make this better, how can I help, tell me whats going on, lets solve this problem, give me a explanation to this, your logically trying to understand this.

I do that too, I'm a sag with a venus in aqua.


But with scorpios and forgiveness and all of that. It's emotional and not rational. So your not going to be able to understand it how you'd like.


I feel like emotion can't be tracked down. It comes and goes. It's unstable.


It's very hard for logical people to understand emotional people and the other way around.


Your gonna ware yourself out trying to figure this out and you may never get there.

So.. It's time to abandon all hope? I've realized that I can't help him, no matter how hard I try. :/ There was a point when I made him happy, and I guess I just don't anymore.

What I've been doing to trying to earn his trust back, but I guess that's impossible?
I was hoping what some of you were saying was right and that he's just figuring things out and adjusting because he's young, but some of the things he's told me, that he's forgiven before and all, makes me feel like he's set. And I'm also not sure if I can trust him.

So how exactly do I go about this? Because I'm entirely lost. Logic isn't helping me here.

What I've been doing *IS trying to earn his trust back

I think I might actually be getting somewhere...

We've been texting, and I got this sudden burst of really positive energy. So I went on a random tangent about how amazing I am. I don't like to brag, really, I find it annoying when other people do it, but in this situation, I figure, hey, why not?
So a few texts of me just saying how utterly amazing I am, and then I get this reply:

"... I want you"

Caught me completely off guard. So I replied:

"What?"

But then he just said nevermind. So I continued with my self-flattery parade. And he became short with his replies.
Oh, Scorpio ex of mine. I'd give half of my awesomeness just to figure you out. But even then, I'd still be pretty damn awesome. 😉

So what's going on now? Should I keep going with this? Stop? Cause he seems to get getting intimidated?

And on top of that, he just admitted to coming on to me. I don't exactly know what that means, to be honest. 😛

"Sorry. I was coming onto to. :/" is what his text said.. Now what?

enni- Hm, well I don't see why he wouldn't have just asked. We do have somewhat of a status as friends with benefits. Although, if he did, I would have declined. I'm not taking that crap anymore. 😛
Turns out that was exactly what it was, though. But he said "frustration beats arousal" and "the time has passed."
He's frustrated at work. I don't know what to do. Kind of want to ignore him. But again, I'd like to avoid the mean route..

oldskoolflavor- Lol, yeah, I get that.

Yeah, I've noticed he does tend to drag me down. But I'm resilient. If I'm down, I rarely, if ever, stay that way for very long. It's been just a week since we broke up. I started out broken and pathetic. Now I'm kinda just hurting, but meh. 😛 I have no idea how he feels. He only ever tells me about word sadness or loneliness at home sadness.
Looking for a new boyfriend, but I'm kinda still attached to him by a string, possibly a thread.
Time to cut entirely and hope a new one turns up somewhere along the road?
Or just let it float there for a bit?

*work, not word

Posted by enni


"Looking for a new boyfriend.." - i hope it's not rebound.

You can do anything...you have the power to cut the string off you.

As I said, "time always move forward" the road never ends...we always see forks on the path.

Hm, I'm not sure if it is. Because I would like a new boyfriend. It might be too soon, but unless he makes it absolutely clear that he wants to forgive me and get back together, then I do not want him, end of discussion. I'd like to help him still, but I won't give my full-hearted effort unless I get something of equal value. And I've heard Scorpios aren't known for being fair.

The reason I'm still hanging on is because he won't make it clear to me what he wants. And I know he won't tell me the truth, if he even knows it himself.

forget what he wants....what do you want?

Posted by DMV
forget what he wants....what do you want?

Hm.. Lemme think about that..
I want things back to normal, actually.
I wanna know what's up with him. He's done, right? Cause I have no idea. I cannot read him. There's no helping it? I'm setting myself up for disaster? Or does he want me to prove myself? I do not know.

Haha, I get what you're saying. But yes, I'm young.. And sometimes I need some prodding in the right direction. As my name implies, I am very lost, haha.

My instincts are rather shot right now, because I can't read his signs, or if he's putting up any, for that matter.
My instincts are telling me that he's keeping me around because he still loves me. And he's trying. But he's afraid, because I did hurt him.
But the more I read on this forum, the more I question this, haha.
Starting to think he's evil. And malicious. A liar. And using me because I care for him.
I wish he had just cut me out of his life entirely. Because I don't know what to believe anymore.

I would, however, like him back, though. He's a fun person. And the sex was good, but really, I can't feel much unless there's love there.

Lost,

Here let me tell you a story. I did something I guess "unforgive able" to my first scorpio ex okay?


Personally, I refuse to apologize for it because I felt it was granted on how he treated me.


Anyway, we ended up back together and than after it ended he told me he never got over what I did.


He lied to me the whole time saying he was over it. All of his actions were just like how you were explaining.



I would just forget about it. I totally regret ever getting back with him. I wish I could go back in time and take the year away but I can't. The worse part was we lived together the second time too.


I'm not saying second chances can't happen with people. But immature scorpio's totally NOT. Too many games.

Posted by ellybd


It could be either or. Hell it could be both. There's a good possibility it might be. He might still love you but in his twisted unhealthy sense he is using you too because he feels a lack somewhere in his life. Either way, he is not giving which is not healthy. In relationships, things are two way streets. Unless his merc is in an air or fire sign, scorps aren't good at saying how they feel outright. They suck at it actually. Look at his actions. A scorpio man will show by his actions whether he really loves you or not. None of us here have seen/know all of his actions like you. So if you want to zero in on how to find the truth, look towards that and it will tell you the intent of his heart and the motive behind it.

I see.. What exactly should I be looking out for? Ha, so many questions..
I haven't seen him in a few days, and last I did, there was a bit of an issue. We had planned sex. And then he wanted to watch SNL together. During, I had something come up and had to go. But we proceeded anyway, and he finished. Then I had to leave, and I kind of got in his face twice in the spur of the moment. He was hesitant, but he did push me away. Then he took me home. I was a little freaked out at the time, because of my own circumstances, and as I was about to leave the car, he stopped me and gave me a kiss.

He's also the first one to do the contacting. It's always been that way, but I didn't expect it since we're not together anymore. His messages are usually short and rather boring, which is different. But I respond the same, yet he still talks.
I'll admit, I have been distancing myself, making it appear as though I've moved on entirely. But I haven't yet, not entirely, at least. I don't know if it'd be good or not, to distance myself. It isn't actually taking ME anywhere, but I would like to know where it may be leading him.

Right, I don't think he is over you or he'd totally cut you out. But he isn't going to give into you fully either cause that'd take all his power away.


So this set-up is really working in his favor. He gets you but not to the point where you can hurt him.



The only way you'll get out of this is if YOU LEAVE. I don't think he will. Mine said he was finished but kept coming back.


The only way to stop this is YOU.

Posted by LostMonster

Posted by DMV
forget what he wants....what do you want?

Hm.. Lemme think about that..
I want things back to normal, actually.
I wanna know what's up with him. He's done, right? Cause I have no idea. I cannot read him. There's no helping it? I'm setting myself up for disaster? Or does he want me to prove myself? I do not know.

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your still thinking about what he wants.

what do you want.

Posted by Sagittarius89
Right, I don't think he is over you or he'd totally cut you out. But he isn't going to give into you fully either cause that'd take all his power away.


So this set-up is really working in his favor. He gets you but not to the point where you can hurt him.



The only way you'll get out of this is if YOU LEAVE. I don't think he will. Mine said he was finished but kept coming back.


The only way to stop this is YOU.

You make a wonderful amount of sense. 🙂
What do you mean by coming back? If he comes back, doesn't that mean he's lost his power and it's a sign of weakness?

He just sent me another rather boring text with no conversational value whatsoever. So I guess now is the time to ignore?
Without telling him?

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Posted by LostMonster

Posted by Sagittarius89
Right, I don't think he is over you or he'd totally cut you out. But he isn't going to give into you fully either cause that'd take all his power away.


So this set-up is really working in his favor. He gets you but not to the point where you can hurt him.



The only way you'll get out of this is if YOU LEAVE. I don't think he will. Mine said he was finished but kept coming back.


The only way to stop this is YOU.

You make a wonderful amount of sense. 🙂
What do you mean by coming back? If he comes back, doesn't that mean he's lost his power and it's a sign of weakness?

He just sent me another rather boring text with no conversational value whatsoever. So I guess now is the time to ignore?
Without telling him?

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Just been there ya know?


No because when mine came back like I said, he told me he forgave but he didn't. Like really faked it.


Than when he felt like it completely threw me too the wolfs. What I think happened is yes he missed me and yes he loves me but after a while that rush wore off

and than he maybe " woke -up " from his over emotional need to get me back and realized

I'm still pissed as hell at her!


Do you see what I am saying?


There was other stuff that factored in of course but that was a big part of it.

Posted by DMV


your still thinking about what he wants.

what do you want.

Hm, maybe for him to do the impossible and go after me again. Definitely. I think. Haha..

Posted by Sagittarius89

Just been there ya know?


No because when mine came back like I said, he told me he forgave but he didn't. Like really faked it.


Than when he felt like it completely threw me too the wolfs. What I think happened is yes he missed me and yes he loves me but after a while that rush wore off

and than he maybe " woke -up " from his over emotional need to get me back and realized

I'm still pissed as hell at her!


Do you see what I am saying?


There was other stuff that factored in of course but that was a big part of it.

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Mm, If he were to leave me a second time, I think I could handle it. I'm already coping pretty nicely and it's only been a week. But I think it's mostly that little thought that he's still there and it's possible that is keeping me leveled. I'm not sure, haha..

I would like to kind of 'disappear' on a better note, though.. Rather than just ignoring him. I went on my Facebook moments ago and saw he was online, on the chat.. Aaand I'm pretty sure he saw me. 😛 He probably knows I'm ignoring him.

Worst case scenario, when I start to ignore him, he won't even try to contact me. If that happened, I'd be pretty stricken, I think.

Posted by enni
We'll support whatever you decide. The only best way is to make your own decision and learn the consequences of that yourself. It's more powerful..than our advices. You see it, feel it...taste it...smell it..hear it..and everything. Lol.

This is true. But I would like some tips.

Haha, and the longer I ignore that text, strangely the harder my heard beats, literally. I must be worried.
I reaaaaally don't want any of that Scorpio resentment.. Because if I can't have him as a boyfriend, then I don't mind having him as a friend, at least. It's an easy way to meet new people, because he and I are basically from completely different social worlds.

Posted by enni


Let's say if you lost him...it's ok don't worry there are millions of people out there! 🙂 You know, in real life, it's normal for people to like or dislike other people.

That's also true. But I feel that if I have a way to correct that, then I will definitely try or stick with it. It's only when I've lost all hope and I'm so tired and feel the end result is not worth the pain and effort, is when I completely give up.

That's why I wish he'd open up and tell me the absolute truth. But I don't expect him to..
As Sagittarius89 said, she did something "unforgiveable." Did it involve trust?
I remember I questioned him on it once, and he told me "It's not something to be forgiven." I think it was a pretty big deal.
But even so, where's the lock-out? Cold shoulder? Revenge?

Posted by DazedScorp
*smh*

At this whole thread...

I don't understand. Feel free to shed some light here.

Posted by DazedScorp
I don't really feel like reading the whole thread honestly (mind is full of a lot of fucking thoughts right now...)

Three key points I'd like to make though.

1. You're 17. You've dated for 4 months. Childs play first of all. A male scorp completely opening up to love someone in that short amount of time?? I think not.

2. I dated an aqua for almost 3 years. Almost married the woman. No, no, NOOOO!

3. Males scorps usually won't keep their ex's around. And if they do, it's for one of two reasons. To get laid on a regular basis, or to ease the pain until he finds someone to replace you.

Things did move rather quickly between us.
He know he won't get laid on a regular basis, because I've got my own stuff to do.
He's told me of girls asking him out, pretty much a new one every two days. Even spending the night at a female friend of his' house, and he claimed all they did was get high and sleep, because she had work at four in the morning.

So you're saying I should just plain drop him? Don't ask questions? Just full-on stop contact, delete all, and never return? I'm getting some very much appreciated feedback. But I'm still at a loss for what to do.

Posted by DazedScorp


At a loss? Seems like you got it figured out to me...

What sort of impact might that have on him? Being ignored mid-conversation and pretty much erased?

Dear Lost,
RUN! I've just been through this with a 52 year old Scorp, for the past 2.5 years....I am 46...he is immature and sent so many mixed messages.....I am done! Too many mind games, back and forth, etc. You are young....he is young and obviously a very immature Scorp.....so my advice is RUN!! don't look back....he will just screw with your head as long as you let him! As stated, WE are the ones that have to make it stop! You are young and beautiful and do not deserve to be treated as he is treating you....you can and will do better! My heart is broken, but I am doing my best to get over him, one day at a time. Best of luck sweetie.

Posted by Divinesun
Dear Lost,
RUN! I've just been through this with a 52 year old Scorp, for the past 2.5 years....I am 46...he is immature and sent so many mixed messages.....I am done! Too many mind games, back and forth, etc. You are young....he is young and obviously a very immature Scorp.....so my advice is RUN!! don't look back....he will just screw with your head as long as you let him! As stated, WE are the ones that have to make it stop! You are young and beautiful and do not deserve to be treated as he is treating you....you can and will do better! My heart is broken, but I am doing my best to get over him, one day at a time. Best of luck sweetie.

Haha, seems like all a bunch of horror stories from all of you experienced people. Scorpios are THAT terrible, huh?
I'm not exactly letting him.. Or maybe I am, I just can't tell.
The truth. It would be really great to know, haha.

But I might be stringing him along for the ride until something better comes along as well.. Might be the reason why I need to know if he's in it for the feelings or not. Cause I can't string him along if he's got his own little agenda.
As I said, I am looking for a new boyfriend. But I still care deeply for him. If I had a choice between him being the same again or a new person, I would pick him, unless I've already gotten with the new person, of course.

Posted by enni



focus on yourself.. please yourself. do not worry about him too much. he can take care of himself. heck, girls ask him out so he's fine.

I didn't exactly mean it like that. Like, if he'd be angry.
Cause knowing more and more from you all that he isn't just trying and struggling with trusting me again.. upsets me. :/ And kinda makes me wanna leave him a regretful mess.
I realize this is really bad.

Lol, I've been persuaded a little. I thought he was really trying, and I wanted to know what I should do to ensure a better ending. Then it became apparent he's pretty much an underlying jackass.. maybe?
I'm still unsure, but if it's gonna be this way, I feel like he needs some sense knocked into him. Because I've been hurt. And I question if he ever was at all. :/

Posted by enni


One way is...talk with him *directly* in person. (face to face, no text, no phone, no video phone). no vague messages. BOLD DIRECT messages to avoid confusion or uncertainty. i think that's the best way to get the truth. if he is not serious about it, then i can say it's safe hes messing with you.

Ohhh, this guy, this guy... When things get difficult for him, he throws humor around. So it's very difficult to tell if he's serious. The day after we broke up, I talked to him, face to face about it. Of course, he would not have it, he joked a little bit. I ended up making many mistakes that night. It's so difficult when he hides behind jokes.

I don't know how to work with a Scorpio. My guess is he'll try to crawl out of it with jokes, changing the subject, etc.
How can I deal with that? I'd like my answers. Some closure. Who's to say he won't just lie to me? I wouldn't put it past him, he has lied to me before.

Posted by enni
"throws humors around", "joked a little bit..."

ok sounds like hes not serious about it. forget him .

He does it when things get awkward for him. Like when his ego gets a little shot, for example. I was thinking that was just his emotional shield.

So don't talk with him? Would making it completely apparent that I will walk away without hesitance kick some sense into him? Or at least make him feel some sort of gnawing pain, because I will settle for that. :/

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Posted by enni


Let's say if you lost him...it's ok don't worry there are millions of people out there! 🙂 You know, in real life, it's normal for people to like or dislike other people.

That's also true. But I feel that if I have a way to correct that, then I will definitely try or stick with it. It's only when I've lost all hope and I'm so tired and feel the end result is not worth the pain and effort, is when I completely give up.

That's why I wish he'd open up and tell me the absolute truth. But I don't expect him to..
As Sagittarius89 said, she did something "unforgiveable." Did it involve trust?
I remember I questioned him on it once, and he told me "It's not something to be forgiven." I think it was a pretty big deal.
But even so, where's the lock-out? Cold shoulder? Revenge?

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Yea I cheated on him. No I don't regret it and no I never apologized.

Why? Because he had it coming to him with the way he treated me.

Say what you want. I was there.


I never felt sorry about it and I still don't.


All I feel sorry is for myself for getting back with a asshole for like two more years after that and living with him.

Hmmm, soooo what are you saying? He's not a user scumbag jerk?
I would like my questions answered, I just don't know how he'd answer.

At this point, I wouldn't mind so much if he wasn't serious. Haha, at the moment HE'S actually begun to ignore ME. 😛 I'm guessing because I ignored him. For an hour.
It'd hurt, yes. But that's normal, I suppose.

I thought about it also. If he's gonna use me, I shall do the same. Being friends with him is very beneficial, I think. He's out of high school, does what he wants pretty much, goes to those parties and stuff. I like older guys.
Although his closest friends despise my very existence, I'd make due with his less close friends.

Posted by Sagittarius89



Yea I cheated on him. No I don't regret it and no I never apologized.

Why? Because he had it coming to him with the way he treated me.

Say what you want. I was there.


I never felt sorry about it and I still don't.


All I feel sorry is for myself for getting back with a asshole for like two more years after that and living with him.

Hmm, well I never cheated. But I'd bet he suspects I did. My lie hurt him pretty much our entire relationship, and yes, I even apologized, numerous times.
And he didn't treat me badly. Except, figuring out all these Scorpio secrets, it makes me wonder if he did...

Posted by LostMonster

Posted by Sagittarius89



Yea I cheated on him. No I don't regret it and no I never apologized.

Why? Because he had it coming to him with the way he treated me.

Say what you want. I was there.


I never felt sorry about it and I still don't.


All I feel sorry is for myself for getting back with a asshole for like two more years after that and living with him.

Hmm, well I never cheated. But I'd bet he suspects I did. My lie hurt him pretty much our entire relationship, and yes, I even apologized, numerous times.
And he didn't treat me badly. Except, figuring out all these Scorpio secrets, it makes me wonder if he did...

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You never know. The act one way to your face and are doing something else behind you back.

He was just out of control controlling.

Posted by LostMonster
Hmmm, soooo what are you saying? He's not a user scumbag jerk?
I would like my questions answered, I just don't know how he'd answer.

At this point, I wouldn't mind so much if he wasn't serious. Haha, at the moment HE'S actually begun to ignore ME. 😛 I'm guessing because I ignored him. For an hour.
It'd hurt, yes. But that's normal, I suppose.

I thought about it also. If he's gonna use me, I shall do the same. Being friends with him is very beneficial, I think. He's out of high school, does what he wants pretty much, goes to those parties and stuff. I like older guys.
Although his closest friends despise my very existence, I'd make due with his less close friends.

Even if your in the most un-serious thing with him he will still try and find a way to hurt you.

Posted by DazedScorp
Basically, it comes down to this...

Why the fuck do you want to fight for someone who doesn't want you?

Because I have no idea if he wants me or not.

Posted by Sagittarius89


Even if your in the most un-serious thing with him he will still try and find a way to hurt you.

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Sooo why hasn't he yet? He's tried making me jealous, knowing full-well that it does bother me, but I don't act on it anymore. He pretty much tells me he's been turning down girls left and right.