SHOULD I SLEEP WITH EX -VIRGO

I just got off the phone with my ex-virgo of almost 8 years ago and he told me he was seperated. He got married about 4 years ago and told me he made a mistake. He said that his wife had it good but did not know how to appreciate it.

He has been celebate for 1 month and I for 3 month we laughed about it, and I told him to catch the first thing smoking out of ohio and we can get together, I ask him do you think our feelings will come back or not and he said he knows his would because he is vulnerable and I told him I was not.

He said that he knows his feelings for me would over power his feelings for his wife because we dated before and because of him being vulverable he could probably switch his feelings like that. I was like ok.

I asked him can I be honest and he said no, he has always kept his wife out of our conversation when I would talk to him because the day that he got married he called me and said he made a mistake, he should have married me. So today I finally told him that I was hurt, and jealous, because it should have been me but I am over it know. he said nothing just that he knows that he made a mistake.

I personally don't think that i could go back with him because I cussed his wife out so bad when he talked to me about 3 months later he was like Oh my I never knew you could say such things. Well today I think he knew I was right about what I was telling his wife, he is know stuck with 2 kids and cannot see myself getting back with him because I would have to help raise his kids and because I still dispised his wife I would have to be around her at some point and time and personally I don't think I could deal with her.

I new she had a good thing with him and I told him that it was a mistake and she screwed it up, so the one man that I so adored and he adored me and we respected each other is free, and a part of me want him but then a part of me can't do it because I told myself I would never be with him because I would have to help him raise his and her kids and have to see her but at the same time I could throw it in her face but that is not nice and I am trying to be nice. I would just like to see him and see if the feelings are still there.

I said he will be up in a couple of weeks, the sex has always been the best.

Dame it's been a long time.

I don't know if I should or try to get back with him.

I would like to see him to see if it is all possible but he is Ohio and I am in DC I am not going to OHIO and he is not going to relocate his busness to DC.

I just want to see him what we have,is still very good and the love we have for each other is unconditional still after all this time.

He is rebounding.

From my experience, Virgos don't get over the people they love. This works two fold. He will always love you. He will always love her.

It is FAR, FAR too soon for you to do anything with this guy. If you make a move on him, six to eight months he will be back at her door. Why? Because everytime you do something wrong, he will compare you to her ... and because she isn't in the picture, she looks better and better.

If yall are saying don't do it then, and after all these years he knows I should have been the one he married. I really am finding it hard to think that he would run back to her.

Yall really don't know the whole story but to put it in a nut shell... She is a addict a Chronic relapser. She was clean when he met her, the only reason he married her or got with her was because he wanted to carry his last name and I could not have any children. So with that do yall still feel the same way.


He made the statement today that he knows the only time that I got mad at him was when he did something to make me mad. He never really go mad at me in the past. I was really really into him and adore and love him, I was supported etc.

You will do what you want to do Scorplady.

He is rebounding. Doesn't mean he doesn't love you, but he is a big emotional vacuum at this point. Be careful you don't get sucked in okay?

Yea DB I will, and of course I know what to do about the stinger, he has felt it before. That's the thing that kills me sometimes I will sting the hell out of someone and dammit they keep coming back.

You are right LS

Point well taken GL

and with all that said, I must be honest with myself and say that if he was to come to DC I will see him. Know whether we will spend time together I can't answer that as of yet he is not in my face. My heart and between my leggs is saying hell yea...but you never know.

Thanks for the words of encouragement,and honesty.

GL, LOL, I can respect that, He called me after he go married is what I said. But time will tell.

No I did not ask him that.

You know I don't do a lot of questioning on the phone I really like to talk to him face to face so that I can read him better. but it is a thought that I will keep in mind...

I don't talk to him everyday..I just happen to call him out the blue because I heard a song he likes and I thought about him and call and when he answered the phone I said " hey you sexy thing, and he said wow and dropped the phone. LOL..and then we started talking.

sex with the ex. I've done it but it usually doesn't last long. Someone will let emotions get involved and there will be dissagreements or someone will feel used or blah blah blah

but hey! do it if the sex is good & you can agree on the emotional level involved. 😉

I would say no don't sleep with him..meet up with him and maybe discuss things over but don't sleep with him..he is feeling vulnerable and you would be taking advantage due to the fact that you have no intention of getting back with him..but if your doing it as some kind of sweet revenge..lol..well...

Hey if you are horny enough. What the hell.Do go ahead😉