So, I'm finally getting the cold shoulder...it's about time.

I was just waiting for this shit to happen. Scorpio guy didn't come home this weekend, because he was "too tired". I cried and he said he was going to have to "figure something out". Well, later on that night he sent me a text that didn't appear that it was actually FOR me. Could have been, but I asked him whether or not it was...no answer. I called him...no answer. I flipped the hell out on him and broke up with him...via text message. TF— I'm kinda laughin now, but it was so knee jerk. Like, breaking up with someone via text is just...c'mon...no.

Anyways...I went to sleep and woke up after a couple of hours and texted him that while I did mean the first part of my text, I didn't want to break up with him. He texted me EARLY the next morning at his wake up time and was like, "What the hell— lol I was sleep and woke up to this emotional train wreck. smh WOW! Yes, I was talking to YOU, not someone else." So I was like, "Why didn't you just say yes when I asked you?" Him..."I was sleep dammit!" Me...."Oh".

So I finally confess to him that I've had this underlying anger towards him, because he went to work out of town and 3 hours further (out of town) than he SAID he was going to work. I knew about both job opportunities, but he said he was taking the one closer to home (about an hour away). I also admitted to him that part of my underlying anger is because when we discussed what his future plans were, he said he was waiting until March 2016 to resume this kind of work where he has to travel and I agreed that by that time, I'd be ready to hop a flight to visit him once a month. Well, now we find out that I'm ill and while I know he did the right THING by going back to work, because it's rare that he gets to work so close to home, I was still feeling abandoned. He said, "K. I understand" and a few hours later, he texted me with, "Are you ok?" I let him know that I was and later in the afternoon, let him know that I asked for two days off this week to be able to go see him. He said, "Ok". We didn't contact each other for the rest of the day. This is our first fight while away from each other. Usually he's here and it's easy for us to make up. He texted me this morning with a chilly, "Good morning". So I responded warmly and was met with another formal type text, but for the first time he asked me how I was, rather than asking me what I'm doing. Much later in the day I texted him with, "I love you." and he responds with, "Love you."

Ok, so what the hell now? Lol ha ha ha ha I mean, he's still responding which is great. The text that he sent me, which I'm still suspecting wasn't actually FOR me was asking me if I want him to come get me in the middle of this week, tomorrow which would be a HUGE sacrifice on his part. I'm kind of afraid to ask him if he's still going to come get me. Part of me feels kind of bad for flipping out on him, but the other part of me is like...no, he NEEDS to understand how I'm affe

Affected.

A lil more backstory to the emo dynamics at this point. I found out last week that the illness I have MAY be more severe than the doctors first thought. They're sending me for additional testing and apparently the new diagnosis is so rare that the treatments aren't yet solidified. When I told him last week...he cried. My heart broke and I apologized to him. There's just so much emotion going on when we can't easily get to each other and have that unspoken thing going on. You know?

Didn't you just ride my ass and tell me I'm a terrible person for breaking up with the woman I was dating over stupid shit in the astrology forum? And that not being able to make it when I wanted or better yet expected her to was a sign of me being an asshole?

How do you feel about the future of the relationship? How long is he away for and do you think things will be completely better when he returns? Do you think he's properly supporting you through your health issues? Who else do you think that message would have been for?

Actually it seems like there is far to much unnecessary communicating about things that really don't matter. Most of which screams *emotional manipulation*

However I'm sorry you're not feeling well. I hope you feel better soon.

Posted by Hemispheres
Didn't you just ride my ass and tell me I'm a terrible person for breaking up with the woman I was dating over stupid shit in the astrology forum? And that not being able to make it when I wanted or better yet expected her to was a sign of me being an asshole?

Did you just find out that you have an illness that will sap all of your physical health and are you having a hard time with easy shit...like remembering your co-workers last names who you've worked with for the past 3 years? I'm trying to manage an illness that is taking my quality of life right before my very eyes and VERY quickly.

Posted by Scenic
How do you feel about the future of the relationship? How long is he away for and do you think things will be completely better when he returns? Do you think he's properly supporting you through your health issues? Who else do you think that message would have been for?

The future of our relationship has AWESOME potential. We don't know how long he'll be away, because...well, it's the industry that he works in. Not too complicated to explain, but the job ends...when it ends. The job that is one hour away that he was going to take, probably wouldn't have lasted for more than 6 weeks. The job that he took...he could be there through the holidays. He's 3-4 hours away and he's supportive as far as asking me about what's going on, but he's working 6 days a week, 12 hour days...so he CAN'T really be available and he's working a job where he walk an average of 7 miles a day on the job site.

Admittedly, I'm even more insecure about who the message could have been for, because he's so far away and he's got game. Shit...he's with me. lol He's got MAD game and is a smooth devil. I'm also feeling like my relationship value is lessened by my illness. This is ALL new to me. So like, there's so much shit running around my head that I was on my knees praying for 2 hours last night.

Posted by Skitty
Actually it seems like there is far to much unnecessary communicating about things that really don't matter. Most of which screams *emotional manipulation*

However I'm sorry you're not feeling well. I hope you feel better soon.

I'm missing "what doesn't matter" and where do you feel the communication is coming from...me or him?

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Posted by Skitty
Actually it seems like there is far to much unnecessary communicating about things that really don't matter. Most of which screams *emotional manipulation*

However I'm sorry you're not feeling well. I hope you feel better soon.

I'm missing "what doesn't matter" and where do you feel the communication is coming from...me or him?

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Fuck...where do you feel the MANIPULATION is coming from? Me or him?

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Posted by Hemispheres
Didn't you just ride my ass and tell me I'm a terrible person for breaking up with the woman I was dating over stupid shit in the astrology forum? And that not being able to make it when I wanted or better yet expected her to was a sign of me being an asshole?

Did you just find out that you have an illness that will sap all of your physical health and are you having a hard time with easy shit...like remembering your co-workers last names who you've worked with for the past 3 years? I'm trying to manage an illness that is taking my quality of life right before my very eyes and VERY quickly.

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So it's excusable to take your frustrations out on a man who cares about you, and deflect blame on to something than has nothing to do with him.

Yeah, I'm definitely not fucking with anymore Pisces lol.

This shit is Deja Vu of the ex from high school and the woman I just dumped.

Hemispheres, you're a POS. No one cares about who you just dumped or your view of pisces. Grow some balls and stop complaining. You're all over the boards and now you're even being rude to someone with a serious illness just because you're bitter.

Posted by Hemispheres
This shit is Deja Vu of the ex from high school and the woman I just dumped.

With this attitude...yes, you'd do best to stay away from a Pisces. Jesus Christ dude, you're really think headed. You know? You can't see shit unless it's taking a piss right on your nose.

Posted by Scenic
Hemispheres, you're a POS. No one cares about who you just dumped or your view of pisces. Grow some balls and stop complaining. You're all over the boards and now you're even being rude to someone with a serious illness just because you're bitter.

Thank you Scenic. I'm trying to be patient and so close to cussin his young ass straight the fuck out.

It's good you at least think good things for the relationship and that hes being as supportive as he has. It seems like with you two, if you have worries, talking them over with him will clear them up generally. Just say you're worried about the text. Or you can take him up on the offer to pick you up and benefit from it! And maybe if it weren't meant for you he might find a reason to cancel those plans.

as he CAN*

Posted by Scenic
Hemispheres, you're a POS. No one cares about who you just dumped or your view of pisces. Grow some balls and stop complaining. You're all over the boards and now you're even being rude to someone with a serious illness just because you're bitter.

Given she just did the same shit she told me I was an asshole and horrible person for doing, yes. I'll call you out on your BS once you do the same thing.

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Posted by Scenic
Hemispheres, you're a POS. No one cares about who you just dumped or your view of pisces. Grow some balls and stop complaining. You're all over the boards and now you're even being rude to someone with a serious illness just because you're bitter.

Given she just did the same shit she told me I was an asshole and horrible person for doing, yes. I'll call you out on your BS once you do the same thing.

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Seriously shut up. God, you're so annoying

There's a block button sweetheart, if you can't take it after dishing it out that's the next step.

Posted by Scenic
It's good you at least think good things for the relationship and that hes being as supportive as he has. It seems like with you two, if you have worries, talking them over with him will clear them up generally. Just say you're worried about the text. Or you can take him up on the offer to pick you up and benefit from it! And maybe if it weren't meant for you he might find a reason to cancel those plans.

Thank you Sweetheart. Actually, things just worked themselves out. This always happens to me. I freak out and things just fall into place. He called and is coming to get me tomorrow after work. However, we really do need to talk about our communication and figure something out while he's gone. He's not big on talking. Like, he's chill in person and he mostly likes for us to kick it, listening to music or watching a movie or cooking together, etc. He loves when I talk though he doesn't really respond in depth. When he talks, I'm ALL eyes and ears, because he barely talks about things that are serious to him. He mostly cracks jokes and keeps me in stitches. Like at one of my appointments where I had to be sedated, he asked if we could take some with us so that he could sedate me again later. He had the nurses laughing their asses off. All I could do was shake my head and laugh along with them.

Scenic...thank you SO much for your supportive words.

Posted by Hemispheres
There's a block button sweetheart, if you can't take it after dishing it out that's the next step.

I'm going to pray for you tonight. I'm going to ask Jesus to heal your wounded heart so that maybe you can finally be happy. I'm serious. I think that people who tend to get what they want are kinder people. Seriously. There is something very broken in/with you.

I find fairy tales laughable.

Posted by Skitty
Well- for starters-

Crying because someone is tired and can't see you- It sounds like the guy is overworked and needs a rest. Instead of crying why don't you support and encourage him to get a good night sleep?

Secondly- The whole breaking up in a text message because he was clearly exhausted and fell alsleep- I understand you didn't know that at the time you sent those messages. But ffs- You broke up with him in a text because he didn't respond to you? I mean...Really?

Thirdry the following morning when you woke up- "He texted me EARLY the next morning at his wake up time and was like, "What the hell— lol I was sleep and woke up to this emotional train wreck. smh WOW! "

Not sure why you used "lol" in that sentence. Are you getting you emotional jollys off on this guys pain or something? idk- Right away that confuses me.

Additionally- When you say you woke up to this "Emotional Train Wreak" Really were you anticipating something different? I feel that would a normal human response considering everything you texted the following night.

So- to conclude- It sounds like he is really is in love with you- you however seem possessive, manipulative, and very emotional.

I understand your sick right now- and maybe your current behavior is a reflection of what your going through right now?

DING DING DING! WINNER!

*previous post hidden because there is no edit option* :/

Well- for starters-

Crying because someone is tired and can't see you- It sounds like the guy is overworked and needs a rest. Instead of crying why don't you support and encourage him to get a good night sleep?

Secondly- The whole breaking up in a text message because he was clearly exhausted and fell alsleep- I understand you didn't know that at the time you sent those messages. But ffs- You broke up with him in a text because he didn't respond to you? I mean...Really?

Thirdly the following morning when you woke up- "He texted me EARLY the next morning at his wake up time and was like, "What the hell— lol I was sleep and woke up to this emotional train wreck. smh WOW! "

Not sure why you used "lol" in that sentence. Are you getting you emotional jollys off on this guys pain or something? idk- Right away that confuses me.

Additionally- When you say you woke up to this "Emotional Train Wreak" Really were you anticipating something different? I feel that would be a normal human response considering everything you texted the previous night.

So- to conclude- It sounds like he is really is in love with you- you however seem possessive, manipulative, and very emotional.

I understand your sick right now- and maybe your current behavior is a reflection of what your going through right now?

Posted by MsTeeq1974

Posted by Scenic
It's good you at least think good things for the relationship and that hes being as supportive as he has. It seems like with you two, if you have worries, talking them over with him will clear them up generally. Just say you're worried about the text. Or you can take him up on the offer to pick you up and benefit from it! And maybe if it weren't meant for you he might find a reason to cancel those plans.

Thank you Sweetheart. Actually, things just worked themselves out. This always happens to me. I freak out and things just fall into place. He called and is coming to get me tomorrow after work. However, we really do need to talk about our communication and figure something out while he's gone. He's not big on talking. Like, he's chill in person and he mostly likes for us to kick it, listening to music or watching a movie or cooking together, etc. He loves when I talk though he doesn't really respond in depth. When he talks, I'm ALL eyes and ears, because he barely talks about things that are serious to him. He mostly cracks jokes and keeps me in stitches. Like at one of my appointments where I had to be sedated, he asked if we could take some with us so that he could sedate me again later. He had the nurses laughing their asses off. All I could do was shake my head and laugh along with them.

Scenic...thank you SO much for your supportive words.

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I think that's a good idea. It seems that your trust in him would really improve if he communicated more, imo. If that's the case, then it's definitely important to work on that area. I hope you can work some things out! Though, you probably shouldn't expect too much more out of him. It's hard to be one way if you're naturally the opposite way.

Keep us updated!!! : )

Posted by Skitty
Well- for starters-

Crying because someone is tired and can't see you- It sounds like the guy is overworked and needs a rest. Instead of crying why don't you support and encourage him to get a good night sleep?

Secondly- The whole breaking up in a text message because he was clearly exhausted and fell alsleep- I understand you didn't know that at the time you sent those messages. But ffs- You broke up with him in a text because he didn't respond to you? I mean...Really?

Thirdry the following morning when you woke up- "He texted me EARLY the next morning at his wake up time and was like, "What the hell— lol I was sleep and woke up to this emotional train wreck. smh WOW! "

Not sure why you used "lol" in that sentence. Are you getting you emotional jollys off on this guys pain or something? idk- Right away that confuses me.

Additionally- When you say you woke up to this "Emotional Train Wreak" Really were you anticipating something different? I feel that would a normal human response considering everything you texted the following night.

So- to conclude- It sounds like he is really is in love with you- you however seem possessive, manipulative, and very emotional.

I understand your sick right now- and maybe your current behavior is a reflection of what your going through right now?

Oh Gawd...here we go. First of all, I didn't CALL him crying. It was an emotional outburst. I was fine with him being too tired to come to town. I even told him that I would prefer for him to stay there rather than drive while tired. He was like, "OMG...you sound SO sad"...which is not like me. So, I said to him, "Of course I'm sad. I haven't seen you in almost two weeks". He said, "Babe, what do you want me to do?" I said, "I want you to come HOME" and started crying. Like, it wasn't planned. Shit...people do cry without trying to. Also...I've had many many emo upsets in the past 4 months. My aunt died of heart cancer the month that I met him and my spiritual mother just died last month. Another awesome Scorpio women that is now gone from my life forever. She catered my wedding, etc. We were so close. I'm still reeling from that unexpected death. The "lol" was HIS...look at the quotes. I'm not lol'ing. I wasn't upset that he called me an emo train wreck. He's allowed to call it as he sees it. I never balk at him for that. I actually sit there quietly and listen to him on the rare occasion that he's gone on a rant or raised his voice over something between us. I'm VERY emo. My closest loved ones who have been my BIGGEST supporters are dropping dead like flies and when I first started this thing with my illness, we thought it was going to take a simple outpatient procedure to correct. But not so.

My behavior/state of mind and emotional roller coaster is definitely a result of what I'm going through. Jesus Christ. Have you ever been like...really really really sick? It takes me like, two hours to get out of bed, because of the pain. Two years ago, I did over 4 miles of Tough Mudder where I jumped off of a 50ft platform. I'm used to competing and besting my 20 something interns in casual games of soccer. Now it takes me more than an hour to deal with pain to get up. Yes, I would say, that what I'm going through is definitely affecting my emotional stability.

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It's good you at least think good things for the relationship and that hes being as supportive as he has. It seems like with you two, if you have worries, talking them over with him will clear them up generally. Just say you're worried about the text. Or you can take him up on the offer to pick you up and benefit from it! And maybe if it weren't meant for you he might find a reason to cancel those plans.

Thank you Sweetheart. Actually, things just worked themselves out. This always happens to me. I freak out and things just fall into place. He called and is coming to get me tomorrow after work. However, we really do need to talk about our communication and figure something out while he's gone. He's not big on talking. Like, he's chill in person and he mostly likes for us to kick it, listening to music or watching a movie or cooking together, etc. He loves when I talk though he doesn't really respond in depth. When he talks, I'm ALL eyes and ears, because he barely talks about things that are serious to him. He mostly cracks jokes and keeps me in stitches. Like at one of my appointments where I had to be sedated, he asked if we could take some with us so that he could sedate me again later. He had the nurses laughing their asses off. All I could do was shake my head and laugh along with them.

Scenic...thank you SO much for your supportive words.

I think that's a good idea. It seems that your trust in him would really improve if he communicated more, imo. If that's the case, then it's definitely important to work on that area. I hope you can work some things out! Though, you probably shouldn't expect too much more out of him. It's hard to be one way if you're naturally the opposite way.

Keep us updated!!! : )

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Yes and yes and more yes. However, I realize that with him not being a big talker on a serious level, he's not likely to start now. I do think that on the positive side, my knee jerk freak out made him look at things from a more serious perspective, in regards to our communication. I don't ever complain to him about how much his communication sucks. It's something that I kind of just...keep to myself. I've asked him to explain some things to me and It's kind of weird...like, he just can't. I'm talking about in casual convo. Like, "Hey Babe...how was church and what was the sermon about?' Of course he can tell me that church was good or cool, but trying to explain that sermon is like...holy shit...like he can talk about some of the details, but then he gets flustered and starts laughing and is like, "I can't really explain it."

Sounds like he's not the best with words. He doesn't talk dirty either, does he? Haha. Or maybe he actually cares enough about sex to be descriptive there. Anyway, sounds like it will be tough to work around but it's good that you don't expect much to change. Expectations can kill relationships before they ever start. It's best to go in with no expectations, but personally, I like going in expecting the worse so I likely will end up happier with the result. Haha!

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Sounds like he's not the best with words. He doesn't talk dirty either, does he? Haha. Or maybe he actually cares enough about sex to be descriptive there. Anyway, sounds like it will be tough to work around but it's good that you don't expect much to change. Expectations can kill relationships before they ever start. It's best to go in with no expectations, but personally, I like going in expecting the worse so I likely will end up happier with the result. Haha!

Spoken like a true Pisces mooner. lol ha ha ha ha

I want to have a better communication exchange, but I don't want to change him. smh...I know...sounds silly, but I don't. I want to learn how to work with him or develop some other method of being able to communicate that works for him or gives him more...whatever it is he's lacking in order to communicate. He's extremely bright. He just doesn't express the intellectual side of himself much. Kind of like the class clown syndrome, then you find out that the class clown actually knows a lot about various subjects, etc. No, he does NOT talk dirty. I was thinking about that the other day...funny that you highlighted that. Actually, his deepest expressions of what he's thinking in regards to our relationship comes out during sex. He actually said the "L" word first during sex. I'd never had anyone do that before. He's like...wide open where it feels like I can see inside of him when we have sex. I haven't had sex with him in 3 weeks, so I feel out of touch with his inner person. Well, I am out of touch with his inner person. He's there and I'm here. smh

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Posted by Hemispheres
There's a block button sweetheart, if you can't take it after dishing it out that's the next step.

I know understand why they block now.

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I'm not going to waste my life time on the clicks that it would take to block him. Sometimes you gotta let shit go with people and realize that he's just who he is, because obviously he likes being that way. lol He's actually one of the meaner Taurus's that I've come across. More like my kids' father than any Taurus I've encountered. Cruel of sorts.

There really isn't much of a perspective someone can gain from a paragraph - Peoples lifes can not be summed up in the paragraph. i don't know you- or your life- You asked me to elaborate on what i meant in my previous comment so i did.

I'm sorry i misread one of your comments- out of context- without quotations- Sounds pretty bad- which is how i initially read it :/

My other opinions however i hold firm on. I do however hope shortly your doctor can get you started on some sort of treatment plan to help manage your pain tho 😢

Posted by Impulsv
Oh teeque
Sooty to hear about the diagnosis
It must be scary for you. N yes that will cause any normal human to be on an emotional roller coaster. I didn't read whole thread but focus on u atm

I'm tryin...I really am. I've been hanging out with awesome friends and not dong anything too crazy. Low key fun...just trying to relax. I realized that I only had two days out of the past two months that I didn't pick up a beer or hard cider. Didn't drink last night or tonight. So, I'm feeling pretty good about that. This was not a good time to make someone I'm trying to get to know better important to me, but the fact remains that he IS important to me now. I keep swinging back and forth between managing my daily life vs the mental bandwidth that it takes to manage my relationship. At least work for now is not too bad. My boss even mentioned changing my role so that I can manage other people taking on more of my work tasks. I'm excellent at empowering people to succeed in their careers, so I'd be down with training more young folks to take on some more of my work. My IT intern gave his first in depth training today on one of our new IT tools. Not bad at all. I'm making/requesting him do another one next week. lol Next thing that young dude knows...he'll be a training guru.

Posted by Skitty
There really isn't much of a perspective someone can gain from a paragraph - Peoples lifes can not be summed up in the paragraph. i don't know you- or your life- You asked me to elaborate on what i meant in my previous comment so i did.

I'm sorry i misread one of your comments- out of context- without quotations- Sounds pretty bad- which is how i initially read it :/

My other opinions however i hold firm on. I do however hope shortly your doctor can get you started on some sort of treatment plan to help manage your pain tho 😢

Understood. While I'm cautious, I do open up discussion to people who don't share my views. You never know where that "aha!" moment will come from. Chew the meat and spit out the bone.

Ok dxp'ers...I'm headed home to clean up some stuff and get some shut eye. I've stayed at work to hide from the five people staying in my house right now. I just needed some peace and quiet before going home to clean and lay it down. Goodnight and be blessed.

Hemispheres

you seem to have a lot of hate on a few forums I've read..not sure what the deal is but try not to take it out on everyone please. and good luck 😢

Sorry about the illness dear. I am having issues with my memory too during these last stressful months. Forgot a lot of things ugh.

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Posted by Hemispheres
Didn't you just ride my ass and tell me I'm a terrible person for breaking up with the woman I was dating over stupid shit in the astrology forum? And that not being able to make it when I wanted or better yet expected her to was a sign of me being an asshole?

Did you just find out that you have an illness that will sap all of your physical health and are you having a hard time with easy shit...like remembering your co-workers last names who you've worked with for the past 3 years? I'm trying to manage an illness that is taking my quality of life right before my very eyes and VERY quickly.

Sounds like an autoimmune illness. 😢

*hug*

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"Don't pick on me, it's not fair cuz I'm sick and you should be kissing my ass right now."

ditto times a billion...

scorps thrive off of mystery...chill..

Posted by Vixen2
confidence in a woman...priceless
emotional wreck for a scorp...a no no
never let them see you sweat....that's what they do.
Maybe you should of waited until he got home and face to face then have a calm heart to heart...they will deal and respond to that much better.

Posted by Rabbit
IDK...the whole thing with the text message in question sounds sketchy.

I agree. That's the reason for the knee jerk response. I couldn't agree more, but am hoping to be proven wrong. I thought about it more and wonder if he creates these moments just to see how I'll respond. I'd prefer it over actual cheating. smh

Posted by Vixen2
confidence in a woman...priceless
emotional wreck for a scorp...a no no
never let them see you sweat....that's what they do.
Maybe you should of waited until he got home and face to face then have a calm heart to heart...they will deal and respond to that much better.

That would have been a week later. He works 6 days a week, 12 hours a day. I cannot wait that long to deal with something with that high of emo stakes. Plus, I'm not good at hiding things in the long run.

Posted by FrostAndBite
It seems like a lot of expended energy when you have so much else going on. Based on your accounts, to me, it seems like you're both making small issues bigger than they need to be.

I know going through a difficult diagnosis and prognosis is a lot and eats away at your identity and emotional life, especially if you are already someone who is more sensitive than the average lot. You could take up reflective meditation in order to start soothing some of the highs and lows. Focus on investing in yourself right now for your health and then the relationship will fall where it should as his character and y'alls connection will be made clear.

I know a local therapist that does reflective meditation guidance. I did it with her over a year ago when my job became overwhelming and it actually worked. I found an occupational neuro-therapy practice that has everything from massage that helps to correct neuro-pathways to classes on neuro-therapeutic meditation to re-route sensory triggers. That's the best way I can explain it. They confirmed that their practice consists of many patients of the specialist that I'm seeing on Sept. 30th. Seems like a hopeful treatment option. Definitely putting it in my book of recommendations to discuss with the specialist next week.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Teeq, you and your score are cute. You seem to have a good relationship. 🙂

I'm just going to say that Fish have a tendency toward drama, emotional outbursts, etc. You guys love that stuff. I'm not saying that Scorps don't do drama--we do. In short, pointed sports/eruptions. Whereas a Fish is just going to flow that. A good Scorp who has already determined that he's with you will know this about you in advance. This is why your guy put the funny spin on it. Ask the male Scorps here, but I believe they like it when their woman is slightly possessive/jealous. It makes them feel safe.

However, if your emotional outbursts always revolve around something having to do with attacking (that's how a score will see it) his character by making remarks about being disloyal, then you may find yourself on the downward spiral with this guy. Most (evolved) scorpios take the state of their character very seriously so if you continue along the lines of not trusting your score guy, there is a chance you will lose him. Just words of advice.

Completely agreed. That's how I feel things are going, because he seemed way more serious/sober in our communication after that outburst. I think it dawned on him that my previous concerns expressed in a more balanced manner are not something that he can overlook or think that it's not affecting me in the long run. All in all, I get the feeling that he DOESN'T want to damage me or cause me to go from this emo healthy person to someone with trust issues. I TRIED telling him that I don't usually have trust issues in relationships. I guess he didn't believe me and is starting to realize that his secretive nature (which I COMPLETELY understand) has to be tempered as time goes on so that I can trust him more instead of LESS. That's the part that I'm not comfortable with. Time lapses and I'm trusting him less instead of more, BUT he's directly facilitating these exchanges for SOME reason. Overall, our relationship is as you describe...cute. Maybe one day I'll post a pic of us together for a short period of time. You can see it in the photos. A couple of weeks ago, he sent me his favorite photos of us. I thought that was sooo sweet. Just out of the blue, he sent them. He's an EXTREMELY sentimental/nostalgic type of person. You know the types that touch photos sitting in frames when they walk into their house? That's him. He picks up/touches photos of him with his uncles/cousins and kinda smiles. When he drinks a little too much, he "oohs and awwwws" over the pictures of him and his daughters on his phone. My other issues expressed are over his losing track of time or dragging his ass when it's time for us to do something/be together. That's one of the things I expressed in my more practical text the next morning the aloof attitude towards the separation.

Thanks for the advice all. I'm taking it all into serious consideration.

Posted by starwars
hope you feel better dear! I think you give so much attention to details that aren't even important nor matter (like this would have been prevented if his text was in all capitalized with few exclamation marks lol) its like you're searching for a fault or is waiting for him to treetrunk up. keep those thoughts away, they gonna exhaust you and him. sure, don't be dumb but don't allow those little things to ruin stuff and make you overthink. I don't think there's anything to worry about! you've been together through a lot and he is loyal and nice, i think it'd be nice if you trust him a bit more (because the least thing you wanna do is make someone whos loyal to you feel like you don't trust them) so don't worry! he loves you, you love him the end. just focus on yourself. I'm sorry about your illness, I hope you feel better! 🙂

I hear you and I don't disagree. He has the same logic...I don't disagree with him either. I have a question for the Scorps though. Given that you're secretive and more in your minds than expressive, what is offensive about someone QUESTIONING your loyalty or dedication? I have questioned his a few times, but this was the first time I actually accused him of something. When I've questioned his dedication or loyalty...he's just raised his voice, which doesn't bother me. I'd rather hear something than nothing at all. He's just sitting there yelling or raising his voice and I got quiet so that I can listen to him...I mean, I've asked him to lower his voice, but I've never matched his yelling with yelling. Not ever.

Posted by twodrinkmaximum
I'm really sorry about your health issues....sending positive vibes and prayers up for you on that issue.

The relationship issue though, and speaking as someone who has been through a lot of them...I just can't see myself being in a relationship ever again where I'm uncertain about his fidelity. I drove myself absolutely insane in past relationships where I didn't feel secure. What do you have in a relationship if you don't trust beyond a shadow of a doubt that your mate is down for you 100% . Out of all the issues I've had with Aqua, I'm thankful that he makes a point for me to know that there is no other women in his life. So that particular detail really struck a nerve with me. I think you've been together long enough that you shouldn't be having suspicions.

That's just my 2 cents as an outsider with minimal details of your relationship.

I pointed that out to him once...that the reason why he trusts me so much and is very comfortable in our relationship when it comes to KNOWING that I'm devoted to him is because I purposely made it that way. I don't believe in playing games and leaving room for unnecessary relationship issues. Good on your Aqua. That's relationship maturity. Why would anyone want someone who they care for to feel like they're unloved or that they aren't important? If that's the case then things should just be casual between two people. That's why casual relationships exist. It's something to do until both people are ready to engage in a more serious relationship whether together or with others. I've tried talking to him about scaling things back to something more casual between us and stopped when he said to me, "Look, either you're with me or you're not." He knows that historically, I've PREFERRED casual relationships. It's not because I'm flaky though. It's because most people want a serious commitment, but very few understand exactly what that is going to take out of them, their life, their goals, finances, dreams, etc. Anything can happen in life and when you commit...you gotta roll with it. People just don't do that anymore. Most people want to roll with a serious relationship that takes more out of their partner than they themselves are willing to give. I've pointed out to him that I have a full time job, my own business, am raising a teen BOY, helping my adult kids, taking care of this medical issue and STILL find time to make him feel secure in the relationship. Each morning that I wake up, I EXPECT to give my partner what's needed. If I wasn't ready to do that, I wouldn't have gotten into this relationship in the first place. I'm not demanding that he does as much as I do...I explained that to him too. However, what I won't tolerate is this scattering of romantic energy. If you got it...give it to me and me ONLY, because you're the only one getting mine.

OMG...he just texted to let me know that he reached the city limits!!!!!!

Yayyyyy....thanks again everyone. STOKED!!!!

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Posted by MsTeeq1974
OMG...he just texted to let me know that he reached the city limits!!!!!!

Yayyyyy....thanks again everyone. STOKED!!!!

Someone's happy.

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All HUGE smiles. We have until tomorrow evening and I'm going to continue to enjoy every bit of it. :-)