sorry, another relationship trauma

I've been friends with this scorp guy for about a year now, and we've grown REALLY close. For months now we've been spending tremendous amounts of time together, but have always remained friends (in spite of what everyone else around us thought.) And when he first started to touch me it was gentle. It was like soft play-fighting, but it secretly made me melt underneath my skin because I wanted him. Now the gentle touches have transformed over time into harsh shoves, painful pinches, scratches, and body slams. I am his sister now! And I'm just wondering if relationships with scorpios often start out that way, or am I permanently off-gaurds for life.
I don't know, he says things like, "I love you." and "I'm gonna be with you for the rest of your life." But what? not romantically?? EVER— What happens if he gets married? Is he still gonna want me to come over and spend the night every night?
Can someone clue me in as to what's going on? I'm trying to pull away from him, but the more I try and get away, the more he clings to me. AND I CAN'T HAVE HIM—? I mean, I don't even want him anymore, because he absolutely annoys me with his punches and scratches, but then he'll rub my arm gently or say something absolutely charming or stare deep into my eyes and again, I'm helpless. This is driving me nuts!
Please help, anyone, if you can...

I think that the rough play is a way of realeasing some uncontrolled anger or hurt and it may be because he feels you pulling away and it hurts him and that is his way of defending himself. He's not being very adult but he is being painfully real! I think it is obvious he feels more for you than you realize. Try having a heart to heart with him!

Why not romantically ever??

He is also probably very lonely without you!!!

Well, not romantically ever because, yes, I have had a sort heart to heart with him and he has told me that he thinks of me as a sibling. His response to me being treated as his personal punching bag is that since he is an only child, this is how he would treat his sister if he had one.
And I told him in clear words that I WASN'T HIS SISTER and he couldn't keep doing these things to me, and he apologized but he repeatedly said that his love for me is that of a brotherly one, nothing more. BUT correct if I'm wrong... Brothers don't smack their sisters on the asses (I know mine never did.) They don't try to feel you up or check out your rear when you're not looking. They don't joke about "waxing" it in various sexual positions with you? I don't know maybe some do, but where I come from there are absolutely no sexual innuendos AT ALL.
Hmmm. I'm a cap so maybe that's why I take love and lust so seriously while others may be able to joke about it. But I can't take it. I love him. I love him dearly, but he is getting on my LAST NERVE!!!!! I guess that what true friendship is about though, huh? Taking in the good with the bad, and having the strength to endure all things...

....and, AND!!!!
(I know this is lengthy, but I must vent...)
Just the other day, he proclaims that I'm going to be the MOTHER OF HIS CHILD!!!
Now unless he was joking, I've really got no clue as to where our relationship stands. Unless of course, he thinks brothers often consider having children with their sisters... (in which case the boy would seriously have psychological issues, and I would need to run from this relationship as fast as I can...)
But I can't get away. There's no escape. It's like he's obsessed!!! Obesessed, but he doesn't want me in that way— Or does he? Aaaaaaahhh!! it's insane. I've never had a friendship like this before!

How old are you? and how are we suppose to know where you stand with him—

If you are spending so much time with him and REALLY know him well then why are you asking a bunch of strangers that dont have a clue—

Ask him where you stand! Unless you like playing the games??

First of all, SUZY, what difference does my age make?
And second, like I said, I have asked him and he has told me that he thinks of me as a sister... hence my confusion. And yes I am asking questions, but do I really expect any of you to know what's going on in his head, NO! Just like many others here, I've noticed, that vent and pose questions sometimes that really only themselves can answer, (but would like to hear some advice anyway,) I just thought that maybe someone would have something insightful or helpful to say, but I guess that's not the case.
Thanks anyway.

I have tried to help you out and the story just keeps getting weirder and weirder!!! It seems like half of the stuff that gets through on here anymore is just some sort of strange joke. Age makes alot of difference, you dont sound mature enough to have any kind of relationship. Hitting, kicking, pinching, and slapping someone your are fond of is evidence enough there are serious problems with the 'Freindship' but yet you want to take it further— Duh?
The way I see it, and since you asked, I am going to tell you. I see two incredibly screwed up violent psychopaths that need serious help! Seek help and do it soon!

sorry for butting in to the convo but this is ridiculous!LOL

Okay, ...Wonderbox, what the hell crawled up your @ss and died? You wanna call me immature, but you don't have one single, intelligable or constructive thing to say to me? That, I find ridiculous! Why do you read the message boards if they offend you so? Why do you call me a violent psychopath when you really don't know me AT ALL? What did I do to any of you?
I used to think these boards were for anyone to say how they felt about anything, but if all I'm going to get is nasty comments thrown back at me, then I'll seek some better advice elsewhere. I don't need to be insulted.
Thanks again,
Your words have shown me alot...

Free, i can understand your frustration but do you really want to be treated like this? What is that all about? If he's not competent enough to take you seriously why are you wasting your time with him? The only way you are ever going to know is to completely dissociate yourself with him. If he comes after you then re-establish the relationship on your terms. Relationships are all about give and take not playing cat and mouse games. If i were you i would redefine the lines of respect and if i didnt get my own way i would be outa there.

Value yourself more than you value him.

Libragirl.

This is exactly what I mean. What do you want soemone to tell you—?...sugar coat it for you??! You need to get real and grow up! You have some serious problems and you need professional help not answers on astrology boards. I would say you need to stay away from men or women whatever you prefer all together until you get your head straight. Set some constructive goals for yourself and hang around people you respect that can set a good example for you. I have given you nothing but sound advice! If that is not what you want, then you are in denial and need help! If the relationship is new, and they are this way to you already, how long do you think before it gets worse, because its not going to get better!

Alright wonder, well I appreciate all your time and energy into this thread (as much of a b*tch as you've been in your posts!) And I thank you all for your honest words. And in spite of how wrong you all are about me, I think I will take some of your advice and "hang around people I respect" instead of come here. This just isn't my kind of message board.
Thanx again. I hope you all live well and prosper!
C-YA!

****Moderator: Feel free to erase this topic. I don't think anyone wants to see this anymore.

No just honest; deal with it! And deal with life!

Some people dont like the truth? Why?

*Drum roll*....

Introducing Wonderbox...the benevolent truth talker...Hah!!!

Wonderbox you have more sense than you have showed on this thread so why do you choose to be so nasty...?

Free...I do hope you are still checking this thread and if you are I hope you can forgive Wonderbox's quick toungue today.

Please read what are my thoughts below...
Durrie.

Free...this guy is a scorp and you are a cap...Hmmm...

Scorp guys are either the best thing to happen to you or the worst. Regarless of the first statement they all have one thing in common and this goes for scorp girls too...

They HATE losing...they hate being told they cannot have something...now add that to the scorpio reputation regarding sex and I have only one thought...!!!

To my mind there is something fishy which you need to get to the bottom of...and that is why does he see you as his "sister" when he clearly is romantically interested in you through saing he wants to have children with you...have you asked him why...what is the reason for him seeing you as his sister...?

All I can think of in this situation is that there is a reason (or person) in his mind which is unknown to you and is why he "says" he could never be romantically involved with you...only as a sister...!!! This is frustrating to him...because he clearly likes you through his will to have children with you.

is frustrations take the form of the pinching, pushing and hitting which is directly proportional to the amount of abuse you recieve...ie as his frustrations grow his abuse grows too...and knowing his style of venting so far I fear that he might take it a bit far one day...

Ask him why he believes you to be his sister and why he wants to have children with you is he see you in that light.

Free...you are a caring person with a good heart...most other people would have forgotten this guy and his baggage a long time ago...

Take care and look after yourself...we need more like you around...people that seek the truth not think they know it and spread bad will like Wonderbox did above...

Durrie...

No Durrie,

Your advice is half screwed up as usual! She needs to run way as fast as she can!

I gave her the only advice that should be taken. All your doing is putting her in harms way! Dont ask him anything as a matter of fact, you need to launch him and end of story. There are plenty of 'normal' men out in the world and you seem to have found a nut!!!

You can do better for yourself. This one has serious problems and you are only seeing the start of it!

Personally I would RUN far away from someone like that!

Hello everyone...

Wonderbox and Saggie...do you always run from life...—

How do you learn anything from running. Free asked a question and I gave her my opinion as she was looking for, or else why did she ask...—

I passed no judgement as to Free's age, sanity or anything thing else as the rest of you people have done above. I merely did as she asked and that is what this board is for.

The decisions she makes will affect her life accordingly but I am not the one who makes her mind up for her...

Free has displayed compassion and a will to understand this person...don't you think you should offer advice accordingly. Yes I was a little worried about what might happen but that is not for me to worry about. All of you who say ditch him, launch him, run from him show nothing but fear and a will not to understand that person.

You are indeed just that Free...you ARE free and your choice is yours. Our advice is here for you too should you wish to head any of it, be it run or understand.

Take care of yourself Free...
Durrie.

Yes Durrie, when it comes to violence I run or hide! OK!
You need to stop judging people and acting holy than thou because we all know different, especially ME! LOOK ITS ME HI DURRIE!!!!!

and this is why I am still alive today and probably should have been dead! Worry about you and let others do the same!

Forgive me for what— what is it I have done—

No Durrie, I have never run from anything in my life. But nor am I stupid and naive neither. The man is displaying sociopathic behavior whether you or "Free" choose to see that or not. It has NOTHING to do with understanding as you put it but rather common sense. Both are playing a dangerous game with one another. She's better off leaving him alone now, than later.

Your attitude towards things in life is very admirable. I too had rose-colored glasses on when I was your age. But guess what? With age comes wisdom and at some point those glasses WILL come off. No way around it. The world is not like we would like it to be that's for sure. Can't speak for the UK but here in the US...well I'm sure you read the papers? Nuff said huh?

How are u his sister—?