Stupid People

Sigh...I am getting an amicable divorce from my husband. He is a good person except for an inability to be faithful. He has been with 6 or more women since we separated 2 years ago. We have two kids and on occasion coordinate with each other/ride along in the same car as a matter of convenience and mutual respect. Long story short, his vehicle was getting worked on so I picked him up on Friday from work to go two places. 1) Transfer the vehicle I am GIVING him into his name. 2) To the lawyer to sign the divorce papers that will enable us to go our separate ways. As we are driving back from the attorney's office, his new girlfriend calls PISSED because we drove together vs. him meeting me there (uh..he doesn't have a working car). I could hear her screaming through the phone at him.

Um...really honey, if I wanted him back I would hardly be picking his buttery butt up to get a DIVORCE. In fact, as his new woman, I would think you would be vested in getting this accomplished ASAP. And I would feel blessed if the ex-wife of the man I was dating treated him and myself with respect and civility vs. immature mud slinging. Stupid...stupid....stupid. This is what happens when you cheat with a married man. Then you, a stupid woman, can worry about him turning around and doing the same thing to you (with his soon to be ex-wife)...You both deserve each other. vent over. Thanks for listening.

Posted by blackphase

Posted by BlackMamba
but you were separated, did you guys tell one another not to sleep with others, or was he cheating on you whilst you were not separated?

I don't think she cares much about this anymore. She's divorcing him, it's in the past. I think she was just wanting to vent about the stupidity of these side chicks that think they can have it all.

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Exactly. All I'm doing is a favor for her boyfriend, giving him a car, and setting him free so she can be with him. She should take me to lunch lol...not chew his azz. But she is stupid. Can't fix that. And he is getting the karma he deserves too...so there is a plus.

Again. yes, blackphase. I just keep telling myself ..."only one more year until youngest son is 18 years old". And it is also funny that in some way each and every one of the women he dates wants to meet me, compete with me, or on some level is jealous. I want to tell them I'm sorry that I must keep an open line of communication with the father of my children. In no way do I want to date, sleep with or otherwise invade the territory that I left two years ago. Then add that sweet little...he probably IS cheating on you...it just isn't with ME 😉 Maybe I will give her a Darwin Award for Christmas.

"if I wanted him back I would hardly be picking his buttery butt up to get a DIVORCE."

LOL! This is hilarious!

Posted by hexum

And it is also funny that in some way each and every one of the women he dates wants to meet me, compete with me, or on some level is jealous. I want to tell them I'm sorry that I must keep an open line of communication with the father of my children. In no way do I want to date, sleep with or otherwise invade the territory that I left two years ago.

Crazy shit isn't it? I definitely get what you mean. Went through that with all of my ex's girlfriends, even while I had a boyfriend. Unbelievable. Unfortunately the princess my ex happens to be with now cut off all communication between him and our son. With me, she doesn't want him communicating with me at all. I mean even if I haven't seen or spoken to him for months... it's pretty pathetic, but I snicker knowing he's quite miserable and will be so much more as each day goes on with her. This is a person who completely destroyed her family by having an affair with three children and a husband and decided to cheat with my ex.

They got caught by my son and her son who happen to be best friends. Both boys have disowned them, and unfortunately their friendship dissolved as a result of this twit's poor behavior. She's a piece of work, and the cactus of karma will soon be rammed up her prissy ass. lol My ex on the other hand would be the "stupid" one....
She talked him into taking me to court to stop child support... It backfired big time, and she lost her ass through her divorce for stealing money from her ex and adultery.
I'm sure the whisper of my words to my ex the last time I saw him "aww shit man, you're next, be careful" is still ringing in his ears...lol 😄

Posted by hexum
... Then add that sweet little...he probably IS cheating on you...it just isn't with ME 😉

Lovely. 😄

Posted by LadyOfRebirth

Posted by hexum
Again. yes, blackphase. I just keep telling myself ..."only one more year until youngest son is 18 years old". And it is also funny that in some way each and every one of the women he dates wants to meet me, compete with me, or on some level is jealous. I want to tell them I'm sorry that I must keep an open line of communication with the father of my children. In no way do I want to date, sleep with or otherwisie invade the territory that I left two years ago. Then add that sweet little...he probably IS cheating on you...it just isn't with ME 😉 Maybe I will give her a Darwin Award for Christmas.

If your youngest child is 18.. You know you don't HAVE TO keep communication open at all. They're adults now, unless it's something urgent I doubt any of them will need for you two to be in contact regularly.

If you are that annoyed by his flings bothering you maybe you should minimise contact even further than you already are.. It's obvious that he couldn't care less about reassuring them. Set your own boundaries.

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I agree with you. But if you read what I wrote I said my youngest child will be 18 in one year so it isn't over yet. I have decided that getting along with him is for the best. Many couples are jerks to each other. We are not getting back together but we still had some unfinished business. I do not care about his flings and rarely post. What does annoy me is stupid people. If you love a man with no vehicle who is married...then you might be excited the day the ex gives him a vehicle and drives him to sign the divorce papers...easy breezy right? NO...you are going to bitch cause she gave him a ride and you know he has no transportation. It is just extraordinary to me lol....and I do not see that as an unhealthy boundary...just getting butter handled. I said in my first post...he is a good man and we are having a very agreeable divorce. We respect each other enough to get along for the kids and not rip each other up. But I hope they, him and the highly insightful new gf collectively have fun...ya know? No reason not to relish a tiny bit of karma.

Posted by LetltB

Posted by hexum

And it is also funny that in some way each and every one of the women he dates wants to meet me, compete with me, or on some level is jealous. I want to tell them I'm sorry that I must keep an open line of communication with the father of my children. In no way do I want to date, sleep with or otherwise invade the territory that I left two years ago.

Crazy shit isn't it? I definitely get what you mean. Went through that with all of my ex's girlfriends, even while I had a boyfriend. Unbelievable. Unfortunately the princess my ex happens to be with now cut off all communication between him and our son. With me, she doesn't want him communicating with me at all. I mean even if I haven't seen or spoken to him for months... it's pretty pathetic, but I snicker knowing he's quite miserable and will be so much more as each day goes on with her. This is a person who completely destroyed her family by having an affair with three children and a husband and decided to cheat with my ex.

They got caught by my son and her son who happen to be best friends. Both boys have disowned them, and unfortunately their friendship dissolved as a result of this twit's poor behavior. She's a piece of work, and the cactus of karma will soon be rammed up her prissy ass. lol My ex on the other hand would be the "stupid" one....
She talked him into taking me to court to stop child support... It backfired big time, and she lost her ass through her divorce for stealing money from her ex and adultery.
I'm sure the whisper of my words to my ex the last time I saw him "aww shit man, you're next, be careful" is still ringing in his ears...lol 😄

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And the sad part of what you are saying here is that when you actually love the person, which I do, you just end up feeling sorry for them. He didn't deserve her screaming at him but then again his choices put him there...so I'm just glad to be on my way out. Sorry to hear about adults messing with the kids...that sucks. Fortunately, my children are doing really well which I have worked hard for a good transition. They know that their father and I are on the same team even though we aren't sleeping in the same bed. It could be so much harder but I'm not going to be mad forever that the romance didn't work out. But my kids have seen what their father is doing these past years and I fear for him there will be a price. But not by my hand...my kids father has a right to make his own mistakes and live with them. And I totally relate to you feeling celebratory in your ex's karma is a bitch predicament...because there is so much pain we go through that it is human to enjoy the suffering of your tormentor to a degree. Maybe a Scorpio thing...maybe not.

Posted by hexum
And the sad part of what you are saying here is that when you actually love the person, which I do, you just end up feeling sorry for them. He didn't deserve her screaming at him but then again his choices put him there...so I'm just glad to be on my way out. Sorry to hear about adults messing with the kids...that sucks. Fortunately, my children are doing really well which I have worked hard for a good transition. They know that their father and I are on the same team even though we aren't sleeping in the same bed. It could be so much harder but I'm not going to be mad forever that the romance didn't work out. But my kids have seen what their father is doing these past years and I fear for him there will be a price. But not by my hand...my kids father has a right to make his own mistakes and live with them. And I totally relate to you feeling celebratory in your ex's karma is a bitch predicament...because there is so much pain we go through that it is human to enjoy the suffering of your tormentor to a degree. Maybe a Scorpio thing...maybe not.

I bolded ^^for my response. Yes...we have had many years together and a love (some couldn't understand) to the grave. Our divorce was also amicable, minus the stupid choices he's made. We all WERE a team in fact whenever I knew he was seeing someone I laid very low didn't even meet some of them...this newest one unfortunately thrives in drama and won't have the communication. I mean her son slept at my home, and my son at hers while growing up. It's guilt perhaps, I don't know and I really don't care... The boys are both 20. My son has a moon in Taurus, so it's gonna take a bit for that handshake, nothing I can do about it. Regarding the child support part...I know my ex is just going through the motions stupidly to appease her. I'm financially stable, so it was the point that bothered me. How another mother can do something like that to another mother's kids is beyond me. Since I know things go full circle, and her ex wants to make my ex disappear, I'm sure he will pull the same crap on her. The one I really feel sorry for is her 15 year old daughter in the middle of this. I sense some really bad stuff going on with her, and that is what makes me really sad and sick to my stomach. Still, nothing I can do there. When parents are stupid after they are a "hero" in kid's eyes, it's disheartening to witness the aftermath.

Posted by Impulsv
Id be like this is whom u are going for lol
I bet u never yelled at him that way lol total downgrade

Impulsv, we had that conversation during the first three women. I have yelled at him over this issue so much over the course of our marriage that I just cannot waste any more hot breath.

LetItB - I am right there with you. I worry about the example the ex is setting for my sons. I can't control his behavior though I tried haha (very hard to admit lol). It is sad because the parents will say they will take a bullet for their children but won't treat each other with a kind word regardless that it is killing their children slowly. Again, sigh...effing stupid people. I hate them.