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How to tell he wants me just for sex or loves me
How to Tell if He Wants You for Love or Just Sex
Signs he truly loves you include consistent emotional connection, wanting to spend time beyond physical intimacy, and showing genuine care. If he avoids deep conversations or only seeks physical contact, it may indicate he is interested in sex rather than love. Trust your instincts and look for emotional consistency to understand his true intentions.
Posted by Impulsv
he has a gf I bet hence he has deep feeling n won't call . n op did u know? Hence the guilt.
he may have fallen but we won't show it.I got the feeling too if he doesn't want to give the number. I don't think she knows.
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I think Imp is on to something here.
So he sexually harassed you on a regular basis and you think he wants to get in a relationship with you? 😐
It's lust..
Posted by flowingwater
Honestly, it could be just sex but... The bond between a Taurus and Scorpio is VERY strong so he might have fallen and is not taking it well.
Thanks for all of your great replies. He and I are both married and trapped in loveless marriages. He and his wife were separated when we met and my husband and I were talking about getting a divorce. But then his wife came back and my husband refused to file for a divorce, too.
Our spouses are both Pisces. This scorpio guy says he loves his wife and I am only his doll. He says I'm the complete package, his wife is a housewife, not good looking or fit or educated. When we first made out, he said he doesn't want to loose control so he stayed away from me for days. Then as he puts it, he gets hypnotized by my beauty and everything but he is committed and can't leave his family. He has my phone number and I have his but he forbid me from calling him because of his wife.
I know that now that they are back together we shouldn't hang out but he and I saw how it was like to meet your other half and now I can't go back. I feel like someone whose body is getting rid of toxic little by little, obviously I wanted this to work if they were getting a divorced but I don't think he is leaving his wife.
Posted by kalin
He might be confused too. We sometimes can be addicted to sex and not sure if it's love or lust.
That's what he said, too. He said he doesn't want another breakdown, whatever that means. He said he cried right after that when I went home.
Posted by Heart
As a Scorpio I say ur wrong. Taurus is like flame to the moth. So we are in way sooner than u n ur pace kills us so if I'd care for us speed up the pace a bit instead of torturing us lol
N no we are not playing game n testing u
U just don't get us that we feel vulnerable n are trying to gauge reciprocity of interest. N sex to soon would not change the mystery because u all ready are a mystery for being u our complete opposite Taurus
I understand, yet as a Taurus sun I can say we have trust issues. For me, a person needs to be clear on their motives. So if sex early on does equate love it has to be obvious, and the person has to stand by their word. Consistency is key. Not be one way one minute then scare off the next.
You guys were correct, but she had left him
Posted by flowingwater
Honestly, it could be just sex but... The bond between a Taurus and Scorpio is VERY strong so he might have fallen and is not taking it well.
That's true, that is exactly what our problem is. We can't let go of this and can't act on it yet. I'm trapped into his web. I don't even talk to him at work as he takes one look at me and I melt again. Believe me, I am not that type of woman. Never even looked at a naked man's picture since I got married. If circumstances were different i wouldn't even talk to this gut but I thought we were both separating from our spouses and made that mistake. Now I can't get rid of the guilt and he is the same way, too. Yet I can't go back to my loveless life knowing I could have someone like him in my life.
Posted by Heart
As a Scorpio I say ur wrong. Taurus is like flame to the moth. So we are in way sooner than u n ur pace kills us so if I'd care for us speed up the pace a bit instead of torturing us lol
N no we are not playing game n testing u
U just don't get us that we feel vulnerable n are trying to gauge reciprocity of interest. N sex to soon would not change the mystery because u all ready are a mystery for being u our complete opposite TaurusI understand, yet as a Taurus sun I can say we have trust issues. For me, a person needs to be clear on their motives. So if sex early on does equate love it has to be obvious, and the person has to stand by their word. Consistency is key. Not be one way one minute then scare off the next.
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Scorpio men are officially on my shit list. I'm taking Aquas off.
Shit... I'm still dealing with one. I need to cut him off.
Posted by Magenta_Azure
Scorpio men are officially on my shit list. I'm taking Aquas off.
Not sure what butter list means, sorry I'm new 🙂
Posted by Magenta_Azure
Scorpio men are officially on my shit list. I'm taking Aquas off.Not sure what butter list means, sorry I'm new 🙂
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A list of people that you vehemently dislike and plan to avoid. It was unrelated to your topic. Sorry
Posted by Magenta_Azure
Scorpio men are officially on my shit list. I'm taking Aquas off.Not sure what butter list means, sorry I'm new 🙂
A list of people that you vehemently dislike and plan to avoid. It was unrelated to your topic. Sorry
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Thanks for clearing this up, I read it on the forum but didn't know what that meant 🙂 I am trying to avoid him as much as I can but that's so hard, I want him to love me and if his wife is as bad as he says, why doesn't call it off?
Posted by flowingwater
Honestly, it could be just sex but... The bond between a Taurus and Scorpio is VERY strong so he might have fallen and is not taking it well.Thanks for all of your great replies. He and I are both married and trapped in loveless marriages. He and his wife were separated when we met and my husband and I were talking about getting a divorce. But then his wife came back and my husband refused to file for a divorce, too.
Our spouses are both Pisces. This scorpio guy says he loves his wife and I am only his doll. He says I'm the complete package, his wife is a housewife, not good looking or fit or educated. When we first made out, he said he doesn't want to loose control so he stayed away from me for days. Then as he puts it, he gets hypnotized by my beauty and everything but he is committed and can't leave his family. He has my phone number and I have his but he forbid me from calling him because of his wife.
I know that now that they are back together we shouldn't hang out but he and I saw how it was like to meet your other half and now I can't go back. I feel like someone whose body is getting rid of toxic little by little, obviously I wanted this to work if they were getting a divorced but I don't think he is leaving his wife.
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Thanks, I'm really trying. But at the same time I wish there was a way that he would want to be with me.
Posted by flowingwater
Honestly, it could be just sex but... The bond between a Taurus and Scorpio is VERY strong so he might have fallen and is not taking it well.That's true, that is exactly what our problem is. We can't let go of this and can't act on it yet. I'm trapped into his web. I don't even talk to him at work as he takes one look at me and I melt again. Believe me, I am not that type of woman. Never even looked at a naked man's picture since I got married. If circumstances were different i wouldn't even talk to this gut but I thought we were both separating from our spouses and made that mistake. Now I can't get rid of the guilt and he is the same way, too. Yet I can't go back to my loveless life knowing I could have someone like him in my life.
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Although we didn't have sex, I know exactly what you're dealing with. Same damn thing happened to me this last year. I'm talking EXACTLY, from the dream job to the significant others, to the never even the least bit interested in someone other than mine.
I left my job 2 months ago. And my SO and I are doing much better. Who knows what will happen in the future, but having that distraction 12 hours a day every day wasn't helping anything.
Posted by Magenta_Azure
Scorpio men are officially on my shit list. I'm taking Aquas off.Not sure what butter list means, sorry I'm new 🙂
A list of people that you vehemently dislike and plan to avoid. It was unrelated to your topic. Sorry
Thanks for clearing this up, I read it on the forum but didn't know what that meant 🙂 I am trying to avoid him as much as I can but that's so hard, I want him to love me and if his wife is as bad as he says, why doesn't call it off?
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Because he's a piece of shit user. A man of integrity would never let his dick out of his pants until he is completely separated and divorced. There really is no way to know how this will play out considering you are both participating until crappy behavior. I would encourage you to do that Taurus thing and keep you feelings out of this. Also, moving forward I would encourage you to keep your pants on and not screw him. I think you need to take some time out and think about what you've just done. You both are legally married.
Actually a man of integrity wouldn't pursue other people (or relations) unless he was single
Posted by flowingwater
Honestly, it could be just sex but... The bond between a Taurus and Scorpio is VERY strong so he might have fallen and is not taking it well.That's true, that is exactly what our problem is. We can't let go of this and can't act on it yet. I'm trapped into his web. I don't even talk to him at work as he takes one look at me and I melt again. Believe me, I am not that type of woman. Never even looked at a naked man's picture since I got married. If circumstances were different i wouldn't even talk to this gut but I thought we were both separating from our spouses and made that mistake. Now I can't get rid of the guilt and he is the same way, too. Yet I can't go back to my loveless life knowing I could have someone like him in my life.
Although we didn't have sex, I know exactly what you're dealing with. Same damn thing happened to me this last year. I'm talking EXACTLY, from the dream job to the significant others, to the never even the least bit interested in someone other than mine.
I left my job 2 months ago. And my SO and I are doing much better. Who knows what will happen in the future, but having that distraction 12 hours a day every day wasn't helping anything.
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What you described is my life right now, 12 hours a day working one inch away from each other, but I can't go back to my loveless life knowing therevare people out there who I could be happy with. Do scorpios leave their pisces wives for taurus?
Posted by Magenta_Azure
Scorpio men are officially on my shit list. I'm taking Aquas off.Not sure what butter list means, sorry I'm new 🙂
A list of people that you vehemently dislike and plan to avoid. It was unrelated to your topic. Sorry
Thanks for clearing this up, I read it on the forum but didn't know what that meant 🙂 I am trying to avoid him as much as I can but that's so hard, I want him to love me and if his wife is as bad as he says, why doesn't call it off?
Because he's a piece of shit user. A man of integrity would never let his dick out of his pants until he is completely separated and divorced. There really is no way to know how this will play out considering you are both participating until crappy behavior. I would encourage you to do that Taurus thing and keep you feelings out of this. Also, moving forward I would encourage you to keep your pants on and not screw him. I think you need to take some time out and think about what you've just done. You both are legally married.
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Believe me I refused all and every request, and then had a weak moment. I will not let that happen again but can't stop thinking and praying that he will one day be mine
Posted by Magenta_Azure
Scorpio men are officially on my shit list. I'm taking Aquas off.Not sure what butter list means, sorry I'm new 🙂
A list of people that you vehemently dislike and plan to avoid. It was unrelated to your topic. Sorry
Thanks for clearing this up, I read it on the forum but didn't know what that meant 🙂 I am trying to avoid him as much as I can but that's so hard, I want him to love me and if his wife is as bad as he says, why doesn't call it off?
Because he's a piece of shit user. A man of integrity would never let his dick out of his pants until he is completely separated and divorced. There really is no way to know how this will play out considering you are both participating until crappy behavior. I would encourage you to do that Taurus thing and keep you feelings out of this. Also, moving forward I would encourage you to keep your pants on and not screw him. I think you need to take some time out and think about what you've just done. You both are legally married.
Believe me I refused all and every request, and then had a weak moment. I will not let that happen again but can't stop thinking and praying that he will one day be mine
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Good luck. I hope you made his loose-dick ass wear a condom. You dont want any other reasons to regret screwing him.
Posted by Magenta_Azure
Scorpio men are officially on my shit list. I'm taking Aquas off.Not sure what butter list means, sorry I'm new 🙂
A list of people that you vehemently dislike and plan to avoid. It was unrelated to your topic. Sorry
Thanks for clearing this up, I read it on the forum but didn't know what that meant 🙂 I am trying to avoid him as much as I can but that's so hard, I want him to love me and if his wife is as bad as he says, why doesn't call it off?
Because he's a piece of shit user. A man of integrity would never let his dick out of his pants until he is completely separated and divorced. There really is no way to know how this will play out considering you are both participating until crappy behavior. I would encourage you to do that Taurus thing and keep you feelings out of this. Also, moving forward I would encourage you to keep your pants on and not screw him. I think you need to take some time out and think about what you've just done. You both are legally married.
Believe me I refused all and every request, and then had a weak moment. I will not let that happen again but can't stop thinking and praying that he will one day be mine
Good luck. I hope you made his loose-dick ass wear a condom. You dont want any other reasons to regret screwing him.
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The guilt I feel right now along with the deep feeling is enough to kill me.
What attracts these creatures? Why he picked her over me? It's like he wants to call everything off but he doesn't
Posted by Magenta_Azure
Scorpio men are officially on my shit list. I'm taking Aquas off.Not sure what butter list means, sorry I'm new 🙂
A list of people that you vehemently dislike and plan to avoid. It was unrelated to your topic. Sorry
Thanks for clearing this up, I read it on the forum but didn't know what that meant 🙂 I am trying to avoid him as much as I can but that's so hard, I want him to love me and if his wife is as bad as he says, why doesn't call it off?
Because he's a piece of shit user. A man of integrity would never let his dick out of his pants until he is completely separated and divorced. There really is no way to know how this will play out considering you are both participating until crappy behavior. I would encourage you to do that Taurus thing and keep you feelings out of this. Also, moving forward I would encourage you to keep your pants on and not screw him. I think you need to take some time out and think about what you've just done. You both are legally married.
Believe me I refused all and every request, and then had a weak moment. I will not let that happen again but can't stop thinking and praying that he will one day be mine
Good luck. I hope you made his loose-dick ass wear a condom. You dont want any other reasons to regret screwing him.
The guilt I feel right now along with the deep feeling is enough to kill me.
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Have mercy jesus.
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Posted by Impulsv
Ok just make sure it does t occur n do things right. Meaning let things finalize for u n him. But seems he is staying so don't wonder if he love u or not. His actions spoke n u just move on. Lick ur wounds , huge lesson Learned.Don't waste time on underline reason he chose but focus on fact he chose his wife. Make it easier for I to move on.
You're right but it is so awkward at work right now. I'm one of those people who don't even talk or make eye contact with him unless it's work related. But he wants to send IMs via the company's messenger and I refuse to go online for a while now and that has been killing him. I tell him to text or call if he wants to be friends and he says no.
Posted by Magenta_Azure
Shit... I'm still dealing with one. I need to cut him off.http://d236bkdxj385sg.cloudfront.net/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/why-you-always-lying-feat.jpg
Go away.
I just wanted everything to be as you see it happens sometimes, two people fall in live and stay in love but this guys is (as he puts it himself) so emotionally unstable, mysterious and blows hot and cold... One day he is hot and heavy although he doesn't get closed physically, but he says how much he wanted us to be together but the next day he completely acts like an a** hole. He pulls and pushes. Do they ever leave their wives?
I was hoping if scorpio guys can tell me whom I am dealing with and what is on his agenda? Is there any hope? Is he a player? He is in love? If I ignore him at work, will he get mad at me and hold a grudge? I can't read his mind.
Posted by Impulsv
Men do leave their wives even before things get started. At least Real men do. My ex husband did knew it was done most likely because he felt something for another n did me the favor to set me free. Then he got with her n married her. U see no push n pull hot and cold. Very decisive.
I was fine because I too was in a loveless marriage.
I'm sorry that you had to go through this. Was he a scorpio? If jot do you know of an scorpio who pulled and pushed and finally went for the one he loved?
Posted by Impulsv
Ok just make sure it does t occur n do things right. Meaning let things finalize for u n him. But seems he is staying so don't wonder if he love u or not. His actions spoke n u just move on. Lick ur wounds , huge lesson Learned.Don't waste time on underline reason he chose but focus on fact he chose his wife. Make it easier for I to move on.
Thanks for your great reply. I keep reading it and try to think of ways to do this. I completely shut him down at work, feeling so sad that I can't even look at him but at the same time, I feel I love him and want him.
Whatever I read here sounds right: https://ocolshit.wordpress.com/2012/12/28/the-dark-side-of-scorpio-men/
He is not attractive, he is popular among older ladies, I cant figure out why he tries so hard to stay in his unhappy marriage. He doesn't want to call or email me either.
Posted by Impulsv
No he was a Leo
I'm a Scorpio but fell
Hard for a Taurus n know what ur going through regarding this attraction.
Thus u have to focus on what is at hand " he chose another"
No sense in racking ur brain why , if he still loves , will he leaveWhat matters is now n he's chose another. It will make it easier to move on if u think this way.
How do I know because a Taurus chose another.
N all the reason make no difference fact is he's with another. So let it go. If he return then rack ur brain then as to what to do but remain present at the moment u don't have to deal with it
Racking my brain, this is exactly what I am doing right now. I'll try to do better, but as you may know, Taurus is all or nothing. If I can't be comfortable enough to talk to him, I ice him out and not even talk to him all day long and that's bad, too....
Off to bed, hopefully will be able to forget him soon but I sense that he stares at me all day, being charming, etc. and me, acting like an ice queen all day. Only you guys know what's going on in my mind...everyone probably thinks that I'm so focused on my work. No one can't see what I'm going through.
Please someone tells me more about the scorpios, do they leave their spouses? Will this guy get mad if I continue ignoring him at work? He wants to IM but no text, he wants me close and he can't be stable. How do I deal with him?
Srop already. You really NEED to get over this. I did, you can too.
If you're truly unhappy with your husband, you meed to leave him, regardless of whether you and scorp get together. If you don't want to leave your husband (pr think you can't), then YOU need.to bw the one to start repairing that relationship. That may mean leaving the job to stay away from this guy.
There is absolutely NO point in playing this mental game with yourself. Believe me, this scorpio knows how crazy he's making you, and he's either getting off on it or it's making him crazy too. This situation is not healthy for you and your husband, or for him and his wife.
You need to assume that at tis point, there is no "there" there, and you should probably take the position that there never will be.
Posted by sparkling
Whatever I read here sounds right: https://ocolshit.wordpress.com/2012/12/28/the-dark-side-of-scorpio-men/He is not attractive, he is popular among older ladies, I cant figure out why he tries so hard to stay in his unhappy marriage. He doesn't want to call or email me either.
He has his reasons, just like you have yours for not leaving. Just like I had when I decided to try to make tings work with my man, and the scorp in my story decided to go back to his ex girlfriend. Shit happens in life, we make our choices and live with them. You're acting like a desperate teenage girl when you should be acting like a mature married woman.
Be the bigger person in this and step back. Waaay back.
Posted by sparkling
Whatever I read here sounds right: https://ocolshit.wordpress.com/2012/12/28/the-dark-side-of-scorpio-men/He is not attractive, he is popular among older ladies, I cant figure out why he tries so hard to stay in his unhappy marriage. He doesn't want to call or email me either.
He has his reasons, just like you have yours for not leaving. Just like I had when I decided to try to make tings work with my man, and the scorp in my story decided to go back to his ex girlfriend. Shit happens in life, we make our choices and live with them. You're acting like a desperate teenage girl when you should be acting like a mature married woman.
Be the bigger person in this and step back. Waaay back.
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Good advice, thanks much. I'll start right away
Posted by Impulsv
Ok just make sure it does t occur n do things right. Meaning let things finalize for u n him. But seems he is staying so don't wonder if he love u or not. His actions spoke n u just move on. Lick ur wounds , huge lesson Learned.Don't waste time on underline reason he chose but focus on fact he chose his wife. Make it easier for I to move on.
You're right but it is so awkward at work right now. I'm one of those people who don't even talk or make eye contact with him unless it's work related. But he wants to send IMs via the company's messenger and I refuse to go online for a while now and that has been killing him. I tell him to text or call if he wants to be friends and he says no.
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Because he doesn't want to get caught by his WIFE.. he's lying about shit to get into your pants. The fact that you both are married and did this, and it's with someone you work with ... i just can't....
this workplace IM's are usually monitored FYI .. when this all blows up and you have no job left and no marriage what are you going to do then? Stop thinking with what is between your legs and use your brain.
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Hi all,
I have a scorpio male co-worker and he has been really interested in me. Was approaching me with sexual comments and requests since I started working there. so I obviously refused all of his requests. Then he admitted that he was joking but we made out two times and had sex once. After each time he would get all freaked out and cold for days saying he has deep feelings for me but he can't be with me. He never texts or calls me but I always see him staring at me from across the room, trying to chat with me via messenger at work and just tries to get people together for lunch so we can hang out. He said he is very unstable emotionally and he can't stop thinking about me. I'm way out of his league and he says his heart drops when I enter the room. He acts all goofy and silly around me.
After we had sex and both felt so bad, we tried to act more professional and pretend nothing ever happened. I see that he likes to be around me but at the same time he leaves the office sooner trying to avoid being alone with me. I love him so deeply, but he won't agree to email or call me, how can I attract him so he falls in love with me?
Thanks,
I'm a Taurus...