Rituv13
@Rituv13
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Trying to find love
First off how old are you?
Second I'm not sure in all cases but I can tell you one thing scorpio issue with
trust is one of the big things.
I met a beautiful scorpio girl this semester and I mean I really tried to avoid it but
kept hinting her interest in me so I finally decided to sit next to her and get to know her.
Now mind you if it was only her looks I would not care about what has happened recently but she wasn't only beautiful but very intelligent and very very sweet and kind to me all semester long and I found it irresistible to fall in love with her.... But once I finally expressed this to her she acted all cold and claims she has a boyfriend!!!
Mind you I have told her I was interested in her long before this and even had tried to plan a date mid-semester but we are both so busy it never quite worked out..... I was so anticipating this break to spend some time with her outside of school and.... We even schedule to classes together next semester BUT suddenly when I tell her how I feel..... which I would think is what she would want to hear...
she claims she does not feel the same way... which hey is fine we can still do stuff right— She is like no I wasn't making plans I have a boyfriend I thought you were just a cool school buddy!!! She told me earlier she lived in an apartment on her own... that she had moved out of her boyfriends place two years ago... and gave me her number I never asked.... and the WHAM!!
I promise you I was and am still really into this girl and I was not trying to use her for sex or anything like that I only wanted to help her and keep her company... I mean Im still kind dumbfounded by the whole thing. I did sort of force the issue when I told her she was on one of her solitude periods but I was thinking of her so much it was difficult to study not knowing what's going on in her head....
Honestly she would never have had to tell me if I saw her every day I could tell how she felt about me just by how she acted around me but I didn't see her everyday.....
And now the cold shoulder.... LOL man the rudest thing I told her was "tell your BOYFRIEND I got your number and I didn't even have to ask!" That's it how she expect me to act when she says that lol!!
Anyways my point is I could tell every time I would try to show more attention she always seemed to take it as a manipulation like me doing it to get something out of her. Maybe you should be less skeptical of people till they prove to be untrustwo
Second I'm not sure in all cases but I can tell you one thing scorpio issue with
trust is one of the big things.
I met a beautiful scorpio girl this semester and I mean I really tried to avoid it but
kept hinting her interest in me so I finally decided to sit next to her and get to know her.
Now mind you if it was only her looks I would not care about what has happened recently but she wasn't only beautiful but very intelligent and very very sweet and kind to me all semester long and I found it irresistible to fall in love with her.... But once I finally expressed this to her she acted all cold and claims she has a boyfriend!!!
Mind you I have told her I was interested in her long before this and even had tried to plan a date mid-semester but we are both so busy it never quite worked out..... I was so anticipating this break to spend some time with her outside of school and.... We even schedule to classes together next semester BUT suddenly when I tell her how I feel..... which I would think is what she would want to hear...
she claims she does not feel the same way... which hey is fine we can still do stuff right— She is like no I wasn't making plans I have a boyfriend I thought you were just a cool school buddy!!! She told me earlier she lived in an apartment on her own... that she had moved out of her boyfriends place two years ago... and gave me her number I never asked.... and the WHAM!!
I promise you I was and am still really into this girl and I was not trying to use her for sex or anything like that I only wanted to help her and keep her company... I mean Im still kind dumbfounded by the whole thing. I did sort of force the issue when I told her she was on one of her solitude periods but I was thinking of her so much it was difficult to study not knowing what's going on in her head....
Honestly she would never have had to tell me if I saw her every day I could tell how she felt about me just by how she acted around me but I didn't see her everyday.....
And now the cold shoulder.... LOL man the rudest thing I told her was "tell your BOYFRIEND I got your number and I didn't even have to ask!" That's it how she expect me to act when she says that lol!!
Anyways my point is I could tell every time I would try to show more attention she always seemed to take it as a manipulation like me doing it to get something out of her. Maybe you should be less skeptical of people till they prove to be untrustwo
If you give people more of a chance.... You might find what you missed out on like this girl did this semester....
No Im no great prize or anything but I loved everything about this girl.... And would have probably done anything for her ...... Hell I still will but I have a feeling she has made up her mind about me before it really got started.... And trust me I know she is lying about pretty much everything she said ..... I'm not so feeble minded to fall for that.... Yes she did get some guy to get on the phone but he never said he was her boyfriend nor did he seem to be that insulted I'd been talking to his girl all semester long anyways....
Sorry that was a lot Im just frustrated maybe my story can get you to look at things a little differently.... Us guys aren't all bad 😉
No Im no great prize or anything but I loved everything about this girl.... And would have probably done anything for her ...... Hell I still will but I have a feeling she has made up her mind about me before it really got started.... And trust me I know she is lying about pretty much everything she said ..... I'm not so feeble minded to fall for that.... Yes she did get some guy to get on the phone but he never said he was her boyfriend nor did he seem to be that insulted I'd been talking to his girl all semester long anyways....
Sorry that was a lot Im just frustrated maybe my story can get you to look at things a little differently.... Us guys aren't all bad 😉
I am 34 ys old. I live in US - California.
I have always wanted to settle down with someone who is educated, loving caring. I too am very loving and caring & do go out of my way for people I care. But somehow I land up getting all kinds of wrong guys around me. When I tell my experiences to my friends they ask me to start a blog !!!!
I do a lot of praying, not much of meditation though. Somehow all the guys I start liking come back telling me they like someone else. I know trust is a big issue with me as well (Has to be since I am a Scropio) But i do trust guys initially till they do something to break my trust.
& now I am tired of waiting and talking to guys to get the right one. I did get engaged once but that guy too said he liked some1 else and i was almost engaged to someone once but he came back saying he doesn't want any commitments. So is something wrong with my charts ? I am just trying to find a solution and may be a good way to find love.
I have always wanted to settle down with someone who is educated, loving caring. I too am very loving and caring & do go out of my way for people I care. But somehow I land up getting all kinds of wrong guys around me. When I tell my experiences to my friends they ask me to start a blog !!!!
I do a lot of praying, not much of meditation though. Somehow all the guys I start liking come back telling me they like someone else. I know trust is a big issue with me as well (Has to be since I am a Scropio) But i do trust guys initially till they do something to break my trust.
& now I am tired of waiting and talking to guys to get the right one. I did get engaged once but that guy too said he liked some1 else and i was almost engaged to someone once but he came back saying he doesn't want any commitments. So is something wrong with my charts ? I am just trying to find a solution and may be a good way to find love.
Posted by Rituv13
I am 34 ys old. I live in US - California.
I have always wanted to settle down with someone who is educated, loving caring. I too am very loving and caring & do go out of my way for people I care. But somehow I land up getting all kinds of wrong guys around me. When I tell my experiences to my friends they ask me to start a blog !!!!
I do a lot of praying, not much of meditation though. Somehow all the guys I start liking come back telling me they like someone else. I know trust is a big issue with me as well (Has to be since I am a Scropio) But i do trust guys initially till they do something to break my trust.
& now I am tired of waiting and talking to guys to get the right one. I did get engaged once but that guy too said he liked some1 else and i was almost engaged to someone once but he came back saying he doesn't want any commitments. So is something wrong with my charts ? I am just trying to find a solution and may be a good way to find love.
OP, I'm like you. Just turned 38 and I've always been ready to settle down. The thing is you have to let love come to you. Don't seek it. Focus your thoughts a nod mind on becoming a better person. It comes when it is ready...not you. I understand you're a woman and the clock is ticking but when you rush it, you always make mistakes. Remember, love is patient. You're a Scorp and patience is a virtue. Use it.
Well I don't think negative all the time, sometimes yes. My parents were visiting me so I didn't have the time to actually date since last 2 months and I had a job change so there is a lot going on in my life. I have to take out time to talk to guys and date, so when i get these wierd & funny experiences, I just don't know what to do. To be frank I do not need a guy to give value to my life, but because I want a family and want someone with whom I can be with and share all the ups & downs in life, have fun, etc. I know its a huge commitment. & from where I come, girls generally have kids by the time they are 35. I see all my cousins and friends getting married and having kids. It gives a feeling that I am missing something in my life. I do have some friends, but I see them being busy with their families all the time and I feel lonely many a times.
I know I am a bit healthy / curvy & I am working on it. But it takes time. Do you think guys care so much about a girl being slim and being all dressy ?
I know I am a bit healthy / curvy & I am working on it. But it takes time. Do you think guys care so much about a girl being slim and being all dressy ?
WEll these guys really want slimmer girls, I am trying to be slim but its gonna take time.
Rituv13 - you will find someone soon. A lot of guys say they want a skinny girl but not really. I enjoy the curvy girls. Guys looking for sex, like most guys, do not bother with them. Unfortunately it is difficult to know until too late. All my best to you.
read this : http://www.amazon.com/Allen-Carrs-Easyweigh-Lose-Weight/dp/0140263586
then google: how to get guys.
it's not enough to be yourself, you have to be your best self. there are tons of info on internet on how to. if you are loneley you were doing something wrong. you have to find out what and change that. 😉
then google: how to get guys.
it's not enough to be yourself, you have to be your best self. there are tons of info on internet on how to. if you are loneley you were doing something wrong. you have to find out what and change that. 😉
it's called personal development.
Hah! xxnight I love your comments 😉 your comments make getting on dxp all worthwhile!
Posted by ellessquePosted by OvS
read this : http://www.amazon.com/Allen-Carrs-Easyweigh-Lose-Weight/dp/0140263586
then google: how to get guys.
it's not enough to be yourself, you have to be your best self. there are tons of info on internet on how to. if you are loneley you were doing something wrong. you have to find out what and change that. 😉
are you fucking kidding me?
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Although you're attitude is personal towards me(very mature), at least I gave a fair answer. I wish that when I was lonely and felt miserable someone would tell me what to do, not just comfort me cuz guess what?! If it didn't work till now it won't not work from now on. I believe she, as a scorpio, has the power and drive to be her best self. And I hope she will.
Posted by xxnightbynightPosted by ellessquePosted by OvS
read this : http://www.amazon.com/Allen-Carrs-Easyweigh-Lose-Weight/dp/0140263586
then google: how to get guys.
it's not enough to be yourself, you have to be your best self. there are tons of info on internet on how to. if you are loneley you were doing something wrong. you have to find out what and change that. 😉
are you fucking kidding me?
I'm pretty sure...he really is kidding. - hence the follow up post, "personal development"
OvS- some don't understand what you're trying to say because of how you're going at it... lol I get it... but... OP will not.click to expand
Thank you, but English is not my main language so it might sound a little harsh but I wrote those words with good heart and gentle thought so I'm sorry for hurting anyone LOL.
But that's what I did, I googled what I wanted to know and I found out what I was looking for. What's wrong about that? If you want to learn something you have to go to school, unless you're one lucky bastard and receive your info trough Divine Revelation.
Who is OP?
Posted by ellessque
what a shallow bunch.
smh.
perhaps if she was a gemini, that advice might work because they put so much value on aesthetics (not being snarky)...but she's not. she's a scorpio.
she can do anything she sets her mind to and succeed with flying colors.....and if she goes off on this course thinking that by losing a few pounds her life is going to suddenly be dreamy and fairy tale like with prince charming knocking on her fucking door....and then only finds out it was a bunch of surface fluffy bullshit.....she'll feel worse than when she started down that hike.
she has to stop "TRYING" to be in a long term relations and actually "BE" in one with herself first before anything else producitve can help.
all that other shit, including the curvy nature of her body.....is all very unimportant "fluff" and is no more than layers of unhappy that will come off naturally as she starts developing a relationship with HERSELF.
sending her to some weight loss website is absurd and completley offensive.
Are you curvy btw? 😛 I feel like you're mirroring.
And it's not a website, it's a book that helped me eat healthier and I lost 15 kilos in 2 months without exercise or diet. Please don't click on the link if you find it offensive.
Posted by ellessquePosted by OvSPosted by ellessque
what a shallow bunch.
smh.
perhaps if she was a gemini, that advice might work because they put so much value on aesthetics (not being snarky)...but she's not. she's a scorpio.
she can do anything she sets her mind to and succeed with flying colors.....and if she goes off on this course thinking that by losing a few pounds her life is going to suddenly be dreamy and fairy tale like with prince charming knocking on her fucking door....and then only finds out it was a bunch of surface fluffy bullshit.....she'll feel worse than when she started down that hike.
she has to stop "TRYING" to be in a long term relations and actually "BE" in one with herself first before anything else producitve can help.
all that other shit, including the curvy nature of her body.....is all very unimportant "fluff" and is no more than layers of unhappy that will come off naturally as she starts developing a relationship with HERSELF.
sending her to some weight loss website is absurd and completley offensive.
Are you curvy btw? 😛 I feel like you're mirroring.
of course I am. What normal healthy American isn't? 😄
All I'm saying is I've been called "Wife" twice and it isn't all it's cracked up to be.
For the love of curvy girls everywhere, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST and stop desperately trying to couple up just to couple up.click to expand
Are you called wife any more?
Posted by ellessque
No, I'm happily divorced.
Are you trying to offend me personally? I'm afraid it's not going to work out for you.
I would never do that to a lady. 🙂
Posted by ellessque
what the hell is this anyways? the aries apocolypse?
soon...soon 🙂))
I was flirting with you. Why did you change your pic? You have quite some eyes. 🙂
Posted by ellessquePosted by OvSPosted by ellessque
what the hell is this anyways? the aries apocolypse?
soon...soon 🙂))
I was flirting with you. Why did you change your pic? You have quite some eyes. 🙂
are you daft? we lost a dxp member this weekend. really lost them. that avi is a in memoriam.
....and don't flirt with me unless you learn to pee in private. *libra bits*click to expand
I like how you tease me. 😛
Posted by ellessque
I'm trying to be mean.
I think the fact you went to my profile to see how huge I was and then complimented my eyes is something the OP can use as a lesson.
There is much more to than how a person looks.
Especially if you are a scorpio or trying to tag a scorpio.
seriously. GOOGLE THAT!!!!!!!!! 😄
I've been here for more than 5yrs.
And that was really a compliment...for you. And I meant it. So you won't attack me with no reason.
I wasn't trying to comfort the op. I already told her what I had to say.
I don't care how you are, we are all here cuz we have problems with happiness. But if someone got offended for what I wrote...I don't know how much comfort they have with their own "curves".
I googled C G Jung enough.
Posted by curious2knowPosted by Rituv13
WEll these guys really want slimmer girls, I am trying to be slim but its gonna take time.
Are you serious?
Why are you trying to slim down for these men?
GET SOME SELF ESTEEM.........
There are plenty of men that love curvy women so forget the ones that want some skinny bint....
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Of course there are lots of men like that, but does she want one of those men?
PlentyOfFish.com
or hang out at Home Depot, or the tool dept at Sears.
or hang out at Home Depot, or the tool dept at Sears.
🙂 Thank you all of your for your posts. I do wish to clarify some points.
I am happy being curvy & single. But I feel I will look more beautiful if I lose some lbs, so i am trying to do that.
& i am really happy that some guys said no to me for my lbs coz they are only about looks then. Obviously I am not obese so I too will not go for an obese guy coz I firmly believe in a healthy life style , exactly why i want to lose weight.
As far as being single, I am not very social kinds ( I am not comfortable going to movies or dinner or drinks with someone I dont know, all my friends are either married or have gf's or bf's & I feel awkward going out with them all the time) and since I keep attracting guys who want just sex (This happens even while I am attending meetups for some movies, etc and just trying to make friends, guys try to hit on me. I moved to US just 2.5 yrs ago and I am still trying to make friends) So even when I am not looking I meet such guys & that irritates me.
So I am not sure how to even find someone. I am just trying my luck online & talking to guys. & if I feel I can be safe meeting them in person, I do else I don't. So this worries me on how will things work out this way. I have had some relationships in my past & I have been hurt, but that doesn't discourage me to not find love. I believe my past experiences have made me a better person. I am just tired of talking to guys online & talking to them. There must be a better way to find people, make friends, find love.
When I say I am lonely, Its coz I want someone whom I can trust & be with ( I have my parents & siblings so I am not that ways lonely) But i need someone special in my life.
I am happy being curvy & single. But I feel I will look more beautiful if I lose some lbs, so i am trying to do that.
& i am really happy that some guys said no to me for my lbs coz they are only about looks then. Obviously I am not obese so I too will not go for an obese guy coz I firmly believe in a healthy life style , exactly why i want to lose weight.
As far as being single, I am not very social kinds ( I am not comfortable going to movies or dinner or drinks with someone I dont know, all my friends are either married or have gf's or bf's & I feel awkward going out with them all the time) and since I keep attracting guys who want just sex (This happens even while I am attending meetups for some movies, etc and just trying to make friends, guys try to hit on me. I moved to US just 2.5 yrs ago and I am still trying to make friends) So even when I am not looking I meet such guys & that irritates me.
So I am not sure how to even find someone. I am just trying my luck online & talking to guys. & if I feel I can be safe meeting them in person, I do else I don't. So this worries me on how will things work out this way. I have had some relationships in my past & I have been hurt, but that doesn't discourage me to not find love. I believe my past experiences have made me a better person. I am just tired of talking to guys online & talking to them. There must be a better way to find people, make friends, find love.
When I say I am lonely, Its coz I want someone whom I can trust & be with ( I have my parents & siblings so I am not that ways lonely) But i need someone special in my life.
Elle - I saw that comment about Gemini's. RUDE.
I am a Gemini and I am also single at 33 years old. However this shouldn't be about anyone's weight. Regardless of weight it's all about how you present yourself to others. If you don't like yourself why should anyone else? No man or woman will do that job for you, or make you realize your self-worth. This is the reason why I attract so many but I turn them down too. I understand and I know what I am worth, if you don't impress me or have your A game up why should anyone ask for anything less?
Rituv - It's never about your weight. I've seen so many different walks of life finding love. It's about how you feel about yourself. Even if you were to loose all the weight would you be happy anyways? What if you lost all the weight and still didn't find someone? Question is how do you really feel about yourself, and do this alone. Sit down and write down what you are looking for, physically, mentally, spiritually, etc. Make sure you really get in touch with yourself. Write down your positive and negative attributes? Are you hard on yourself for your short comings? If you are that's something you need to find within yourself to change. However with that said it doesn't mean that someone else will feel the same way about the way you do when it comes to certain things. You are your own worst critic. Give yourself some time.
I am a Gemini and I am also single at 33 years old. However this shouldn't be about anyone's weight. Regardless of weight it's all about how you present yourself to others. If you don't like yourself why should anyone else? No man or woman will do that job for you, or make you realize your self-worth. This is the reason why I attract so many but I turn them down too. I understand and I know what I am worth, if you don't impress me or have your A game up why should anyone ask for anything less?
Rituv - It's never about your weight. I've seen so many different walks of life finding love. It's about how you feel about yourself. Even if you were to loose all the weight would you be happy anyways? What if you lost all the weight and still didn't find someone? Question is how do you really feel about yourself, and do this alone. Sit down and write down what you are looking for, physically, mentally, spiritually, etc. Make sure you really get in touch with yourself. Write down your positive and negative attributes? Are you hard on yourself for your short comings? If you are that's something you need to find within yourself to change. However with that said it doesn't mean that someone else will feel the same way about the way you do when it comes to certain things. You are your own worst critic. Give yourself some time.
Posted by Rituv13
WEll these guys really want slimmer girls, I am trying to be slim but its gonna take time.
Rituv there is nothing wrong with you but the one thing that is wrong is that you stick with men that want slimmer women, sometimes this can be a silent unseen issue that pops up later down the line once he sense you don't like yourself and/or struggling with loving yourself as you are, so then the man sees a way out so he uses your weight as an excuse, I'm not saying your weight isn't an issue but I have a gut feeling you are sticking with the wrong guys.
Have you tried going onto dating sights/social networks specifically tailored to plus size women? Also look into your local community for plus size events, there should be clubs that have plus size nights and local events that have plus size events and there are some good looking men there as well, my good friend used every resource available to her and she's now getting married, she met her mate through social networking via events in her local area.
Not sure if you date outside of your race but that's something you might want to be open to as well, there are other cultures that love plus size women if you find it hard to connect with someone in your own culture, just a suggestion, so not trying to offend you.
But most importantly change your life style to reflect who you are, eat healthy, work on learning how to eat to live and not live to eat, there are local classes that teach adults how to eat properly, I sense you have a lot of STUFF/BAGGAGE to work on before you can attract love into your in life, you must be happy, you must be content, you must live a good healthy life to attract a healthy loving man.
The men you choose REFLECT back to you your own issues with your weight, it's not that you couldn't be with a man that can love you for your size and all but for some reason the way you feel about yourself is being reflected back to you through the men, you have to break that cycle and that can only start with you making peace with the way you are now, you can't love yourself some day when you're skinny, you'll never find love being that way with yourself, love yourself now, no you may not like your weight but you can at least be at peace with yourself over your weight, you can still love and like yourself even if you don't care for your current weight/size.
A MAN MUST FEEL YOU LOVE YOURSELF
A MAN MUST FEEL YOU LOVE YOURSELF OR HE WON'T LOVE YOU/HE WON'T BE ABLE TO LOVE YOU, no one can love you if you don't love yourself first, if you reflect not loving yourself to a man he won't be able to see YOU AS YOU REALLY ARE, he'll only see the ugly dark bits of your personality.
Look into areas of your life that are broken and work on fixing those things, if your health is broken then work hard to change that so you can attract a healthy man, if your there are some dark areas in your life work on transforming those areas of your life into positive energy.
You're not alone because something is wrong with you, you're most likely struggling because you're somewhere in your life there are issues that need healing and those issues are holding you back, once you heal and bring more peace into your heart and your life you will have no problem with developing a long term relationship.
Look into areas of your life that are broken and work on fixing those things, if your health is broken then work hard to change that so you can attract a healthy man, if your there are some dark areas in your life work on transforming those areas of your life into positive energy.
You're not alone because something is wrong with you, you're most likely struggling because you're somewhere in your life there are issues that need healing and those issues are holding you back, once you heal and bring more peace into your heart and your life you will have no problem with developing a long term relationship.
I am not Plus size. I am just "L" I just trying to slim down to get to a size "M" for my clothes. 😢(
That's coz I have gained some weight in the last 1.5 years.
That's coz I have gained some weight in the last 1.5 years.
I am in the blue zone 😄 Thanks It seriously made me feel good 😄 😄
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Scorpio 7.53 Ascendant Cancer 3.26
Moon Scorpio 5.48 II Cancer 27.56
Mercury Scorpio 26.18 III Leo 24.25
Venus Scorpio 19.15 R IV Virgo 24.46
Mars Scorpio 29.01 V Libra 28.27
Jupiter Leo 8.03 VI Sagittarius 2.07
Saturn Virgo 11.24 VII Capricorn 3.26
Uranus Scorpio 16.11 VIII Capricorn 27.56
Neptune Sagittarius 16.38 IX Aquarius 24.25
Pluto Libra 17.28 Midheaven Pisces 24.46
Lilith Leo 2.00 XI Aries 28.27
Asc node Virgo 25.59 XII Gemini 2.07
Okk, If there is some1 who can read charts, pls tell me 🙂 I am very curious to know @ some things 😄
Posted by Rituv13
I am not Plus size. I am just "L" I just trying to slim down to get to a size "M" for my clothes. 😢(
That's coz I have gained some weight in the last 1.5 years.
The sad part is that you feel it's your weight when really you just dated a few jerks that picked up on your insecure feelings about yourself and reflected that back to you so now you're on the wheel hamster of getting to a particular size to feel content through the affirmation that your the right type/right size.
Nothing wrong with your body, weight, size, instead of fixing the type of men you're attracted to through understanding that there isn't anything wrong with your body, it's something wrong with how you pick your mate, the men you involve yourself with are shallow men and instead of trying to FIT into what you believe these kind of men believe are pretty/beautiful, change your perspective and choose to not date men that are shallow, mostly concerned with your looks and that would most likely resolve your issues.
Your taking the hard route in this kind of situation by losing the weight first and then date the same kind of man only to still feel bad and/or not feel good enough but to each her own.
Posted by Stinger Baby
im a scorpio woman too. the secret to getting what you want is to STOP LOOKING. when you look, you end up finding any old body because your nose is wide open and you're looking too hard. that makes you vulnerable to jerks, idiots, and walking wastes of time.
you attract your true mate by working on yourself and developing qualities that will draw the one you want to you. don't do it because you're looking for a mate. do it so you can be your best self. the more you focus on being the person you need to be, the more magnetic you will become. like minded people will flock to you and your mate will come. now stop looking and let it come to you.
+++1
Typo...
Nothing wrong with your body, weight, size, instead of focusing on your weight, focus on fixing the type of men you're attracted to
Nothing wrong with your body, weight, size, instead of focusing on your weight, focus on fixing the type of men you're attracted to
I agree, I kinda meet a lot of jerks.
Posted by Rituv13
Well I don't think negative all the time, sometimes yes...To be frank I do not need a guy to give value to my life, but because I want a family and want someone with whom I can be with and share all the ups & downs in life, have fun, etc. I know its a huge commitment. & from where I come, girls generally have kids by the time they are 35. I see all my cousins and friends getting married and having kids. It gives a feeling that I am missing something in my life. I do have some friends, but I see them being busy with their families all the time and I feel lonely many a times.
I know I am a bit healthy / curvy & I am working on it. But it takes time. Do you think guys care so much about a girl being slim and being all dressy ?
Curves are sexy. If you are "working on it" do so because you want to improve your health (if you're not healthy) and to build your confidence, not because of some perceived flaw that you think is preventing you from finding love. I am thinking it is some of this thinking that is screaming out loud to others. As for most of the advice already being posted here, I think it's good. Anything in life with your name on it is waiting for you, but you need to be (mentally, emotionally) ready to receive it. No need to chase it.
Posted by Wynter
PlentyOfFish.com
or hang out at Home Depot, or the tool dept at Sears.
+1 for Home Depot and Sears
Posted by Rituv13
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Scorpio 7.53 Ascendant Cancer 3.26
Moon Scorpio 5.48 II Cancer 27.56
Mercury Scorpio 26.18 III Leo 24.25
Venus Scorpio 19.15 R IV Virgo 24.46
Mars Scorpio 29.01 V Libra 28.27
Jupiter Leo 8.03 VI Sagittarius 2.07
Saturn Virgo 11.24 VII Capricorn 3.26
Uranus Scorpio 16.11 VIII Capricorn 27.56
Neptune Sagittarius 16.38 IX Aquarius 24.25
Pluto Libra 17.28 Midheaven Pisces 24.46
Lilith Leo 2.00 XI Aries 28.27
Asc node Virgo 25.59 XII Gemini 2.07
shenanigans...
Posted by Xin
...this shouldn't be about anyone's weight. Regardless of weight it's all about how you present yourself to others. If you don't like yourself why should anyone else? No man or woman will do that job for you, or make you realize your self-worth...
Rituv - It's never about your weight. I've seen so many different walks of life finding love. It's about how you feel about yourself. Even if you were to loose all the weight would you be happy anyways? What if you lost all the weight and still didn't find someone? Question is how do you really feel about yourself, and do this alone. Sit down and write down what you are looking for, physically, mentally, spiritually, etc. Make sure you really get in touch with yourself. Write down your positive and negative attributes? Are you hard on yourself for your short comings? If you are that's something you need to find within yourself to change. However with that said it doesn't mean that someone else will feel the same way about the way you do when it comes to certain things. You are your own worst critic. Give yourself some time.
+1
i have to be honest. men are visual creatures. if you see a guy and he is chatting up a body type that differs from yours, i see no fault in you changing how you look on the outside to appeal to his eye. none. if looking good on the outside brings you that confidence on the inside, jog on mama..jog on
@xxnightbynight, what does fiery energy mean ?
What does that mean ?
& Thank you guys n girls for the motivation n some different ways to do things. Some things r indeed an eye opener.
What does that mean ?
& Thank you guys n girls for the motivation n some different ways to do things. Some things r indeed an eye opener.
Elle - Yeah I still saw that comment! Totes rude! But I won't lie, yes I like sexy dudes. LOL! But whatever. I guess I am just vocal about it. Still what I find sexy isn't always good for me *rolls eyes*. And I dont see all the postings on how we talk about looks LOL! Mostly it's me complaining about Scorpios or some earth sign who pissed me off, recently its an Aquarius. I know right. My own elements pissing me off. Figures. LOL!
@curious2know: i agree 100 % . I am looking for someone who accepts me the way I am.
I can't be all girly girly and sweet sweet or dependent on the guy all the time. I am very active & full of life. I take ownership of stuff & do my thing. Along with that I am pretty loving, caring &easy going & do go out of my way for my loved ones(friends & family as well). So I am self sufficient. That's why I can't understand what more do guys need !! Anyways if they don't get it then its their loss !!!
I can't be all girly girly and sweet sweet or dependent on the guy all the time. I am very active & full of life. I take ownership of stuff & do my thing. Along with that I am pretty loving, caring &easy going & do go out of my way for my loved ones(friends & family as well). So I am self sufficient. That's why I can't understand what more do guys need !! Anyways if they don't get it then its their loss !!!
Posted by OvS
Are you called wife any more?
RRRRRRRRRRRIMSHOT!
.... OH MY GOD ... the prophecy is true ... the world WILL END this month!
And it's because two Scorpios are defending themselves ... against each other.
It's gonna be NUCLEAR.
...everybody max out your credit cards and enjoy your toys until Dec 21
---------
Elle & OvS - We're on the same team.
Elle - I think he was bringing forth sound advice which helped him improve his life.
I think you hurt his feelings when you misinterpreted his motives as critique
and so ... out came the stinger from the young scorp.
OvS - Women get crazy over weight and always take anything we say about it
as an attack of some kind ... then they get upset and eat a box of donuts.
Really, the only people who are qualified to speak on this matter
are HAPPILY MARRIED WOMEN. ( Can even PAngel disagree with me? )
Shoot me an email and I will show you how to find them
so they can guide by having you pay attention to certain
things they have done and do now
so you get what you are seeking.
are HAPPILY MARRIED WOMEN. ( Can even PAngel disagree with me? )
Shoot me an email and I will show you how to find them
so they can guide by having you pay attention to certain
things they have done and do now
so you get what you are seeking.
I try to be well roundedBeing "well-rounded". Hmm.
Other people's opinions on how everyone should live their life.
An example of mind-conditioning -- "Live a well-rounded life, and you'll be happy!"
"Don't be too passionate about any one thing, that's not living a well-rounded life!"
Blah.
Do what brings you joy.
Period.
I guess you guys are right. Most of the guys I have found on online dating site have been creeps and they want to have a girl for fun. Somehow going out to meetup's and meeting unknown people is something I am really scared of. But I am going to start doing it so that I can atleast socialize.
I will keep you all posted on how it goes. 🙂
I will keep you all posted on how it goes. 🙂
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