TrueScorpio
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Venus in Scorpio, Help Me xD!
Posted by Reason
Hahaha, half of this forum have this placement which probably makes DXP most confusing place indeed
I can imagine that!
Having this placement is like having an idealized view on love.
It messes with you... because for a Venus in Scorpio, love is an intense, devotional, lasting, passionate thing that we put ourselves deeply into. We think other people see it the same way, but the reality is that not everyone does. Of course, the more I realize that, through experience, the more I begin to see potential problems and heartbreak.
To love with the intensity of a Venus in Scorpio requires being able to open yourself up... it puts you in a vulnerable position (the person who loves the least has the upper hand in a relationship, well... a Venus in Scorpio is going to love with everything they've got). When you love that much, you can easily become crushed to oblivion (majorly hurt). Perhaps that is one reason why it's hard to find someone able to recipricate that same type of love?
"I've found that when it comes to love, it makes my thinking a bit obsessive, irrational and unrealistic."
Obsessive yes, unrealistic I don't think that that is the right way to call it, you just have to wait to come across the person who can also have that type of emotions, from my experience so far venus in scorpio can only understand another venus in scorpio, and then it is amazing.
"So lately I've been trying very hard to be more rational, realistic and less emotionally driven (against my nature pretty much)."
Trust me that will not work. you can't go against your nature then you will only be more unbalanced, you just have to put more control to your feelings, and to decide who is worth those intense feelings and who is not. I am still trying to figure that one out.
"I literally had a person tell me that they were blown away by the depth of my feelings, and how much I was able to express them."
Have you ever been with another scorpio who also has moon and venus in scorpio? I think only that is the answer for this, only another scorpio can handle that type of intensity.
"What do you personally find difficult about this placement, and how do you deal with it?"
God where do I begin? The fact that I can't take any feeling lightly, that I don't like dating in general 'cos what's the point investing your self in to something that will end up falling apart, that the intensity of bad feelings dose not go away not even after 10 years, that there is always a need for that deep bonding with a person that you don't know where you stop and he begins? It is very difficult I always thought that my life with be way easier if I had venus in gemini
Obsessive yes, unrealistic I don't think that that is the right way to call it, you just have to wait to come across the person who can also have that type of emotions, from my experience so far venus in scorpio can only understand another venus in scorpio, and then it is amazing.
"So lately I've been trying very hard to be more rational, realistic and less emotionally driven (against my nature pretty much)."
Trust me that will not work. you can't go against your nature then you will only be more unbalanced, you just have to put more control to your feelings, and to decide who is worth those intense feelings and who is not. I am still trying to figure that one out.
"I literally had a person tell me that they were blown away by the depth of my feelings, and how much I was able to express them."
Have you ever been with another scorpio who also has moon and venus in scorpio? I think only that is the answer for this, only another scorpio can handle that type of intensity.
"What do you personally find difficult about this placement, and how do you deal with it?"
God where do I begin? The fact that I can't take any feeling lightly, that I don't like dating in general 'cos what's the point investing your self in to something that will end up falling apart, that the intensity of bad feelings dose not go away not even after 10 years, that there is always a need for that deep bonding with a person that you don't know where you stop and he begins? It is very difficult I always thought that my life with be way easier if I had venus in gemini
Yes TRUST is VERY IMPORTANT! We will love with our entire being.
It's totally crazy in some ways, because it's so risky. You open yourself up for some serious devastation (but hey, Scorpios like that kind of stuff, haha).
From my experience, other people don't deal well with...
?? emotional intensity (especially guys)
?? giving complete love & devotion into another person (opening themselves up for heartbreak, pain)
...Maybe the things that are difficult for some, are easier for us. Only it scares people away a lot.
It's totally crazy in some ways, because it's so risky. You open yourself up for some serious devastation (but hey, Scorpios like that kind of stuff, haha).
From my experience, other people don't deal well with...
?? emotional intensity (especially guys)
?? giving complete love & devotion into another person (opening themselves up for heartbreak, pain)
...Maybe the things that are difficult for some, are easier for us. Only it scares people away a lot.
"The fact that I can't take any feeling lightly, that I don't like dating in general 'cos what's the point investing your self in to something that will end up falling apart"
^ Yes totally totally totally!!! Oh man... dating is so painful because it's so casual and careless. Not that that's bad, but when you love someone in this way it's difficult and heartbreaking at times. The intensity amplifies it.
"there is always a need for that deep bonding with a person that you don't know where you stop and he begins"
^ Yep, and you start to wonder if you'll ever find it.
^ Yes totally totally totally!!! Oh man... dating is so painful because it's so casual and careless. Not that that's bad, but when you love someone in this way it's difficult and heartbreaking at times. The intensity amplifies it.
"there is always a need for that deep bonding with a person that you don't know where you stop and he begins"
^ Yep, and you start to wonder if you'll ever find it.
@LadyScorpP
After experience with both venus in cancer and pisces in my opinion only venus in scorpio can have the intensity that we with venus in scorpio need. For me venus in cancer was ok very devoted but too mellow, anoter venus in scorpio had the right amount intensity, but that means the bad side is also there so we both had to put a stop to suspicion, emotional control, and fear from abandonment. It takes effort but so far I think that is the only venus who knows how to give us what we need.
After experience with both venus in cancer and pisces in my opinion only venus in scorpio can have the intensity that we with venus in scorpio need. For me venus in cancer was ok very devoted but too mellow, anoter venus in scorpio had the right amount intensity, but that means the bad side is also there so we both had to put a stop to suspicion, emotional control, and fear from abandonment. It takes effort but so far I think that is the only venus who knows how to give us what we need.
*another
"Yes totally totally totally!!! Oh man... dating is so painful because it's so casual and careless. Not that that's bad, but when you love someone in this way it's difficult and heartbreaking at times. The intensity amplifies it."
^ I worded that so bad. LOL. I guess what I meant to say is that when you start to have feelings they are strong, and the manner by which you put your everything into them opens up the potential for difficulty and heartbreak. The intensity of ALL the feelings good and bad is SO MUCH to deal with.
Guys my age, don't seem to be looking for that sort of thing. It kind of sucks.
"I think only that is the answer for this, only another scorpio can handle that type of intensity."
^ Perhaps. I've only known one other Scorpio in real life. A girl, who ended up being a good friend. We both have serious faces (lol) I knew right away she was a Scorpio just by looking at her. Hehehe.
"In my opinion I believe any of the other water signs have the potential to understand us Scorpios"
^ Where are these water signs hiding!? =P
My last nightmare was with an Aquarius man (oh my, that was very, very, bad and painful for me - and he couldn't have cared less). There is a Capricorn guy that I like at the moment, who has expressed some interest. I'm totally terrified because of my last experience.
^ I worded that so bad. LOL. I guess what I meant to say is that when you start to have feelings they are strong, and the manner by which you put your everything into them opens up the potential for difficulty and heartbreak. The intensity of ALL the feelings good and bad is SO MUCH to deal with.
Guys my age, don't seem to be looking for that sort of thing. It kind of sucks.
"I think only that is the answer for this, only another scorpio can handle that type of intensity."
^ Perhaps. I've only known one other Scorpio in real life. A girl, who ended up being a good friend. We both have serious faces (lol) I knew right away she was a Scorpio just by looking at her. Hehehe.
"In my opinion I believe any of the other water signs have the potential to understand us Scorpios"
^ Where are these water signs hiding!? =P
My last nightmare was with an Aquarius man (oh my, that was very, very, bad and painful for me - and he couldn't have cared less). There is a Capricorn guy that I like at the moment, who has expressed some interest. I'm totally terrified because of my last experience.
Posted by LadyScorpPPosted by TrueScorpio
Yes TRUST is VERY IMPORTANT! We will love with our entire being.
It's totally crazy in some ways, because it's so risky. You open yourself up for some serious devastation (but hey, Scorpios like that kind of stuff, haha).
From my experience, other people don't deal well with...
?? emotional intensity (especially guys)
?? giving complete love & devotion into another person (opening themselves up for heartbreak, pain)
...Maybe the things that are difficult for some, are easier for us. Only it scares people away a lot.
I relate dear TrueScorpio, I really do. BUT....
think of it this way, if what you feel emotionally is far too intense for some, those people you scare away are not the ones that are right for you. Stop worrying about the people who can not accept who we are, rather we should embrace ourselves and look at it from a new perspective, let those few people into our lives who CAN handle our emotions and intensity, now THAT is the key to our own happiness 🙂 Pick and choose your path wisely.click to expand
That is great advice. I worry so much xD! Haha.
"Love is essentially all about communication, because look at it this way, it involves to individuals who have chosen to come together to bathe and share in these emotions, to each bring something to the table to be shared, to grow, to develop, to enjoy something new. Proper communication is a must, for it lays the foundations in any platonic and romantic relationship."
Yep communication is totally important.
Problem with Aqua guy was mainly communication related - I was expressive in my words, he was literal. We did not understand each other and he wasn't willing to even try. Never mind the detached feelings of his. *smacks self for that whole mess of a thing*
Now I'm scared about the emotion thing with this Capricorn guy. I am thinking, I might run into some problems there.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....... time will tell I guess.
Yep communication is totally important.
Problem with Aqua guy was mainly communication related - I was expressive in my words, he was literal. We did not understand each other and he wasn't willing to even try. Never mind the detached feelings of his. *smacks self for that whole mess of a thing*
Now I'm scared about the emotion thing with this Capricorn guy. I am thinking, I might run into some problems there.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....... time will tell I guess.
"anoter venus in scorpio had the right amount intensity, but that means the bad side is also there so we both had to put a stop to suspicion, emotional control, and fear from abandonment. It takes effort but so far I think that is the only venus who knows how to give us what we need."
^ That's really interesting. Fear of abandonment *sigh* it's so real. It sucks. 😢
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"I don't know how you guys can do it...I don't like to invest myself too much in relationships, because if I put all my eggs in one basket and it gets dropped....treetrunkin ow. So when things get too intense, I back off. (Venus in Capricorn)"
^ It's part of who we are I suppose?
"I don't want to get used to them and end up needing them (which I intend to never happen)."
^ That seems to be what I run into a lot with the guys I like. They don't want to feel that way, and it sucks for me because I want to be needed. (I hope that doesn't sound stupid, lol). It's the truth though. I want to feel important, and part of their life in a meaninful way. When I feel disposable, it makes me sick. I get scared that I could be tossed to the curb any moment. When your pouring out your love, that's a totally freaky concept (thus fear of abandoment).
^ That's really interesting. Fear of abandonment *sigh* it's so real. It sucks. 😢
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"I don't know how you guys can do it...I don't like to invest myself too much in relationships, because if I put all my eggs in one basket and it gets dropped....treetrunkin ow. So when things get too intense, I back off. (Venus in Capricorn)"
^ It's part of who we are I suppose?
"I don't want to get used to them and end up needing them (which I intend to never happen)."
^ That seems to be what I run into a lot with the guys I like. They don't want to feel that way, and it sucks for me because I want to be needed. (I hope that doesn't sound stupid, lol). It's the truth though. I want to feel important, and part of their life in a meaninful way. When I feel disposable, it makes me sick. I get scared that I could be tossed to the curb any moment. When your pouring out your love, that's a totally freaky concept (thus fear of abandoment).
I'm the same way, only I'm a venus in cap.
There are others like yourself out there. Maybe try dating another venus in scorpio or in capricorn.
I'm seeing a scorpio with a venus in scorpio right now and he is very much like you so our love style s mesh well. However it's a bit hard for me now because I've toned myself down a bit and I'm having to revive some of that passion I've culled myself of over the years. Yes it's possible to make yourself less intense, but if you get what you really want you'll be wishing you hadn't dulled yourself down so much. Maybe just learn to unleash it at the right times and slow down a bit more
There are others like yourself out there. Maybe try dating another venus in scorpio or in capricorn.
I'm seeing a scorpio with a venus in scorpio right now and he is very much like you so our love style s mesh well. However it's a bit hard for me now because I've toned myself down a bit and I'm having to revive some of that passion I've culled myself of over the years. Yes it's possible to make yourself less intense, but if you get what you really want you'll be wishing you hadn't dulled yourself down so much. Maybe just learn to unleash it at the right times and slow down a bit more
"I don't know how you guys can do it...I don't like to invest myself too much in relationships, because if I put all my eggs in one basket and it gets dropped....treetrunkin ow. So when things get too intense, I back off"
What ThrueScorpio sad: it is part of who we are. So, we can go against it or embrace it and wait for the person who is the same and in the mean time to try not to get attached to everyone, because not everyone deserves that type of commitment.
"Problem with Aqua guy was mainly communication related "
Don't you know that Aquas live on one planet and scorpios on another. There is no way in hell you guys can connect on the same level, that would be possible only if aqua had allot of water in his chart. I never understand what the hell are they trying to say 🙂.
"And hey to Pluto Venus, long time no see, Ms Intense"
Hello there mister 🙂
What ThrueScorpio sad: it is part of who we are. So, we can go against it or embrace it and wait for the person who is the same and in the mean time to try not to get attached to everyone, because not everyone deserves that type of commitment.
"Problem with Aqua guy was mainly communication related "
Don't you know that Aquas live on one planet and scorpios on another. There is no way in hell you guys can connect on the same level, that would be possible only if aqua had allot of water in his chart. I never understand what the hell are they trying to say 🙂.
"And hey to Pluto Venus, long time no see, Ms Intense"
Hello there mister 🙂
I'm not good with expressing my feelings, but I definitely obsess. I obsessed over the Scorpio guy with his venus in Scorpio, for probably a good two years. We were only co-workers, so there were boundaries, but even if the boundaries were removed I wouldn't have had the courage to delve any deeper. His intensity was much more subtle but stronger than mine which would freak me out at times. If we ever had developed anything and he abandoned me, which would cross my mind often, I don't think I would be able to take it.
Its frustrating dealing with people who are not as intense as you are, but maybe it's a good thing in the longrun. It creates a balance and forces you to lighten up.
My Capricorn friend of 10yrs has his venus in Scorp. He's not AS intense as the Scorpio, but he's sexual and very good at expressing himself. There's definitely depth to him. Maybe another Scorpio/venus in Scorpio would be a good match for you. The sun sign makes you relate, and the venus adds the same amount of intensity.
Its frustrating dealing with people who are not as intense as you are, but maybe it's a good thing in the longrun. It creates a balance and forces you to lighten up.
My Capricorn friend of 10yrs has his venus in Scorp. He's not AS intense as the Scorpio, but he's sexual and very good at expressing himself. There's definitely depth to him. Maybe another Scorpio/venus in Scorpio would be a good match for you. The sun sign makes you relate, and the venus adds the same amount of intensity.
WEll Dear Lady,
I am a Scorpio too with Scorpio in 5 planets or whatever u call.
I totally agree with you, i feel the same - if I like someone - its with complete intensity and love and trust me even at 33 I face the same problem as yours, Guys don't wanna commit and they are looking for just something casual and it does make us miserable.
So be it 25 or 35 boys will be boys and I too feel that its a waste of time to go for casual dating, how much do you know a person with this and how many times would u meet some1 specially when they don't want to open up or just be casual.
I am talking to 2 guys right now -- one is a leo and one is aries.
Never been with a leo so I really dont know how it is !!
Been with an Aries before, it was good as well as worst !!! finally when i moved on it was a relief.
The best way to deal with this intensity is to make yourself so busy that you dont have the time to think about such people.
I leave home at 8.30 am and am back at 9.30 pm after my office and work out. by the time I am home, I am almost ready to crash to bed and wake up the next day.
Only way to deal with this intensity is ignore it and keep your mind busy.
Some1 did mention that water signs go very well with Scorpios, they understand how we feel. Which are these water sign ??
I am a Scorpio too with Scorpio in 5 planets or whatever u call.
I totally agree with you, i feel the same - if I like someone - its with complete intensity and love and trust me even at 33 I face the same problem as yours, Guys don't wanna commit and they are looking for just something casual and it does make us miserable.
So be it 25 or 35 boys will be boys and I too feel that its a waste of time to go for casual dating, how much do you know a person with this and how many times would u meet some1 specially when they don't want to open up or just be casual.
I am talking to 2 guys right now -- one is a leo and one is aries.
Never been with a leo so I really dont know how it is !!
Been with an Aries before, it was good as well as worst !!! finally when i moved on it was a relief.
The best way to deal with this intensity is to make yourself so busy that you dont have the time to think about such people.
I leave home at 8.30 am and am back at 9.30 pm after my office and work out. by the time I am home, I am almost ready to crash to bed and wake up the next day.
Only way to deal with this intensity is ignore it and keep your mind busy.
Some1 did mention that water signs go very well with Scorpios, they understand how we feel. Which are these water sign ??
"Don't you know that Aquas live on one planet and scorpios on another. There is no way in hell you guys can connect on the same level, that would be possible only if aqua had allot of water in his chart. I never understand what the hell are they trying to say"
^ This made me laugh, lol. Yeah he had NO water in his chart. Lots of fire. I was really attracted more or less to his intelligence and him being able to get me to see this other perspective on nearly everything. I mean he was brilliant. BUT emotionally really disconnected - like nothing I've ever seen. I don't know. It wasn't meant to be, but my feelings had me thinking there was something there. Oh well.
"Intensity can really push things to where they shouldn't be. Because there is no actual basis for it. None. If we take a sober look. I believe it's always a good idea to calm down and think. Calm down and think."
^ That was beautifully stated. Intensity amplifies everything and naturally some people get a little freaked. They wonder how can you FEEL so much!? It's like... I don't know, I just do? I'm very glad there are people that can accept the intensity. I just have to find them I suppose.
"The best way to deal with this intensity is to make yourself so busy that you dont have the time to think about such people."
^ Yeah that's a really smart plan. I'm an artist so I release much of my intensity through my work. It helps tremendously! But because I work on art, I'm working alone and I'm always inside my own head thinking. When I start crushing on someone, I can be working on my work, but thoughts of that person never leave my mind. It's really crazy, obsessive and I wish I had a better ability to control that.
^ This made me laugh, lol. Yeah he had NO water in his chart. Lots of fire. I was really attracted more or less to his intelligence and him being able to get me to see this other perspective on nearly everything. I mean he was brilliant. BUT emotionally really disconnected - like nothing I've ever seen. I don't know. It wasn't meant to be, but my feelings had me thinking there was something there. Oh well.
"Intensity can really push things to where they shouldn't be. Because there is no actual basis for it. None. If we take a sober look. I believe it's always a good idea to calm down and think. Calm down and think."
^ That was beautifully stated. Intensity amplifies everything and naturally some people get a little freaked. They wonder how can you FEEL so much!? It's like... I don't know, I just do? I'm very glad there are people that can accept the intensity. I just have to find them I suppose.
"The best way to deal with this intensity is to make yourself so busy that you dont have the time to think about such people."
^ Yeah that's a really smart plan. I'm an artist so I release much of my intensity through my work. It helps tremendously! But because I work on art, I'm working alone and I'm always inside my own head thinking. When I start crushing on someone, I can be working on my work, but thoughts of that person never leave my mind. It's really crazy, obsessive and I wish I had a better ability to control that.
"I've toned myself down a bit and I'm having to revive some of that passion I've culled myself of over the years. Yes it's possible to make yourself less intense, but if you get what you really want you'll be wishing you hadn't dulled yourself down so much. Maybe just learn to unleash it at the right times and slow down a bit more"
^ I like what you've said here. Revive your passion girl! =)
One of the best parts of being intense and passionate is how you make others feel. It's very motivating to other people to see you doing the things that you love to do, and being strongly driven. Obstacles? HAH. There is nothing that you can't overcome! That seems to be very uplifting to other people.
Also in personal friendships or relationships, the passion you give makes people feel good and significant.
So intensity and passion are admirable. They just need to be managed. I've got the right balance for my work and my close friendships. But in love... I don't think I've found the right balance, I think my thoughts are still too obsessive and amplified. Perhaps it will come with time and more experiences? Or the right person coming into my life? I don't know... haha.
These replies are really nice to read by the way!
^ I like what you've said here. Revive your passion girl! =)
One of the best parts of being intense and passionate is how you make others feel. It's very motivating to other people to see you doing the things that you love to do, and being strongly driven. Obstacles? HAH. There is nothing that you can't overcome! That seems to be very uplifting to other people.
Also in personal friendships or relationships, the passion you give makes people feel good and significant.
So intensity and passion are admirable. They just need to be managed. I've got the right balance for my work and my close friendships. But in love... I don't think I've found the right balance, I think my thoughts are still too obsessive and amplified. Perhaps it will come with time and more experiences? Or the right person coming into my life? I don't know... haha.
These replies are really nice to read by the way!
Posted by aliennationPosted by happykitsune
I'm the same way, only I'm a venus in cap.
There are others like yourself out there. Maybe try dating another venus in scorpio or in capricorn.
I'm seeing a scorpio with a venus in scorpio right now and he is very much like you so our love style s mesh well. However it's a bit hard for me now because I've toned myself down a bit and I'm having to revive some of that passion I've culled myself of over the years. Yes it's possible to make yourself less intense, but if you get what you really want you'll be wishing you hadn't dulled yourself down so much. Maybe just learn to unleash it at the right times and slow down a bit more
Don't you have a Scorp moon? That's the culprit. My Venus in Capricorn appreciates being sensible about things. Loving someone to death with no certainty of reciprocation is not sensible.click to expand
I have a lot of scorpio actually. But moon in scorpio does make me very sensual and gives me intense emotions. I don't love people to death without certainty tho. I weight everything and decide if they are worth it all, then when I decide I want to be with them then I'm all in. Capricorns are known for being stable and grounded in their relationships
This placement sucks so bad...seriously. If I didn't know a thing about astrology I would be taking anxiety medication...I am hopelessly in love with a Virgo who also has a Venus in Scorpio and I must say it does NOT help that the s*x is off the chain...he is all I can think about. Period. I am on my way to see him picking out Victoria's Secret gear...lol I have found that I can't do anything but ride the wave until it's over. The thing is, once I am done (and who knows when this will happen, doesn't seem to have a good rhyme or reason) I am DONE.
And I have also found that guys particularly cannot get over that I don't feel the same anymore. It's almost like "No way, you used to OBSESS over me, and now you don't want me anymore? I don't believe you." Seriously I have had guys hang on to me for YEARS later because they cannot admit to themselves that I no longer want them. I bet they all think that I secretly do want them. LOL The ego boost that a Venus in Scorpio can give is THE most intoxicating drug that men, particularly, cannot say no to. Ever.
But yeah this Venus in Scorpio dude? He's got my number. For reals. SO pissed, but I'm just riding the wave.
Mocha
And I have also found that guys particularly cannot get over that I don't feel the same anymore. It's almost like "No way, you used to OBSESS over me, and now you don't want me anymore? I don't believe you." Seriously I have had guys hang on to me for YEARS later because they cannot admit to themselves that I no longer want them. I bet they all think that I secretly do want them. LOL The ego boost that a Venus in Scorpio can give is THE most intoxicating drug that men, particularly, cannot say no to. Ever.
But yeah this Venus in Scorpio dude? He's got my number. For reals. SO pissed, but I'm just riding the wave.
Mocha
^^Meant to add that sometimes I don't even think the partner matters, once in love the intensity takes over, even if I don't particularly like the guy anymore...it's so weird and sucky.
I am talking about unrequited love here tho. I mean when it's unrequited I have to just let it play out once I'm already in love. Then suddenly, I'm done and I can walk away.
Sadly...it's usually because (and only when) I've met someone else who I now love...I seriously feel like a love addict. The s*x doesn't help...at all. I mean it DOES, but you know what I mean...*gulp* I hope :-/ So screwed...
Mocha
I am talking about unrequited love here tho. I mean when it's unrequited I have to just let it play out once I'm already in love. Then suddenly, I'm done and I can walk away.
Sadly...it's usually because (and only when) I've met someone else who I now love...I seriously feel like a love addict. The s*x doesn't help...at all. I mean it DOES, but you know what I mean...*gulp* I hope :-/ So screwed...
Mocha
Posted by mochacaremel
This placement sucks so bad...seriously. If I didn't know a thing about astrology I would be taking anxiety medication...I am hopelessly in love with a Virgo who also has a Venus in Scorpio and I must say it does NOT help that the s*x is off the chain...he is all I can think about. Period. I am on my way to see him picking out Victoria's Secret gear...lol I have found that I can't do anything but ride the wave until it's over. The thing is, once I am done (and who knows when this will happen, doesn't seem to have a good rhyme or reason) I am DONE.
And I have also found that guys particularly cannot get over that I don't feel the same anymore. It's almost like "No way, you used to OBSESS over me, and now you don't want me anymore? I don't believe you." Seriously I have had guys hang on to me for YEARS later because they cannot admit to themselves that I no longer want them. I bet they all think that I secretly do want them. LOL The ego boost that a Venus in Scorpio can give is THE most intoxicating drug that men, particularly, cannot say no to. Ever.
But yeah this Venus in Scorpio dude? He's got my number. For reals. SO pissed, but I'm just riding the wave.
Mocha
Interesting..I can relate to that whole, when I'm done I'm done thing. Idk if that's just cus I'm a sag or what, but I do get very obsessed first just like you, then when I'm done I just don't contact the person cus they aren't desirable to me anymore. I don't lose interest easily tho. If I choose to be done it's because the other person has wronged me
Oh wow, at being hurt by a gemini venus! My Taurus friend has his venus in gemini and he's not as easy to tame as one would think, even despite his age. I go back and forth between thinking its his cancer mars that gives him an edge or his gemini venus. I felt the scorpio sun/scorp venus could do major damage, which is why I stayed away, but the darn Taurus had literally gotten under my skin. Couldn't cut him off, how I manage to do with everyone else, because I felt sick..like my body literally ached. Had to call and apologize to him just so I could feel better. That's why I always feared someone getting close.
LoL@ DominOo. Dxpnet or no dxpnet, I know I'm a little off lol.
LoL@ DominOo. Dxpnet or no dxpnet, I know I'm a little off lol.
I have A Scorpio Asc and Venus with a Libra Sun and Aqua Moon, I find it near impossible to express my affection but I a but insecure but I find my self with people with emotional depth that seems to go beyond mine but I feel all the Venus in Scorpio stuff which makes it hard when they think I do not care
I really wanna have sex with a venus in scorpio.
Posted by TrueScorpio
And...
Many guys my age (mid-twenties) don't know what they want in relationships (they like keeping their options open, playing the field, their level of commitment wavers, etc). It's very hard to find guys that are a little more serious and committed. This is a problematic for me... because when I develop strong feelings for someone... that person is what I want. By the time I've determined that they are what I want, there is no second guessing, it's total commitment from me, complete attention & no wavering, just love and devotion. It is rarely reciprocated as strongly. While I understand that everyone "loves" in different ways, sometimes I do wish I received the type of love that I give (I feel that is weird of me to think that way?!? I don't expect it, but I sort of long for it?). Sometimes my feelings are so strong, I really have to control my intensity in order not to scare anyone away.
I literally had a person tell me that they were blown away by the depth of my feelings, and how much I was able to express them. (I have four Scorpio placements).
Anyway...
What do you personally find difficult about this placement, and how do you deal with it?
What do you think of age factor (mid-twenties) in conjunction with modern dating, with this placement?
Trust me, I completely empathize with you, it hurts so much...I've expressed my feelings to someone and have them laugh at me..or not know what to make of it...or try to belittle my words with humor because THEY are uncomfortable. Or even worse, they misinterpret my feelings as just desire. I can have intense, passionate feelings for someone and sex be the furthest from my mind. I can love someone with zero 'desire' and not care whether those feelings are reciprocated or not. But it is very hard to try to articulate that to someone
The only way you can cope, is that you have to be more scrutinizing of whom you share with than other people, or you can 'suck it up.'and let yourself get hurt until something sticks. Or they come back..they always seem to come back.
At least you are lucky enough to have other scorpio placements that could aid you in being more discerning.
I personally think that men in those ages, don't know what the hell they want...until they turn 25-30. So depending on your age, I'd try to date older if you can(27-30 and up.). Older men seem to appreciate and a
*Sigh* I just stalked the page(well partially since it's private) of my old Scorpio interest, and he FINALLY changed his profile pic. I feel like I'm about to be flooded with thoughts of him all over again. Hope it doesn't last another year or two.
aww..man it cut me off..
I was trying to say older men seem to appreciate and handle emotional intensity more than younger men.
I was trying to say older men seem to appreciate and handle emotional intensity more than younger men.
I do not think Venus in Scorpio is bad unless you have A Venus Square Saturn like I do, I cant even express the emotions
Posted by happykitsune
I'm the same way, only I'm a venus in cap.
There are others like yourself out there. Maybe try dating another venus in scorpio or in capricorn.
I'm seeing a scorpio with a venus in scorpio right now and he is very much like you so our love style s mesh well. However it's a bit hard for me now because I've toned myself down a bit and I'm having to revive some of that passion I've culled myself of over the years. Yes it's possible to make yourself less intense, but if you get what you really want you'll be wishing you hadn't dulled yourself down so much. Maybe just learn to unleash it at the right times and slow down a bit more
See this is why i dont think Capricorn Venus goes, i know it says it does but they are too cold, not like us, and it makes you feel unbalanced and every time i got involved with a VICapricorn. They do this must shield themselves and the way the above puts it better then i could. But this will always bring out same behaviour in me, I withdraw and begin the process of cutting off and reining in the feelings, it happens every time lol. colder they get the colder i get until i just disappear 😄
BUT they always have to start it.
Wow.. one of my old favorite users is in this thread lol. Anyway I think I could handle one of you.
I was gonna answer then I saw it was 7 years old lulz
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by TrueScorpio
"The fact that I can't take any feeling lightly, that I don't like dating in general 'cos what's the point investing your self in to something that will end up falling apart"
^ Yes totally totally totally!!! Oh man... dating is so painful because it's so casual and careless. Not that that's bad, but when you love someone in this way it's difficult and heartbreaking at times. The intensity amplifies it.
"there is always a need for that deep bonding with a person that you don't know where you stop and he begins"
^ Yep, and you start to wonder if you'll ever find it.
It’s hard because of Venus in Scorpio on feels it when it feels it
N you have to hold back to let the other catch on or scare them. It’s a huge gamble n most vulnerable position to be inclick to expand
I'm always scaring people and don't care. I just wait it out. Either they get used to it or they don't. It weeds them out easier 😄
People usually warm up to me though, because of the way I show affection. I have pretty good timing and like surprising the person with it.
Posted by Sag898
Wow.. one of my old favorite users is in this thread lol. Anyway I think I could handle one of you.
I think you can because of your Mars. Scorpio placements just get each other 🙂
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I literally had a person tell me that they were blown away by the depth of my feelings, and how much I was able to express them. (I have four Scorpio placements).
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What do you personally find difficult about this placement, and how do you deal with it?
What do you think of age factor (mid-twenties) in conjunction with modern dating, with this placement?