What are the chances of Scorpio man get an ex cancer back?

Hi fellow Scorpio man here.

First post so here goes.

Can't give out too much personal info so going to just get it in a nutshell.

Recently come out of an relationship with a cancer woman. Got dumped by her first then managed to get her back.

Got confused and mentally exhausted soon after then, as I didn't know how I felt about the relationship anymore I broke it off saying I needed to be alone.

Totally heartbroken she was and it wasn't till I was by myself that I broke down, cried loads and started questioning everything.

I now know I really love the woman so much, but as I'm still in an highly emotional state and not thinking logically and realistically I need to give it time.

How much time should I allow to pass before getting in touch and seeing if there's still hope for us?

No time like the present, aww, hope you two work it out x

Posted by AneemA


Oh, can I know how long have you been together?

Only 7 months.

Hasn't be an easy relationship, lots of up and downs. I knew I loved her and put up with a lot. But just before I dumped her I was closed down and needed time to be on my own.

Since, I've been a right mess. Crying everyday ( I have never been this distraught over a woman ever ) and I'm a man in his 40's!!!! this doesn't make any sense to me at the moment.

In my mind I'm thinking of seeing how I feel about it in a months time. If I'm still not any better then I'll try and get in touch to see if we are meant to be together or not.

Or should I as someone suggested just let her know what a mess I am, so at least she knows I'm not that cold hearted and moved on—?

I think you should let her know that you aren't moved on & didn't mean to be so cold hearted cause that's how you came off to her.

Posted by Arielle83


What kind of cancer is she?

Independent and focused or insecure and idealistic?

Independent and focused I'd say.

She has been vocal in saying she's fed up with all the mind games I've done. Couldn't handle me going cold, but I've always spoke or texted her everyday. Just haven't always stayed at her place but opting to stay at mine.

I know she's really pushing for commitment from me to build a secure future together. This was the main trigger for me to say I needed to be alone as I don't like being pressurized!!!! She reckons I'm a player lol no way am I that, I've only had a handful relationships which all have been long term ones.,

Tell her how you feel. She could be feeling the same way as you.

I know that if someone pushed me away, and went cold on me, I'd see that as they didn't want to be with me.

Let her know that this isn't the case. You're going to have to be the one to make the move. The ball's is in your court now.

If your love is meant to be...

Posted by girljuly38
Tell her how you feel. She could be feeling the same way as you.

I know that if someone pushed me away, and went cold on me, I'd see that as they didn't want to be with me.

Let her know that this isn't the case. You're going to have to be the one to make the move. The ball's is in your court now.

If your love is meant to be...

I've done this... written to her and told all.

Now we'll have to wait and see...

If it's meant to be or not.

She has been vocal in saying she's fed up with all the mind games I've done. Couldn't handle me going cold, but I've always spoke or texted her everyday. Just haven't always stayed at her place but opting to stay at mine.

I know she's really pushing for commitment from me to build a secure future together. This was the main trigger for me to say I needed to be alone as I don't like being pressurized!!!! She reckons I'm a player lol no way am I that, I've only had a handful relationships which all have been long term ones.



this made me sad - I just wonder why she dumped you first ... and then I understand why you had second thoughts after you got her back ... why do people push other people and not learn that they can trust in them and understand that sometimes they need to be alone ? I mean if you spoke to her daily, she knew you were still there for her but yet was pushing for commitment - what happened to taking things slow

maybe you just don't like to be totally alone - not sure - I know someone who is Libra sun but has a lot of Scorpio placements who is like that - take your time and make sure you take it slow and don't let anyone push you into anything - it doesn't work out that way

and I'm sorry, hugs to you ...

Yes she dumped me first all over something silly. I didn't take it seriously, and managed to persuade her to come out for a very expensive meal 4 days later. We got back together and all was very good for a bit.

I've not heard back since dropped the letter off, thinking she may have just read it and thrown it away. Wanting nothing to do with me anymore..

I'm also thinking she's gonna play hard to get.. she probably wants to see how serious I am about wanting her back. She has done this sort of thing before to get my attention, if she's mad with me for not seeing her a few days she's lets me know by not talking to me in the car, being passive aggressive and not letting me kiss her.

It's all that pressure thing again isn't it??.... pressure for me to show more commitment as in buying a house together, build a future together after only 7 months together!!!

I've been married before 15 years and know it's certainty not something to take lightly. And I won't rush into another one yet.She has never been married ( in her forties now ) and had some really tough times in her previous relationships. She is probably feeling desperate to build a future quickly with someone... that's the feeling I get with all this pressure stuff.

Regarding being alone.. well I live on my own and like my own space something I'd prefer over being in a fake relationship where I didn't love someone.. been there and done that.

But this woman is different to anyone I've ever met, and boy do I love her so much, this is why all this is so hard.