What are your experiences with aries

Is it good or bad? was it the best relationship that you ever had? Was it easy to move forget about him/her? How was the sex? Was it emotional?

Posted by starlover
..are you still into the Aries guy Noreally?

No but he's making things harder for me, by causing drama.

Posted by starlover
Do you have to see him ? Do you work with him?

No, and I use to work with him. He is talking shit about with a female that he knows doesn't like me and she is going back to them tell him the things that he has said. It's been two months since I've spoken to him.

Every time I come in contact with the three of them, they stare at me or do dumb things. I try not to let it affect me. Now, I stare back. I'm too the point where I'm going to go off on every last one of them. It's only a matter of time.

It's hard when you have to go to work and deal with bullshit.

Posted by starlover
Sounds like schoolyard stuff....you work with all three of them?

That's exactly what it is schoolyard behavior. Yes, I work with all three of them. He use to work there, too.

Posted by starlover
Is there any way you can remove yourself from them...? If it is affecting your work, you could tell them to leave you alone or else you will have to go higher

I would still face him and try to sort it out though

I rather not speak to him. I have feeling this is why he's doing this. So, I could say something to him about it. I'm not going to give him the satisfaction. I don't want anything to do with him. I will say something to them, but if they get nasty with me, it's going to go beyond talking.

Posted by Noreallynow

Posted by starlover
Is there any way you can remove yourself from them...? If it is affecting your work, you could tell them to leave you alone or else you will have to go higher

I would still face him and try to sort it out though

I rather not speak to him. I have feeling this is why he's doing this. So, I could say something to him about it. I'm not going to give him the satisfaction. I don't want anything to do with him. I will say something to them, but if they get nasty with me, it's going to go beyond talking.

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Going to higher won't work. All three i them are close with management. One of them told management that I was jealous of the girl. Saying that I'm jealous of her because of the aries. The management said it to me, but he was trying to be slick about it. Everytime I see the manager, he's speaking to them.

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Posted by tiziani
My take on it: Do something unexpected.

Like what?

Posted by tiziani
As for Aries and Scorpio - it's brinksmanship galore from what I've seen.

You're right about that. That's exactly what's going on here.

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Posted by starlover
Is there any way you can remove yourself from them...? If it is affecting your work, you could tell them to leave you alone or else you will have to go higher

I would still face him and try to sort it out though

I rather not speak to him. I have feeling this is why he's doing this. So, I could say something to him about it. I'm not going to give him the satisfaction. I don't want anything to do with him. I will say something to them, but if they get nasty with me, it's going to go beyond talking.

So are you going to go into battle because of an Aries kid?

Maybe that is what he wants?

Maybe you can summons all your pluto power and rise above in some way

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No, I'm not going to battle against them. They're here, he's not. The only way he would know what's going on, is if she tells him. So, he wants to play puppet master.... Ok.

Posted by starlover
If it didnt change in the long term, i would move away from them ... do you want to lower yourself to their schoolyard antics?

No, that's part of the reason why it's been going on for so long. Because I choose not to stoop to their level. There is always a breaking point though. Especially after its built up for so long. So, something is going to happen. Good or bad.

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Posted by tiziani
My take on it: Do something unexpected.

Like what?

I only know the best way to put an end to passive aggression is to show passive aggression in return.


You could always befriend people who work with her. Or turn up to her door with giftwrapped chocolates and just say you felt like giving them to her. No explanation. Then leave.


Almost guaranteed she would get him to stop after that (provided you make no contact with him at all).

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I haven't spoken to him in two months. He had sex with the girl while we were dating. I kept asking him if he communicated with her and he kept lying. So, I broke it off. So, now he's talking shit about me with her. She then goes back and shares it with the other two. I don't communicate with any of them. So, why else would they feel any animosity against me. Especially since she knows me and the aries doesn't speak? So, he has to be talking shit. No, I'm not befriending any of them. Especially after they're trying to set me up by going to management. She knows he's coming back. So, she's trying to get me fired before he returns.

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Posted by tiziani
As for Aries and Scorpio - it's brinksmanship galore from what I've seen.

Yes sir, it is.....the stronger one though rises above every time

There is that but I've never really been one for the high road in a stressful situation. I prefer confronting the problem and ending it.

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Exactly how I feel and what I'm going to do. I have a temper, tho. That's the problem. They want me to attack them. All the staring and dumb games is to provoke me. So, if I can act civilized, it could work in my favor. I could also accuse them of false accusations. We have cameras all through the place. I've never went near them. They always came near me.

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Posted by Noreallynow
It's hard when you have to go to work and deal with bullshit.

Ya...

Keep hunting for another job to keep your options open...Stay quiet and just do your job.

Eventually all the BS will go away.

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That's what my dad told me months ago. And it's still going on. I agree about looking for another job. Will do.

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Posted by tiziani
As for Aries and Scorpio - it's brinksmanship galore from what I've seen.

Yes sir, it is.....the stronger one though rises above every time

There is that but I've never really been one for the high road in a stressful situation. I prefer confronting the problem and ending it.

Exactly how I feel and what I'm going to do. I have a temper, tho. That's the problem. They want me to attack them. All the staring and dumb games is to provoke me. So, if I can act civilized, it could work in my favor. I could also accuse them of false accusations. We have cameras all through the place. I've never went near them. They always came near me.

But anything you do that relates to her in any manner, she will probably twist it and use it against you ... and I don't think she's above lying to get what she wants.

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You're completely right. All she's been doing is lying. She tells people that she confronted me, which never happened, but turned around and played the victim. Her friends walk around with her as if I'm just going to jump on her Everytime I see her.

Posted by starlover
That it what i said a couple of pages ago....leave the job

Yes, you did. Thank you.

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Posted by starlover
That it what i said a couple of pages ago....leave the job

You are also telling OP to confront another employee, which is just wrong in so many ways.

Do you know what a tarnished job record could do to you?

Think about the future, not 5 minutes of fame.

Well she was saying to talk to the Aries (who no longer works there), which IMO, is a bad idea because the prior few times, OP went back to him whenever they had problems. He started this, he kept entertaining this, and he's a liar. The only thing that cuts a Leo Moon deep (from a person they really care about) is silence IMO.

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Silence is all that I've been giving him for the past two months. I haven't been doing anything to him for him to do what he's done.

Posted by tiziani
But you WANT her to lie, that opens up your window of opportunity for you to stay genuine. People give you the rope.

That's exactly what I said. If I haven't said anything to you or come near you, what can you possibly lie about? Like I said before, the cameras don't lie. I guess the camera caught it when she so called confronted me. Liar. I'm still trying to figure out how she went from being the aggressor to being the victim.

As for the aries backing her story up. Not going to happen. He's going to deny it and say he wasn't even there. Even though we know he's starting shit.

Posted by KVZZMIR11
Knowing from experience...

Aries wants back in the job, and he is fighting for OP's position.

Lol.

Its better to stay silent, because he will use it against you to benefit.

A bored Aries, is a dangerous Aries.

He doesn't want my job. We were dating for a year and ended it two months ago.

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Posted by KVZZMIR11
Knowing from experience...

Aries wants back in the job, and he is fighting for OP's position.

Lol.

Its better to stay silent, because he will use it against you to benefit.

A bored Aries, is a dangerous Aries.

It's her. She wants me gone before the aries comes back.

i saw find a new job and move on. This whole story seems stressful and redundant.

give everyone, exactly what they want. leave the situation.

Your not alone the scorpio girl I'm friends with has a hard time working with the Aries guy we work with. She says to me he is so childish he does everything to aggravate her. Then he complains she is so moody. From what I have seen from an Aries man they act like a spoiled rotten child.

I have told my scorp friend ignore him he gets a reaction out of you he will keep doing it.

All in all Aries men and women are tough to work with especially if you are a water sign water and fire = steam.

Posted by DMV
i saw find a new job and move on. This whole story seems stressful and redundant.

give everyone, exactly what they want. leave the situation.

But that's just it. I'm not doing anything. They're on me. I don't say anything to them or even go near them.

Posted by tiziani
When you are the only one telling the truth, people will come over to your side in time. Everyone can sense when they are lying to one another.


I am speaking from experience. Yes, I have been laughed at in the beginning like starlover said...

But you don't know the real reason why people hang around each other, it's not always because they're so solid. It's actually often out of fear. Until the so called "leader" is exposed as inconsistent and then they come to your side.

Again, speaking from experience. I'm only sharing this with you because it seems to be something stressing you out, like you're worried about what's to come. But as long as you stay focused on being yourself and genuine, with time believe me absolutely anyone can turn to your side. Some of my best and most trusted friends were once my enemies. I mean that's just life really.

I'm stressed, but I'm not worried. I know I didn't do anything wrong. My mother always told me that " unjust don't prosper." I just know that when he gets here, things are going to spiral out of control.

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Posted by tiziani
When you are the only one telling the truth, people will come over to your side in time. Everyone can sense when they are lying to one another.


I am speaking from experience. Yes, I have been laughed at in the beginning like starlover said...

But you don't know the real reason why people hang around each other, it's not always because they're so solid. It's actually often out of fear. Until the so called "leader" is exposed as inconsistent and then they come to your side.

Again, speaking from experience. I'm only sharing this with you because it seems to be something stressing you out, like you're worried about what's to come. But as long as you stay focused on being yourself and genuine, with time believe me absolutely anyone can turn to your side. Some of my best and most trusted friends were once my enemies. I mean that's just life really.

I'm stressed, but I'm not worried. I know I didn't do anything wrong. My mother always told me that " unjust don't prosper." I just know that when he gets here, things are going to spiral out of control.

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Ignore them....Walk around with a smile on your face, every time that you see them...Let them see you happy, and develope a thick skin, and let them behave like children...You have work to do...I was having the same problem with this younger Aries female, who for some reason, did not like me. She and her friend would stare, and at first, I was like what the hell? But now I get it. She was trying to get a reaction out of me, but instead, I smiled, looked pretty every day, and maintained a mature attitude...Do not stoop to their level..Walk with your head held high, exude confidence...I bet she is jealous of you.

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Posted by tiziani
When you are the only one telling the truth, people will come over to your side in time. Everyone can sense when they are lying to one another.


I am speaking from experience. Yes, I have been laughed at in the beginning like starlover said...

But you don't know the real reason why people hang around each other, it's not always because they're so solid. It's actually often out of fear. Until the so called "leader" is exposed as inconsistent and then they come to your side.

Again, speaking from experience. I'm only sharing this with you because it seems to be something stressing you out, like you're worried about what's to come. But as long as you stay focused on being yourself and genuine, with time believe me absolutely anyone can turn to your side. Some of my best and most trusted friends were once my enemies. I mean that's just life really.

I'm stressed, but I'm not worried. I know I didn't do anything wrong. My mother always told me that " unjust don't prosper." I just know that when he gets here, things are going to spiral out of control.

Ignore them....Walk around with a smile on your face, every time that you see them...Let them see you happy, and develope a thick skin, and let them behave like children...You have work to do...I was having the same problem with this younger Aries female, who for some reason, did not like me. She and her friend would stare, and at first, I was like what the hell? But now I get it. She was trying to get a reaction out of me, but instead, I smiled, looked pretty every day, and maintained a mature attitude...Do not stoop to their level..Walk with your head held high, exude confidence...I bet she is jealous of you.

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Posted by DMV
i saw find a new job and move on. This whole story seems stressful and redundant.

give everyone, exactly what they want. leave the situation.

But that's just it. I'm not doing anything. They're on me. I don't say anything to them or even go near them.

I think DMV was suggesting about removing yourself from this environment altogether 🙂

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Not going to happen.

Posted by tiziani
When you are the only one telling the truth, people will come over to your side in time. Everyone can sense when they are lying to one another.


I am speaking from experience. Yes, I have been laughed at in the beginning like starlover said...

But you don't know the real reason why people hang around each other, it's not always because they're so solid. It's actually often out of fear. Until the so called "leader" is exposed as inconsistent and then they come to your side.

Again, speaking from experience. I'm only sharing this with you because it seems to be something stressing you out, like you're worried about what's to come. But as long as you stay focused on being yourself and genuine, with time believe me absolutely anyone can turn to your side. Some of my best and most trusted friends were once my enemies. I mean that's just life really.

Tiz you're absolutely correct! The two so called friends that was in it, is suddenly trying to be nice to me. They don't even talk to the girl as much....at all. Her friend( the guy) was always the one asking me things about what was going on. Especially when it was about her. She would lie and tell him one thing and then behind his back it was another. For example, she would say how the guys were messing with her and chasing her, but it wasn't them it was her. Let's use common sense here, how can you say that someone keeps messing with you, but you gave them your number and FB(and you're in a relationship). So, her friend said, you're wrong. Then he saw it with his own eyes(he knew now that she was lying to him). Because after my ex friend left, she was was pushing up on another guy and was behaving the same way she acted with my ex friend. So, they know she's a liar.

the guy friend was on her side because he didn't know if I would say anything about him coming to me asking me questions. That's called being two faced. So, he was getting in it so he wouldn't be exposed. Her girl friend that was involved is her flunkie. She basically believes anything that she tells her.

Now, he is being nice and trying to speak and is always coming near me.

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Posted by DMV
i saw find a new job and move on. This whole story seems stressful and redundant.

give everyone, exactly what they want. leave the situation.

But that's just it. I'm not doing anything. They're on me. I don't say anything to them or even go near them.

I think DMV was suggesting about removing yourself from this environment altogether 🙂

Not going to happen.

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I think you like the drama. You feed off of it.

Eh, I like reading it. Carry on.

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i saw find a new job and move on. This whole story seems stressful and redundant.

give everyone, exactly what they want. leave the situation.

But that's just it. I'm not doing anything. They're on me. I don't say anything to them or even go near them.

I think DMV was suggesting about removing yourself from this environment altogether 🙂

Not going to happen.

I think you like the drama. You feed off of it.

Eh, I like reading it. Carry on.

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Actually, I dont. I hate negativity. I'm not a runner. I don't run away, from my problem, I face them. They're bringing it to me. I don't go to them.

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Posted by DMV
i saw find a new job and move on. This whole story seems stressful and redundant.

give everyone, exactly what they want. leave the situation.

But that's just it. I'm not doing anything. They're on me. I don't say anything to them or even go near them.

I think DMV was suggesting about removing yourself from this environment altogether 🙂

Not going to happen.

I think you like the drama. You feed off of it.

Eh, I like reading it. Carry on.

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Other than this, I live a peaceful life. Drama free. I have never went through anything like this in my entire life.

So, should I confront the aries guy? Him and this other dude is keeping it going. She passes by like she is on the phone and then laughs loud like she is trying to start shit. I'm at my breaking point. My friend mentioned her name. Her guy friend heard it and went back and told her.

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Posted by tiziani
When you are the only one telling the truth, people will come over to your side in time. Everyone can sense when they are lying to one another.


I am speaking from experience. Yes, I have been laughed at in the beginning like starlover said...

But you don't know the real reason why people hang around each other, it's not always because they're so solid. It's actually often out of fear. Until the so called "leader" is exposed as inconsistent and then they come to your side.

Again, speaking from experience. I'm only sharing this with you because it seems to be something stressing you out, like you're worried about what's to come. But as long as you stay focused on being yourself and genuine, with time believe me absolutely anyone can turn to your side. Some of my best and most trusted friends were once my enemies. I mean that's just life really.

I'm stressed, but I'm not worried. I know I didn't do anything wrong. My mother always told me that " unjust don't prosper." I just know that when he gets here, things are going to spiral out of control.

Ignore them....Walk around with a smile on your face, every time that you see them...Let them see you happy, and develope a thick skin, and let them behave like children...You have work to do...I was having the same problem with this younger Aries female, who for some reason, did not like me. She and her friend would stare, and at first, I was like what the hell? But now I get it. She was trying to get a reaction out of me, but instead, I smiled, looked pretty every day, and maintained a mature attitude...Do not stoop to their level..Walk with your head held high, exude confidence...I bet she is jealous of you.

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I think she is. Out of all the women that he's dealt with, I'm the one that she's after.