What do you find boring in a relationship

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Posted by Yochika23
I ve been reading post here in DXP since last year , And I am just wondering about the how intensified scorpios about their relationship and the super hot sex everyone is talkin about here , But I cant find it between two of us. We've been together for 2 years living together? But its not there ? Your insight will be so much helpful.




Young lady, As a Scorpio.... I would have to say, communication, tenderness and gentleness and thoughtfulness.
But don't come on too strong or things might get icky. Beware of nagging and bring up a conversation with
"I've been thinking...." will DEFINITELY get his attention and IF it is anything remotely hinting at sounding like
you want to go astray, you can crush him and the pain can be so unbearable, that it can wreak havoc on him.
So be forewarned.

Another thing is that, as a Scorpio male, speaking for myself, I am often thinking upon deep weighty matters
such as major things to come and how to address them.

Just try to imagine him singin' this song and feeling this way about you.

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Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
it sounds like you're the one who's bored.



I kinda thought that, myself.
IF she is the one who is bored, then, she might be able to find
things that can help expand her creativity. Plant a garden, learn to paint, get involved
in activities and discussions that he is interested in... that sort of thing.
IF she can do that, she might light the fire to make the steam she's searching for.
But she has to be patient and persistant.

A masterpiece takes time. It doesn't happen overnight.
And when it comes, she'll have all the great sex she can stand and then some.
That's when she will think that all her scorpio ever thinks about is sex.
She will do things with him she never dreamed of doing.


nevermind what I was about to say...

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Posted by BullGem
Posted by MrFirebird
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s

A masterpiece takes time. It doesn't happen overnight.




True...
I don't get why ppl expect this immediate, off the charts attraction...(it doesn't really matter if he's a scorp or not)
Plenty of people have worked at their relationship for years before finally finding their rhythm
In the grand scheme of this OP, 2 years is nothing
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Alright, I think your right ...
Maybe I am bored.

Or maybe just asking too much from him, As he was so different during our few months together.
I cant just speak to anyone else now, I have told him that he's the only one I got.

Since we got together, He possessed me.. I am no longer in touched with my friends bcause Were always together.
But I have no regret I still wanna be with him.
Times like this , When he's so distant I feel so alone.
So maybe I shld go back as to where I was before? Like doin things my way.
But Am afraid that may not be able to take care of him or have more time with him?
So sad.
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Posted by Yochika23
Posted by BullGem
Posted by MrFirebird
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s

A masterpiece takes time. It doesn't happen overnight.




True...
I don't get why ppl expect this immediate, off the charts attraction...(it doesn't really matter if he's a scorp or not)
Plenty of people have worked at their relationship for years before finally finding their rhythm
In the grand scheme of this OP, 2 years is nothing



Alright, I think your right ...
Maybe I am bored.

Or maybe just asking too much from him, As he was so different during our few months together.
I cant just speak to anyone else now, I have told him that he's the only one I got.

Since we got together, He possessed me.. I am no longer in touched with my friends bcause Were always together.
But I have no regret I still wanna be with him.
Times like this , When he's so distant I feel so alone.
So maybe I shld go back as to where I was before? Like doin things my way.
But Am afraid that may not be able to take care of him or have more time with him?
So sad.
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You need to handle that a bit carefully. "doin things your way" that is.
Don't let that distance lead you to automatically think you don't matter to him.
discuss things that he is interested in so you can open the door to disscuss what
kinds of activities the both of you could enjoy beyond sex. Follow his lead and be supportive.
Careful about male friends - females are generally ok, until you broach the subject of
two-girl-one-guy threesomes.. DMV and her "Crazy sag wimmin" thread have messed
me up this am... they are having an sex orgy in that thread.




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Posted by IntriguedScorp
How is your communication? Because if you are just about the sex and tend toward superficial conversation--I can see a scorp zoning out into the boring zone. Honestly, I think Scorp can be super boring after awhile in a superficial relationship.




Our communication is good so far, But being a scorp its really hard to get thru him, sometimes he wants you in , Sometimes he wants you out. God I love this guy!