What To DO...

I've posted on this board a while ago in regards to my current situation with a male scorpion. To summarize the story... he had a girlfriend, but was courting me like he didn't. And we nonetheless became very good friends, although I had to fight my sexual cravings for him from time to time. (Leading women on must have it's own chapter somewhere in the Scorpio men's handbook.)
Anywayz, ...he and his girlfriend just broke up a few days ago, and of course, I came over to his house because he called me and wanted me to come over so we could talk.
Naturally, I played the concerned friend role and let my ears soak up
his sob story like a sponge. Apparently, she needed the space. She
wanted to find herself. He still has major attachment, but let her go
without a fight this time. She was in tears when he left her house.
He now feels "lonely" without her... yada yada yada.
I mean, don't get me wrong, I AM a concerned friend, but I really
don't give these two more than a week before they start seeing
eachother again. They've broken up before, and he swears that this
time is different, but I just can't take either of them seriously.
And as much as the devil in me wants to take advantage of the
situation, and take his mind off of her COMPLETELY (one of these
nights,) I just don't even feel like wasting my time with him. It's
as if, there's no point. I refuse to serve as an intermission or
back-up plan for him every time things go sour with his girl friend.
And even IF he were to completely get over her, and start to pursue
me, I'm really not trying to follow in their rocky-ass, hot and cold,
break-up-to-make-up, relationship's footsteps. I don't want to have
to start getting jealous or concerned when he starts hanging out in
excessive amounts of time with other girls. I don't want to have to
worry about the "next best thing" coming in and stealing his heart
and precious time from me. I don't need an emotional work out. I
don't need my heart broken when he decides he really wants his
girlfriend back, or that I'm just another conquered challenge or
something.
I don't know. I don't know what's going to happen. I hope above all
else that we just stay friends no matter what. Tell me if you think
I'm making something out of nothing. What should I do? I DO want him,
but then I really don't. I want to kiss him and feel the true warmth
of him, but I don't want the heartache that will inevitably come
along with it. We went out dancing last night, and we danced to a
slow song (which we usually don't do,) and he held me close. I mean,
closer than "just friends" should get, and I couldn't help but think
to myself, "Damn, this feels so good, but wait... Is he pretending
I'm her right now—?"
I know, this was pretty lengthy, and I do apologize for that,
but I got some advice from another board to start sharing and talking about what stresses me instead of keeping it pent up all the time. (I suffer from insomnia and spontaneous astro-projectional pulls that scare the sh*t out of me at night.) And I'm coming to find that this really is helping me, so I would really appreciate your thoughts, feelings, concerns, etc.
on this issue.

Thanks,
J

(and if you're reading this Seagoat, yes I did copy and paste alot of this from my email.)
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i have been in your situation of being a bestfriend and waiting to see for themselves that you could be a better half for them.

all i could say is that if you want complications right now, then make your move. but your move might only be in vain because of the fact that it is too soon for you to make such moves. he seems to love this girl because he is challenged by her. and from what i feel and know, scorps like to run after the cheeze when the cheeze is in a ferrari running at 100mph. its somewhat unattainable don't you think?

plus, you could end up just another victim of a rebound romance. momentary bliss is what i sometimes call it. you will end up in a heartbreak.

wait till he realizes that you are an even better catch... make him come to you, make him make the move after he realizes what you trully are. after he has recouperated from a relationship he once had.

i guess what im trying to say is that don't rush, because you will just waste your time trying to.

Thanks i-sun,

Very helpful. I completly agree and keeping my distance IS what I have been doing this past week, although I am starting to miss his company. I feel like now there's this possibility, we're both kind of avoiding spending so much time with eachother in fear of what might happen. Well, that's why I'M avoiding him at least. I guess we'll just give it time and see what happens, huh?
Thanks again.

Great just great. Now I have an intense craving for cheeze. Cheeze!

Damn you I-sun and your complicated metaphors!!!! :-)

Who MOVED the cheese?

Smells like a Mouse Trap to me!!!!!!!

Run girls!!!!!!

Love,
Speedy haha!

i said cheeze because i was eating a cheese burger... whatever popped in my head.

lol

Don't make me hungry...! Yes 63, it sounds as if he's on the rebound. You have sound advice from the board. If you really want something then you have to wait. Ironic but you cant make a scorp do something they dont want to do.

You need to love yourself first. Dont put your self respect in his hands.

Good luck.

Dear J

I can see what you are saying. And it's clear to me that you're instincts tell you No, don't go after him. (don't fall inlove with him)And you should listen to them. I can also see that you are attracted to him and have thought about going further. You don't want to get hurt. But you really can do both. It doesn't sound like you love him, and it would be easy to have some "fun", and after that now that you know you had him you can move on,(cold and satisfied) and who knows if you back out after, he might find you as a challenge and decide to pursue you. You need to be in control of the situation not him, not to get hurt and to get him interested. And you can't get attached to him after if anything happens because you will loose your plan, and the control. His girlfriend is in control because she broke it off ,see. Now you think he's going after her, so if you're in control he might go after you. Don't take me wrong, I'm not asking you to be easy, but I just think you can have this guy, and if it won't go the way you wished you aren't emotionally hurt and stuck on him. No loss. Life is much to short not to go after what u want. That's what I think you should Do.