What's the quickest way to lose your heart Scorpios? And can you forgive?

For me it;s cheating, lying or making me feel unwanted or shunted aside.

I always WANT to forgive, but generally, once lost my heart can't be won back

Lying. Not being honest and not communicating. I wanna hear the truth no matter how ugly it is rather than pretending everything is okay.

I never forget anything. I do my best to keep myself at peace. Forgiveness takes time but I do it for my sake.

Aww, love you scorpios ˜

Posted by Ellycakes
I can forgive anything just about really. Except emotional exclusion.

I can't forgive someone who won't let me into their heart when I've done everything possible to show them I'll take damn good care of it.

That's an interesting statement given what is at play here.

Do you not believe that you----as the owner of said heart--- have the right to let someone in your heart if you choose to do so vs just because someone claimed they would take care of it? How is that an unforgivable offense when the person hasn't offended you, but simply made a choice they are allowed to make.

*just pondering out loud*

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Posted by Ellycakes
I can forgive anything just about really. Except emotional exclusion.

I can't forgive someone who won't let me into their heart when I've done everything possible to show them I'll take damn good care of it.

That's an interesting statement given what is at play here.

Do you not believe that you----as the owner of said heart--- have the right to let someone in your heart if you choose to do so vs just because someone claimed they would take care of it? How is that an unforgivable offense when the person hasn't offended you, but simply made a choice they are allowed to make.

*just pondering out loud*

Speaking under the context that we are already in a relationship. It's not an offense otherwise.

But to give yourself to me, then take it away and deny me explanation, reason or benefit of the doubt? That does offend me. Deeply. I can't stand coldness. That's an emotional betrayal, to say I was trustworthy, then vanish.

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Ah. Fully understood. The way you wrote this makes me want to hug you. Not because you need it, but because I can relate. It does hurt deeply.

A person that has my heart would never lose it. They were a part of my experience, everything that makes me who I am now. With that stated, I can forgive anything, but forgiveness doesn't mean I'll still f*ck with you like I once did. Just because I've learned to longer touch the stove that burned me doesn't mean I haven't forgiven the stove.

For me it is more a matter of losing my trust, but my heart. If I don't trust you, you no longer have a seat at the table.

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Posted by Ellycakes

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by Ellycakes
I can forgive anything just about really. Except emotional exclusion.

I can't forgive someone who won't let me into their heart when I've done everything possible to show them I'll take damn good care of it.

That's an interesting statement given what is at play here.

Do you not believe that you----as the owner of said heart--- have the right to let someone in your heart if you choose to do so vs just because someone claimed they would take care of it? How is that an unforgivable offense when the person hasn't offended you, but simply made a choice they are allowed to make.

*just pondering out loud*

Speaking under the context that we are already in a relationship. It's not an offense otherwise.

But to give yourself to me, then take it away and deny me explanation, reason or benefit of the doubt? That does offend me. Deeply. I can't stand coldness. That's an emotional betrayal, to say I was trustworthy, then vanish.

Ah. Fully understood. The way you wrote this makes me want to hug you. Not because you need it, but because I can relate. It does hurt deeply.

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Ah, i identify so much with this. I agree actually for me, this is probably the behaviour that wounds me the most deeply psychologically. Very painful..

Posted by PhoenixRising
A person that has my heart would never lose it. They were a part of my experience, everything that makes me who I am now. With that stated, I can forgive anything, but forgiveness doesn't mean I'll still f*ck with you like I once did. Just because I've learned to longer touch the stove that burned me doesn't mean I haven't forgiven the stove.

For me it is more a matter of losing my trust, but my heart. If I don't trust you, you no longer have a seat at the table.

Ahh, so glad I asked this question just for this answer.

I find it hard to understand myself sometimes, but you have put it perfectly.

I think also, my heart, once given, is very hard to take back - maybe I never take it back but eventually, eventually they lose their seat at the table.

I am really, really careful about who I give my heart to. in those early stages - behaviour like lying, cheating, generally being a "not good" human will be a huge turn off to me and I will never grow that attachment. But from that moment I look at a man and think "ah yes, I love you", then from then on i see the best of them, support from hell to highwater and I never truly take my heart back.