Who had to deal with this...

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First, I want to say that I am a fan of everyone here. I've been stalking this site for months trying to figure out a few things out on my own about my relationship with this scorpio guy, but I just ended up being even more confused! I'm not going to write a novel..cause that's annoying so I'll just ask you guys this... This Scorpio guy that goes to my church is always staring at me. We've known each other for a while and We dated for a few months but I ended up dropping him because he didn't know how to have a proper relationship with me. We live in a small town so I would sometimes see him at a coffee shop, he would try to say hi to me or hug me but I just ignore him. His favorite thing to do is sit facing me so that he can stare at me without anyone figuring out what he's doing, he's been doing that for years. I had no problem telling him how I felt but he absolutely would not tell me how he feels. So I dropped him. I don't know why but I feel like we are not over. He's one of those scorpios that you absolutly can't read. So any insight on what he's up to? I'm too close to this issue that I am blind to realize what's really going on. I'm usually very intuitive and smart about things like this 😢
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Posted by mintberry
First, I want to say that I am a fan of everyone here. I've been stalking this site for months trying to figure out a few things out on my own about my relationship with this scorpio guy, but I just ended up being even more confused! I'm not going to write a novel..cause that's annoying so I'll just ask you guys this... This Scorpio guy that goes to my church is always staring at me. We've known each other for a while and We dated for a few months but I ended up dropping him because he didn't know how to have a proper relationship with me. We live in a small town so I would sometimes see him at a coffee shop, he would try to say hi to me or hug me but I just ignore him. His favorite thing to do is sit facing me so that he can stare at me without anyone figuring out what he's doing, he's been doing that for years. I had no problem telling him how I felt but he absolutely would not tell me how he feels. So I dropped him. I don't know why but I feel like we are not over. He's one of those scorpios that you absolutly can't read. So any insight on what he's up to? I'm too close to this issue that I am blind to realize what's really going on. I'm usually very intuitive and smart about things like this 😢


Your father was a gerbil and you smell of elderberry!!

*chuckles*

Yeah that's a good way to get Scorpios to trust you....flattery.

😛
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Posted by mintberry
We dated for a few months but I ended up dropping him because he didn't know how to have a proper relationship with me.

We live in a small town so I would sometimes see him at a coffee shop, he would try to say hi to me or hug me but I just ignore him...

I had no problem telling him how I felt but he absolutely would not tell me how he feels. So I dropped him.



His feelings might still be the same, but the over-all situation and dynamic isn't.
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*Your mother was a hamster, and your father smelled of elderberries.*


If you're going to quote Monty Python, quote properly.

SMH


Don't tell me how to fix an insult. You're not the boss if me!



Now go away, or I shall taunt you a second time!



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I'm Scottish.

Half Scottish anyways.
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That wasn't in the script. script ADULTERER!!
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LOL. I'm sorry Iammystafied... I would never do that. I would rather suffer in not knowing than flat out tell him and I will tell you why, jeannegrey this will answer your question.

Many many times I would go out of my way to do nice things for him, a few years ago I actually went out of my way to show him how I felt, I didn't flat out say I like you of course but he knows. Scorpios are really smart, I am pretty sure that he knows how I feel about him. My only problem is that he would rather sit there and stare at m, play the whole mind game thing then be with me, that's what I don't understand. I've also noticed about scorpio's that you really can't get them to talk if they don't want to, it's not going to happen, I tried many times to get him to open up but had no success. I am starting to think that he enjoys the drama of not knowing what's going to happen to us then to actually have a stable relationship. I'm 19 years old and he's 24. Btw, he has a Taurus moon.
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"This Scorpio guy that goes to my church is always staring at me. We've known each other for a while and We dated for a few months but I ended up dropping him because he didn't know how to have a proper relationship with me."

"I would sometimes see him at a coffee shop, he would try to say hi to me or hug me but I just ignore him."

"I had no problem telling him how I felt but he absolutely would not tell me how he feels. So I dropped him.

"of course I want this!"

"I didn't flat out say I like you of course but he knows."

"I am pretty sure that he knows how I feel about him."

smh...you dropped him and you ignore him. He definitely knows how you feel about him by the above actions. If anyone treated me this way because I didn't answer to the demands early in the game on how I felt, they wouldn't have a second chance in hell. I believe he is enjoying watching you squirm.
Realistically he should just pretend you're not there. But you kids are young and thrive in this shit.
Enjoy.
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One if two things going on here. Possibly.

1) He finds it fun to watch you. By fun I mean he's reading your every move, eye tick, uncomfortable moment. It gives him pleasure. But he's unsure about you. He's making up his mind ... Which leads me to number two.

2) he's unsure or undecided. Could be that he sees something that makes him go " hmm?" And he's observing how you react to certain situations. Or he's fascinated and has built you up in his mind and now even the thought of asking you out *feels* semi like a commitment to him. Scorps don't take this romance thing lightly. Lol. However that Taurus moon might be he's got a woman or two in the running. You know?

Maybe he's interviewing you scorp- style for Ms number one spot. I think if he was really forward it could indicate more superficial leanings. Could be wrong. But his behavior indicates he's one of those observational, let me draw you in types.

With all this in mind. Do what mistified says and blow his mind. Lol. Get him out of his mind and up the ante. 😄





That's so funny how you say that because I've always had that feeling that he actually enjoyed it :/ I have to be honest, I do have a bit of a strong personality, but I thought Scorpios liked that lol Is being unsure about me a good or bad sign in the scorpio world? lol






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"This Scorpio guy that goes to my church is always staring at me. We've known each other for a while and We dated for a few months but I ended up dropping him because he didn't know how to have a proper relationship with me."

"I would sometimes see him at a coffee shop, he would try to say hi to me or hug me but I just ignore him."

"I had no problem telling him how I felt but he absolutely would not tell me how he feels. So I dropped him.

"of course I want this!"

"I didn't flat out say I like you of course but he knows."

"I am pretty sure that he knows how I feel about him."

smh...you dropped him and you ignore him. He definitely knows how you feel about him by the above actions. If anyone treated me this way because I didn't answer to the demands early in the game on how I felt, they wouldn't have a second chance in hell. I believe he is enjoying watching you squirm.
Realistically he should just pretend you're not there. But you kids are young and thrive in this shit.
Enjoy.



I love how you just made up an entirely different story line lol and no...I didn't just drop him and ignore him...not right away at least. There are many many little details that have happened along the way that lead to this, I was just giving you a short overview of how things are right now, I can tell you the long version but that will take days, because with him nothing is simply, and you made it sound like it was all simple (because of this, that happened). I started to ignore him after I realized that giving him lots of love, attention, reassurance, control, more control did not get me far with him. Up until last year, even after I would get burned by him, I would still treat him with respect and talk to him even though i was hurting inside. I acted like everything was fine because that's the way he was acting. I was completely disrespecting myself by letting him do whatever he wanted and I saw that, that didn't work, so I switched it up, now he gets the cold shoulder. But even through all that I still feel his energy when were in the same place, hope that doesn't sound weird, he doesn't come up to me anymore, now all he does is stare, from far away in silence.
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Posted by mintberry
First, I want to say that I am a fan of everyone here. I've been stalking this site for months trying to figure out a few things out on my own about my relationship with this scorpio guy, but I just ended up being even more confused! I'm not going to write a novel..cause that's annoying so I'll just ask you guys this... This Scorpio guy that goes to my church is always staring at me. We've known each other for a while and We dated for a few months but I ended up dropping him because he didn't know how to have a proper relationship with me. We live in a small town so I would sometimes see him at a coffee shop, he would try to say hi to me or hug me but I just ignore him. His favorite thing to do is sit facing me so that he can stare at me without anyone figuring out what he's doing, he's been doing that for years. I had no problem telling him how I felt but he absolutely would not tell me how he feels. So I dropped him. I don't know why but I feel like we are not over. He's one of those scorpios that you absolutly can't read. So any insight on what he's up to? I'm too close to this issue that I am blind to realize what's really going on. I'm usually very intuitive and smart about things like this 😢



Some scorpios dare very reluctant to show their feelings, but when one stares at you it usually means you fascinate them, in other words he probably likes you. Keep trying to open him up.
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Posted by mintberry

I love how you just made up an entirely different story line lol and no...I didn't just drop him and ignore him...not right away at least. There are many many little details that have happened along the way that lead to this, I was just giving you a short overview of how things are right now, I can tell you the long version but that will take days, because with him nothing is simply, and you made it sound like it was all simple (because of this, that happened). I started to ignore him after I realized that giving him lots of love, attention, reassurance, control, more control did not get me far with him. Up until last year, even after I would get burned by him, I would still treat him with respect and talk to him even though i was hurting inside. I acted like everything was fine because that's the way he was acting. I was completely disrespecting myself by letting him do whatever he wanted and I saw that, that didn't work, so I switched it up, now he gets the cold shoulder. But even through all that I still feel his energy when were in the same place, hope that doesn't sound weird, he doesn't come up to me anymore, now all he does is stare, from far away in silence.



Interesting response. My response was based on your words I quoted. (word for word) With that said and the words you used in this response accusing me of making up a different story doesn't jive. I'm just reading and responding. Perhaps it's not what you want to hear. (could care less about that) Below is another direct quote from you:

Posted by mintberry

We dated for a few months but I ended up dropping him because he didn't know how to have a proper relationship with me.



You only dated this guy for a "few months" how many dates would that be? You also state below you've known him a few years but never let him know how you felt. (I take it 3 years ago you were what? 16?)

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Many many times I would go out of my way to do nice things for him, a few years ago I actually went out of my way to show him how I felt, I didn't flat out say I like you of course but he knows.
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So all these years crushing on this guy amounts to just dating him for three months. You are frustrated because he's not sharing the same feelings you've harbored for three years and demand that he does. Doesn't work like that hun. Why not chill, sit back and let him be the man and stop worrying about what you have with him especially after you dumped him. You have nothing, but a stare at the moment. Change that attitude of yours, and should he consider taking you back, allow him to go at his own pace. Forcing it doesn't work. You found that out. If you don't like his pace...find another man who will cater to your demands. This guy won't. Good luck.
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Posted by LetltB
...and one other thing, stop ASSUMING he can read your mind...and the "he knows" crap.

That's a big mistake females make with men. COMMUNICATION is key.




+1

What makes it worse is when the females go globetrotting around the world, asking everyone and their mother about the man of their interest and they have no clue about the guy and still give some answer based on some guess and that guess is taken as gospel that you can take to the bank.

DIRECT Communication IS key.




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...and one other thing, stop ASSUMING he can read your mind...and the "he knows" crap.





This!

Or worse-- the "he SHOULD know" crap.



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Men and women need to stop that. I've seen both do it. "of course you should know I love you. It's obvious.".....IF someone is uncertain it MIGHT be because it's not obvious. COMMUNICATE, people. Use your words.
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Posted by LetltB
So all these years crushing on this guy amounts to just dating him for three months. You are frustrated because he's not sharing the same feelings you've harbored for three years and demand that he does. Doesn't work like that hun. Why not chill, sit back and let him be the man and stop worrying about what you have with him especially after you dumped him. You have nothing, but a stare at the moment. Change that attitude of yours, and should he consider taking you back, allow him to go at his own pace. Forcing it doesn't work. You found that out. If you don't like his pace...find another man who will cater to your demands. This guy won't. Good luck.




YEAAA..After all these long looong years of "crushing" got me three months of dating with the Scorpio and now I'm on the verge of dying because he's not paying attention to me lol

PLEASE STOP RIGHT THERE

You obviously don't know what your talking about. I'm not pacing back and forth like a sociopath trying to plot a way to force him to commit.. I was simply asking why he would rather stare at me than talk to me.
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Posted by LetltB
So all these years crushing on this guy amounts to just dating him for three months. You are frustrated because he's not sharing the same feelings you've harbored for three years and demand that he does. Doesn't work like that hun. Why not chill, sit back and let him be the man and stop worrying about what you have with him especially after you dumped him. You have nothing, but a stare at the moment. Change that attitude of yours, and should he consider taking you back, allow him to go at his own pace. Forcing it doesn't work. You found that out. If you don't like his pace...find another man who will cater to your demands. This guy won't. Good luck.



And Thank you very much for responding. I believe that people grow due to other peoples difference in perspective. With that said, you have formulated an answer based on snipts of information even though I stated in my previous post that my story was very brief and missing lots of vital information. If you would have just answered my initial question then I would have understood but you went on building an answer based on different quotes and completely making it about something totally different.
"This Scorpio guy that goes to my church and I , dated for a few months and then I dropped him" is not the entire story lol


I'm not delusional and I'm not in denial about anything. Go play your psychological games with someone else. I take things for what they are. And you really need to switch up your answers.
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Posted by DonAmanMarat
You're a fuckin idiot, and you don't even see it.

Lol.


You ignore the dude's greetings at first (AS RUDE CUNT THAT YOU ARE!), and now you want him to TALK WITH YOU?
LMAO.
Sorry, but some of us DO have some self-respect.





Listen faggot, the fact that you even used the word cunt and respect in the same sentence and still held yourself at a higher ranking is LAUGHABLE!! **Sorry, but some of us DO have some self respect** BAHAHAHA (My friends and I are crying real tears making fun of you!)

It is evident now that you lack not only respect but any sort of knowledge about anything??_so please do not continue to give me or anyone for that matter any advice! LOL! So why don't you take your ugly red neck trailer trash infected gums and get the fuck out of here or better yet, since you love astrology do something useful in this world, like drown yourself in the bath tub (Oh, I'm sorry, trailer parks don't have bathtubs LOL)
Don't just borrow your neighbors wifi so you can plant your big fat ass in front of the screen talking shit like the coward that you are, go do something useful??_like school??_you are in need of some education because uneducated losers like you are good for nothing other than talking shit to a 19 year old.

Every word you typed in this tread is stupider than the other and you have the audacity to call me Aan IDIOT? YOU ARE FOR SURE RETARDED!!? AND MENTALLY CHALLENGED TO ROAM FREELY IN SOCIETY! lmfaooo!

I can log off and be fine but I don't even know you and I KNOW 100% you will NEVER get far in life with that nasty ass attitude. The problem is always you. You are worthless.

Stop laying around like the fucking loser that you and stop wasting your time responding to people who don't give a fuck about you and go get a life. When you do something important in life THEN you can lay your fat ass and pretend like you are of any importance around here.

I wasn't being rude before but now I am

**SPIT IN YOUR FACE**
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I love how you go around telling people that they are digging themselves a hole when the problem is you. Life must be a breeze for you. Being oblivous of the way you talk and behave is not cute, it's mandatory that you have some sort of self awareness.You sound completely ridiculous. Not to mention, the way you talk to women is disgusting. Quietly go away and stop embarrassing yourself any further.
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Posted by mintberry
Posted by DonAmanMarat
You're a fuckin idiot, and you don't even see it.

Lol.


You ignore the dude's greetings at first (AS RUDE CUNT THAT YOU ARE!), and now you want him to TALK WITH YOU?
LMAO.
Sorry, but some of us DO have some self-respect.





Listen faggot, the fact that you even used the word cunt and respect in the same sentence and still held yourself at a higher ranking is LAUGHABLE!! **Sorry, but some of us DO have some self respect** BAHAHAHA (My friends and I are crying real tears making fun of you!)

It is evident now that you lack not only respect but any sort of knowledge about anything??_so please do not continue to give me or anyone for that matter any advice! LOL! So why don't you take your ugly red neck trailer trash infected gums and get the fuck out of here or better yet, since you love astrology do something useful in this world, like drown yourself in the bath tub (Oh, I'm sorry, trailer parks don't have bathtubs LOL)
Don't just borrow your neighbors wifi so you can plant your big fat ass in front of the screen talking shit like the coward that you are, go do something useful??_like school??_you are in need of some education because uneducated losers like you are good for nothing other than talking shit to a 19 year old.

Every word you typed in this tread is stupider than the other and you have the audacity to call me Aan IDIOT? YOU ARE FOR SURE RETARDED!!? AND MENTALLY CHALLENGED TO ROAM FREELY IN SOCIETY! lmfaooo!

I can log off and be fine but I don't even know you and I KNOW 100% you will NEVER get far in life with that nasty ass attitude. The problem is always you. You are worthless.

Stop laying around like the fucking loser that you and stop wasting your time responding to people who don't give a fuck about you and go get a life. When you do something important in life THEN you can lay your fat ass and pretend like you are of any importance around here.

I wasn't being rude before but now I am

**SPIT IN YOUR FACE**
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Five full paragraphs says otherwise.
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mintberry
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Posted by DonAmanMarat
Delusional. COMPLETE DELUSIONS!

You just crave drama, and somehow this Scorp fits the piece.

You want NOTHING to do with the guy.
Just have him approach, so you can put him on blast.
Embarrass him in front of this ENTIRE church!
This is your revenge strategy, over some so-called "past events."
Clever, but DISGUSTING!

You Caps are ALL too good with these kinda things.




Why am I a drama queen? I would never advise any woman to keep quiet when insults are being thrown at her! I am all about justice served. Anyway... actually like him a lot, more than a lot, and I shouldn't be feeling this way considering the way he's been treating me. I only started to ignore him recently because being civil and friendly with him wasn't getting me anywhere. He knew that no matter what he did to me I would still be there waiting for him, after a while I got fed up and decided he shouldn't feel comfortable anymore. The first time I ignored him he was hurt, angry, distraught and I wish I didn't do that nor did I want to do it but he turned into stone. He's one of those scorpios that you absolutely cannot read. I'm not sure why you are defending him, do you really think that him keeping me in the dark is right?
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Ok Ill give it to you-you dumped him. Scorps don't pursue when not wanted. You want back you have to make the move. Advantage you are a sag-sags are BLASTS, funny light hearted, and loosen up a constipated scorp. If he sits and stares-sit right in front of him stare back 0 crack a smile- and tell him how cute he is when he stares and how you think of that stare all the time and regret losing it and WALK AWAY.Hell chase or call.