Why do Scorpio males get so angry when found out o

Is this any male thing or a Scorpio male thing?

Hmm...found out about what exactly?

myoho26:

My guess would be that since scorpios are so secretive and private, any time we're "found out", we're not too happy about that. Male or female. Because even if our secrets seem silly to other people, to us they are our whole world oftentimes...so we work pretty hard to keep things from getting out that we feel strongly about protecting for whatever reason.

Hope this helps 🙂

To Scorp Guy: Found out about his infidelity. What else do you think?

p.s.

anger is one of those emotions that seem easier for us scorps to express rather than expressing a "softer" emotion that would show our vulnerablity. So even though he may react in anger, he is probably angry because he feels vulnerable to you in some way, maybe he fears you leaving him, or he fears you trying to hurt him back.

More than likely, your Scorp guy, if that's who you're talking about, is angry in the way you approached him, not necessarily the subject being discussed. I get really defensive when a person comes at me the wrong way (mean or accusing toe). I'm hard-headed, so even though I may be wrong about cheating on someone, I'll never say "I admit that I was wrong" because I wouldn't have cheated if my current relationship was satisfying.

*tone, not toe. DXP needs spell check

My brother is like this!

Really Sloane? Tell me more about him, you've got my curiosity going.. 🙂

Welllll....if you wanna see some intensity, go and meet my brother--the quintisential male Scorpio. What ever you do though--DON'T PISS HIM OFF. Okay, I will admit that I have so a few times but he really gets hot under the collar for no good reason--he's all about uproar and it must be raising his blood pressure. He's a bit of a whiner and a baby too. He's a grown man--38. He can be selfish and domineering, ego-tistical but, I tell you one great thing he has going which most scorps do--he has a really good sense of humour.

Hey, sounds like me almost (not so domineering). 🙂 The worst thing is to meet a Scorpio with no sense of humor. They're a pain to be around.

Yeahh, I may have been with a couple of those types but generally I think most scorps can be pretty hilarious.

interesting simplyme because I think that pisces do that all the time (probebly why I don't get along with any of them but myself). Maybe it's a water sign thing.

Yeah, I had two female scorp bosses in the past four years that were exactly like this and I recognize it. First of all, I'm glad to think that some scorps have a code of social ethics--everyone should. Once in a while--particularly in the workplace--some co-worker might step out of line by acting like a fool or putting thier foot in thier mouth--we all know this scenerio, right? But on the other hand--we all can't be perfect human beings. You can't expect behavior from everyone you know that is similar to the Queen of England's for Pete's sake. With my last two bosses--I really wanted to say to them: "lighten up".

I don't know if "embarrassed" is the right word, I would probably say, "judgemental", "critical", "put off", that sorta thing. Yes, many scorpios do act that way when someone else's behavior does not please them. I try not to be like that, because I think it's rather ridiculous. Plus, I don't really want other people judging me, so I don't want to give them the right to by judging them. However, there are times when I get very critical of a person in my head, I just don't show it outwardly. I think..."I can't stand the way you're acting" or "what an idiot" lol. But I promise it's not to an extreme and it isn't unreasonable...they always deserve it.

sloane, i had a male scorpio boss once, and he was really cool, if anything he didn't criticize me enough so that I would know what he thought of my work. I think male and female scorpios are very different...here's hoping you sometime get a male scorpio boss! lol. Of course, it wasn't difficult working for mine...he was a model/male bodybuilder...and I'm not kidding at all. lol. But I was way too young and he was married and I would NEVER mix work and...well, other stuff. 😛

Yes Phoenix, you're right, they are different. As for my next boss--hell, after working with nothing but women after 7 years straight--I'll take any male boss!

LOL, there you go

I will say that it was much easier with him then when his wife would be there supervising me. I think men are more straightforward and simple about what they expect (though, women are more compassionate and sympathetic). I never felt like I didn't know what was expected of me under him. Under his wife, I kinda felt like she was emotionally unstable and would get *mad* at me if I made a mistake. The male scorpio was way better. lol. He was just like, this is what needs to be focused on today and the rest can be on the backburner. That kind of thing. I actually still see them both, often. I still get along better with him than with her (I don't know her sign, but I would take a guess and say Aries or possibly Sagittarius).

Hey, scorp guy, if a relationship isn't going well, why don't you just break up? Why cheat?

Well, cheating is just my quick fix. If I know I don't want anything serious with someone anymore because of something they did, I'll keep the current person until something better comes along. As a-s-s-h-o-l-e like as that sounds, it's the truth. I like being with someone. I enjoy the cuddling and affectionate little things in a relationship, so I still want that, which is why I'd keep the person until I found someone better.

Hey, i really respect your honesty, thanks! Lucky im not some hot chic over in the UK vying for your attention huh!

Hmm...that comment has my mind working overtime. Did you perhaps see my post at cainer.com's forum? I remember there was a woman looking for a guy with Mars in Virgo.

Phoenix--I know that scenarios sooooo well! Been there. Maybe his wife is a Virgo? That would be my guss--bu then--one can never tell.

Scorp guy, I was a little put off by your last posting. It makes you sound promiscuous.

Sorry about the typos folks.

scorpguy... the one major problem with your logic is how do you expect to find a decent girl to be interested in you if she already knows you're with someone?

To sloane -- It's unfortunate if you were put off by my honesty, but hey, it's the truth. How many people do you know that would honestly say something like that? Anyway, it's not like I go around screwing whoever I have attractions towards, with 7 lovers and 1 partner. I'm just always looking for the next best thing if I realize early on the relationship isn't what I expected. I'm not settling for second best.

To Gwendylyn -- no looking for girls for me, lol. Anyway, there are lots of guys in the city, everyone doesn't know everyone, and I'll break up with someone I'm with if I find someone better.

Yeah but scorp guy--don't you ever take into consideration the feelings of the person you're with when you DO find someone else? It just sounds so downright selfish. And even if you are with someone that you feel you might be leaving--then why bother with them in the first place?

Of course I take into consideration their feelings. However, they must have done something that has messed up the trust in the relationship for me to start looking for someone else.

The perfect example, my last relationship, my partner accused me of not caring enough for him, which was completely ridiculous. I was over at his place everyday, we were always doing things together. When he was sick I came over everyday for a month and took care of him, sat there with him to watch tv because he didn't have enough energy to go out. I brought him medicine, walked 1.5 miles in the freezing cold (Chicago weather) while it was snowing because he wanted McDonalds, and was very affectionate. And to show his appreciation? No thank you, nothing to show appreciation, just another demand and complaint. I put my all in a relationship because I really care about the person, and when I'm not being given as much as I give in a relationship, it really disappoints me. Therefore, I give them a taste of their own medicine and then some.

Perhaps my last few postings made it seem like I'm some malicious person that crushes a person just because I'm bored, but that's not the case.

I am probably going to get grief for this, but in my opinion, Scorpios (mainly the men) seem to attract mates that need to be nurtured, taken care of or helped out in some way. I've seen it many times with the Scorps I know, but what they don't seem to realize is that when their mates or love interests "get better" or bounce back, the Scorps seem to be mad, like they don't need them anymore.

I don't think that all people who cheat are scum just because they cheated. It happens in something like 78 percent of all relationships. I think it's less of a scum thing (though sometimes it most definitely IS) than a sign of weakness at that moment that the cheating occurs. A sign of vulnerability. No, it isn't nice, but humans are sometimes weak creatures who act for the wrong reasons.

Aprilbaby, you're calling me scum? You sure as hell don't know me well enough to be saying something like that.

If my significant other cheated on me because I was being a total b*tch towards him, then I'd see his reason, get over it, and find someone else.

Oh, and if I wanted to hear about how cheating is wrong, I'd go to church, so you can save the preaching.

Well, scorp guy, first of all, i am sorry, i thought you were straight! Lol!

I appreciate your honesty but it seems as soon as someone is 'tainted', you move on without question or compromise. I don't know how old you are but as you get older you realise 'nice' people don't grow on trees... The scenario you are describing with your last ex wouldn't really warrant a break-up from me, i would reassure him/her if i thought he/she was insecure. You seem angry about it for some reason. Maybe you are angry at yourself for putting out so much for him...? I don't know but if you are angry, it is hard to find love, believe me...

PS. Im not sure what you mean about the virgo in venus thing. I have never been to cainer.com *shrugs...

Remember a relationship is not about being a slave for someone.

Well, its been an interesting topic anyway. I think you and everyone else has every right to find the right one, why should you settle for second best, no way but be careful who you hurt in the process. Don't do it with a hurtful motive, you will only succeed in alienating yourself and creating bad karma for yourself. Thanks for confirming what i already think about finding the right 'one' 🙂

Scorpguy,
Do you tell all these people BEFORE you get involved with them that this is how it is??

"Oh, and if I wanted to hear about how cheating is wrong, I'd go to church, so you can save the preaching"

What exactly is it you want to hear, what did you expect, a fan club?? Sounds like you are looking for permission to justify your behavior. What your doing is nothing to be proud about. I dont think you are going to find a support group with that kind of attitude. NOBODY like being used. Do You?

Scorp guy---no offense but your comment made me think of something that annoying Irish actor Colin Farrel once said in Vanity Fair last month that went something like: " I try to f*** every girl I can get" " " " etc. I just can't respect a man that has that mentality--cuz what it comes down to really, is the sex. Nor can I respect a man that goes from one lover to the other no matter how hard I try.

Libragirl - I am pretty angry, not because of how much I put into the relationship, but because I found out he was cheating on me a week after he told me he wanted to become serious and we agreed to be "serious." There are a lot of things I left out of my story of my ex because it would take a page to type it all. Anyway, when I caught him cheating and asked him why he did it, he denied it, even though I caught him red-handed. Then he had the nerve to try to make me the bad guy and as usual make himself the victim in it all (Leo).

Oh, and your comment about the hot chick in the UK is funny because at Cainer.com's forum there was a woman looking for a guy with Mars in Virgo, etc, so I thought you might've seen my conversation with her there, lol. 🙂

Soshy -- I was replying to what Aprilbaby said, since she took it upon herself to try and school me that cheating is wrong. I gave my opinion on something because libragirl asked me a question of if a relationship isn't going well, why cheat. I'm not coming here just to brag about what I do and have people admire me, that's ridiculous. And do I tell the person I'm about to get involved with how it is? I tell them to be honest with me, and that we have to treat each other like equals in the relationship. So if they purposely do something that messes up the balance (ie lying and cheating), anything goes.

When I said I'm looking for something else if I realize the relationship isn't working, it has be to big for me start looking again (i.e. cheating, etc). When I find the right person I'm an extremely devoted person. I think I have a habit of putting my partner on a pedestal when we're together, and when they do something to mess up that image big time, I become disappointed and move on (damn Venus in Libra).

Whoops, "it has to be big for me to start looking." Messed up the 'to be'.

Wait, can I change my mind *asks teachers*?

I have a better idea, go over to the Cancer board and see a guy there named 'Cwab', he is very good with the written word and on these matters, and I am sure he can help!

I also heard a song just now that you might like. 'Do it to your satisfied, whatever it is... do it, do it to you're satisfied.' That is probably way before your time. There is also a good book called 'Ordinary Grace' that you might want to pick up.

Soooo many opinions and different perspectives. I never now which way to go, so I just go with the flow. There is another topic about this (Flowing) on the Micellaneous Board that can give you some needed insight, or whatever!!!

I hope this gave you some direction?

Later days!

SG,

I understand where you are coming from; you are hurt and want revenge? Is that what you are saying? Some of us do wear are hearts on our sleeves but that is good, and it makes you a good guy with a big and generous heart! Some people dont respect that quality, but there are some that know what its worth and would cherish it and care for it, not abuse it. Personally, I would lose this guy and find someone who you are compatible with. What is it that this guy has that keeps you there? It has to be more than just affection, because you have plenty of others to give you that? Something keeps you there!

I already broke up with him. Yeah, I had other reasons for not breaking up with him sooner.

At least he has some! He is a whole lot more interesting than you.

Thanks, Soshy. AB, you say you wouldn't bother wasting your energy on someone of my character, then why did you even bother to respond? You obviously care enough to post.

Oh and yes, while everyone can post their opinion, not everyone cares what you think.

Phoenix is such a smart and insightful girl--isn't she?

Scorp Guy--whatever you do next in your relationship, however you approach it...don't get a desease!

(Don't mean to sound like your Mom, but ya know with these days...it ain't the 70's anymore)

we all get angery when found out males that is but we try to cover better the next time

Umm..I don't sleep with everyone in sight, sloane. I'm extremely safe when it comes to sex.

I hope so.