aqua779
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Why do Scorpios just disappear?
the test never stops. But he needs space.
You live together.
He left home... and has been gone for THREE days?
😐
I'd assume foul play, initially... but to find out he's
fine?
I wouldn't put up with that shit.
He left home... and has been gone for THREE days?
😐
I'd assume foul play, initially... but to find out he's
fine?
I wouldn't put up with that shit.
Posted by Montgomery
You live together.
He left home... and has been gone for THREE days?
😐
No he left yesterday afternoon...we weren't even arguing.
He went away to get his space. That's all I can figure. I just don't understand the leaving part when he's happy! That's confusing and I don't get it. If he was angry when he left(which you said he wasn't), then I would've understood. But you said he was happy, so that doesn't make sense for him to leave like that.
Idk I where I got 3 days from...
3 weeks, 3 years I guess.
When you left on Friday, did you
also fail to tell him you wouldn't
be home that night?
You mentioned he may be "getting you back"
for that...
3 weeks, 3 years I guess.
When you left on Friday, did you
also fail to tell him you wouldn't
be home that night?
You mentioned he may be "getting you back"
for that...
keep doing what you are doing ... dont do anything at all and even stop thinking about it. when emotions run high ... silence space or drop from the face of the earth is the best way cope. He must have been in a deep emotional whirlpool and if you say that he is happy and left suddenly then he must have acted it and believed it.
still only assumptions. wait for his response when he gets back if he gets back at all and you wont grow old waiting for him to snap out of it.
still only assumptions. wait for his response when he gets back if he gets back at all and you wont grow old waiting for him to snap out of it.
when a partner says he needs space - honestly, it's almost over. It's just another way of saying Let's break up.
I'm done that many years ago - so I listened carefully what a man has trying to say.
Sorry about that.
Not all scorps test for 3 years..:/
I guess it depends on the rest of his placements.
Some scorpios feel empty when there is too much goodness in their life and destroy all of that.
Not all scorps test for 3 years..:/
I guess it depends on the rest of his placements.
Some scorpios feel empty when there is too much goodness in their life and destroy all of that.
He probably can't deal with many of the things so needs space. In an ideal world he'd say he needs space to cope emotionally but people seldom do this. Sounds like you've both been through a lot. This isn't a Scorp male thing. This is a man thing.
Posted by Montgomery
Idk I where I got 3 days from...
When you left on Friday, did you
also fail to tell him you wouldn't
be home that night?
You mentioned he may be "getting you back"
for that...
No I didn't tell him I was spending the night out....I had a little too much to drink and didn't want him thinking I was out partying like that. I returned home the next day around 11 am and he asked what am I doing here :/ He seemed kinda pissed smdh
Posted by aqua779Posted by Montgomery
Idk I where I got 3 days from...
When you left on Friday, did you
also fail to tell him you wouldn't
be home that night?
You mentioned he may be "getting you back"
for that...
No I didn't tell him I was spending the night out....I had a little too much to drink and didn't want him thinking I was out partying like that. I returned home the next day around 11 am and he asked what am I doing here :/ He seemed kinda pissed smdhclick to expand
"Just disappear"? JFC read your own words. He is mirroring you. Period. So basically, it's okay for you to stay out without telling him, but when he does it, you don't like it. Lawd....y'all both sound immature as hell. Expect him to stretch his "night out" much longer than you did just to make his point. Welcome to the Asylum.
If you don't like the roller coaster, get off.
P.S. Any person that simply leaves you without a word to "take space" really isn't worth your time. It's called basic respect and communication.
da fuck. he went out for ice cream and still aint back?
Posted by Rabbit
Does there need to be an "Amber Alert" type thing for Scorpio men?
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Posted by aqua779Posted by Montgomery
Idk I where I got 3 days from...
When you left on Friday, did you
also fail to tell him you wouldn't
be home that night?
You mentioned he may be "getting you back"
for that...
No I didn't tell him I was spending the night out....I had a little too much to drink and didn't want him thinking I was out partying like that. I returned home the next day around 11 am and he asked what am I doing here :/ He seemed kinda pissed smdhclick to expand
Then YOU HAD IT COMING.
No sympathy.
My Scorp grandmother told me I could do as I please--
But if I was staying with her, she needed to know I
was alive (got home safely).
You don't make people that love you worry about your
safety.
It's fundamentally wrong.
Posted by PhoenixRising
"Just disappear"? JFC read your own words. He is mirroring you. Period. So basically, it's okay for you to stay out without telling him, but when he does it, you don't like it. Lawd....y'all both sound immature as hell....
P.S. Any person that simply leaves you without a word to "take space" really isn't worth your time.
It's called basic respect and communication.
+1
Who does that??
yeah i dont agree that its her fault. He's a grown man too. It boggles my mind how some Scorpios are said to be so astute, deep feeling, independent but still cant think and act for themselves. if he's mirroring bad behavior he obviously is too damn dumb to think for himself.
Posted by tiziani
Errrrr I'd like to point out they've both been through a miscarriage.
that can really mess with both your heads. It's not a basic thing at all.
Respect is basic, though.
🙂
They're taking it out on each other, maybe?
Idk
After a loss of that magnitude... it seems
pretty mean to make a person believe they
may have lost you, as well... even if only
for a few hours.
How long does it take to imagine the worst
possible scenarios (murder, car accidents, etc)
have befallen your other half when they don't
make it home after a night out?
Posted by tizianiPosted by MontgomeryPosted by tiziani
Errrrr I'd like to point out they've both been through a miscarriage.
that can really mess with both your heads. It's not a basic thing at all.
Respect is basic, though.
🙂
They're taking it out on each other, maybe?
Respect is basic, you are right.
But yes exactly... it's a corny line to say but in these situations it's probably the most appropriate.... hurt people hurt people.
Most people don't even know themselves after a miscarriage. You've had all these questions about who you are and who you plan to be dangled in front of you, and then taken away again. It's like someone scraping out everything inside you with an ice cream scoop. And when you feel that hollow, as bad as it sounds, sometimes the last person in the world you want to share yourself with is the one you're meant to come home to. It happens.click to expand
Yup
Posted by tizianiPosted by Rabbit
Healing doesn't involve abandoning someone when they need you the most.
Then how come it so frequently does?
Because we're human.
Posted by tizianiPosted by MontgomeryPosted by tiziani
Errrrr I'd like to point out they've both been through a miscarriage.
that can really mess with both your heads. It's not a basic thing at all.
Respect is basic, though.
🙂
They're taking it out on each other, maybe?
Respect is basic, you are right.
But yes exactly... it's a corny line to say but in these situations it's probably the most appropriate.... hurt people hurt people.
Most people don't even know themselves after a miscarriage. You've had all these questions about who you are and who you plan to be dangled in front of you, and then taken away again. It's like someone scraping out everything inside you with an ice cream scoop. And when you feel that hollow, as bad as it sounds, sometimes the last person in the world you want to share yourself with is the one you're meant to come home to. It happens.click to expand
I say this grudgingly, but fair enough.
I do see a difference in taking some space for yourself,
and disappearing with no word, though.
Not the same thing-- the latter is punishment.
Not sure I like this topic anymore, though. :/
It's over. When we disappear, we cut you off. It's usually over something that can't be fixed. Maybe you can't be trusted? Maybe it's your behavior. If it's something that we can't tolerate(negative), we skip out.
Posted by DMV
yeah i dont agree that its her fault. He's a grown man too. It boggles my mind how some Scorpios are said to be so astute, deep feeling, independent but still cant think and act for themselves. if he's mirroring bad behavior he obviously is too damn dumb to think for himself.
Him mirroring her doesn't have anything to do with if he could think for himself. It's use to show her what she's doing. Basically, treat others like you want to be treated. If you shit on me, I'm going to shit on you.
Posted by DMV
...if he's mirroring bad behavior he obviously is too damn dumb to think for himself.
You know that's not how it works.
Posted by DMV
yeah i dont agree that its her fault. He's a grown man too. It boggles my mind how some Scorpios are said to be so astute, deep feeling, independent but still cant think and act for themselves...click to expand
I don't recall stating it was anyone's fault. I don't assign blame. I was pointing out that there are two people playing games here. The man didn't "just disappear". There is a context she conveniently left out of the OP. Check your behaviour before you point fingers.
Posted by tiziani
Errrrr I'd like to point out they've both been through a miscarriage.
that can really mess with both your heads. It's not a basic thing at all.
If you can go out drinking, throw passive aggressive jabs at your SO and post BS on FB, then you can fashion your lips to say "I think I need some time to myself for a while", especially if you're sharing a pillow.
It's bad situation, but I am getting the sense that they had issues communicating well before this.
Posted by tiziani
Anyway it's their life you know, I'm just pointing out that they will want to get to the heart of the matter (when the time is right).
You don't go to your partner after a miscarriage and say "listen, honey, I've been thinking... respect and communication is basic!"
That's not really what they're upset with each other about now, let's be honest.
Yeah. Not the point of my post.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by aqua779Posted by Montgomery
Idk I where I got 3 days from...
"Just disappear"? JFC read your own words. He is mirroring you. Period. So basically, it's okay for you to stay out without telling him, but when he does it, you don't like it. Lawd....y'all both sound immature as hell. Expect him to stretch his "night out" much longer than you did just to make his point. Welcome to the Asylum.
click to expand
I think you are RIGHT....because he hasn't been home since sunday...literally the DAY AFTER I came home from spending the night elsewhere! I just finished texting him , I asked him was he ok...and his responses are very short but he seems ok. Is this a game? By the way, he likes to extend things for a LONG time...do Scorpio men like to see their girlfriend suffer—??
Posted by aqua779Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by aqua779Posted by Montgomery
Idk I where I got 3 days from...
"Just disappear"? JFC read your own words. He is mirroring you. Period. So basically, it's okay for you to stay out without telling him, but when he does it, you don't like it. Lawd....y'all both sound immature as hell. Expect him to stretch his "night out" much longer than you did just to make his point. Welcome to the Asylum.
click to expand
Oops I was trying to quote myself! I haven't figured this out yet..
Me: I think you are RIGHT....because he hasn't been home since sunday...literally the DAY AFTER I came home from spending the night elsewhere! I just finished texting him , I asked him was he ok...and his responses are very short but he seems ok. Is this a game? By the way, he likes to extend things for a LONG time...do Scorpio men like to see their girlfriend suffer—??
Oops I was trying to quote myself! I haven't figured this out yet..
Me: I think you are RIGHT....because he hasn't been home since sunday...literally the DAY AFTER I came home from spending the night elsewhere! I just finished texting him , I asked him was he ok...and his responses are very short but he seems ok. Is this a game? By the way, he likes to extend things for a LONG time...do Scorpio men like to see their girlfriend suffer—??
Me: I think you are RIGHT....because he hasn't been home since sunday...literally the DAY AFTER I came home from spending the night elsewhere! I just finished texting him , I asked him was he ok...and his responses are very short but he seems ok. Is this a game? By the way, he likes to extend things for a LONG time...do Scorpio men like to see their girlfriend suffer—??
Should I just flat out ask him if he's with another female— I want to sooooo bad...but I feel it'll make things worse.
Posted by aqua779
Should I just flat out ask him if he's with another female— I want to sooooo bad...but I feel it'll make things worse.
go for it. assert yourself. just be ready to hear honest truths 😄
Posted by chococreamPosted by aqua779
Should I just flat out ask him if he's with another female— I want to sooooo bad...but I feel it'll make things worse.
go for it. assert yourself. just be ready to hear honest truths 😄click to expand
You may ask but don't bet on getting the answer you want or a truthful one. It's likely he'll not answer as he knows you want an answer.
Also, after three years plus current circumstances, as a Scorp, I'd find that question exceptionally insulting.
OP, your Doc didn't instruct you to wait six 😈 weeks to engage in intercourse?
Yes, he may be paying you back...
Yes, he may be paying you back...
***Scratching head & arse*** I don't know why that 'Devil' emoticon showed up when I typed in the number six...
I hate this about scorpions. it's annoying as fcuk...
Posted by Rambunctious76Posted by aqua779
Should I just flat out ask him if he's with another female— I want to sooooo bad...but I feel it'll make things worse.
Why do you automatically assume there is another party involved?
There could be no one, it could be he just needs space to figure you out.
Really I don't know what to say...a miscarriage affects both parties involved - it psychologically affects the man just as much as the woman.
And I'm starting to think this thing (your disappearing and not telling him) has happened before. Only this time it was the final straw and he left.
Sorry OP, you'll just have to wait out the distance. He may come back eventually but only time will tell.click to expand
Ehh... that was probably something he wondered about
too when she didn't come home the other night.
🙂
Posted by DMV
yeah i dont agree that its her fault. He's a grown man too. It boggles my mind how some Scorpios are said to be so astute, deep feeling, independent but still cant think and act for themselves. if he's mirroring bad behavior he obviously is too damn dumb to think for himself.
omg....this ^^^^ Is dumb
Posted by NoreallynowPosted by DMV
yeah i dont agree that its her fault. He's a grown man too. It boggles my mind how some Scorpios are said to be so astute, deep feeling, independent but still cant think and act for themselves. if he's mirroring bad behavior he obviously is too damn dumb to think for himself.
Him mirroring her doesn't have anything to do with if he could think for himself. It's use to show her what she's doing. Basically, treat others like you want to be treated. If you shit on me, I'm going to shit on you.click to expand
ah thank you
scorpios are really into revenge... Know that now. Other signs may forgive or directly address the situation, but a scorpio will wait for insane amounts of time to get their revenge.
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by MontgomeryYet she can't see her own behavior n why she is getting the outcome she's in.Posted by Rambunctious76Posted by aqua779
Suhould I just flat out ask him if he's with another female— I want to sooooo bad...but I feel it'll make things worse.
Why do you automatically assume there is another party involved?
There could be no one, it could be he just needs space to figure you out.
Really I don't know what to say...a miscarriage affects both parties involved - it psychologically affects the man just as much as the woman.
And I'm starting to think this thing (your disappearing and not telling him) has happened before. Only this time it was the final straw and he left.
Sorry OP, you'll just have to wait out the distance. He may come back eventually but only time will tell.
Ehh... that was probably something he wondered about
too when she didn't come home the other night.
🙂click to expand
omg. the double standards.
both of them are weird!! What kind of guy just ups and leaves like that? And she's no better for running away and escaping.
but weirdly, if he didn't TRUST her to be out like that, knowing that they had a bad deal going on with the miscarriage. Then something is "off"!!! already. He should KNOW her deeply already, know her character and her state of being, and if he can't TRUST her to be an escapist like that, that she IS that way then i don't know what to say. Both parties just don't know eachother well enough I suppose.
they're both escape artists 😆
and they both are probably doing nothing but grieving. Poor things.
Merry christmas. 🙂
and they both are probably doing nothing but grieving. Poor things.
Merry christmas. 🙂
This doesn't make a lot of sense.
There has to be some details you are not paying attention to or including in your post that could be the reason for a man acting like this right after a miscarriage. Even if you were acting arsy, the fact you are going through such an emotional time is not right for anyone to abandon the person who physically lost a baby. That's just selfish and sociopathic.
There has to be some details you are not paying attention to or including in your post that could be the reason for a man acting like this right after a miscarriage. Even if you were acting arsy, the fact you are going through such an emotional time is not right for anyone to abandon the person who physically lost a baby. That's just selfish and sociopathic.
Posted by jk95
scorpios are really into revenge... Know that now. Other signs may forgive or directly address the situation, but a scorpio will wait for insane amounts of time to get their revenge.
Not exactly. My best revenge is karma. Damn, I love her.
Posted by NoreallynowPosted by jk95
scorpios are really into revenge... Know that now. Other signs may forgive or directly address the situation, but a scorpio will wait for insane amounts of time to get their revenge.
Not exactly. My best revenge is karma. Damn, I love her.click to expand
Too true!!
Maybe in our younger days we think more on it but with time we often realise there's little point obsessing over an arsehole or a crap situation and we hope nature takes its course...
Cue the entrance for 'Karma...'
Posted by KVZZMIR11Posted by aqua779
The Aquarius in me makes me non-chalant, easy-going, and care-free
Yea no one wants to see that shit!
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Ha ha that's funny!!
If I was you I wouldnt allow such a thing..the fk is that is he 8 years old !..when he come back you two should have a talk
Posted by AgentP911Posted by NoreallynowPosted by jk95
scorpios are really into revenge... Know that now. Other signs may forgive or directly address the situation, but a scorpio will wait for insane amounts of time to get their revenge.
Not exactly. My best revenge is karma. Damn, I love her.
Too true!!
Maybe in our younger days we think more on it but with time we often realise there's little point obsessing over an arsehole or a crap situation and we hope nature takes its course...
Cue the entrance for 'Karma...'click to expand
No such thing as Karma. Revenge is more to the point. Must be nice to believe in make-believe.
Posted by innocentrose
I've only disappeared on someone once. He was a Taurus. I will disappear if I feel the person is no longer worthy of my time and investment, and depending on the severity of the situation, I may even feel they are not worthy of an explanation or warning. That's usually when I feel they've disrespected me in some way, or have cut me real deep.
I can relate
I've done this. One New Years...me and my ex were celebrating and had a blast. It was new beginnings ya know...all that good stuff. Next day...I come home and just explode and talked about our future and how it wasn't going right. Mind you the night before...I was totally happy. But we had just come off the roughest year I had ever had at that time. Swamped with bills..bein young I was stressed. Anyway after reflecting on this...I was just really tired and needed to release it all. He may just be trying to get his head right...he probably has a issue he says he's over but he's struggling with himself internally to actually be over it. We also had a miscarriage around the time this happened to me which I think triggered me as well. The fact that he responded quickly is a good sign. That's our way of saying you can't see me but I'm being good right now. Can't speak for the entire night but if he's responding quickly that's definitely good. I suggest callin him and be very direct about what you think. He should break down and tell the truth if you aren't the problem. If you are...he may try to avoid the convo if he values that your hurting right now.
Excuse the book up there and formatting, I'm on my phone lol
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