Question..........?

Are you happy?

It seems pretty basic when spoke out loud. Butttttttt.

Go to that spot in your mind.......you know the one....... When it's just you and you've escaped to your 'head couch' and that zen moment happens when truth comes out.......

Are you happy.........?

My answer is yes. Sometimes I get thrown a doozie but for the most part I've got exactly what I wanted out of life so far. Financially it is bit tougher these days but I've learned to take care of what's really important first and play later.

I've also been trying to become a more patient individual.

How about you.........?

Yes I am 😊

Posted by MyStarsShine
Yes I am 😊

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"Happiness is not a goal, it's a by-product of a life well lived" - Eleanor Roosevelt

Posted by TXCowboy
So far, so good. And steadily moving on up. 😊

Moving 'up' in life is key. The possibilities are endless, not only can one move up through the social ladder but there is always the possibility of moving up the 'human' ladder as well 🥰

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Yes I am 😊

🥰
"Happiness is not a goal, it's a by-product of a life well lived" - Eleanor Roosevelt

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It sure is 😘

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So far, so good. And steadily moving on up. 😊

Moving 'up' in life is key. The possibilities are endless, not only can one move up through the social ladder but there is always the possibility of moving up the 'human' ladder as well 🥰
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I'm generous, not greedy. I know what it takes for me to be happy and to make others around me happy as well.

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True generosity is rare, a gift indeed. Sounds a bit virgoish ..... making sure everyone was taken care of......?

I didn’t feel true happiness until I stopped depending on others to make me feel that way…

I’m happy I have been given the opportunity to be a mother ~ it was the making of me, gave me lots of patience, strength and

a ❤️ bursting with love. It changed everything for me…

i've had 2 of my biggest wishes granted on the same day. and i've got another 2 that will be fulfilled a few days from now. after that, just last 2 other wishes and i'd have already ran out of wishes by then. used to wonder what the point of bragging was all about. but when good things keep happening to you, you really can't help but share. the luck of jupiter 😎🍀

Posted by MyStarsShine
I didn’t feel true happiness until I stopped depending on others to make me feel that way…

Isn't that truth?! I remember younger days when I would worry what others thought. Now I just don't care. I try to be a decent person, I'm kind to others. But at the end of the day I don't care about the judgments of others. Guess that's one good thing about getting older lol.

Posted by IceStorm
I am… I have a lot to be happy about im extremely blessed with my family, opportunities and the love that surrounds me 🙏🏼❤️

Love this❤️

Posted by virgoOPPP
i've had 2 of my biggest wishes granted on the same day. and i've got another 2 that will be fulfilled a few days from now. after that, just last 2 other wishes and i'd have already ran out of wishes by then. used to wonder what the point of bragging was all about. but when good things keep happening to you, you really can't help but share. the luck of jupiter 😎🍀

That's super awesome, good for you!

Jupiter is undoubtedly the most benevolent planet. Good luck comes in many ways too. Some people have good luck with health while others hit the lottery. I guess it's all perspective, finding happiness in what you have.

Hope your good luck keeps up!🍀

I'm neutral. I have things I'm happy about in my life, but an equal amount of dark hidden things that want to watch me burn.

People sometimes bring up the idea of the good wolf bad wolf thing, and the one you feed the most becomes the strongest. My wolves are wired differently. The one you feed the least becomes the strongest, and unstable. So rather then trying to live in chaos I like to feed both of them equally, which makes my life more balanced. Thus I live in a neutral state of mind.

Posted by Soul
I'm neutral. I have things I'm happy about in my life, but an equal amount of dark hidden things that want to watch me burn.

People sometimes bring up the idea of the good wolf bad wolf thing, and the one you feed the most becomes the strongest. My wolves are wired differently. The one you feed the least becomes the strongest, and unstable. So rather then trying to live in chaos I like to feed both of them equally, which makes my life more balanced. Thus I live in a neutral state of mind.

Huh, that's interesting, the wolve thing I mean. I've never heard it before but I understand the reasoning behind it.

Is Pluto heavy in your chart? I only ask cuz Pluto is the deep and dark, usually people who can understand dark are plutonian.

Posted by AcutelyUnaware
I'm depressed, miss my ex.

Just had to reality check myself and cut back on my drinking. 🫤

Depression is real man.

Sometimes when I'm blue, I feel better by making something or being helpful.

Please take good care of yourself🙂

Posted by mygirlfriendsareinprison
Yeah but I’m basic 😅

Lol, ya know, I keep hearing that but I'm late to the joke. Glad you are doing good though🙂

Nah not really

I'm not the sort of character that seeks enjoyment or pleasure so if that's happiness for people, then I would say "no". I would be ok with me dying if I don't feel like moving much anymore from a temporary state of happiness as if to not break the illusion, since there would be no point to my existence anymore but the continuous need to bask in it.

Internally, beyond all the chaos of my mind I have always had this very serene child if that's what you meant by "that spot". It works in a space separated from my reality, meaning things can be awful around me and the child remains unchanged, or rather it gets pulled from all sides and twisted in all sort of ways but it quickly returns to factory default settings, like a rubber band. I don't think is either happy or unhappy either, just tranquil.

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I'm neutral. I have things I'm happy about in my life, but an equal amount of dark hidden things that want to watch me burn.

People sometimes bring up the idea of the good wolf bad wolf thing, and the one you feed the most becomes the strongest. My wolves are wired differently. The one you feed the least becomes the strongest, and unstable. So rather then trying to live in chaos I like to feed both of them equally, which makes my life more balanced. Thus I live in a neutral state of mind.

Huh, that's interesting, the wolve thing I mean. I've never heard it before but I understand the reasoning behind it.

Is Pluto heavy in your chart? I only ask cuz Pluto is the deep and dark, usually people who can understand dark are plutonian.

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Scorpio Pluto. I also have Scorpio moon. That mixed with Leo sun and Taurus Mars gives my chart a ton of square aspects. I always felt like my life was a balance between good and bad, light and dark, black and white. Long before I even got into astrology. So once I did my placements actually made a ton of sense to me.

Yes mostly. Stresses of life get me down though.

I think I need a job change once I get my license. That is my biggest stressor. Need a bit more balance.

That said, I’m so much happier than I used to be. The changes in life over the last 12 years have made a big difference.

No, I am not happy. I have moments of happiness, sure. So does everyone else.

But no point in pretending to be constantly happy, blessed, fulfilled and similar.

As one of my friends put it:

Life is a punishment to be endured. Then we die.

I used to be very content. Then I had my baby and my hormones betrayed me. Now I am trying to make peace with everything through sleep deprivation (I’m high sleep needs ☹️)

I’m content, but I’m longing for a different life

I don’t feel like I’m living MY life, I feel like I’m living someone else’s. I don’t know if I can be happy living in the US when a huge part of me just knows I need to leave. My job is so good though, which is where I’m struggling to take that leap. I want to do it before I get too old though.

Posted by borednbeautiful
No, I am not happy. I have moments of happiness, sure. So does everyone else.

But no point in pretending to be constantly happy, blessed, fulfilled and similar.

As one of my friends put it:

Life is a punishment to be endured. Then we die.

That’s very sad 😔

I think think if you’re in the right place spiritually, mentally and physically you can feel happiness …. ☀️

Happiness is my default state when there are no pressing issues and I’m free to do what I want.

Unfortunately, issues are clouding my day, both work and house related. A project I was excited about yesterday feels more like a red herring today. Buying a new house is delayed…again…this time because of the vendor. I’m starting to think it will not happen. It doesn’t take me much to declare the glass half empty, but usually my pessimism doesn’t last long.

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No, I am not happy. I have moments of happiness, sure. So does everyone else.

But no point in pretending to be constantly happy, blessed, fulfilled and similar.

As one of my friends put it:

Life is a punishment to be endured. Then we die.

That’s very sad 😔
I think think if you’re in the right place spiritually, mentally and physically you can feel happiness …. ☀️

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Yes, true up to a point. I’ve been many different places but no matter what, you always carry what’s within you. You carry yourself. Sometimes you just have to face yourself.

Good thing is that I am highly functional unhappy person with a great sense humor and bursts of positive energy here and there 😺😻

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No, I am not happy. I have moments of happiness, sure. So does everyone else.

But no point in pretending to be constantly happy, blessed, fulfilled and similar.

As one of my friends put it:

Life is a punishment to be endured. Then we die.

That’s very sad 😔

I think think if you’re in the right place spiritually, mentally and physically you can feel happiness …. ☀️

Yes, true up to a point. I’ve been many different places but no matter what, you always carry what’s within you. You carry yourself. Sometimes you just have to face yourself.

Good thing is that I am highly functional unhappy person with a great sense humor and bursts of positive energy here and there 😺😻

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Face yourself and heal it ❤️

Yes you do and are 🎉💋

No. I am not happy.

Bored out of my mind

I wanna be circa 2015 happy and not 2023 happy.

Like 2023 happy is not really happiness compared to 2015 happy.

Posted by borednbeautiful
No, I am not happy. I have moments of happiness, sure. So does everyone else.

But no point in pretending to be constantly happy, blessed, fulfilled and similar.

As one of my friends put it:

Life is a punishment to be endured. Then we die.

Those last two lines really hit home for me.

Especially after all those people died during the pandemic and nobody cared. We all went back to work for the good of the economy.

No wonder these kids are out here shoplifting because who cares. Life really has zero meaning.

We truly just endure.

Some of us have kids to keep themselves entertained and to create more workers for the economy. Much like the movie Snowpiercer, people just working for the good of the engine.

Ain’t nobody out here truly living.

Yea sho I'm happy atm at least. I got plenty money 💰 I finally got the vinyl jazz record I been wanting for the longest that is very hard to find. And I can't wait to play it. I'll be even more happier once I get this eye surgery done and out the way. I keep canceling it so much and rescheduling it. No excuse for that with the exception being I'm a little too chicken shit.

Posted by Walk_on_by
Nah not really

Sorry to hear that, hopefully it improves.

Posted by june_r
I'm not the sort of character that seeks enjoyment or pleasure so if that's happiness for people, then I would say "no". I would be ok with me dying if I don't feel like moving much anymore from a temporary state of happiness as if to not break the illusion, since there would be no point to my existence anymore but the continuous need to bask in it.

Internally, beyond all the chaos of my mind I have always had this very serene child if that's what you meant by "that spot". It works in a space separated from my reality, meaning things can be awful around me and the child remains unchanged, or rather it gets pulled from all sides and twisted in all sort of ways but it quickly returns to factory default settings, like a rubber band. I don't think is either happy or unhappy either, just tranquil.

I think happiness has different definitions for different folks. How is Saturn in your chart?

Yes, that spot. I call it my head couch, kinda like being my own therapist. It's where i ask myself very tough questions and expect honest answers.

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Hi finding balance. Sorry to hear, hope it will improve for you.

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I'm neutral. I have things I'm happy about in my life, but an equal amount of dark hidden things that want to watch me burn.
People sometimes bring up the idea of the good wolf bad wolf thing, and the one you feed the most becomes the strongest. My wolves are wired differently. The one you feed the least becomes the strongest, and unstable. So rather then trying to live in chaos I like to feed both of them equally, which makes my life more balanced. Thus I live in a neutral state of mind.

Huh, that's interesting, the wolve thing I mean. I've never heard it before but I understand the reasoning behind it.

Is Pluto heavy in your chart? I only ask cuz Pluto is the deep and dark, usually people who can understand dark are plutonian.
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Scorpio Pluto. I also have Scorpio moon. That mixed with Leo sun and Taurus Mars gives my chart a ton of square aspects. I always felt like my life was a balance between good and bad, light and dark, black and white. Long before I even got into astrology. So once I did my placements actually made a ton of sense to me.

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Scorpio is in rulership in Pluto, plus moon there I would say Pluto is probably your dominant planet. Plutonian people can see past the surface, like they have Spidey sense in some way or another.

I felt the same when I discovered more than just my sun sign. I always like to hear "even before I knew astrology "......that's how I know astrology is real.

I have quite a few squares myself, especially to my sun. I think squares are challenging but also rewarding if you can find a way to balance the tension. Squares seek growth.

I get what you are saying about the balance of life. I feel it too, like one extreme to the complete opposite. I think it has to do with the full moon effect in my chart, although my sun and moon aren't in direct opposition.

Posted by PuzzlePieces
Yes mostly. Stresses of life get me down though.

I think I need a job change once I get my license. That is my biggest stressor. Need a bit more balance.

That said, I’m so much happier than I used to be. The changes in life over the last 12 years have made a big difference.

❤️ Love this, it's great when change is positive. Good for you!

Personally, rekindling my relationship with God has made a huge positive impact in my life.

Posted by borednbeautiful
No, I am not happy. I have moments of happiness, sure. So does everyone else.

But no point in pretending to be constantly happy, blessed, fulfilled and similar.

As one of my friends put it:

Life is a punishment to be endured. Then we die.

Dang, that's really heavy. Moments of happiness are better than none, I truly hope you find them in abundance very soon. I really find meditation helped me balance my internal self which lead to becoming more balanced externally. In no way have I perfected it but things are looking up.

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No, I am not happy. I have moments of happiness, sure. So does everyone else.

But no point in pretending to be constantly happy, blessed, fulfilled and similar.

As one of my friends put it:

Life is a punishment to be endured. Then we die.

Dang, that's really heavy. Moments of happiness are better than none, I truly hope you find them in abundance very soon. I really find meditation helped me balance my internal self which lead to becoming more balanced externally. In no way have I perfected it but things are looking up.

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Hey, please take care of yourself❤️

Posted by SassyKiwi
I used to be very content. Then I had my baby and my hormones betrayed me. Now I am trying to make peace with everything through sleep deprivation (I’m high sleep needs ☹️)

Oh ain't that the truth! Baby hormones are natural mutineers. I very much remember those days, they weren't that long ago for me actually, my youngest is a bit over 1. I try to keep in mind that it's actually a very short period of time, of course that means jack at 3 am when baby is crying and you haven't slept since 3 am the day before😳

Posted by cersei
I always feel like I should be happy. Worse things happen to ppl so I’m constantly comparing myself to them. Thinking about how grateful I should be.

I do have things to be grateful about, I’ve gotten blessings and I have spurts of happy moments.

But truthfully I’m just not happy with life and myself. It’s a paradox because I have happy things in my life that I get excited thinking about but also things that keep me from being happy for long. I’m always fighting something and it’s tiring. So tiring.

But I don’t feel like I can allow myself to feel unhappy. I have to keep hoping things will get better and hang in there. But I feel like I’m living because I have to.

Ppl always say life is such a gift but I see more suffering in the world than happiness. So how is life a gift? I don’t know anyone personally who is genuinely happy

You seem emotionally mature to me, I understand your sentiment because I share it. Happiness is creative not to meantion cyclical. Happiness is tied to emotions in a way too. I think of the moon and how fast it moves, one can be content in the morning and down right devastated by lunchtime.

Do you feel the suffering of others on a personal level? What's your 12th house like?

Posted by StubbornSag
This has been by far the worst year of my life. So the answer is no. I'm not happy. I've lost too much recently. I'm grateful for what I do have however.

It's been really rough ride ever since last October, I'm constantly struggling with something. Chiron transiting first house and conjuncting moon, Saturn transiting 12th house...it's a really really bad transit time for me. I just hope nothing worse happens at this point...

Sorry to hear that. Chiron is tough energy to deal with. Chiron moving through house 1 is a time for you to really look into your internal wounds, it's a time to take a good look at yourself and do some deep introspection.

12th house is not necessarily an easy house to deal with either, transits can seem particularly painful as 12th house is tied with suffering. 12th is final, the end. The end and the beginning and always connected. Saturn can be harsh but Saturns job is moderation.

Saturn is also karmic because accountability is saturnian. A lot of times Saturn transit to 12th is going to bring up the past. There is the possibility of a lot changing for you, more than likely you will be asked to let go of old habits. 12th is tied to 1st and so Saturn will ask you to mature before crossing your ascendant into house 1. Saturns time around the zodiac will be easier the next time if you learn his 12th house lessons this time. Remember, Saturn doesn't want you to drown, only to swim on your own.

Last October was a solar eclipse. Solar eclipses are significators of beginnings and eclipses run in cycles. Maybe look and see what house it was in for you, it might give you an idea of the theme of this eclipse cycle. Good luck 🍀

Posted by nanochip
I’m content, but I’m longing for a different life

I don’t feel like I’m living MY life, I feel like I’m living someone else’s. I don’t know if I can be happy living in the US when a huge part of me just knows I need to leave. My job is so good though, which is where I’m struggling to take that leap. I want to do it before I get too old though.

Crossroads. IDK, in my experience if you long for something like that and don't do it there will always be regret. Regret eats your soul with age.

Are you tenured, like about ready to make partner kinda thing and don't wanna start over? Cuz if you are young enough without strings and your field is in demand then why not go? Especially if you are leaving your current employer as an above average and well liked employee. Efficient and well liked employees almost always get their jobs back.

Life's short, you only live once right.

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This has been by far the worst year of my life. So the answer is no. I'm not happy. I've lost too much recently. I'm grateful for what I do have however.
It's been really rough ride ever since last October, I'm constantly struggling with something. Chiron transiting first house and conjuncting moon, Saturn transiting 12th house...it's a really really bad transit time for me. I just hope nothing worse happens at this point...

Sorry to hear that. Chiron is tough energy to deal with. Chiron moving through house 1 is a time for you to really look into your internal wounds, it's a time to take a good look at yourself and do some deep introspection.

12th house is not necessarily an easy house to deal with either, transits can seem particularly painful as 12th house is tied with suffering. 12th is final, the end. The end and the beginning and always connected. Saturn can be harsh but Saturns job is moderation.

Saturn is also karmic because accountability is saturnian. A lot of times Saturn transit to 12th is going to bring up the past. There is the possibility of a lot changing for you, more than likely you will be asked to let go of old habits. 12th is tied to 1st and so Saturn will ask you to mature before crossing your ascendant into house 1. Saturns time around the zodiac will be easier the next time if you learn his 12th house lessons this time. Remember, Saturn doesn't want you to drown, only to swim on your own.

Last October was a solar eclipse. Solar eclipses are significators of beginnings and eclipses run in cycles. Maybe look and see what house it was in for you, it might give you an idea of the theme of this eclipse cycle. Good luck 🍀
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All of this is true. I know Saturn is there to teach us lessons, not to beat us down, although sometimes it may seem so. I thought at first Saturn brought pain until I realized Chiron was on my Moon. I've been forced to learn Saturn's lessons since it also overlapped with my nodal return. So right before they exited signs of my natal nodes, I started moving on their path for the first time seriously. It makes sense for the eclipse too, it was in my 7th house 🤦🏼‍♀️ not sure if it was the exact same date or few days before, but things got really complicated in my relationship, I said so much that was bothering me for long time and I got clarity on why the person I became interested I can't have...so yeah, that part is a bit more clear now too, thanks for the information.

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I truly hope things are looking up for you!

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I always feel like I should be happy. Worse things happen to ppl so I’m constantly comparing myself to them. Thinking about how grateful I should be.
I do have things to be grateful about, I’ve gotten blessings and I have spurts of happy moments.
But truthfully I’m just not happy with life and myself. It’s a paradox because I have happy things in my life that I get excited thinking about but also things that keep me from being happy for long. I’m always fighting something and it’s tiring. So tiring.
But I don’t feel like I can allow myself to feel unhappy. I have to keep hoping things will get better and hang in there. But I feel like I’m living because I have to.
Ppl always say life is such a gift but I see more suffering in the world than happiness. So how is life a gift? I don’t know anyone personally who is genuinely happy

You seem emotionally mature to me, I understand your sentiment because I share it. Happiness is creative not to meantion cyclical. Happiness is tied to emotions in a way too. I think of the moon and how fast it moves, one can be content in the morning and down right devastated by lunchtime.

Do you feel the suffering of others on a personal level? What's your 12th house like?
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Aww thank you (: I still have a long ways to go but I try haha it’s a relief knowing I’m not the only one but I wish happiness was constant lol

Emotions are definitely malleable and fleeting, and I agree that happiness is pretty much inseparable from emotions. Also it’s a mentality and how we look at life I suppose. Some ppl have the ability to not focus on the bad.

I have my moon, jupiter, Uranus, and Neptune in the 12th. Do you have anything in the 12th house? What’s your experience?

With Jupiter in the 12th conjunct moon you’d think I’d be optimistic but Im not lol

Actually I am a bit because hope is what keeps me going and living on. Which is maybe the Jupiter.

I’m not sure if it counts as being affected personally by people, but when I’m around ppl who are upset or unhappy it makes it difficult for me to be happy. That’s why being around certain people can be draining. But I think most ppl are like this right? I think most ppl are affected by the mood other ppl are in.

Im also not sure if this is probably every child’s experience, but when I was a child I was very sensitive in the way that I was aware of suffering and hurt. Watching movies would be hard sometimes, especially when it involved animals, or ppl being bullied or abused. It’s like I could not avoid these things in life at young age for whatever reason. I hated it cause I would ask God why the heck I can’t get the bad things out of my mind.

On the other hand it’s easy for me to escape into my own world and get lost in it to the point things feel surreal. It’s actually a complex I have because I think it makes me selfish how I don’t focus on other ppl more and instead drift off somewhere else.

It also makes me feel like an imposter.

Kind of confusing. So I guess to answer your question I’m mostly confused most of the time so I’m not sure lol

Sorry I wrote so much but thank you for reading my replies and listening to me. I noticed you did that in the other thread too. Usually ppl just ignore my rambling so I don’t usually expect ppl to reply to me lol

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Hi Cersi,

I apologize, I caught this horrible cold, flu, err something lol, I really thought I was gonna die a few times there but, well here I am like a bad penny lol.

I think most people will always have a long way to go, not one person is perfect. To recognize that there is room for growth is a feat some will never know.

No worries on talking too much cuz that's so me lol. Why do I feel like we are kindred spirits? Do you have pisces placements? I only ask because the way you describe how movies affect you is very piscean, it's never advisable to take someone with a strong pisces to the movies on a date because depending on the movie, it will set the tone for the rest of the night....sad=sad, happy=happy, etc. Soaking up emotions is really Piscean too, especially in childhood before you learn to block out the energy that brings you down.

That's an impressive stellium! Jupiter and moon conjunct can be very beneficial. There's a lot of good there and luck too if you work with it!

I'm a moon in 12 too. Well, technically it's in late degrees of 11th house but as moon is fastest moving body you always look a few degrees a head and behind for accurate reading. But it's lonely, everything else is in the northern hemisphere for me. I actually have the full moon effect and my sun is opposite to moon, so I'm constantly battling is this a want or a need kinda thing, is the ego or emotion.

I think when you’ve experienced lots of trauma and loss in life, when peace is found it can bring such strong feelings of happiness ❤️

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I think when you’ve experienced lots of trauma and loss in life, when peace is found it can bring such strong feelings of happiness ❤️

I think you are on to something here❤️.

No one wants to struggle. But truth is that struggle is what strengthens a person. It's so much easier to find gratitude if there was hardship beforehand.

Posted by GoodBunny
If I were happy I wouldn't be here. I'm going through the dark night of the soul.

I'm sorry to hear that. May I ask what's going on in your life that makes it so dark?

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I think when you’ve experienced lots of trauma and loss in life, when peace is found it can bring such strong feelings of happiness ❤️

I think you are on to something here❤️.

No one wants to struggle. But truth is that struggle is what strengthens a person. It's so much easier to find gratitude if there was hardship beforehand.

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Oh ain’t that the truth

I almost died a few years ago, so I see every day since then as a gift. I sail through life curious about what's next, and if the journey suddenly comes to an end, that's fine with me.