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hahah sorry about that, i got an error when i made the thread and had to disconnect 😢
well, i'm confused as hell about this cap girl now! she invited me to go to the beach with her for a couple of days, but then she proceeded to tell me about this guy she started talking to and how she was setting up a date with him.. i'm not sure what to think, and i declined the offer on the beach... i think it would have just been an awkward situation
so anyway, i'm pretty deadlocked on this issue, i mean... i do like her, i enjoy talking to her-- but it does seem as if it is more of a friendship than anything at this point. that would be ok for me i'm sure, but i'm not the only party involved... i just hate having to fill certain expectations i guess, and i can kinda tell (it feels like it at least) that i'm not her natural type

type being, type she is drawn to... 7th house cusp supposedly rules that, and mine is gem (surprise surprise 🙂 )
i don't have her birth info... id honestly feel creepy asking her haha

Maybe she mentioned that guy to see how you would react? Any signs that she likes you more than friends?

i'm really not sure... i think she might have been testing the waters, she did sound a bit nervous bringing it up. and then she mentioned something about being overwhelmed with attention, and then vaguely this other guy she's talking to (she might have been referring to me, i honestly have no idea)
i just don't like to deal with competition in love, i don't like the idea of having to trump someone in love for the sake of winning-- if it's real, i want it to be real, no gimmicks no comparisons, i just want it to develop naturally and unmolested. i don't want that feeling of "oh this guy took me to so and so and we had a wonderful time. what about you? what are you gonna do to sweep me off my feet" etc
i'm sure that's another taurus trait... i think it's also a lot easier for me to fall a lot harder and faster than the other person usually, which is what i'm afraid of now-- especially if i am just a friend to her, someone who can give her advice on dealing with her real love life
i know i havn't been very enthusiastic with her either, and i think she's sensing that and wondering what's up...
i dunno, i'm starting to feel crappy about this situation

I TOTALLY feel your confusion. We try to protect ourselves because we KNOW what would happen the other way around! Well, I'd say keep it cool, and sooner or later she'll realize what she wants. Maybe this guy will spoil her to death and she will be like, "I don't even like this guy"

When it comes to love, women realize that toys and treats won't make us fall inlove. If they stay for the treats instead then you don't want them anyways. I remember going out with a Leo for about 4 months and there was no love at all. BUT there was lots of good food and good wine and driving in a sweetass escalade. Being a taurus I couldn't leave THAT easily, but I realized forever from that relationship that materials do not and will NEVER make me happy. I'm still friends with him but damn he has a hard time finding love. I guess money can't buy everything. Trust me, your little crush will figure it out too. Just make sure that you really do want her if she comes to you.

Wow! I am the same way. I cannot stand competition and trying to scoring the prize. If I like a guy and see that he has some interest in me, great. As soon as I see another girl making a move or saying something that lights up his interest for a second, I turn the boilers down a bit.

If he likes me enough, he'll come to me...as I have already given some light indications that there is some attraction. I am not going to put myself out on the limb only for him to think that he has 2 choices no matter what. Way too much pride for that.

" Trust me, your little crush will figure it out too. Just make sure that you really do want her if she comes to you."
i'm not even sure at this point... there's a part of me saying that i don't need anyone really to be happy (the sag rising, i'm sure... )
but really... i think i'm gonna need to find a soulmate if i want to have the relationship i want, and the chances of that happening are slim to nil

"If he likes me enough, he'll come to me...as I have already given some light indications that there is some attraction. I am not going to put myself out on the limb only for him to think that he has 2 choices no matter what. Way too much pride for that."
hehe i've never actually tried that; i've always succomed to the "game" and i usually get what i want, at the time... but then i usually realize later how awful a decision it was to keep going

so i guess it was good i declined? i'm not going to push hard on this one i guess... i don't want to set myself up for dissappointment anymore

Yes, you did good. I will not compete for love either. I have no problem walking away if someone I want wants or considers someone else. I have run into the problem though, that someone wanted me to pay more attention and they tried to get me jealous cuz they really wanted me. OH DAMN STUPID. Now you want to make me look stupid?!! Screw that game!

hehe, i guess that really is a taurus trait then 🙂

" Way too much pride for that."
i just thought about this... i wouldn't even consider it pride? maybe self-respect?

is anynoe else having problems with messages? it says i have 1 unread but it's not showing up? 😢

I jus have to say....GAMES SUCK!!!!!!....been there done that and ain't doin it again!!!

Makes you wonder if people really know what they are doin to other people when they play games with your head or heart??....I guess not, cuz to me they have a cold heart themselves...

oooo critical today...sorry...and it does sound like she is tryin to make vp jealous...it will b her loss in the end, not urs vp...

aww thanks crystaltears🙂 you guys are seriously some of the nicest people i've posted with, i dunno why... i'm very thankful anyway 🙂
i'm not too upset about her though, she may be frustrated with my slow pace! all i know is that i'd rather have a hot smoldering coal pit of love that would burn forever than a blazing fire that would exhaust the fuel in years 🙂

grrrrrrrrrr sounds hot! I'll bring the matches. 😉

hotnessss... i'll bring the bbq and picnic basket 🙂

Can I bring the dessert or is this a Taurus party?

You're bringing food? yessssssssssssssssss come on in!

"Can I bring the dessert or is this a Taurus party?"
tiramisu? 🙂 maybe we should take a vote hehe