Any bulls ever just been stuck??

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Loganwise
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My sun sign is Taurus, Aries moon, Scorpio Rising, I'm 24 years old but I'm at the same place I was 12 years ago it seems. I've never been in a relationship, had a girlfriend, a friend with benefits, a fling. I have no idea how I've managed to go this far and yet to find someone. I've read about Taurus guys being shy and not giving themselves enough credit, I'm definitely guilty of that. I'm at a point where Im beginning to worry tho, almost halfway through my twenties and I've spent all of this time alone, at the same time dating just seems so intimidating especially in my age group I feel so inexperienced next to my peers, even compared to high schoolers sadly. I've never really had the ability to just go up to a girl i find attractive and have any kind of game. I don't at all or know how. I have social anxiety so it doesnt help. I've had friends who i've wound up falling for and those are the only girls in my lifetime Ive ever been brave enough to tell how i feel, tho of course its never worked out. I've been on dates with women I've been interested in and tho they were interested at first I've never been able to keep that interest. I've given up trying on and off for all of my adult life. I'm someone who's always longed for the companionship and love from one woman, but after years of rejection and never being able to get a woman that I want I've grown almost numb it seems. My self esteem is pretty low, confidence is a joke. All the same I still try I feel its the best I can do but its like I'm walking with a broken leg. If anyone has some incite that could maybe help I'd appreciate it.
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Loganwise
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@MrWendall we must be somewhat alike because your John Mayer comment in another post made me chuckle. Were you once this way? It's not that I want it to be that way, I almost feel as if I'm incapable of doing anything else. Times when I could try I can't. I can't even act straight when face to face in front of a beautiful woman, they won't know I'm in awe but I am. It wouldnt matter much anyways because I can't really just feel something for any girl randomly. I need time invested in them, I very much like to have an idea of who they are first but I guess I friendzone myself whenever I decide or realize I like someone.
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OmagaIII
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Yip been there. But I think we sometimes cause this ourselves. Primarily because we resist change. What I have learned, and currently learning again, is that there are just some things we must embrace, to change and to grow, thus moving forward. I also think we also rely to much om our selves because, I don't know about you, we sometimes feel that you cannot trust anyone else to do a Taurus job.

Letting go, firstly of what we can not change, and embracing what we can, although sometimes scary, actually moves you forward. But because we are sometimes stubborn as hell, we don't move. It is either to much work to move, or it means change and we don't like that either.

Also, it sometimes helps to stop (lol) and see the bigger picture. Really, like instead of just grazing the rolling meadows feeling helpless, zoom out, all the way out, and look at what is around you, where you have come from and where you are going. Because where you come from, you cannot change anymore but it gave you stepping stones to where you are. And where you are going, well, that is a decision you have to make. If you don't know, then that is your major problem right there.
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TaurusBull1977
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@Loganwise...

You're just a late bloomer. There is nothing wrong with you. The mistake I made in my past (teens and twenties) was trying too hard to fit in. This was because I was socially awkward. Although I began to make friends...there was still always an uneasiness there. I settled for friendships and relationships with individuals who were not deserving of my kindness, loyalty and generosity. Because I'm a Bull, I kept them (ie, friendships, relationships) in my life for long periods of time because I always had an overwhelming fear of starting over or incorporating new people into my life.

This stemmed from my own insecurities and anxieties. But as I became more comfortable in my own skin, I became more comfortable with interacting with others, carefully selecting and choosing who I wanted to be a part of my life...instead of having these individuals choose me.

You will be OK. 🙂

Hang in there.
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atearth
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This topic sounds like it was written about me.

Taurus Male 16/05/1986

I'm trying dating sites but don't get much in replies. And does that do I've added on FB, check there from time to time.

I'm interested in a Scorpio but me being the way I am who knows where that will lead to.

I feel that a Virgo friend of mine likes me, but meh.

Sometimes I get bored of others so spend time alone.

Tumelo "some people are so cheaply available they are always in relationships." so true. I hate naggers. So I would just walk away without wasting energy and time.

Parents keep telling me to get a girlfriend. But I value my time a lot and feel that it would be a waste.
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Loganwise
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Thanks for all of the input, I'm glad to hear that Im not so lonely being alone. There have definitely been opportunities I've had that I've missed because I didnt feel it was right. I couldn't ever imagine being with someone I don't have feelings for and those are the only situations that have arisen.

@Tumelo Yes and no. I finally moved out of my moms house this summer which lifted a big shadow over my head. My mother's a strong Capricorn and she kind of had a tough love way of raising me and my sister. In my teen years from 12-17 it was verbally and physically abusive. I left for school at 18 and I was completely lost and empty but I went up a bit at school but I didnt have the money to finish my senior year so it was back home. It was just a verbal abuse after that one I couldn't really escape because the main ultimatum was unless you want to be out in the streets its my way or the high way. But now I'm on my own in a city near my hometown working. Not where I'd like to be at my age or where I thought I'd be. Idk if I can say I've progressed so much.

@OmagaIII I know what you mean. I've tried so many different ways in my head that I can make a change to get the things I want in my life but I haven't found out what the key is yet and I am completely stubborn on certain things. I let go of a lot of things that I held against my mother and a lot of things I held over myself in the past few years. I'm so terribly hard on myself and the fact that I can't accomplish certain goals probably is making it all much for difficult for me. This year tho I'm at a point where I can look in the mirror and be okay with myself, and I worry much less about a lot of things that used to choke me up.

@ NaughtyTaurus9 What do you mean what is my Venus?

@TaurusBull1977 I definitely am a late bloomer, my mom has always called me one >__> and it's actually the name that I've decided I want my first music project to be called. I play guitar. I'm definitely socially awkward and have terrible anxiety. I do get along with most everyone and I've made a ton of great friends in my years but when it comes to girls I just don't have it in me.

@robyn808 I believe so, When I put my info in my moon always comes up as aries.
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Loganwise
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a part of me almost feels like... especially having been in situations of unrequited love numerous times in my life. The way I feel for someone when it hits me if it ever was returned back I almost feel like itd complete me, fill in all of the blanks I've been missing for so long. But at the same time I've been down for so long I wonder who'd be able to handle the amount of repair my heart needs. I'm cheerful, I still am optimistic, always laid back and easy going, I get through my days with music and a twisted sense of humor but it does truly feel as if I've been suffering because the one thing I've always wanted, almost feels as if I need it, I've never had the capacity to obtain. I'll keep hanging in there
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Posted by Loganwise
a part of me almost feels like... especially having been in situations of unrequited love numerous times in my life. The way I feel for someone when it hits me if it ever was returned back I almost feel like itd complete me, fill in all of the blanks I've been missing for so long. But at the same time I've been down for so long I wonder who'd be able to handle the amount of repair my heart needs. I'm cheerful, I still am optimistic, always laid back and easy going, I get through my days with music and a twisted sense of humor but it does truly feel as if I've been suffering because the one thing I've always wanted, almost feels as if I need it, I've never had the capacity to obtain. I'll keep hanging in there



Dude, what day were you born?! @_@ *same situation and hobbies, different sex and chart*