Archer chick aiming at a cute crustacean - HELP!!

I am not sure why it is, but I ALWAYS attract water signs, usually scorps. However, this cute, little crab has my undivided attention.

Quick overview: When we met, he would have typically NOT been my type, but I cannot lie...he had a bit of swagger; he was dressed just flashy enough to latch onto to my sadge senses.

We text/talk for several days then have first date. Surprisingly...he was a chatterbox. I rather enjoyed it, because all I know of cancer men, I expected him to be shy. He recounted several, very personal stories from his childhood.
Even he commented, "I'm not sure why I'm sharing all of this with you...there must be a connection."

Date ended with a sweet, passionate kiss - he nearly made me boil in my own juices...was HAWT.

Moving forward - he started sending very sexual texts and I asked him to pump the breaks, as I wanted something with sustenance, to which he replied, "No problem. I just value you."

Things were still going nicely, until he did the first pull away. I told him I'm not one to push, respect his space, but would hope that he'd tell me when/if he felt crowded, because I really, REALLY liked him.

Next date, was impromptu and last minute on my part...but we ended up back at his place. There was LOTS of heavy petting, but no actual bedding. Great.

Next day, I hear from my little crab, but the tone was a bit nonchalant. He's out of town on business, knew I wouldn't hear from him for the next few days.

So...I'm hoping you call can tell me what to expect. I'm anticipating that I will hear from my little crab soon, but still cannot quite read him. I'm not sure if he's interested, or if he's off to the next venture.

Can I get some insight please?

If he truly valued you, why would he send you sexual texts so early into your relationship? I smell a liar.

AriesIntrovert16, that's a good question...I actually thought about that myself and perhaps deluded myself into thinking that he was merely testing to see how far he could go with the fire queen.

LOL some of those sound like lines. I guess go with the flow and see what happens when he contacts you again. If you don't like where its going than ride off on your horse!

LMBO @ Sag89 - saddle up!

Sugarfoot - you said just what I wanted to hear. I wasn't sure how sag femme and cancer guy would fair long term. I'll give it a shot...besides...who would be dumb enough to turn down great sex? 😉

Mr:crabby - I don't know HOW you managed to find that clip, but I'm stealing it. I LIVE it!

You can even edit it to leave only the crab part.

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Posted by nycchick
Sugarfoot - you said just what I wanted to hear. I wasn't sure how sag femme and cancer guy would fair long term. I'll give it a shot...besides...who would be dumb enough to turn down great sex? 😉

Yeah, I dunno, I'd advise be careful you don't get too ahead of yourself.
It could be a mistake if you think you can lure him in with sex, while at the same time you're using phrases like "long term" you might end up giving him mixed signals.
Your idea could backfire. If you don't want it to turn into a steaming wet mess, maybe just pull back on those reins a little.
How things pan out will depend on the dynamics between you both and what type of man he is.

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I would never lead him on....I'm really into him. Ironically, not sure about his true feelings towards me. He's impossible to read and I'm not one to push.

Posted by CluelessCancer
My uncle is a cancer, his wife is a sag, he says without her he wouldn't be the man he is.

I'm glad I posted my question. Up until now I have heard nothing but horror stories concerning archers and cancers.

MoonMan, I love astrology, but I'm clueless 😢

I WISH I knew the answers

Moon is in pisces
Venus is in Capricorn
Mars is in Libra
Mercury is in Sagittarius

This is according to what I googled.. feel free to teach me...I'm open to learning

Oh Raerain, now I'm worried. I REALLY like him but don't want to be the second chic in line.

Hmmmm...guess I'll proceed with caution, because truth be told, I haven't heard from him yet. I believe he returned from his trip last evening...and no word. I'm nervous, but going to give him space. I figure if he's TRULY interested he'll reach out.

Thank you Clutch and x MoonMan...you two are gems!

xMoinMan, I'm going to take a look at those links as soon add I can!

Morning xMoonMan...
So, here's what I got from the site you recommended:

Moon is in pisces
Venus is in Capricorn
Mars is in Libra
Mercury is in Sagittarius

Dead on to what I had...can you impart any wisdom? 🙂

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Morning xMoonMan...
So, here's what I got from the site you recommended:

Moon is in pisces
Venus is in Capricorn
Mars is in Libra
Mercury is in Sagittarius

Dead on to what I had...can you impart any wisdom? 🙂

The first thing I noticed was that all your personal planets / Moon are spread across all 4 elements.
You have one each in Fire | Water | Earth | Air
That's quite interesting.

*Been busy with work n stuff, apologies for the late reply.

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No need to apologize! Work comes first 🙂

Hmmmm....so, perhaps THAT explains why I don't always feel like a "fire" sign, huh?

Posted by xMoonManYes, good observation. Not just because you have these planets spread across all 4 elements though. My understanding is that we are the sum total of our entire natal chart, further to this, that we also evolve these aspects / qualities as we grow, learn & experience life, which includes the family and cultural experiences that we have along our journey.
So, not only are we, who we are right now but we are evolved from who we were earlier in our life and we will continue to evolve our senses and understanding until we die.
I use astrology as a guide. No one person, or even highly technical or experienced astrologer will see everything about a person from reading their chart.
I say this because the many potentials that exist over a lifetime will manifest themselves in a unique way for each person and the interpretation of a persons chart is based mostly on subjective reasoning or learned, fixed formula, the other stuff outside of this is intuitive perceptions.
At the same time, there are also common threads that connect us.

Funny you should mention "evolve."
I often feel that I have changed; my perspectives on life, parenting, dating, living...all changed over time. On a positive, I feel as if I'm more focused in areas that I need to be: work, finishing menial tasks that would have previously been left undone. On the negative side, I feel more emotionally dependent...which is NOTHING like I had been in the past.

Days like today...I wish I could have a bit of the "old" me back

Posted by rainyday21
haha sag cancer!....im a sag female...i have a crab friend...i cant tell you how volatile our equation is....he thinks im too complicated...i think hes too frustrating...but we cant seem to be able to cut the ties...its crazy...

Oh rainday, I KNOW your pain lol
I finally decided to let this little crab go on about his business...I am cool with disappearing acts, but not cool with non-communication.

Be careful of this one. I don't like how he got all sexual on his texts early on and then started pulling away. It might be that he's WAY into you, is scared and needs a little time to process. It might well mean he's a player and only looking for sex and/or a conquest. There are players and there are suitors. If you want a commitment, only deal with suitors. They are the ones who court you and who are willing to stick around. If a man swims away for any reason in the early part of the courtship phase, LET HIM GO. You don't want that man. Thank him for not wasting any more of your time. Bottom line, if you want commitment, no sex before monogamy and take time to get to know the man. Try not to take it personal when a man leaves. It just wasn't working for him or he's a player. It's not about your worthiness but his readiness. Wait for the suitor.

PS: Wait for the suitor because he's the one worthy of the investment of your time and heart. Maybe instead of wondering "what did I do" you should be wondering is this man serious about me. Do I like who he is? What is he bringing to my table. Choose wisely in the beginning because if you hang your hat on the wrong cowboy, you're on the roller coaster to the bitter end and he will mess with your heart and self-esteem. The best way to protect yourself from hurt is to wait for the suitor. Be patient. And know you are worthy of love.