Confused by Taurus male??

I've been friends with a taurus male for a year i told him i liked him we started to sleep together i asked him if it would ever be more and he said he isnt sure hes never been in a relationship as he doesnt know how to make an effort his words not mine so we was sleeping together his friends asked when we would make it more i said never he was asked why but i only said that as he told me it didnt want anything serious but he told me that in march we was getting on great then i decided to disappear in april i havent seen him in months he keeps talking to me every week nothing to do with sex though do you think he likes me? or just an attention thing? so confused tried asking him but he doesnt like me pushing him so stubborn!

Good God, that was hard to read!

Lovey, he doesn't want a relationship - you're an option for him , which is why he's till contacting you.

You already gave him the sex, he doesn't have to work for anything from now on.

If you want respect and a decent bloke, don't give up the goodies and treat yourself as if you have far more value.
Blunt? yes. But true, too.

People rarely appreciate anything that's just given to them with no effort or work involved.

I agree with NZ.

And a further thought, sometimes when someone says they've never been in a relationship and do not know how to make an effort; well to me that would engender a response of "How about we try." It seemed more of a reaction based out of uncertainty rather than straight out opposed stance.
And if you want relationship and someone else does not for certain, then move it right along and do not give up something that belongs to someone who does.

Disappearing on a Taurus is a mistake. We are there for someone as much as we can be, and we like the same in return.

Good luck to you.

*sigh* I am starting to dislike Taurus men. (Yes, I am bitter lol)

😢 I love Taurus men.

VB, had my heart broken, so just venting..lol...not all are bad I know

I know, they are highly addictive critters. LOL Vent away. 🙂

I've dated varying men of different ages, backgrounds AND astrological signs, and a lot of them have exhibited some of the same attributes that many women have said about all signs. Disappearing acts; hot/cold; move too fast; move too slow, etc. I think that while there are a lot of aspects that can be attributed to signs, sometimes (hate to say this) a guy can just be trying to get some a $ $ . In which case, the sign is really of no importance. My .02.

By the way, in my last comment (line) "trying to get some a $ $ " I'm not saying that's a bad thing, per se, BUT, each person needs to be aware of that, so there are no misunderstandings on either side in my opinion.

Posted by USCTaurusGal
I've dated varying men of different ages, backgrounds AND astrological signs, and a lot of them have exhibited some of the same attributes that many women have said about all signs. Disappearing acts; hot/cold; move too fast; move too slow, etc. I think that while there are a lot of aspects that can be attributed to signs, sometimes (hate to say this) a guy can just be trying to get some a $ $ . In which case, the sign is really of no importance. My .02.

Agree. It can happen with all signs. Heck, I've even done it myself.

"told me that in march we was getting on great then i decided to disappear in april "

not a wise game to play with a bull.

I only disappeared as it was getting too intense i know it sounds bad but he told me he wanted me to meet his parents on his birthday but thats when i disappeared and hes been off with me since then but before i left he gave me his bracelet that he always wears and i broke it i think im just making up excuses for him

or yourself.

He wanted you to meet his parents and you bailed? then you wonder what HIS problem is?

If we like you enough to want you to meet our parents,you are doing pretty well.if you are not stable enough to do so,after asking if the relationship is going to move forward....you show you are not too serious.
we need to be able to depend on those we give our heart to,not to disappear.

Agreed. The family is a huge deal.

You thought by disappearing he would come running after you if he cared.but he won't.
it's very hard to manipulate a Taurus without it back-firing in your face.generally when someone walks away or disappears,we take that as an f u kinda thing,and just assume you don't want us.

^ Exactly.

True i was quite mean to him last time i seen him told him i hated him and wanted a break but i was drunk so wasnt true but he always told me if a girl told him its over or doesnt make an effort he wont try and fight for u :/

well it is complicated we was talking about his birthday and he invited me to his party at his house told me he wanted to meet his parents and that they would love me but when i brought it up few months later he says he dont remember saying it so i dont know if he was just saying it..

Ok...... thanks?

Posted by xScorpioGirlx
True i was quite mean to him last time i seen him told him i hated him and wanted a break

Ummm, I kind of think that answers itself.

Posted by xScorpioGirlx
he always told me if a girl told him its over or doesnt make an effort he wont try and fight for u :/

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In essence, he gave you the answers to the test. He told you that if a girl told him it's over or doesn't make an effort he wouldn't fight for her. Well, regardless of the fact you were drunk, you told him you hated him and wanted a break. You got what you asked for. While many may feel "sticks & stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me," that's not true. Words inflict more pain sometimes than someone just hitting someone (NOT that I'm condoning anybody hitting anyone).

Posted by gemtaur
There's nothing complicated about it. It's very simple. Just like Taurus and our relationships.

We like things simple. Scorpios love drama.

You brought it up AFTER you disappeared on him.

His PRIDE maybe? Hello? Simple.

His not wanting you to think you can mistreat him again? Hello? Simple.

Next.

here! here! *swirls wine in glass for toast*

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Posted by xScorpioGirlx
True i was quite mean to him last time i seen him told him i hated him and wanted a break

Ummm, I kind of think that answers itself.

Posted by xScorpioGirlx
he always told me if a girl told him its over or doesnt make an effort he wont try and fight for u :/

In essence, he gave you the answers to the test. He told you that if a girl told him it's over or doesn't make an effort he wouldn't fight for her. Well, regardless of the fact you were drunk, you told him you hated him and wanted a break. You got what you asked for. While many may feel "sticks & stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me," that's not true. Words inflict more pain sometimes than someone just hitting someone (NOT that I'm condoning anybody hitting anyone).

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here!here! *need a refill* :p

i only came here for a different perspective no need for the attitude but i ignored him after april but he keeps talking to me every week

lol

Posted by Days22
Why on earth would someone want to meet the parents of their glorified fuck buddy?

You should have stayed away after you dissapeared in april.
And taurus dudes remember everything they do when their drunk but they will pretend that they dont.

Think you got some stuff mixed up. The scorpio chick was the one that was drunk and spewed some venom. The taurus dude was the one that was like "what? that's how you feel? ok".

From the beginning, sure he wasn't all about getting into something serious, but as things progressed he wanted you to meet his family. From what I know, most people usually don't introduce their fuck buddies to their folks.

And then she bailed out when she was getting what she wanted from the very beginning.

All you can really do now is just go with it and see if you guys can start with a clean slate.

Wow it didn't censor the F word, sorry bout that lol.

Does one need to apologize for the F-bomb in Taurean company? I should think not. But thank you for the polite gesture Taurus83. 🙂

But getting a clean slate with me is very difficult to do. Unless of course you have a convincing argument.

OP. Here's what I usually say to people who disappear on me, ESPECIALLY on a bad note, come back:


" Keep your distance. You've relinquished all your privileges in getting close to me. That's YOUR bad." Then I would smile. If it were over the phone, the smile can be heard. =_____= I feel kinda heartless now.

I just think that once a person removes themselves from your life with unjustifiable cause, they were only thinking of themselves. Say for instance, 6 months passed and you come back saying "I miss you, I was wrong." I would just automatically say " Well for 6 months you didn't miss me, and you thought you were right."

Yeah, same with me. Clean slates would be nice but what happened would still be in the back of my mind the whole time. I never forget and also have a hard time letting go of being crossed by people in some way.

Best bet is just to roll with it though and be consistent and maybe he'll come to see that you aren't gonna pull the same thing again.

@SeeingRed....

I hope to god youre wrong 😢
Being a bit of a hothead at times, I just deleted someone off facebook rather hastily without listening to reason, and that person was a Taurus. Although we havent met yet, they did send me two (actually very nice messages) AFTER id deleted them.
Eight days have passed and yesterday i sent a "Friend Request" with a messaging genuanely apologising for deleting them, and that i was too hasty blah blah blah.....
No response yet......
Fingers Crossed

So how do i fix it? were talking like normal but he doesnt talk about his feelings so what do i do?

Posted by xScorpioGirlx
i only came here for a different perspective no need for the attitude but i ignored him after april but he keeps talking to me every week

Heh. You should probably start looking for another forum in which to reside. We don't sugar coat things here and we're all a little jaded. Many are nice but don't expect to be handled with kid gloves if you come looking for advice. Expect to be ripped a new asshole every time and you'll be fine 😉

Also, might I add, punctuation is very nice. It's like honey for the flies.

Posted by NZAqua
Good God, that was hard to read!

Lovey, he doesn't want a relationship - you're an option for him , which is why he's till contacting you.

You already gave him the sex, he doesn't have to work for anything from now on.

If you want respect and a decent bloke, don't give up the goodies and treat yourself as if you have far more value.
Blunt? yes. But true, too.

People rarely appreciate anything that's just given to them with no effort or work involved.

Just wondering what everyone thinks is the appropriate stage for goodies to be given up?
Interested to see if there will be a consensus or if girls will think one thing and boys another?