How difficult is it dealing with Aries?

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My dad is a Sagittarius in Western astrology and an Aries in vedic.He also has a Taurus moon which is why I feel he is the only one who understands me a little.But somehow,I find my relationship with my dad very toxic.it oscillates to the extremes.He can be the most loving,caring and selfless human in the world.He has given us more than anyone in his circumstances could have.I owe him so so much,he has done so much for us.But on the flipside,he blames me for everything wrong that happens in his life,for my smallest mistakes,he'll criticise me as much as he can.Whenever I go to my parent's place,most of the time I end up feeling I shouldn't have been there,that i never want to come back again.I feel so hurt and low.However,when i leave,he'll be all emotional and teary eyed.When I'm not home,he'll constantly miss me and wish i was home.but once i go back home,it's like hell.I think I like his Sag sun/Taurus moon side,his Aries vedic sign is intolerable! I in general have trouble dealing with Aries sun.although most of my close friends have Aries moon,but somehow,Aries sun won't get a Taurus sun perhaps.I also had this very close friend of mine-Aries sun/Taurus moon...then we had a fight.she still keeps telling ppl that I was the best friend she had ever had but that,she can't go back to normal.I don't know,how can you love someone so much yet hate them the most? Also,the other Aries that I know,I somehow don't gel with them.I dont like drama,impulsiveness,rage that is uncalled for..and then you come back acting all sweet and babyish as if nothing ever happened.Aries is known for child-like innocence but somehow,I can't get myself around to the fact that one can rebuke you and hurt you like a grown up but come back to you with child like innocence,no.I find that fake.Kids don't have all that hate in them.that's not innocence,that's selfishness.You can't assume that ppl will react based on your emotional timeline.I have an Aries Mars because of which I may tend to be impulsive and dramatic at times.I hate that side of mine,I've been trying hard to tame it.Idk,It's like,for all the Aries I've met,they can be such wonderful ppl minus that rage and impulsiveness.That hurts my Taurus self.
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Posted by Gooober
I know what youre saying. Go to them about it. Make them think about their actions and let them know that it hurts you. They should understand, apologize and try to control themselves.
Done that.They won't admit they were wrong but will apologise because they hurt you and they'll feel bad about it.They'll tell you it will never happen again.But that is only until they lash out at you again.And then the whole rage and drama cycle repeats.
also,do they have ego issues?
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I know what youre saying. Go to them about it. Make them think about their actions and let them know that it hurts you. They should understand, apologize and try to control themselves.
Done that.They won't admit they were wrong but will apologise because they hurt you and they'll feel bad about it.They'll tell you it will never happen again.But that is only until they lash out at you again.And then the whole rage and drama cycle repeats.
also,do they have ego issues?
Yes, I think controlling that fire is something that Aries goes through at some point but I could be wrong. It is hard to admit to be wrong and it is something I force myself to.

What was it that you think your Aries friend (who has Taurus Moon) didn't understand about you?
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She was very insecure of my friends.She thought i prioritize them more than her.She didn't understand that everyone has a separate place in my heart,that I can talk to her less but still care about her the most.Also,many a times,she would doubt my friendship.We had this huge fight because someone,whom I had given my hairstyler to,forgot to hand it over to her when she needed it for a party.She said it was my fault,that i should've left work and made sure she got the hairstyler on time and despite me telling her that I thought i heard she said she had given the hairstyler,she held me responsible and said many mean things to me.She always says mean things to me whenever we have a fight,I always let it go but this time,I was saturated and didn't have the energy to deal with her crap anymore.So when she said we should end things,I never made an attempt to reconcile.She now keeps telling ppl that I was the best friend she has ever had but that,she can't be friends with me anymore.
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Posted by Gooober
I know what youre saying. Go to them about it. Make them think about their actions and let them know that it hurts you. They should understand, apologize and try to control themselves.
Done that.They won't admit they were wrong but will apologise because they hurt you and they'll feel bad about it.They'll tell you it will never happen again.But that is only until they lash out at you again.And then the whole rage and drama cycle repeats.
also,do they have ego issues?
From my experience,that happens when nothing exciting happens,they need the action,new,interesting things,challenges so all that will be created. It's when you can't put feelings in another way and all that frustration comes in.

You need patience if these people are important to you and find a way to help them express their feelings in other ways,communicate more with them,involve them more into your life and find their vulnerability.
They probably know what's the problem and they can hear you but they just don't know any other way. Every relationship goes through friction,it's how productive it gets after that,it takes two to tango,it doesn't matter if it's a family member or your best friend,stagnation destroys partnerships.





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The thing is,I always end up justifying their actions.I always let things pass because I kinda understand them.But just because I understand someone's tendency of being dramatic and short tempered.it doesn't entitle me to deal with it whenever they please.I've started giving up on them.I've been dealing with this for a long time now.I love my dad but all this is making me grow emotionally numb towards him gradually.i hate it.
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She was very insecure of my friends.She thought i prioritize them more than her.She didn't understand that everyone has a separate place in my heart,that I can talk to her less but still care about her the most.Also,many a times,she would doubt my friendship.We had this huge fight because someone,whom I had given my hairstyler to,forgot to hand it over to her when she needed it for a party.She said it was my fault,that i should've left work and made sure she got the hairstyler on time and despite me telling her that I thought i heard she said she had given the hairstyler,she held me responsible and said many mean things to me.She always says mean things to me whenever we have a fight,I always let it go but this time,I was saturated and didn't have the energy to deal with her crap anymore.So when she said we should end things,I never made an attempt to reconcile.She now keeps telling ppl that I was the best friend she has ever had but that,she can't be friends with me anymore.
I see. Can I ask whether or not you talk/hang out with your other friends more than you do with her?
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She isn't of my College so naturally I can't spend time with her at college.Otherwise,I was always with her.If my college had some fest and I would take her there,it is understandable that I'll have to pay equal attention to both her and my college friends.she,however, wanted undivided attention.
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I preferred not to argue because when angry,she would never understand a word.I used to tell her what affected me later very subtly because she rarely ever accepted her faults and I didn't want to fight again.She however would apologise for her temper but then repeat the same behaviour.was talking of any use? No.My dad would however accept his faults AND apologise for his temper when he cools down.But then again,repeat the same behaviour,same rage, over and over and over again!