TheCancerGirl
@TheCancerGirl
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Posted by TheCancerGirlHe told you what he meant, and he means exactly what he says. Nothing more, nothing less. Stop being so self absorbed and give the man some space.
I just need advice on how i should handle this not talking to him for 70 days would in my mind seriously would be impossible. Do you guys think he is saying he wants to end all communication or that he just wants to slow down? I need some help from the mind of a Taurus right now because I don't know what to think.



Posted by TheCancerGirlstop making it about you. he is ending his marriage. he is dealing with a whole range of emotions especially given there is a child involved and the separation that will take place. he's going to be worried about keeping contact with his kid, finances, co-parenting.
That's exactly what I am saying that is just way too long I have never even went to full days without talking to him and I can't even see that he can go that long without talking to me when he usually calls and text multiple times a day.. The communication just slowed down but even then he at least called once a day or since text.. This is extremely hard for me

Posted by TheCancerGirlyou're welcome. sometimes it really is just giving your partner what they need at the time, no matter the sacrifice to you. to me, that is real love.
@jeane OMG I love everything about what you just said thank you so much and you are so right.. I see myself marrying this man and spending my life with him so 70 days should be nothing when you think of it like that.. I hope to hear from him as well he always calls and tells me how much he misses me so I couldn't believe he even thinks he can make it that long.. Thank you again

Posted by DonnaElvira77it' interesting you should say that. it could be a test...
oh my gaawwwd
text back 69 days and it's a deal! And if he can't tell you are joking lose all respect for him.
No text back 40 days and it's a deal...and ask him to buy you a countdown calender! Tell him you want to mark off everyday with a heart!
Why 70 days? Why not 71 days— lol
Or 67 ?? It's an auspicious number? 😉
Why 70 days?
He is just keeping you hanging around.
If he wanted you he would want you now. I am sorry but I don't see there is anything between you. Not in the way you feel.
It's a way of getting rid of you. And it's controlling.
He needs to get grip. He is the cling one. He can't cut you loose. His divorce is his issue. Meh.
I know you won't take my advice. But there you go. We cancers get attached easy etc and are driven by emotions I get that.
Posted by DonnaElvira77
This guy does not love you he is a gobshite. He will never love you. End it now.
Posted by NevermoreI was stating that I can see that in our future not tomorrow .. I even asked him to give me 2 years before we talk about kids or marriage because I need time for that but I can see it all happening eventfully.. So let's not act like I'm saying I would go to the court house tomorrow because that's not the casePosted by TheCancerGirl
@jeane OMG I love everything about what you just said thank you so much and you are so right.. I see myself marrying this man and spending my life with him so 70 days should be nothing when you think of it like that.. I hope to hear from him as well he always calls and tells me how much he misses me so I couldn't believe he even thinks he can make it that long.. Thank you again
But you just know 5 months.. how can you be so sure to wanting married him already? Geez.. talkin about crazyness..click to expand
Posted by jeanePosted by DonnaElvira77it' interesting you should say that. it could be a test...
oh my gaawwwd
text back 69 days and it's a deal! And if he can't tell you are joking lose all respect for him.
No text back 40 days and it's a deal...and ask him to buy you a countdown calender! Tell him you want to mark off everyday with a heart!
Why 70 days? Why not 71 days— lol
Or 67 ?? It's an auspicious number? 😉
Why 70 days?
He is just keeping you hanging around.
If he wanted you he would want you now. I am sorry but I don't see there is anything between you. Not in the way you feel.
It's a way of getting rid of you. And it's controlling.
He needs to get grip. He is the cling one. He can't cut you loose. His divorce is his issue. Meh.
I know you won't take my advice. But there you go. We cancers get attached easy etc and are driven by emotions I get that.click to expand

Posted by TheCancerGirltaurus are notorious for their tests. they like to test potential partners as part of their assessment to keep you. this 70 day silence, could be a test to see how you react, behave and respond to him. it will tell him a lot about your patience, devotion, loyalty, trustworthiness.
@jeane could you explain what you mean about the test a little more ?
Posted by jeaneLOL...I am definitely a tester. But I would never do a 70 day test like this. That is kinda nutty.Posted by TheCancerGirltaurus are notorious for their tests. they like to test potential partners as part of their assessment to keep you. this 70 day silence, could be a test to see how you react, behave and respond to him. it will tell him a lot about your patience, devotion, loyalty, trustworthiness.
@jeane could you explain what you mean about the test a little more ?
i'm not saying he is thinking like that but it's not out of the realm of possibility.click to expand
Posted by TheCancerGirlOk - so you made up the 70 day thing. We're reading this thinking he said he literally can't talk to you for 70 days, which makes him sound crazy.Posted by DonnaElvira77
This guy does not love you he is a gobshite. He will never love you. End it now.
Hi @donna so let me clarify he didn't say 70 days I just counted the days his divorce will be final in 70 days and he just asked for time to get finish with that situationclick to expand

Posted by TheCancerGirlJust be cooool, and feel it out as you go.
I just need advice on how i should handle this not talking to him for 70 days would in my mind seriously would be impossible. Do you guys think he is saying he wants to end all communication or that he just wants to slow down? I need some help from the mind of a Taurus right now because I don't know what to think.

Posted by TheCancerGirlJeane fucks with people regularly for fun.
I see.. Well I'm hoping I will pass that test

Posted by TheCancerGirlHave no idea about taurean people but I would give that time.. He doesn't ask too much, I guess he just wants to slow down. Don't be scared and give him a time. Divorcing isn't easy process and especially with somebody you loved once. Either way you can't do anything. Just don't text him even a word until hes coming back to you. Good luck.
I just need advice on how i should handle this not talking to him for 70 days would in my mind seriously would be impossible. Do you guys think he is saying he wants to end all communication or that he just wants to slow down? I need some help from the mind of a Taurus right now because I don't know what to think.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioSo when I wrote the original post I ran out of characters so I couldn't explain it all but in a nutshell I copied and past his text at the top.. And he said the divorce was final March 17 which is 70 days from now.. I posted his text verbatim because I really didn't know how to take it at all.. We have never went very long without talking so I don't really see how he could even last that long.. But thank you because I was afraid to even ask him I don't know how Taurus are when they get this way because this is our first experience where he has requested any space at all from me So thank youPosted by TheCancerGirlOk - so you made up the 70 day thing. We're reading this thinking he said he literally can't talk to you for 70 days, which makes him sound crazy.Posted by DonnaElvira77
This guy does not love you he is a gobshite. He will never love you. End it now.
Hi @donna so let me clarify he didn't say 70 days I just counted the days his divorce will be final in 70 days and he just asked for time to get finish with that situation
So basically, it just seems he's going to have less regular communication with you, while he's settling his divorce. Not that big of a deal. Just express how attached you are and how hard it will be for you, and try to come up with something that works for you both. If he cares, I'm sure he'll make some effort to touch base, even if the time is more minimal.click to expand
Posted by MontgomeryYes I agree the most with your statement I know how much he loves his son and he did tell me that he son express that he was sad about the whole situation.. So he may have said some and I have seen myself how his sons unhappiness impacts him.. What does your gut tell you about him giving me the date— That is my biggest dilemma I didn't know if he was saying no contact at all or he's saying just take a step back until then .. It just really confused me.. I have a lot of faith in us because we make each other so happy we have never had an argument or even been mad at each other in 5 months so I believe we are compatiblePosted by TheCancerGirlJust be cooool, and feel it out as you go.
I just need advice on how i should handle this not talking to him for 70 days would in my mind seriously would be impossible. Do you guys think he is saying he wants to end all communication or that he just wants to slow down? I need some help from the mind of a Taurus right now because I don't know what to think.
This really is a tough one, but shit's getting real and he's worried about his kid.
I think it's significant that he gave you THE DATE.
And no, I don't think it will be 70 days with no communication... I just think that
maybe his kid said or did something that made him feel like crap, and he's
having to get a handle (emotionally) on what's happening.
Understand, you can't stop the decision he makes, but you can ruin it by being
all suffocating, and trying to micromanage the situation.
You've got to have faith, beh beh.
🙂click to expand
Posted by pisceanlovesNot texting him a word is definitely going to be hard.. He is currently my best friend but if it's what he wants I will do whatever it takesPosted by TheCancerGirlHave no idea about taurean people but I would give that time.. He doesn't ask too much, I guess he just wants to slow down. Don't be scared and give him a time. Divorcing isn't easy process and especially with somebody you loved once. Either way you can't do anything. Just don't text him even a word until hes coming back to you. Good luck.
I just need advice on how i should handle this not talking to him for 70 days would in my mind seriously would be impossible. Do you guys think he is saying he wants to end all communication or that he just wants to slow down? I need some help from the mind of a Taurus right now because I don't know what to think.click to expand
Posted by NevermoreI love this idea as well I always feel a relief when I can't get things off my chest so I will definitely be taking this advicePosted by LadyNeptune
Give him what he asks for, some space to finish putting the past in the past.
If your overwhelmed with emotion I'd suggest writing him letters. Don't send them! Just write. Pour out all your emotion onto the page.
Maybe one day in the near future you'll give them to him to read.
I like that idea.click to expand

Posted by TheCancerGirlThe date?Posted by MontgomeryYes I agree the most with your statement I know how much he loves his son and he did tell me that he son express that he was sad about the whole situation.. So he may have said some and I have seen myself how his sons unhappiness impacts him.. What does your gut tell you about him giving me the date— That is my biggest dilemma I didn't know if he was saying no contact at all or he's saying just take a step back until then .. It just really confused me.. I have a lot of faith in us because we make each other so happy we have never had an argument or even been mad at each other in 5 months so I believe we are compatiblePosted by TheCancerGirlJust be cooool, and feel it out as you go.
I just need advice on how i should handle this not talking to him for 70 days would in my mind seriously would be impossible. Do you guys think he is saying he wants to end all communication or that he just wants to slow down? I need some help from the mind of a Taurus right now because I don't know what to think.
This really is a tough one, but shit's getting real and he's worried about his kid.
I think it's significant that he gave you THE DATE.
And no, I don't think it will be 70 days with no communication... I just think that
maybe his kid said or did something that made him feel like crap, and he's
having to get a handle (emotionally) on what's happening.
Understand, you can't stop the decision he makes, but you can ruin it by being
all suffocating, and trying to micromanage the situation.
You've got to have faith, beh beh.
🙂click to expand


Posted by berrywiddleIt's great to know that I am not the only person who has experienced this.. Only on day 3 and it feels like 300 haha but if I can make it 3 days I can wait this thing out. I will do whatever it takes.. Thank you @berrywidddle
GIVE HIM IS SPACE. If it's one thing I know about a Taurus man, they do not sugarcoat or play games. He is telling you that it's you he wants, so respect his space. Do not contact him. If you keep trying to contact him, he will not take you serious. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. If you can survive 70 days without him, I GUARANTEE he will be yours. Take it from me, I messed up with a Taurus, tried to read between the lines, when it was straight forward and beautiful, but I was over thinking and it let to our demise. Don't let this happen to you. Taurus men are the greatest, in my experience. And I've dated all signs except a Leo. And I would love to settle down with a Taurus man, my Taurus man, but it's wishful thinking.


Posted by P-AngelJust ignore her. Perpetually negative about everything. Click on her name and read a few pages of her posts if you want a good laugh. Every 2nd or 3rd post is labeling someone an idiot, a cunt, trash, etc.
So, people have to actually tell you that to wait means wait?
People have to actually tell you that if he wants to talk to you before then, then he will?
people have to actually tell you that if you really do love them, then a couple months time isn't excessive?
people have to actually tell you that if you really do love him, then you have to be understanding?
Like, all of those things escape your brain? ..... and you have to actually be guided to think rationally?
Poor guy, you're kind of a dumbass, aren't you?
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioYou are so right.. Why do people have to be so negative this issue was huge to me because I really love him and I want to make sure I handle it the right way.. I want use to work..Posted by P-AngelJust ignore her. Perpetually negative about everything. Click on her name and read a few pages of her posts if you want a good laugh. Every 2nd or 3rd post is labeling someone an idiot, a cunt, trash, etc.
So, people have to actually tell you that to wait means wait?
People have to actually tell you that if he wants to talk to you before then, then he will?
people have to actually tell you that if you really do love them, then a couple months time isn't excessive?
people have to actually tell you that if you really do love him, then you have to be understanding?
Like, all of those things escape your brain? ..... and you have to actually be guided to think rationally?
Poor guy, you're kind of a dumbass, aren't you?
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Posted by TheCancerGirl
I've never had a person ask me for space when our relationship is perfect..

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Morning babe hope this day finds everything goin well with u. i want u to know that you are the first real lady that has really taken my heart so fast with the blink of a eye. I mean when i thought i was really done with women for a long time u came along. u are a amazing woman. i love everything about u. I wouldnt change a thing. I really think its a future for me & u. I can almost say i think I Love U...WOW.. U have took me & my mind by storm & u told me when we met u would.. I just need a little time to close this chapter in my life that started 8 yrs ago.Thursday MARCH 17 will be that day..My heart is heavy & my mind is confused..i need this time really to just finish this out.. My son is a little confused also & i need to be there to help him get through this. U deserve the best baby.. i cant give that to u at this moment. I want to.. i really do.. u are so beautiful..smart..intelligent..sexy..loving..everything that i want in a lady.. but i am so confused & trying to get through this little time.. u dont deserve to go through me not talking to u and being like this till this end.. i can be yours after...i hope you understand.U are perfect for me but i dont want to mess up what can be here when this chapter is closed.. please understand..