NikkiMse1978
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How to NOT
Betrayal.
Lead on with no intentions.
Manipulate.
Lead on with no intentions.
Manipulate.
I feel Taur's do the leading on with no intentions. The manipulating and the betrayl. But that's just me...
Posted by robyn808
People who normally feel lead on or manipulated by Taurus' are usually projecting they're own desires on the bull. We can be silent stoic types so what someone believes, is nothing more then what they already thought.
WOW-that is grand insight! It very well could be...
Posted by robyn808
Whats worse?
Leading on with no intentions or trying to hide an ulterior motive?
My intentions may be to get to know someone, and at some point I may decide that I've done that well enough and would like to move on.
So whats your excuse?
No excuse here, just when you are the one who is fully hurt in an 8 month relationship, and he runs back and sleeps with an ex-but wait-he LOVES you (what a load of bs!) That is not cause to wonder what happened? I am just realizing that earth signs and me- we do not mix that well.
You accept a bull for who they are, the full 100% or don't even bother.
If you start out with the idea of changing someone -especially a Taurus- you're in for a world of frustration and pain.
From what I've learned out of personal experience:
-Accept them for who they are
-Never try to forcefully change them
-ALWAYS be 100% honest, even if it makes you less than perfect, they much prefer someone honest with flaws than a fake perfect person.
-Make them laugh, delve into their mind and find out what makes them laugh.
-Make them feel safe. This is a tricky one as most people don't really know what makes a Taurus feel safe.
->Consistency in what you say and do. Don't pretend to be something you're not and never make promises you cannot keep. Let your actions speak for you, no need to point this out either because they will have noticed it.
->Don't insult them. Even if you think it's playful, bulls never forget insults on their persona. They can forgive you yes, but they'll never forget. The day your positive value is outweighed by the negative, you lose them completely.
->Accept that they'll have friends who can be strange at first sight, but have been carefully selected for their own unique value. Never insult or remark negatively on them, should you do this do add a logical explanation as to WHY you think this. If you just insult one of their highly protected/valued people, it'll be seen as a personal attack.
->Family is very important to them. You may not like this but a lot of the times, family comes first and you being a date comes second in the choice between these two. In reality.. dating someone isn't a high priority on their list, it's more of a constant lookout for that one special person. Don't be surprised if you're one of many being dated.
->You prove YOUR worth to them. Enough of this bullshit that you want them to just know how awesome you are. Starting with that attitude will give you a nice view of their ass as they walk away. Sure it's some push and pull, but when they're interested back you will KNOW/FEEL it.
->Don't expect huge displays of affection or emotional outbursts of happy. This is the strong silent type that grabs your feet, looks up at you and as you stare into those big eyes, you know they won't let you go but will support you no matter what. You won't be floating on air but take in that solid foundation beneath your feet, that's what matters to them.
If you start out with the idea of changing someone -especially a Taurus- you're in for a world of frustration and pain.
From what I've learned out of personal experience:
-Accept them for who they are
-Never try to forcefully change them
-ALWAYS be 100% honest, even if it makes you less than perfect, they much prefer someone honest with flaws than a fake perfect person.
-Make them laugh, delve into their mind and find out what makes them laugh.
-Make them feel safe. This is a tricky one as most people don't really know what makes a Taurus feel safe.
->Consistency in what you say and do. Don't pretend to be something you're not and never make promises you cannot keep. Let your actions speak for you, no need to point this out either because they will have noticed it.
->Don't insult them. Even if you think it's playful, bulls never forget insults on their persona. They can forgive you yes, but they'll never forget. The day your positive value is outweighed by the negative, you lose them completely.
->Accept that they'll have friends who can be strange at first sight, but have been carefully selected for their own unique value. Never insult or remark negatively on them, should you do this do add a logical explanation as to WHY you think this. If you just insult one of their highly protected/valued people, it'll be seen as a personal attack.
->Family is very important to them. You may not like this but a lot of the times, family comes first and you being a date comes second in the choice between these two. In reality.. dating someone isn't a high priority on their list, it's more of a constant lookout for that one special person. Don't be surprised if you're one of many being dated.
->You prove YOUR worth to them. Enough of this bullshit that you want them to just know how awesome you are. Starting with that attitude will give you a nice view of their ass as they walk away. Sure it's some push and pull, but when they're interested back you will KNOW/FEEL it.
->Don't expect huge displays of affection or emotional outbursts of happy. This is the strong silent type that grabs your feet, looks up at you and as you stare into those big eyes, you know they won't let you go but will support you no matter what. You won't be floating on air but take in that solid foundation beneath your feet, that's what matters to them.
->Only a rare few can resist the frustration that is Taurus patience. As you realize that you're not the only one courting them, you need to have thick skin and believe in your own worth. If you're one that wants the guy/girl to just realize how awesome you are after a few dates, you'll be sorely frustrated soon. Taurus is a slow moving person, analyzing every step they make very closely. When I say slowly, I do honestly mean SLOWLY. I had personal frustrations too about the amount of waiting I had to do -and still do- but at some point something just clicked. I started to feel that connection, that level of protection, the interest behind those deep eyes staring at my every move. Dating a Taurus is a constant test that you can only pass if you let yourself be you. Faking or lying will stand out so fast and once trust is broken.. it's pretty much gone forever. Do note that you're just a date, not a partner of many years or family. You get one chance so use it well.
->They love routine and always have one in place, even if it's not apparent to you at first. You can drive yourself mental over the fact that you have to wait to see them, after all you're a new variable in their busy schedule. THE schedule of friends, family, hobbies, things that matter to them. They won't move heaven & earth for you at first in order to see you, you haven't proven your worth yet. Once you figure out their routine, take a breath and take in how dependable they are. Some find them to be utterly boring but I've always basked in the glory that is their security. Dependable is one of the key words I'd use for a Taurus. It's linked with the fact that they don't change fast, if at all.
This is about all I can think of right now, but read it closely and know what you're getting yourself into.
They're not the fast lane people that race from point A to B. They're the sightseeing detour people that live life to the fullest, discovering themselves and items of worth along the way. Loading up their cart of finds and be happy you get to be a part of this journey.
Plenty of other signs to choose from if you like it fast, just don't complain afterwards that you've fallen head over heels for that magnetic Taurus aura, and they won't budge to your ideal of a partner.
Big hug for all those wonderful bulls out there —
->They love routine and always have one in place, even if it's not apparent to you at first. You can drive yourself mental over the fact that you have to wait to see them, after all you're a new variable in their busy schedule. THE schedule of friends, family, hobbies, things that matter to them. They won't move heaven & earth for you at first in order to see you, you haven't proven your worth yet. Once you figure out their routine, take a breath and take in how dependable they are. Some find them to be utterly boring but I've always basked in the glory that is their security. Dependable is one of the key words I'd use for a Taurus. It's linked with the fact that they don't change fast, if at all.
This is about all I can think of right now, but read it closely and know what you're getting yourself into.
They're not the fast lane people that race from point A to B. They're the sightseeing detour people that live life to the fullest, discovering themselves and items of worth along the way. Loading up their cart of finds and be happy you get to be a part of this journey.
Plenty of other signs to choose from if you like it fast, just don't complain afterwards that you've fallen head over heels for that magnetic Taurus aura, and they won't budge to your ideal of a partner.
Big hug for all those wonderful bulls out there —
If your personality is such that you like to have a lot of never ending drama surrounding you, then a Taurus is probably not going to be a good match for you. If you like to have knock down, yelling, screaming, name calling fights that would be cause to start another war, then a Taurus is probably not for you. With that being said, we have been known to fall in love with those types of people, but in my experience (speaking for myself only), it usually doesn't work. Taurus folk, while very passionate, are not typically the type that like a lot of drama. That expression, "Make love not war," could have been coined by a Taurean. If something looks like it's going to take them down a road to hell, and break their heart, they will likely bow out, LONG before that person has the opportunity to drag them through the mud and rip their hearts out. Again, as has been stated in other threads, we are generally action-oriented people. We believe that actions speak louder than words. If you say, "I love you," but then commence to name calling, berating, and just crapping all over a bull, they will NOT like it at all. We like to feel good, so we like those who make us feel good, and we like to make our "love interest" feel good too.
That was amazing Ormas, on point. —
Agreed USC. *fist bump*
Agreed USC. *fist bump*
Posted by venusianbull
That was amazing Ormas, on point. —
I agree! Very nice and detailed explanation. 🙂 Now where was that 2 months ago... LOL j/k 🙂
Posted by USCTaurusGal
If your personality is such that you like to have a lot of never ending drama surrounding you, then a Taurus is probably not going to be a good match for you. If you like to have knock down, yelling, screaming, name calling fights that would be cause to start another war, then a Taurus is probably not for you. With that being said, we have been known to fall in love with those types of people, but in my experience (speaking for myself only), it usually doesn't work. Taurus folk, while very passionate, are not typically the type that like a lot of drama. That expression, "Make love not war," could have been coined by a Taurean. If something looks like it's going to take them down a road to hell, and break their heart, they will likely bow out, LONG before that person has the opportunity to drag them through the mud and rip their hearts out. Again, as has been stated in other threads, we are generally action-oriented people. We believe that actions speak louder than words. If you say, "I love you," but then commence to name calling, berating, and just crapping all over a bull, they will NOT like it at all. We like to feel good, so we like those who make us feel good, and we like to make our "love interest" feel good too.
You can make someone feel good and in turn it goes both ways. It IS a two way street. I am a big beliver that ACTIONS speak louder than words, so that is why, when a Taur (speaking from my own expeirence only) does not talk to you, that is a loud a clear message that things are over/done/finished. But then.....they come back as if nothing happened and get angry all over again when you have every right to be a tad miffed. Voila!! Disappear again.
To me these actions are childish, immature and harsh. They hurt as much as the disappearing act does.
I am accepting of Taur's in general. You are earth, grounded, stable, sincere and by golly you can compliment me in so many ways! I am attracted to earth signs.....
Posted by NikkiMse1978Posted by venusianbull
That was amazing Ormas, on point. —
I agree! Very nice and detailed explanation. 🙂 Now where was that 2 months ago... LOL j/k 🙂click to expand
Oh I kid you not, I knew nothing of this myself until I found the oracle "VenusianBull" on another website.
Traced her back to this lair and started reading up, study the object of my desire with conviction.
He drove me up the wall when I didn't know this simple info, but now that I do it's a breeze (most of the time).
This fish needs feeding on a regular basis, I'm not immune to the slow pace but knowledge brings understanding.
And understanding brings the "FEEDING" moehahaha 😄
*NOM NOM NOM* 😄
Oracle...too kind. *blushing* —
Oracle...too kind. *blushing* —
Posted by OrmasPosted by NikkiMse1978Posted by venusianbull
That was amazing Ormas, on point. —
I agree! Very nice and detailed explanation. 🙂 Now where was that 2 months ago... LOL j/k 🙂
Oh I kid you not, I knew nothing of this myself until I found the oracle "VenusianBull" on another website.
Traced her back to this lair and started reading up, study the object of my desire with conviction.
He drove me up the wall when I didn't know this simple info, but now that I do it's a breeze (most of the time).
This fish needs feeding on a regular basis, I'm not immune to the slow pace but knowledge brings understanding.
And understanding brings the "FEEDING" moehahaha 😄click to expand
She is...everywhere is she not? I would like for her to tutor me on the personality and qualities of Bull's...if she were willing of course 🙂
I am going to print out what you posted...and try to learn what it takes to make it a "breeze". BTW can you elaborate and what are some other trying areas you are improving on?
🙂
Posted by NikkiMse1978
She is...everywhere is she not? I would like for her to tutor me on the personality and qualities of Bull's...if she were willing of course 🙂
I am going to print out what you posted...and try to learn what it takes to make it a "breeze". BTW can you elaborate and what are some other trying areas you are improving on?
🙂
She is an omnipotent force on the internet, regarding her people 😉
There are multiple people on here that have nuggets of wisdom on Taurus *here's looking at you David13 & girl with the football for avatar*, so just ask away.
I'm sorry, I don't quite understand.
What are do you want me to elaborate on and "other trying areas"?
Deep inner strength
Posted by OrmasPosted by NikkiMse1978
She is...everywhere is she not? I would like for her to tutor me on the personality and qualities of Bull's...if she were willing of course 🙂
I am going to print out what you posted...and try to learn what it takes to make it a "breeze". BTW can you elaborate and what are some other trying areas you are improving on?
🙂
She is an omnipotent force on the internet, regarding her people 😉
There are multiple people on here that have nuggets of wisdom on Taurus *here's looking at you David13 & girl with the football for avatar*, so just ask away.
I'm sorry, I don't quite understand.
What are do you want me to elaborate on and "other trying areas"?
Deep inner strengthclick to expand
Other trying areas? What strengths, inner and outter did you develope? And what instance did you apply it to your Taur?
I don't mean to confuse, I am just aquiring all of the wisdom I can to move myself forward.
Posted by robyn808
ERRRRGGGGG!!!!!
NIKKI!
YOU DON'T NEED TO ASK ANYMORE QUESTIONS!
Just listen. That's it that you need to do. ssshhhhhhh!
I am asking you guys...not him!! So in essence I AM listening 🙂
Posted by NikkiMse1978Posted by USCTaurusGal
If your personality is such that you like to have a lot of never ending drama surrounding you, then a Taurus is probably not going to be a good match for you. If you like to have knock down, yelling, screaming, name calling fights that would be cause to start another war, then a Taurus is probably not for you. With that being said, we have been known to fall in love with those types of people, but in my experience (speaking for myself only), it usually doesn't work. Taurus folk, while very passionate, are not typically the type that like a lot of drama. That expression, "Make love not war," could have been coined by a Taurean. If something looks like it's going to take them down a road to hell, and break their heart, they will likely bow out, LONG before that person has the opportunity to drag them through the mud and rip their hearts out. Again, as has been stated in other threads, we are generally action-oriented people. We believe that actions speak louder than words. If you say, "I love you," but then commence to name calling, berating, and just crapping all over a bull, they will NOT like it at all. We like to feel good, so we like those who make us feel good, and we like to make our "love interest" feel good too.
You can make someone feel good and in turn it goes both ways. It IS a two way street. I am a big beliver that ACTIONS speak louder than words, so that is why, when a Taur (speaking from my own expeirence only) does not talk to you, that is a loud a clear message that things are over/done/finished. But then.....they come back as if nothing happened and get angry all over again when you have every right to be a tad miffed. Voila!! Disappear again.
To me these actions are childish, immature and harsh. They hurt as much as the disappearing act does.
I am accepting of Taur's in general. You are earth, grounded, stable, sincere and by golly you can compliment me in so many ways! I am attracted to earth signs.....click to expand
Well, just speaking for me. If I get to the point where I am not talking to you and I disappear, it's been more than one or two things that have transpired. It's been a LOT of things that have culminated, and I've reached my breaking point, and instead of saying mean and hateful things I remove myself and think LONG and
and HARD about that person and if I want them in my life or not. If I don't speak to them again or contact them, then the answer is no, I don't want them in my life. If I say something bothers me, and that person continues to do that thing, then I feel they don't respect me and that's filed away. I will talk about things that make me upset, but I will only mention once. I pay a great deal of attention to detail and if I know something bothers someone I care about, I make an effort NOT to do it. So, if I've expressed something to the person, and they continue to do that same action, then I am going to slowly remove myself from them. Mentally, emotionally, and then physically.
Posted by OrmasPosted by NikkiMse1978
She is...everywhere is she not? I would like for her to tutor me on the personality and qualities of Bull's...if she were willing of course 🙂
I am going to print out what you posted...and try to learn what it takes to make it a "breeze". BTW can you elaborate and what are some other trying areas you are improving on?
🙂
She is an omnipotent force on the internet, regarding her people 😉
There are multiple people on here that have nuggets of wisdom on Taurus *here's looking at you David13 & girl with the football for avatar*, so just ask away.
I'm sorry, I don't quite understand.
What are do you want me to elaborate on and "other trying areas"?
Deep inner strengthclick to expand
LOL @ "girl with the football avatar."
Posted by NikkiMse1978
Other trying areas? What strengths, inner and outter did you develope? And what instance did you apply it to your Taur?
I don't mean to confuse, I am just aquiring all of the wisdom I can to move myself forward.
Gosh you cannot disregard the fact that I am who I am, due to so many factors during growing up.
There's no way I can make you get the same routine and personality going, that took 26 years to develop to begin with.
I think the thing that sticks out most here is that you want a quick answer to certain situations or behaviors. Sorry but there is none. I know it's tempting to like study up on the guy/his starsign/his basic makeup to a certain extend.. but most of it comes from the heart and life in general.
I use ALL of me, thrown into the balance in order to survive here. Being who I am is what does the trick.
A few key points would be
-Deep inner strength, knowing where your value lies and building upon that. Great for confidence boosting.
-Endless patience cause you know how they love to be slow, the restlessness will have to go or you'll go crazy.
-Quick witted and making decisions on the spot, whilst not neglecting any possible aspect. Really hard to explain, let alone to teach you, it's something that comes naturally from years of training. I can make what LOOKS like snap decisions, but my mind has been processing everything already. Sometimes so fast that I don't actively register every detail until later: 'omg how did I forsee this?'
-Be pleasant to be around. Nobody likes a sourpuss and if you bring drama or trouble my way, the Pisces in me will try to help, but the Taurus in me just stops moving and wants to be kept out of your petty life. Your reward with them lies in the fact that you can make them smile and be happy, however you do this is up to you. I can only speak for myself here, but this is what works for my situation.
-Know how to bloody cook. MEN in general love someone that can cook well. Doesn't have to be haute cuisine or anything, but cooking skills filled with flavor, passion, love ... you can taste it. Food is the thing that binds people/family together my mother always believed. You can get angry at each other but you'll always come back for food. On another level if you can bind a Taurus with great food you made yourself, you're on step closer to attaining 'family' qualities.
-Pay attention to what they say and do. My mind is always taking in various information, small details, things that spark my interest about him. I add them to the mental file and will use this knowledge at a later point. There will come a moment where you can use this info, and if you just 'know' what to do or say.. you feel relaxed cause you know I'll be a good decision. Plus it shows that you paid attention. Something my Taurus mentioned his friends sometimes lack. This is regardless of starsign, just be interested in the person you're courting or drooling on.
-Be polite. People can be so rude! Where did they learn their manners I wonder so often. I'm very old in my ways of romance but also living. Saying thank you sincerely, drawing back chairs, holding doors open, etc. Ok women have a different set of ladylike rules, but above all be classy. You'll be like a diamond surrounded by pebbles. Plenty of uneducated/rude people out there, so someone with manners and some flair/class will shine brightly.
I cannot predict your dating developments to the minute or when to say what, but follow these basic guidelines for general success almost. If you have a solid foundation of actions that come automatically, you can have your mind wonder about -oeh is he looking at my ass, just kidding- the little details that make your date special.
Personally I like to dive into their world, discover what makes them tick. What made them into this person that I have an interest in? I go to the bottom of it all and finally puzzle the pieces together for myself. Taurus may judge our actions non stop, thinking about their moves.. but baby I've gone all the way into your soul and I'm still talking because I like what I saw. Now I just have to wait for you to see me too.
We all do some investigating 😉
-Pay attention to what they say and do. My mind is always taking in various information, small details, things that spark my interest about him. I add them to the mental file and will use this knowledge at a later point. There will come a moment where you can use this info, and if you just 'know' what to do or say.. you feel relaxed cause you know I'll be a good decision. Plus it shows that you paid attention. Something my Taurus mentioned his friends sometimes lack. This is regardless of starsign, just be interested in the person you're courting or drooling on.
-Be polite. People can be so rude! Where did they learn their manners I wonder so often. I'm very old in my ways of romance but also living. Saying thank you sincerely, drawing back chairs, holding doors open, etc. Ok women have a different set of ladylike rules, but above all be classy. You'll be like a diamond surrounded by pebbles. Plenty of uneducated/rude people out there, so someone with manners and some flair/class will shine brightly.
I cannot predict your dating developments to the minute or when to say what, but follow these basic guidelines for general success almost. If you have a solid foundation of actions that come automatically, you can have your mind wonder about -oeh is he looking at my ass, just kidding- the little details that make your date special.
Personally I like to dive into their world, discover what makes them tick. What made them into this person that I have an interest in? I go to the bottom of it all and finally puzzle the pieces together for myself. Taurus may judge our actions non stop, thinking about their moves.. but baby I've gone all the way into your soul and I'm still talking because I like what I saw. Now I just have to wait for you to see me too.
We all do some investigating 😉
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