I hurt my Taurus and don't know what to do

Taurus individuals are known for their loyalty and stability in relationships. This discussion shares a heartfelt story of a woman falling in love with a Taurus man after a difficult past experience. The thread contains personal experiences, concerns about trust, and the challenges of merging two lives from different places. Readers will gain insights into Taurus traits, how to navigate misunderstandings, and ways to strengthen a bond with a Taurus partner. If you are curious about Taurus relationship behaviors or seeking advice on overcoming fears and building trust, this thread offers valuable perspectives and emotional support.

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by Leoladylickingwounds on Monday, December 7, 2015 and has 117 replies.

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I have fell in love for the first time and it's with this amazing taurus man....I recently got out a bad relationship in june that I had legal ties to up until recently. A month an a half ago I met this man who absolutely swept me off my feet. He had been following me on fb and we would always leave comments and likes until one day he inboxed me and said a simple....Hey you....which is what I always say and like that we were just...boom...created...he told me he had the biggest crush on me ever since he saw me said that as soon as he laid eyes on me he said that's her that's the woman I'm going to marry...he has been super open with his emotions and how he feels about me and I've reciprocated as well because he just made me feel beautiful and loved and cherished and just omg...he is beyond amazing I would tell him everyday...he would send me messages every morning about how I'm the best thing that has ever happened to him and I'm a blessing and I motivate him inspire him and that he has fallen for me. We we text/talk/skype daily and I mean a lot over 30 times a day...the first thing when we wake to the time we go to sleep...I live in georgia and he works and lives in Illinois but comes to ga often to see his family...I was hurt severely bad in my last relationship and it makes it hard for me to trust and not get worried that he might be playing me or doing me wrong. I let him know my issues with that I'm very honest and I even told him I'm still legally tied to my ex which he said he was fine with he understands and that I'm not going to push him away and how he's going to prove that he can be that man to wipe away that pain and show me love and be there for me....he said he wants to marry me and start a family....I have had a moment where I acted like I was putting up walls because my defense mechanism just made me paranoid but I apologized and he said he understood even said he's glad I told him and apologized and he understands I've been hurt and it made him closer....he came for thanksgiving met my mom we spent 2 days together even tho he spent majority with his family (I encouraged it) but he didn't make a move to introduce me to his mom but has talked to her about me and even said previously he wanted me to meet her when we were spending time I bought it up in a funny way and he just laughed told me to hush and brushed it off I let it go....so he goes back home we are still great fast forward to last Tuesday night we skype and for some reason I'm just being extra bratty and feeling like he might be doing me wrong because of him not introducing me to his mom (petty right) it's more because my ex used to hide things from me and we had issues about titles and women and things of that sort and ultimately made me really insecure....so we're skyping and he asks how his mother in law is(my mom) aND I say playfully don't ask about her you can't ask because your mom doesn't even know I exist...he laughs it off and then says he misses me and I say pl

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Continued.......playfully but still kind of serious (my insecurities showing) no don't miss me you don't miss me then he's like you're lucky I'm crazy for you woman so I playfully rebut and then tell him goodnight and end the skype but immediately text and say I do miss him....later or earlier that morning I send him a long drawn out emotional text apologizing for being bratty and saying it's just me being conditioned to feel like he is going to hurt me or do something to mess me over and it was just my insecurities and the fact that I'm letting things affect me that shouldn't affect me anymore because I have him as such an amazing man and I tell him it will never happen again that I am ready to let him love me and I am so sorry for being a brat to him and that I know I will meet his mom soon and basically just apologize for being a brat so he does not contact me the next morning like he normally does with a good morning text know anything around 4 o'clock I text him is he ok he does not respond around 6:30 I asked him if he ok and he replied yes he is good and when after he get my apology he said yes he did all in all the whole text was just being short with me and nothing like I'm used to with him I'm used to the loving text messages and him calling me babe or my love or my future or future wife and he always is just very loving and caring and he seemed like he was cold and whenever I bought up about being distant with me and telling him that I'm sorry and

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and that I want to make it right he won't respond the next day I texted and said good morning and he did not seem like he was the loving person that he normally was and when I bought up again about me being sorry for what I did he did not say nothing at all and I asked him would it be better if I just did not contact him he did not respond I texted him that night saying that this really hurts and he texted me the next morning saying good morning I texted him back then I told him I missed him he said he missed me too and we talked that was that we have just had short conversations the whole time up until yesterday yesterday we Skype and he really did seem indifferent he was looking at me with love in his eyes but also it was almost like I saw a wall I saw a guard like he just did not care and I went ahead and admit it to him that I was in love with him I told him I initially felt it two weeks into us talking and then I told him when I fell in love with him and I also told him that I went ahead and cut all of my ties with my ex legally I got the paperwork changed and I told him I told my ex that I didn't want to have anything else to do with him and then I proceeded to tell him that I don't want anybody else but him and that I am in love with him and I'm ready to let him love me and I would never let anything like this happen again and that he would never have to worry about me second guessing him I reminded him that I understand that he said all those words to me and I really did believe him and I let things affect me that shouldn't affect me and told him again and again that I'm sorry that I hurt him and I just want to get back to where I want to be when I told him I missed him he reciprocated my same answer on our previous Skype saying no I don't miss him that I can't possibly miss him and I said with so much emotion that I did he told me you was getting ready to go to a movie I didn't even ask if he was going with someone else when I told him that I was in love with him and spilled my heart out and apologized he looked at me the whole time to my I didn't say anything while I was telling him and then he said okay I'm glad you told me and that we would talk later and he will call me later we will talk some more and he was getting ready to go to the movie and I told him that I would stay up if you want to Skype or call when he got the movie he said ok cool but he hasn't called me and now I just need to know where I stand I know that when Tauruses ignore you completely its just done and over with and nothing you can do about it but if they are still communicating with you but in a way being cold what does that mean and how can I fix it I just want my tourist that he is a may Taurus and for the first time of my life I am completely in love with someone and I told someone that and it wasn't the response that I wanted but I do love him and I do want to be with him I want my good morning text back in the loving words that have to tell me I want him to

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call me if future his babe his everything again I just need to know can I get back to that point or is he just being nice until he fade into the distance sorry for the long novel but I wanted to get all of the point across I just miss him have she'd tears and cried because I feel like I messed up this perfect love he pUT himself out there and in a way I did too but I know I hurt him and I guess I took him saying I'm not pushing him away and he will be there through my pain of getting over being hurt but his coldness just hurts I haven't slept much he's always on my mind...is he punishing me what do I do...I'm in love and admitted it the first in 31 years I don't want to lose him I want to marry this man have his children and grow old together what he used to tell me....his kiss set soul on fire his touch and hug and embrace makes me feel like I stepped into heaven...please help taurus men

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Posted by wicked
Did u make the same mistake again and again or u apologised many times for a single mistake? Does it make a difference? Im wondering this so I ended up typing it...
Apologise once. It says u r confident. Apologise many times it means u r not confident. Simple math.

I knowwwww lol I figured I would get everything out the way so I could get a full explaination lol he's not completely ignoring me we have texted everyday and he is no where near as loving and affectionate as he normally is like he's trying to hold back he has said he missed me but I've initiated the convo more since last Wednesday he has initiated maybe 3 times and he us usually the first and I had one situation where I was frustrated with something my ex did with this legal contract we were under and I called him and asked him just to make me smile he did then asked what's wrong and since I had been truthful I told him and I apologized for bringing that issue to him and he was saying he wanted me to confide in him so he felt closer to me and liked that I told him I had just apologized because I felt like I shouldn't have burdened him with that when we met up the chemistry was amazing it was like we had already been familiar it was the same if not more intense we smiled and laughing and we're pretty much up under each other the whole time...and I apologized once in the long ass emotional message the night I was being a bitch and apologized yesterday when we skyped and told him I was in love with him so I did make the same mistake just did it once but he knows I have been wary and scared because my trust has been damaged from the last relationship

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I'm sorry for not reading everything, but if you hurt Taurus, beware. It takes ages to heal and centuries to forgive. But the shit is that Tauruses dont forget.
Your only choice is to constantly prove you're a better version than your previous self, and you'll do everything to make amends.

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Posted by TaurusMarine
I'm sorry for not reading everything, but if you hurt Taurus, beware. It takes ages to heal and centuries to forgive. But the shit is that Tauruses dont forget.
Your only choice is to constantly prove you're a better version than your previous self, and you'll do everything to make amends.

I definitely understand on not reading lol sorry for all of that part of my leo nature...how would you suggest I constantly prove to him I've apologized admitted I was in love with him took full responsibility and said it would never happen again and that I wasn't playing games I've initiated most of the communication after we skyped and I told him again how sorry I was and that I fell in love with him he hasn't called or texted yet should I lay low today or call or text....I really don't want to lose him

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you fell in love after knowing him for 6 weeks? after just getting out of a serious relationship? hmmm, if i was a taurus, i'd be nervous and be dealing with you very cautiously.

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Posted by jeane
you fell in love after knowing him for 6 weeks? after just getting out of a serious relationship? hmmm, if i was a taurus, i'd be nervous and be dealing with you very cautiously.

The relationship was over in may it was just a long relationship and very hurtful....and yes I did I've never been in love but have loved deeply so I do know the difference and he told me he fell for me as well I was the apprehensive one first he was completely open and loving told me that he knew I was the woman for him and he wanted me to be the one he married was confident with it stated it daily and how much I'm his future and he's so happy the happiest he's ever been so the feeling was mutual I didn't just up fall in love in haste or in a rebound situation so if he was feeling the same way then once I say something that rubbed him the wrong way why is he being distant I don't know what's worse him talking to me but not like how he once was or him just saying leave me the hell alone all I know is I feel like I lost a best friend my heart hurts and I feel just hurt

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you fell in love after knowing him for 6 weeks? after just getting out of a serious relationship? hmmm, if i was a taurus, i'd be nervous and be dealing with you very cautiously.

The relationship was over in may it was just a long relationship and very hurtful....and yes I did I've never been in love but have loved deeply so I do know the difference and he told me he fell for me as well I was the apprehensive one first he was completely open and loving told me that he knew I was the woman for him and he wanted me to be the one he married was confident with it stated it daily and how much I'm his future and he's so happy the happiest he's ever been so the feeling was mutual I didn't just up fall in love in haste or in a rebound situation so if he was feeling the same way then once I say something that rubbed him the wrong way why is he being distant I don't know what's worse him talking to me but not like how he once was or him just saying leave me the hell alone all I know is I feel like I lost a best friend my heart hurts and I feel just hurt
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what is his venus in?

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you fell in love after knowing him for 6 weeks? after just getting out of a serious relationship? hmmm, if i was a taurus, i'd be nervous and be dealing with you very cautiously.

The relationship was over in may it was just a long relationship and very hurtful....and yes I did I've never been in love but have loved deeply so I do know the difference and he told me he fell for me as well I was the apprehensive one first he was completely open and loving told me that he knew I was the woman for him and he wanted me to be the one he married was confident with it stated it daily and how much I'm his future and he's so happy the happiest he's ever been so the feeling was mutual I didn't just up fall in love in haste or in a rebound situation so if he was feeling the same way then once I say something that rubbed him the wrong way why is he being distant I don't know what's worse him talking to me but not like how he once was or him just saying leave me the hell alone all I know is I feel like I lost a best friend my heart hurts and I feel just hurt
what is his venus in?
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Not sure maybe you can tell me his birthday is may 19th and his birth year is 1985

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you fell in love after knowing him for 6 weeks? after just getting out of a serious relationship? hmmm, if i was a taurus, i'd be nervous and be dealing with you very cautiously.

The relationship was over in may it was just a long relationship and very hurtful....and yes I did I've never been in love but have loved deeply so I do know the difference and he told me he fell for me as well I was the apprehensive one first he was completely open and loving told me that he knew I was the woman for him and he wanted me to be the one he married was confident with it stated it daily and how much I'm his future and he's so happy the happiest he's ever been so the feeling was mutual I didn't just up fall in love in haste or in a rebound situation so if he was feeling the same way then once I say something that rubbed him the wrong way why is he being distant I don't know what's worse him talking to me but not like how he once was or him just saying leave me the hell alone all I know is I feel like I lost a best friend my heart hurts and I feel just hurt
what is his venus in?
Not sure maybe you can tell me his birthday is may 19th and his birth year is 1985
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i think (and someone please correct me of i am wrong) his venus is in aries.

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Lmao listen don't blame this on venus aries...im a venus in aries and I would never be in love after 6 weeks!

yeah yeah...😆

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Posted by Twodrinks
And a Mars in gem to boot. With a moon in taurus!! Wowsers. All kinds of fun

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Lmao listen don't blame this on venus aries...im a venus in aries and I would never be in love after 6 weeks!
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yeah yeah...😆

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Posted by KittyKnitter
taurus likes security. he might not say so but he thought he could predict your behavior and you surprised him so now he is likely feeling a little off balance and yes it takes a while to get past a hurt. when hurt, he feels a distance between you and it's not easy to bridge that distance just because you apologized. so just give him some time. taurus is practical. he is not walking away just stepping back just a bit to protect himself in case something like this happens again. true you said it won't happen again so just be you and show who you are. give him some space if he wants it, it's how he copes with feeling emotional. keep up the chat and sit steady. he will relax in time and be warm again. my guy is always cool after we have a disagreement. i am fairly predictable but when upset, i can throw him off balance. i have said things that hurt him and didn't realize he was hurt. he is more emotional than i realized. so now i am very careful also about my tone. and when i talk about hurt in my life, he is quick to remind me he is not that guy who hurt me and he doesn't want to lumped in same category. he told me to judge him by what he does moreso than what he says. if i suggest he has done something to hurt me or might do something to hurt me, he goes on offensive, feeling defensive. so for now taurus is still a little hurt and a little cautious. this is just the adjustment time while he feels his way back to feeling secure with you again.

So do you think I was stupid for admitting I was in love with him....also after our skype session last night when I admitted that I was in love with him and apologized and said I wasn't playing games and that I missed him and it wouldn't happen again he hasn't called at all since and I am going through it really bad....so is the fact he's actually responding and has initiated convo a couple of times good or bad and I was thinking of writing a letter and sending a little gift....

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Posted by Twodrinks
Im going to try and be sensitive but it's been 6 weeks. Do you really know him well enough to be in love with him? And be so demanding to meet his parents? That would scare the shit out of me if someone I knew for 6 weeks was going on about being in love with me.

Well his dad is deceased and he was the one who initially wanted me to meet his whole family he insisted I even come to thanksgiving but I was still scared at the time so I never really said yes or no but said he should spend a lot of time with his family since he doesn't see them much and he has met my mother and already calls her his mother in law and trust me no need to be sensitive lol I cursed myself out a few times about why I'm feeling like this...I've never been in love so when it happened I was like wtf whoa where did thus come from which is probably why it took me so long to admit it to myself

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Posted by Twodrinks
And a Mars in gem to boot. With a moon in taurus!! Wowsers. All kinds of fun

Lol okay wait so what moon am I in I'm July 28th birth year 84

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yeah, you need to chill out. don't send a gift. you apologised now leave it be. you'll only end up making him more nervous than he is now. he said he wanted a confident woman. you are acting the complete opposite of that. you're acting a little crazy.

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And a Mars in gem to boot. With a moon in taurus!! Wowsers. All kinds of fun
Lol okay wait so what moon am I in I'm July 28th birth year 84
You appear to be a sun moon and venus leo. Little lover
Just chill out a little bit. Be your sweet little self but no more spilling your guts all over the place to him. So what you acted like a brat. One sorry was enough. Move on like nothing ever happened.
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Okay I hear you....and will take heed I guess I just freaked because it feels like he is the one I've been waiting for and that I feel a way I've never felt before for someone and felt if I didn't get it off my chest and tell him my feelings I would regret it because it would eat me alive inside...he's told me time and time again he's fell for me and I'm the love of his life and felt I could share that with him...I'll lay low for awhile...I just felt because he was communicating albeit not nearly what I'm used to rather than just flat out ignoring me that maybe there is a chance

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Posted by jeane
yeah, you need to chill out. don't send a gift. you apologised now leave it be. you'll only end up making him more nervous than he is now. he said he wanted a confident woman. you are acting the complete opposite of that. you're acting a little crazy.

I'm actually quite confident and that is one of the things he really loved about me but I didn't want to not seem really sorry for being a bratty bitch and felt being humble and mild mannered and apologizing was the key...and I don't feel like I'm acting crazy...well a little...but I would put my feelings on the table like that if he didn't reciprocate already if you could hear how he talks to me the way he treats me how he spoils me and is just awesome all around you would understand why I'm frantic and hurt but I'm just going to back off...I want to text or call and just say hello but not sure when it's a decent time to...should I just wait a few days and reach out...even if he hasn't reached out and if he doesn't reach out how long should I wait before just saying fuck it

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Posted by Twodrinks
Send him a picture of some cleavage...I guarantee the conflict will be over lol

Lmao I really considered it I sent him a regular picture a couple days ago and he replied and said damn you're pretty

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Send him a picture of some cleavage...I guarantee the conflict will be over lol
Lmao I really considered it I sent him a regular picture a couple days ago and he replied and said damn you're pretty
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And I did just buy some new lingerie

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yeah, you need to chill out. don't send a gift. you apologised now leave it be. you'll only end up making him more nervous than he is now. he said he wanted a confident woman. you are acting the complete opposite of that. you're acting a little crazy.
I'm actually quite confident and that is one of the things he really loved about me but I didn't want to not seem really sorry for being a bratty bitch and felt being humble and mild mannered and apologizing was the key...and I don't feel like I'm acting crazy...well a little...but I would put my feelings on the table like that if he didn't reciprocate already if you could hear how he talks to me the way he treats me how he spoils me and is just awesome all around you would understand why I'm frantic and hurt but I'm just going to back off...I want to text or call and just say hello but not sure when it's a decent time to...should I just wait a few days and reach out...even if he hasn't reached out and if he doesn't reach out how long should I wait before just saying fuck it
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hang on.

you were a confident woman. it's probably what attracted him in the first place.

apologising was the key but you are going to the extreme. outpourings of emotions, love, tears, regrets. it's too much.

he used talk to you nicely, used treat you nicely and spolied you.

he did those thing because of the way you behaved initially. now you've become desperate (and yes, we know, you've fallen in love), you've lost the person you were.

he has venus in aries, mars in gem and a taurus moon. he is going to be one stubborn and self centred fucker when it suits him. he is going to wants fun and sparkle and he is going to race in head first but if he becomes bored of you, you won't see him for dust.

lighten the mood. stop the pressure, stop the expectation, calm down.

and if you really are in love, what are you talking about throwing in the towel??! it shouldn't even be an option!

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Send him a picture of some cleavage...I guarantee the conflict will be over lol
Lmao I really considered it I sent him a regular picture a couple days ago and he replied and said damn you're pretty
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And I did just buy some new lingerie

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yeah, you need to chill out. don't send a gift. you apologised now leave it be. you'll only end up making him more nervous than he is now. he said he wanted a confident woman. you are acting the complete opposite of that. you're acting a little crazy.
I'm actually quite confident and that is one of the things he really loved about me but I didn't want to not seem really sorry for being a bratty bitch and felt being humble and mild mannered and apologizing was the key...and I don't feel like I'm acting crazy...well a little...but I would put my feelings on the table like that if he didn't reciprocate already if you could hear how he talks to me the way he treats me how he spoils me and is just awesome all around you would understand why I'm frantic and hurt but I'm just going to back off...I want to text or call and just say hello but not sure when it's a decent time to...should I just wait a few days and reach out...even if he hasn't reached out and if he doesn't reach out how long should I wait before just saying fuck it
hang on.

you were a confident woman. it's probably what attracted him in the first place.

apologising was the key but you are going to the extreme. outpourings of emotions, love, tears, regrets. it's too much.

he used talk to you nicely, used treat you nicely and spolied you.

he did those thing because of the way you behaved initially. now you've become desperate (and yes, we know, you've fallen in love), you've lost the person you were.

he has venus in aries, mars in gem and a taurus moon. he is going to be one stubborn and self centred fucker when it suits him. he is going to wants fun and sparkle and he is going to race in head first but if he becomes bored of you, you won't see him for dust.

lighten the mood. stop the pressure, stop the expectation, calm down.

and if you really are in love, what are you talking about throwing in the towel??! it shouldn't even be an option!

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I totally agree with you.....and lol I didn't cry in front of him I'm not that emo lol but when I spoke I spoke in my normal neutral soft tone but you are right my confidence kind of took a stage left the moment he switched on me...and I actually smiled when you said a stubborn and self centered fucked because that is my sentiment exactly and you mightve misconstrued what I said I by no means will throw in the towel until we have that convo that it's not going to go anywhere I meant that I will retreat to my corner and depending on if he contacts me I w

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yeah, you need to chill out. don't send a gift. you apologised now leave it be. you'll only end up making him more nervous than he is now. he said he wanted a confident woman. you are acting the complete opposite of that. you're acting a little crazy.
I'm actually quite confident and that is one of the things he really loved about me but I didn't want to not seem really sorry for being a bratty bitch and felt being humble and mild mannered and apologizing was the key...and I don't feel like I'm acting crazy...well a little...but I would put my feelings on the table like that if he didn't reciprocate already if you could hear how he talks to me the way he treats me how he spoils me and is just awesome all around you would understand why I'm frantic and hurt but I'm just going to back off...I want to text or call and just say hello but not sure when it's a decent time to...should I just wait a few days and reach out...even if he hasn't reached out and if he doesn't reach out how long should I wait before just saying fuck it
hang on.

you were a confident woman. it's probably what attracted him in the first place.

apologising was the key but you are going to the extreme. outpourings of emotions, love, tears, regrets. it's too much.

he used talk to you nicely, used treat you nicely and spolied you.

he did those thing because of the way you behaved initially. now you've become desperate (and yes, we know, you've fallen in love), you've lost the person you were.

he has venus in aries, mars in gem and a taurus moon. he is going to be one stubborn and self centred fucker when it suits him. he is going to wants fun and sparkle and he is going to race in head first but if he becomes bored of you, you won't see him for dust.

lighten the mood. stop the pressure, stop the expectation, calm down.

and if you really are in love, what are you talking about throwing in the towel??! it shouldn't even be an option!

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I totally agree with you.....and lol I didn't cry in front of him I'm not that emo lol but when I spoke I spoke in my normal neutral soft tone but you are right my confidence kind of took a stage left the moment he switched on me...and I actually smiled when you said a stubborn and self centered fucked because that is my sentiment exactly and you mightve misconstrued what I said I by no means will throw in the towel until we have that c

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yeah, you need to chill out. don't send a gift. you apologised now leave it be. you'll only end up making him more nervous than he is now. he said he wanted a confident woman. you are acting the complete opposite of that. you're acting a little crazy.
I'm actually quite confident and that is one of the things he really loved about me but I didn't want to not seem really sorry for being a bratty bitch and felt being humble and mild mannered and apologizing was the key...and I don't feel like I'm acting crazy...well a little...but I would put my feelings on the table like that if he didn't reciprocate already if you could hear how he talks to me the way he treats me how he spoils me and is just awesome all around you would understand why I'm frantic and hurt but I'm just going to back off...I want to text or call and just say hello but not sure when it's a decent time to...should I just wait a few days and reach out...even if he hasn't reached out and if he doesn't reach out how long should I wait before just saying fuck it
hang on.

you were a confident woman. it's probably what attracted him in the first place.

apologising was the key but you are going to the extreme. outpourings of emotions, love, tears, regrets. it's too much.

he used talk to you nicely, used treat you nicely and spolied you.

he did those thing because of the way you behaved initially. now you've become desperate (and yes, we know, you've fallen in love), you've lost the person you were.

he has venus in aries, mars in gem and a taurus moon. he is going to be one stubborn and self centred fucker when it suits him. he is going to wants fun and sparkle and he is going to race in head first but if he becomes bored of you, you won't see him for dust.

lighten the mood. stop the pressure, stop the expectation, calm down.

and if you really are in love, what are you talking about throwing in the towel??! it shouldn't even be an option!

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I totally agree with you.....and lol I didn't cry in front of him I'm not that emo lol but when I spoke I spoke in my normal neutral soft tone but you are right my confidence kind of took a stage left the moment he switched on me...and I actually smiled when you said a stubborn and self centered fucked because that is my sentimen

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I'm sorry that was a novel..

@OP- Let me ask you what do you think you've learned here?

What problems could you possibly compromise here? If you tried you've tried and mess up. Taurus is one shot. Or else type. Once trust is gone though that's when you should be concerned. We let shit go so much. But as soon as trust, loyalties, integrity, and bullshit drama starts. We get stubborn and picky. And feel like if I express something there should be changes in both parties. If not bye bye.

Because we're random type of people only come in someone's lives when it's supposed to come naturally. Mother earth is instincts and I use that alot.

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And spice up your relationship within its self. Swap nude pics is okay but just for your own lover that's it. No one else should see your precious body except him. Hm don't cry learn and evolve get better.

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I'm sorry that was a novel..

@OP- Let me ask you what do you think you've learned here?

What problems could you possibly compromise here? If you tried you've tried and mess up. Taurus is one shot. Or else type. Once trust is gone though that's when you should be concerned. We let shit go so much. But as soon as trust, loyalties, integrity, and bullshit drama starts. We get stubborn and picky. And feel like if I express something there should be changes in both parties. If not bye bye.

Because we're random type of people only come in someone's lives when it's supposed to come naturally. Mother earth is instincts and I use that alot.

I honestly just didn't think it was that big of a deal I really think he feels he has shown me he's not going to hurt me and he is a genuine person and I was still scared of being hurt everything just seemed so perfect and I guess when he told me he was comfortable with my issues and I should always tell him when I'm feeling like that and it made him feel closer that I should always express my feelings I think he feels I'm not over my ex. Which is not true I have no desire for him in any way bit I still harbor hurt and when I kept pushing about the mom and saying he doesn't miss me I think that set him off...and now I don't know how he feels he had already told me he fell for me and I told him yesterday I fell for him and he didn't call or text at all today I'm honestly heartbroken for the first time ever I fell in love and expressed my feelings and just crickets I don't know how he's feeling after I told him he said okay he's glad I told him and that we would talk more and he would give me a call and nothing today smh I'm beyond hurt

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I wld ask u not to send any pix now.
Unless u guys were sexting and such stuff.
Otherwise he will think u r being sleazy.
U wont even get a reaction from him if u send a sexy pic when he is pissed off.
He will look and enjoy it but may not get to know that... and u will get more hurt.

We were...and we liked doing it but we sent regular pictures too and I sent one on Saturday and he replied said damn I was pretty but that's it haven't sent any nudes or anything. Didn't want to seem more desperate than I was

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I did take the time to read your whole post. He's not ignoring you completely. He's just not responding in the way that he used to. Yes, relationships shift after one or both people get their feelings hurt. Being a Taurus he's probably processing it all bit by bit. Has he been hurt before? He sounds pretty expressive for a Taurus guy, so please consider that he may have also been down the road where he has expressed himself in the manner that he has with you and had a woman suddenly lose interest. Please remember that you're both bringing prior experiences into this new situation. Something that helps me to calm down when I have weird periods with my SO is that if you're trying to be together for the long haul, every day shouldn't bring a situation that puts your relationship on the line. Some stuff you just have to let go...even if it's quietness on the part of your Taurus guy. Let him be quiet without judging him and when he returns, greet him with the warmth that shows that you've missed him instead of greeting him with contempt for making you wait for a response.

You'll find out in reasonable time whether or not he's playing games. Just enjoy what you have and use the quiet times for your benefit.

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I did take the time to read your whole post. He's not ignoring you completely. He's just not responding in the way that he used to. Yes, relationships shift after one or both people get their feelings hurt. Being a Taurus he's probably processing it all bit by bit. Has he been hurt before? He sounds pretty expressive for a Taurus guy, so please consider that he may have also been down the road where he has expressed himself in the manner that he has with you and had a woman suddenly lose interest. Please remember that you're both bringing prior experiences into this new situation. Something that helps me to calm down when I have weird periods with my SO is that if you're trying to be together for the long haul, every day shouldn't bring a situation that puts your relationship on the line. Some stuff you just have to let go...even if it's quietness on the part of your Taurus guy. Let him be quiet without judging him and when he returns, greet him with the warmth that shows that you've missed him instead of greeting him with contempt for making you wait for a response.

You'll find out in reasonable time whether or not he's playing games. Just enjoy what you have and use the quiet times for your benefit.

i think he is racing forward because of his venus in aries. we've been here before. these guys tend not to stick.

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Posted by MsTeeq1974
I did take the time to read your whole post. He's not ignoring you completely. He's just not responding in the way that he used to. Yes, relationships shift after one or both people get their feelings hurt. Being a Taurus he's probably processing it all bit by bit. Has he been hurt before? He sounds pretty expressive for a Taurus guy, so please consider that he may have also been down the road where he has expressed himself in the manner that he has with you and had a woman suddenly lose interest. Please remember that you're both bringing prior experiences into this new situation. Something that helps me to calm down when I have weird periods with my SO is that if you're trying to be together for the long haul, every day shouldn't bring a situation that puts your relationship on the line. Some stuff you just have to let go...even if it's quietness on the part of your Taurus guy. Let him be quiet without judging him and when he returns, greet him with the warmth that shows that you've missed him instead of greeting him with contempt for making you wait for a response.

You'll find out in reasonable time whether or not he's playing games. Just enjoy what you have and use the quiet times for your benefit.

He has been hurt badly before and I didn't express interest back equally and just as eagerly I was never cold or non receptive and yes I was really amazed by his feelings and they just felt genuine and I'm usually very peceptive to bullshit no pun intended....but I haven't been coming at him about the silence badly more just like talking seeing how he is and saying I wish I knew how to correct this and that things have changed and I want to get it back the way it was.....update was I told him sunday via Skype that I was in love with him...probably a bad move but I knew if I didn't get it out it would eat me alive...he said we would talk more but today on Monday I heard nothing from him

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I did take the time to read your whole post. He's not ignoring you completely. He's just not responding in the way that he used to. Yes, relationships shift after one or both people get their feelings hurt. Being a Taurus he's probably processing it all bit by bit. Has he been hurt before? He sounds pretty expressive for a Taurus guy, so please consider that he may have also been down the road where he has expressed himself in the manner that he has with you and had a woman suddenly lose interest. Please remember that you're both bringing prior experiences into this new situation. Something that helps me to calm down when I have weird periods with my SO is that if you're trying to be together for the long haul, every day shouldn't bring a situation that puts your relationship on the line. Some stuff you just have to let go...even if it's quietness on the part of your Taurus guy. Let him be quiet without judging him and when he returns, greet him with the warmth that shows that you've missed him instead of greeting him with contempt for making you wait for a response.

You'll find out in reasonable time whether or not he's playing games. Just enjoy what you have and use the quiet times for your benefit.
i think he is racing forward because of his venus in aries. we've been here before. these guys tend not to stick.
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Racing forward in his departure or in his feelings...do you think he won't come around and I should just let it go

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I did take the time to read your whole post. He's not ignoring you completely. He's just not responding in the way that he used to. Yes, relationships shift after one or both people get their feelings hurt. Being a Taurus he's probably processing it all bit by bit. Has he been hurt before? He sounds pretty expressive for a Taurus guy, so please consider that he may have also been down the road where he has expressed himself in the manner that he has with you and had a woman suddenly lose interest. Please remember that you're both bringing prior experiences into this new situation. Something that helps me to calm down when I have weird periods with my SO is that if you're trying to be together for the long haul, every day shouldn't bring a situation that puts your relationship on the line. Some stuff you just have to let go...even if it's quietness on the part of your Taurus guy. Let him be quiet without judging him and when he returns, greet him with the warmth that shows that you've missed him instead of greeting him with contempt for making you wait for a response.

You'll find out in reasonable time whether or not he's playing games. Just enjoy what you have and use the quiet times for your benefit.
i think he is racing forward because of his venus in aries. we've been here before. these guys tend not to stick.
Racing forward in his departure or in his feelings...do you think he won't come around and I should just let it go
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it's normally both for venus in aries. fast to get in, fast to get out.

the best advice i can give you is to sit on your hands and wait. it's only been a day. adopt a zen like patience and wait.

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Posted by MsTeeq1974
I did take the time to read your whole post. He's not ignoring you completely. He's just not responding in the way that he used to. Yes, relationships shift after one or both people get their feelings hurt. Being a Taurus he's probably processing it all bit by bit. Has he been hurt before? He sounds pretty expressive for a Taurus guy, so please consider that he may have also been down the road where he has expressed himself in the manner that he has with you and had a woman suddenly lose interest. Please remember that you're both bringing prior experiences into this new situation. Something that helps me to calm down when I have weird periods with my SO is that if you're trying to be together for the long haul, every day shouldn't bring a situation that puts your relationship on the line. Some stuff you just have to let go...even if it's quietness on the part of your Taurus guy. Let him be quiet without judging him and when he returns, greet him with the warmth that shows that you've missed him instead of greeting him with contempt for making you wait for a response.

You'll find out in reasonable time whether or not he's playing games. Just enjoy what you have and use the quiet times for your benefit.
i think he is racing forward because of his venus in aries. we've been here before. these guys tend not to stick.
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Yes, but they do come back. Each time they come back...it's even stronger. That Taurus who is still pursuing me has an Aries Venus and so does a Pisces guy and twin Cap male friends of mine. They all do the same dang thing...jump into serious relationship status very quickly. Even if they don't express it that way...they are feeling it that way. They have gone away/quiet, but as long as they haven't been burned to the core... Like being cheated on...they come back. One of the reasons the Taurus chases me is because we weren't serious and when I met another man...I let him know. He tried to get me to choose him over the other guy, but I didn't. When that started falling apart...I ran directly to him. I never apologized for picking the other guy and I never will.

She needs to let him go quiet and come back. If she lets him do that...I promise he'll come back stronger each time. He's not leaving...just being quiet. All of my Aries Venus male friends have done it. FYI...all of them are dedicated to who they said they were going to stick it out for too. Any woman who they expressed the desire to be with forever is either still with them or they're still circling her. The Pisces and my Saggie bestie are the exception, but she's truly destructive. Like...toxic destructive so it's understanding that the Pisces wouldn't touch her with a 10ft pole. Lol

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Jeane is spot on. You have to find a zen place and just wait.

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I did take the time to read your whole post. He's not ignoring you completely. He's just not responding in the way that he used to. Yes, relationships shift after one or both people get their feelings hurt. Being a Taurus he's probably processing it all bit by bit. Has he been hurt before? He sounds pretty expressive for a Taurus guy, so please consider that he may have also been down the road where he has expressed himself in the manner that he has with you and had a woman suddenly lose interest. Please remember that you're both bringing prior experiences into this new situation. Something that helps me to calm down when I have weird periods with my SO is that if you're trying to be together for the long haul, every day shouldn't bring a situation that puts your relationship on the line. Some stuff you just have to let go...even if it's quietness on the part of your Taurus guy. Let him be quiet without judging him and when he returns, greet him with the warmth that shows that you've missed him instead of greeting him with contempt for making you wait for a response.

You'll find out in reasonable time whether or not he's playing games. Just enjoy what you have and use the quiet times for your benefit.
i think he is racing forward because of his venus in aries. we've been here before. these guys tend not to stick.
Racing forward in his departure or in his feelings...do you think he won't come around and I should just let it go
it's normally both for venus in aries. fast to get in, fast to get out.

the best advice i can give you is to sit on your hands and wait. it's only been a day. adopt a zen like patience and wait.
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Thank you and I will I guess I'm just really worried because I've never felt like this and just don't know how he's feeling I'm so forward and direct and a lay it on the table person. I would prefer he either say he's mad and cautious but not going anywhere so just chill the fuck out and let me handle my emotions or just say this isn't going anywhere the limbo is what's doing me in I don't know if I'm hanging on and he has no desire of coming back buy I'll wait I said if I didn't hear from him by Friday I was going to just accept that it's over....would that be right to do

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Posted by MsTeeq1974
Yes, but they do come back. Each time they come back...it's even stronger. That Taurus who is still pursuing me has an Aries Venus and so does a Pisces guy and twin Cap male friends of mine. They all do the same dang thing...jump into serious relationship status very quickly. Even if they don't express it that way...they are feeling it that way. They have gone away/quiet, but as long as they haven't been burned to the core... Like being cheated on...they come back. One of the reasons the Taurus chases me is because we weren't serious and when I met another man...I let him know. He tried to get me to choose him over the other guy, but I didn't. When that started falling apart...I ran directly to him. I never apologized for picking the other guy and I never will.

She needs to let him go quiet and come back. If she lets him do that...I promise he'll come back stronger each time. He's not leaving...just being quiet. All of my Aries Venus male friends have done it. FYI...all of them are dedicated to who they said they were going to stick it out for too. Any woman who they expressed the desire to be with forever is either still with them or they're still circling her. The Pisces and my Saggie bestie are the exception, but she's truly destructive. Like...toxic destructive so it's understanding that the Pisces wouldn't touch her with a 10ft pole. Lol
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he also has a mars in gem and they are in a ldr. it's early days and she is becoming needy and insecure to the point where they are fighting about how much he misses her.

none of this bodes well for any of those placements. he may have the stability of a bull but he has also the cautiousness. if he senses something is off and maybe he thinks that she brings a lot of baggage from the former relationship and now the feelings have progressed to the point that they are, he might be thinking about backing right off.

ldrs aren't great for taurus or gemini. taurus because they like a close proximity to be physical and gemini because they are so flighty and players. taurus can have their harems, mixed with a gem and you can have a 'harem squared'.

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I did take the time to read your whole post. He's not ignoring you completely. He's just not responding in the way that he used to. Yes, relationships shift after one or both people get their feelings hurt. Being a Taurus he's probably processing it all bit by bit. Has he been hurt before? He sounds pretty expressive for a Taurus guy, so please consider that he may have also been down the road where he has expressed himself in the manner that he has with you and had a woman suddenly lose interest. Please remember that you're both bringing prior experiences into this new situation. Something that helps me to calm down when I have weird periods with my SO is that if you're trying to be together for the long haul, every day shouldn't bring a situation that puts your relationship on the line. Some stuff you just have to let go...even if it's quietness on the part of your Taurus guy. Let him be quiet without judging him and when he returns, greet him with the warmth that shows that you've missed him instead of greeting him with contempt for making you wait for a response.

You'll find out in reasonable time whether or not he's playing games. Just enjoy what you have and use the quiet times for your benefit.
i think he is racing forward because of his venus in aries. we've been here before. these guys tend not to stick.
click to expand

Yes, but they do come back. Each time they come back...it's even stronger. That Taurus who is still pursuing me has an Aries Venus and so does a Pisces guy and twin Cap male friends of mine. They all do the same dang thing...jump into serious relationship status very quickly. Even if they don't express it that way...they are feeling it that way. They have gone away/quiet, but as long as they haven't been burned to the core... Like being cheated on...they come back. One of the reasons the Taurus chases me is because we weren't serious and when I met another man...I let him know. He tried to get me to choose him over the other guy, but I didn't. When that started falling apart...I ran directly to him. I never apologized for picking the other guy and I never will.

She needs to let him go quiet and come back. If she lets him do that...I promise he'll come back stronger each time. He's not leaving...just being quiet. All of my Aries Venus male friends have done it. FYI...all of them are dedicated to who they said they were going to stick it out for too. Any woman who they expressed the desire to be with forever is either still with them or they're still circling her. The Pisces and my Saggie bestie are the exception, but she's truly destructive. Like...toxic destructive so it'

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No offense but I'm a Gemini with Venus in Aries. I have had long term relationships.Only.With my first guy 5 years and now Im happily married to a sexy Aries since 2009. I did have another bf in btwn(bf of just five months) but we had to separate due to differences of opinion.And I have never had flings nor short term affairs. But I do have loads and loads of guy friends...
I feel its unfair to blame it all on a single natal aspect. Why in their synastry a couple could have Nodes on angles, nodes on luminaries, vertex on descendant, or saturn on nodes, saturn to luminaries, ... These could lead to long term relationships. Atleast give it a good possibility. Now I have Saturn on my IC, four planets in my fourth house, moon in Leo (2nd house), Cancer Rising and I could never have a one night stand. Its just impossible for me. Even with my Venus in Aries, Uranus opposite Sun in Gemini..
I thought Venus is what appeals to us.... and how express our affections.

Whoa you seem very educated on astrology I'm a newbie even though I've always followed it just never got into the sins and moons and venus can you explain what you just explained up there lol m my birthday is July 28th 1984 he is may 19th 1985

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No offense but I'm a Gemini with Venus in Aries. I have had long term relationships.Only.With my first guy 5 years and now Im happily married to a sexy Aries since 2009. I did have another bf in btwn(bf of just five months) but we had to separate due to differences of opinion.And I have never had flings nor short term affairs. But I do have loads and loads of guy friends...
I feel its unfair to blame it all on a single natal aspect. Why in their synastry a couple could have Nodes on angles, nodes on luminaries, vertex on descendant, or saturn on nodes, saturn to luminaries, ... These could lead to long term relationships. Atleast give it a good possibility. Now I have Saturn on my IC, four planets in my fourth house, moon in Leo (2nd house), Cancer Rising and I could never have a one night stand. Its just impossible for me. Even with my Venus in Aries, Uranus opposite Sun in Gemini..
I thought Venus is what appeals to us.... and how express our affections.

maybe it is different for women.

my brother is a gemini with a venus in taurus and is the biggest player in town.

yes to all the aspects and synastry but we don't have that so just looking at reactions and behaviours, does any of this situation strike you as ideal?

venus what attracts you but it also how you love and how you behave in relationships. all this screams, do not bog me down otherwise i am going to look for greener pastures.

i do think all of this is premature though. it's been a day.

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Yes, but they do come back. Each time they come back...it's even stronger. That Taurus who is still pursuing me has an Aries Venus and so does a Pisces guy and twin Cap male friends of mine. They all do the same dang thing...jump into serious relationship status very quickly. Even if they don't express it that way...they are feeling it that way. They have gone away/quiet, but as long as they haven't been burned to the core... Like being cheated on...they come back. One of the reasons the Taurus chases me is because we weren't serious and when I met another man...I let him know. He tried to get me to choose him over the other guy, but I didn't. When that started falling apart...I ran directly to him. I never apologized for picking the other guy and I never will.

She needs to let him go quiet and come back. If she lets him do that...I promise he'll come back stronger each time. He's not leaving...just being quiet. All of my Aries Venus male friends have done it. FYI...all of them are dedicated to who they said they were going to stick it out for too. Any woman who they expressed the desire to be with forever is either still with them or they're still circling her. The Pisces and my Saggie bestie are the exception, but she's truly destructive. Like...toxic destructive so it's understanding that the Pisces wouldn't touch her with a 10ft pole. Lol
he also has a mars in gem and they are in a ldr. it's early days and she is becoming needy and insecure to the point where they are fighting about how much he misses her.

none of this bodes well for any of those placements. he may have the stability of a bull but he has also the cautiousness. if he senses something is off and maybe he thinks that she brings a lot of baggage from the former relationship and now the feelings have progressed to the point that they are, he might be thinking about backing right off.

ldrs aren't great for taurus or gemini. taurus because they like a close proximity to be physical and gemini because they are so flighty and players. taurus can have their harems, mixed with a gem and you can have a 'harem squared'.
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What is harem squared and we weren't fighting about it I was being bratty when he said he missed me I playfully but with some serious said no you don't miss you don't miss me and made a statement about meeting his mom cause he's met mine aND truthfully it was never about me meeting his mom I just got insecure from something my ex did with hiding our relationship in the beginning and it triggered my inner bitch

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Jeane...I have to agree with you. Particularly on the fact that he's weighing it out and wants to see how much baggage she brings. My brother is a Taurus and while he did do a ldr, he also cheated and has a baby with a woman. Only his family knows about the baby. His long term Taurus gf does not.

There are some things to consider, but first...you have to calm down. I missed the convo where his other placements were discussed. That Mars in Gemini....boy oh boy. I'm not even going to lie...that's a prominent placement for cheating energy.

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@Jeane
No offense but I'm a Gemini with Venus in Aries. I have had long term relationships.Only.With my first guy 5 years and now Im happily married to a sexy Aries since 2009. I did have another bf in btwn(bf of just five months) but we had to separate due to differences of opinion.And I have never had flings nor short term affairs. But I do have loads and loads of guy friends...
I feel its unfair to blame it all on a single natal aspect. Why in their synastry a couple could have Nodes on angles, nodes on luminaries, vertex on descendant, or saturn on nodes, saturn to luminaries, ... These could lead to long term relationships. Atleast give it a good possibility. Now I have Saturn on my IC, four planets in my fourth house, moon in Leo (2nd house), Cancer Rising and I could never have a one night stand. Its just impossible for me. Even with my Venus in Aries, Uranus opposite Sun in Gemini..
I thought Venus is what appeals to us.... and how express our affections.
maybe it is different for women.

my brother is a gemini with a venus in taurus and is the biggest player in town.

yes to all the aspects and synastry but we don't have that so just looking at reactions and behaviours, does any of this situation strike you as ideal?

venus what attracts you but it also how you love and how you behave in relationships. all this screams, do not bog me down otherwise i am going to look for greener pastures.

i do think all of this is premature though. it's been a day.
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In my logical leo mind jeane you are right it's only been a day but In my emotional lion cub mind I'm mewing and crying because he didn't even reach out not even a good morning and this is the first day we haven't spoke at all since last tusday night when it happened...we still had communication....it's only coming up on a week and it feels like it's been soooo long

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Posted by Leoladylickingwounds
What is harem squared and we weren't fighting about it I was being bratty when he said he missed me I playfully but with some serious said no you don't miss you don't miss me and made a statement about meeting his mom cause he's met mine aND truthfully it was never about me meeting his mom I just got insecure from something my ex did with hiding our relationship in the beginning and it triggered my inner bitch

arguing? bickering? certainly something seems to have happened as he is now giving you shade and you are freaking out.

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Posted by wicked
@Jeane
No offense but I'm a Gemini with Venus in Aries. I have had long term relationships.Only.With my first guy 5 years and now Im happily married to a sexy Aries since 2009. I did have another bf in btwn(bf of just five months) but we had to separate due to differences of opinion.And I have never had flings nor short term affairs. But I do have loads and loads of guy friends...
I feel its unfair to blame it all on a single natal aspect. Why in their synastry a couple could have Nodes on angles, nodes on luminaries, vertex on descendant, or saturn on nodes, saturn to luminaries, ... These could lead to long term relationships. Atleast give it a good possibility. Now I have Saturn on my IC, four planets in my fourth house, moon in Leo (2nd house), Cancer Rising and I could never have a one night stand. Its just impossible for me. Even with my Venus in Aries, Uranus opposite Sun in Gemini..
I thought Venus is what appeals to us.... and how express our affections.

Four planets in your 4th house would calm down the tendency to flit from lover to lover. You're looking for a nurturing home in whoever you seek out a relationship. With moon in Leo and Venus in Aries that home would be someone who either allows you to shine or facilitates your feeling optimistic. They would also probably have to have and demonstrate a high energy level.

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Posted by wicked
Wish i cld help u. Go to Astro.com to create your synastry chart.
U cld go to linda-goodman.com and post your chart. Im not an expert per se. In that website there are experts who will look at a chart and tell you the type of relationship you guys are having... long term potential and all that.
If I find time I will do it... but i know ppl who are good at it at linda-goodman.com

I definitely will thank you so much

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