Make him do right—

Its been a year and some months for me and this Taurus guy. I dont feel any closer to him than last year. He's always telling me we are going to move in together or we are going to get married. I've always questioned his sincerity but decided not to take him seriously. I havent met one family member or friend so I know he tries to play with my feelings. Anyway, I told him that I want to pursue other relationships because we are obviously not going anywhere (which im fine with now), he promised to make an effort (which he always does). Of course I dont believe him so I will quietly go on with my life while fading from his life. But he said something that I found interesting. He said "make me do right". He previously asked me to call him everyday. I didnt because thats not me. He said that was the reason for our disconnection. He said its because i didnt do what he asked me to lol. He said he "needs" that to make him do right.

Sounds like a control issue to me. Just looking for opinions from Taurus and the women who love them or just put up with them lol.

Its been a year and some months for me and this Taurus guy. I dont feel any closer to him than last year. He's always telling me we are going to move in together or we are going to get married. I've always questioned his sincerity but decided not to take him seriously. I havent met one family member or friend so I know he tries to play with my feelings. Anyway, I told him that I want to pursue other relationships because we are obviously not going anywhere (which im fine with now), he promised to make an effort (which he always does). Of course I dont believe him so I will quietly go on with my life while fading from his life. But he said something that I found interesting. He said "make me do right". He previously asked me to call him everyday. I didnt because thats not me. He said that was the reason for our disconnection. He said its because i didnt do what he asked me to lol. He said he "needs" that to make him do right.

Sounds like a control issue to me. Just looking for opinions from Taurus and the women who love them or just put up with them lol.

It totally is. He basically is trying to pawn all responsibility on you for his shortcomings and bullshit.

You've been correct in all your hunches so far, as his actions have told you everything you need to know.

Now he's trying to make this out like it's your fault there's a disconnect? You won't do all the work so it's your fault? What about his all talk, no action approach? Lawdy, he cannot be held accountable?

You're right in wanting to move on and not bother anymore. I went through that with someone before. Was just a really immature individual who didn't want to take accountability for his craptastic behavior.

Posted by Impulsv
Why are u in this if u don't trust him. Why do u do for him since u admit ur half In it . U think a person won't sense that n hold back as well. Yeah he was smart enough to ask what he needs. U on the other hand won't ask that u need to see his family so his right communication is not there yes make him do it right people can't read u needs u need to tell him. If u can't understand this basic aspect of relationship need to end it. Sound like u expect he should know this things n u kno what happens when u assume.

Yea, just like u ASSumed that I haven't told him those things. I've repeatedly expressed what I want from our relationship. He has not shown anything so I prefer to move on. Was just trying to make sense out of the situation for learning purposes.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
It totally is. He basically is trying to pawn all responsibility on you for his shortcomings and bullshit.

You've been correct in all your hunches so far, as his actions have told you everything you need to know.

Now he's trying to make this out like it's your fault there's a disconnect? You won't do all the work so it's your fault? What about his all talk, no action approach? Lawdy, he cannot be held accountable?

You're right in wanting to move on and not bother anymore. I went through that with someone before. Was just a really immature individual who didn't want to take accountability for his craptastic behavior.

I think his all talk and no action works with younger females.

Posted by miimii

Posted by rockyroadicecream
It totally is. He basically is trying to pawn all responsibility on you for his shortcomings and bullshit.

You've been correct in all your hunches so far, as his actions have told you everything you need to know.

Now he's trying to make this out like it's your fault there's a disconnect? You won't do all the work so it's your fault? What about his all talk, no action approach? Lawdy, he cannot be held accountable?

You're right in wanting to move on and not bother anymore. I went through that with someone before. Was just a really immature individual who didn't want to take accountability for his craptastic behavior.

I think his all talk and no action works with younger females.

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Younger and any females who are dumb enough to stick around because of wishful thinking.

Guys like this are rampant due to these two types of females- enablers, like what's her name up there. She immediately placed all blame on you and didn't discuss any sort of accountability on his part. This double standard bullshit from other females needs to gtfo.

Posted by Impulsv
Well there u go. U got ur answer if u spoken ur needs n he's not filling through then there's u reason to brake up. No sense to stay if ur half way in n distrust. Better out ther for u.

Are you capable of writing like you have SOME working brain cells??

Posted by miimii

Posted by rockyroadicecream
It totally is. He basically is trying to pawn all responsibility on you for his shortcomings and bullshit.

You've been correct in all your hunches so far, as his actions have told you everything you need to know.

Now he's trying to make this out like it's your fault there's a disconnect? You won't do all the work so it's your fault? What about his all talk, no action approach? Lawdy, he cannot be held accountable?

You're right in wanting to move on and not bother anymore. I went through that with someone before. Was just a really immature individual who didn't want to take accountability for his craptastic behavior.

I think his all talk and no action works with younger females.

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LoL, it works on you too. You are still hanging around and curious about his comments and actions...lets not pretend.

Anyway, Capricorns and Taurus do not work. I'm convinced at this point. I see it as you don't inspire him to do better, and he doesn't inspire you to want more. If that's the case, sounds familiar.

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Posted by miimii

Posted by rockyroadicecream
It totally is. He basically is trying to pawn all responsibility on you for his shortcomings and bullshit.

You've been correct in all your hunches so far, as his actions have told you everything you need to know.

Now he's trying to make this out like it's your fault there's a disconnect? You won't do all the work so it's your fault? What about his all talk, no action approach? Lawdy, he cannot be held accountable?

You're right in wanting to move on and not bother anymore. I went through that with someone before. Was just a really immature individual who didn't want to take accountability for his craptastic behavior.

I think his all talk and no action works with younger females.

Younger and any females who are dumb enough to stick around because of wishful thinking.

Guys like this are rampant due to these two types of females- enablers, like what's her name up there. She immediately placed all blame on you and didn't discuss any sort of accountability on his part. This double standard bullshit from other females needs to gtfo.

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+100

Couldn't have said this better myself. Excellent analysis, especially about the enablers and the double standards.

btw, maybe inspire is not the right word. I should have used "motivate." That's what I think the issue is. neither of you are really motivated in the situation.

Posted by lnana04
btw, maybe inspire is not the right word. I should have used "motivate." That's what I think the issue is. neither of you are really motivated in the situation.

I guess it is not working out with you and your Taurus?

Posted by CreativeCap

Posted by lnana04
btw, maybe inspire is not the right word. I should have used "motivate." That's what I think the issue is. neither of you are really motivated in the situation.

I guess it is not working out with you and your Taurus?

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Please. I've tried everything.......and nothing at all lol. I think that's the story for us both.

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Posted by miimii

Posted by rockyroadicecream
It totally is. He basically is trying to pawn all responsibility on you for his shortcomings and bullshit.

You've been correct in all your hunches so far, as his actions have told you everything you need to know.

Now he's trying to make this out like it's your fault there's a disconnect? You won't do all the work so it's your fault? What about his all talk, no action approach? Lawdy, he cannot be held accountable?

You're right in wanting to move on and not bother anymore. I went through that with someone before. Was just a really immature individual who didn't want to take accountability for his craptastic behavior.

I think his all talk and no action works with younger females.

LoL, it works on you too. You are still hanging around and curious about his comments and actions...lets not pretend.

Anyway, Capricorns and Taurus do not work. I'm convinced at this point. I see it as you don't inspire him to do better, and he doesn't inspire you to want more. If that's the case, sounds familiar.

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It worked in the beginning because of the benefit of the doubt. Actually I stayed for the sex but I was hoping he meant what he said. I asked him several times not to try to manipulate me but he always swore he was sincere. And astrology says that Taurus and Capricorns are supposed to be one of the best matches.

Posted by lnana04

Posted by miimii

Posted by rockyroadicecream
It totally is. He basically is trying to pawn all responsibility on you for his shortcomings and bullshit.

You've been correct in all your hunches so far, as his actions have told you everything you need to know.

Now he's trying to make this out like it's your fault there's a disconnect? You won't do all the work so it's your fault? What about his all talk, no action approach? Lawdy, he cannot be held accountable?

You're right in wanting to move on and not bother anymore. I went through that with someone before. Was just a really immature individual who didn't want to take accountability for his craptastic behavior.

I think his all talk and no action works with younger females.

LoL, it works on you too. You are still hanging around and curious about his comments and actions...lets not pretend.

Anyway, Capricorns and Taurus do not work. I'm convinced at this point. I see it as you don't inspire him to do better, and he doesn't inspire you to want more. If that's the case, sounds familiar.

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It worked in the beginning because of the benefit of the doubt. I actually stayed for the sex but was hoping he meant the things he said. I asked him several times not to try and manipulate me and to say only what he meant and follow up with actions. Oh well. Btw, astrology says that Taurus and Capricorn are one of the best matches. If me being me didn't "inspire" or "motivate" him then it wasn't meant to be. Sounds like a lot of work lol.

I think the success rate for Taurus and capricorn is really good, but it may not be as successful as the Virgo/ capricorn or capricorn/ Pisces match. If the pair seems to hit it off, it could be worth a try.

I think Taurus men do better with passive partners. Someone that will take on the load. They are efficient and romantic lovers, but they expect so much from their partner and often give the impression that they are only half-heartedly involved in the relationship. This becomes more apparent after the wooing and seducing phase. Whereas, capricorns are capable of pouring their HEART and SOUL into a relationship with someone they love. Capricorns are surprisingly low maintenance, but expect for all their needs to be met. Some tauruses are capable and some retreat from this and vice versa.

hahaha.I'm just laughing now because my ex Taurus man.. do moves right away after 1st break up and got

back together after 1 month then he kept saying to move in with him and yes he took me... but then I

failed because he wanted me to give up my job... which is a big ''NO'' I gave up on him. Yesterday,He

met me up near to my work because I kept emailing him to get his stuff in my pad 'cause I am no longer

comfortable and I have a NO EX THING in My CLOSET rule for myself...and I was supposed not to see him

only the messenger who's going to deliver his stuff...'cause I avoiding him and don't want

to see him again as he was trying too harder after 2nd break up... the reason is that.. I find

myself not wanting to do the same pattern. We tried 2nd time around.. it didn't work.

I just let him know what's inside of his big luggage bag and I he was staring at me and made me

do my first moved to step back and wave my hands... walking with my messenger.

---End of the Story---

oh... my messenger needs my presence in case questions arise. lol. which is he was surprised

when I showed up.. Problem solved.. and I can sense his looks needs more approach...he was

smiling to me and silent... I have to run. lol

Denver34,

atleast that was a Good bastard.. spoiling me with money & etc.. but I can't give up my Job.

Great post! Thank you!