My New Taurus Guy

Hi Taureans! This is my first time posting in your forum. I'm pretty familiar with Taureans, my sister is a Taurus and also my best friend. I recently started seeing a Taurus male. He has been a friend of mine for years, but he all of a sudden laid it out on the table for me. Told me he liked me and alot and said he would do anything for me. So far he has been perfect. BUT...He let me know from the beginning that he is exclusive right now. Which is fine with me, because I'm not really looking to be in a relationship either at this time. But with him spoiling me the way he does I'm afraid that I could fall for him which will create a problem if it hasnt already began to. My question is is this normal for Taureans. I'm sure that if I began seeing other people he would become quite the jealous monster!

sorry about the typo meant to say that he is NOT exclusive right now

Keep seeing what can happen. No need to rush.

run the otehr way...from experience, i knoe taurus men will see what they can get out of you first and then never become exclusive once they become complacent..my suggestion..stick ot ur plan of having a relationship and if he doesnt step up move on.....whatever u do...dont have sex with him

I definitely hear and agree with what you are all saying. Here is the thing...He has been spoiling me!!! He recently bought me a new laptop along with helping me pay some past due bills. I don't even solicit the help. It's making me fall for him. You know we Cancers love a provider, a man's man or what have you. The killer is that he hasn't even tried to have sex with me yet for fear that we might ruin our friendship. But he never used to treat me this way "as my friend" in the past?!! Why start now?? Meanwhile I am really liking him, but now it seems I am gonna have to turn these emotions off some how and try to go back to the way we used to be. I don't like this little game he's playing. Even if does have a few perks! I've never been the materialistic type! Sigh...

I say fall back drastically. Would you really want a possible relationship in the future with someone who would shower gifts and attention on another woman when he is already elusive with someone else? It's something to think about, buying a laptop is not something to be taken lightly, I'm sure his girlfriend wouldn't approve, friends or not.

If a man is saying right off the bat that he wants you but doesnt want to be exclusive...why would you even entertain that— Certainly dont give him any cookie!!! Or you've sold yourself for NOTHING!


make him stand up and show you that he is WORTH YOU...not the other way around! And if he wont be EXCLUSIVE tell him to keep looking, add value to yourself...not monetary!

Why say he's not exclusive when he's treating you like an exclusive girlfriend? Talk about head trip, listen if you have an ounce of integrity, give him back that lap top and pay him back his money, why lower your standards to be with this guy.

If he's saying he doesn't want exclusivity and yet he's buying you gifts then he's looking for some kind of pay off, if your not willing to compromise yourself then ease back and attempt to make it straight by giving him back his gifts. Your worth is much more than a few paid bills and a lap top.

I have to agree with sweethearts on this one. Dig deep inside of yourself and understand you are so much more worth than what he's proposing, if you start selling yourself out for a few gifts like this your actions will eventually begin to play on your self esteem. Seems to me like he's attempting to get you hooked financially on him so he can have his way which is a friends with benefits kind of situation which means he will be whining and dining and spending money on other woman and that means your really not that special to him, your just another girl on his fwb non exclusive payroll...yuck

NOTHING IS FREE, there is some kind of unseen clause behind his giving, I'm sure eventually he will be asking for something in return...eventually

I've decided to tell him that I value our friendship more than gifts and for that reason I would just want to remain friends and only friends. I will give him his laptop back though I doubt he will take it! I tried to tell him how I feel again today. Yesterday I was at his house alone with him and still he did not make a move!?!? Not one gesture! I admit that it upset me because I see myself becoming emotionally attached. I could never be satisfied with just gifts without real emotion behind it. It was very hard to tell him how I felt. I told him that it seems as if he is trying to force a fling and It doesnt have to be that way! I will keep u guys posted! Thank you all for the much needed reality check!

Good for you MeMe, as for the emotional attachment, what's the point of emotional attachment if your the only one attached?

If he's using his money and gifts and so called friendship to get you attached to him emotionally in order to ultimately have an open sexual non committed relationship with you then the worst case scenerio is he doesn't respect you and he's wasting your time and will never treat you with the love and respect you deserve. Just because he has some staying power to wait for what he wants doesn't mean he doesn't want it, he's just allowing time for you to adjust before he swoops in for the sexual kill which means he does this all the time with different women, he's um experienced so he has an idea how long he has to wait to get what he wants.

He won't be a healthy partner for you which could in the end leave you feeling emotionally confused and used...

Also there is hope, you showing him that you have respect for yourself could be the one thing that turns this around, he may decide to step to you correct and treat you properly instead of trying to play you short by throwing you a few crumbs...for some subconscious psychological reason being able to be strong yet soft and say NO turns a real man on....so you never know

Hey you are obviously both not ready at this point so why force the issue and maybe in the future you will both be in different stages of your life and be ready for each other.