Hurt, upset and lied to, but still love Taurus guy

There's one born every minute !!

w000t?!
so at 28 you can't even separate fiction from reality? and you think you know when you're actually in love because of your age?

he doesn't want you but you want him and hope to win him over? so exactly why do you love this guy? his face? the flirting?... oh boi...

P-Angel, please take this 🙂 you'll put it a lot more eloquently than what's in me head.

First of all, I am so sorry this happened to you.
The fact that he was so deceitful, should be enough to steer you clear away.
If he lied so good that you never even suspected there was more to the story and even his closest friends had no idea...what makes you think anything he said about his feelings for you are even true?
It's going to be hard for you to let this go because I'm sure you still have many questions you want answered. But the best thing for you to do is move on.
He is an unfaithful and deceitful person. You cannot possibly want to waste any more of your time on this man...

& Zen I hope you were being sarcastic.

i agree with ArianMilWife. but i was curious if you even know about Kenyan culture?

they are raised to be allowed as many wives as they can get. the more wives, the more prominent they are in their villiage. i have a kenyan friend who is, here in the US, looking for just that. a second wife. he already has a very lovely wife back in kenya who will do anything for him.

so in light of that, are you willing to be the second wife? if your willing to do that, then i guess there is no problem.

if your not willing, move on.

"you cannot MAKE someone love you"

all you can do is stalk them and hope they give in 🙂

"I just find it so hard to let it go, because what if he does love me, but he is scared to change and break up with the girlfriend in Kenya? What if he is my soul mate and I just don't make the effort to be with him despite everything? Aren't Taurus supposed to be slow to move and slow to change? Maybe he just needs some prodding and encouragement."

1. He can make his own decision.
2. Men are never afraid to go after what they really want. NEVER.

Obviously he's just not that into you. Stop making excuses for him. If he was your "soul mate" it would come easier and more natural, he wouldn't have a girlfriend (whom he's about to marry) in Kenya.

"I think he feels torn in that he must now marry this person even though he might want to explore things with me. You are all very right though, you can't make someone love you. I actually said that to him when he rejected me."

Stop making up these imaginary stories in your head. He's never told you that, you just assume. All he told you is he can't reciprocate the feelings. Don't read in between the lines because there's nothing there. It's just that plain in simple. He doesn't like you that way. Guys are not that complicated, if he was "in love" with you he wouldn't have a girlfriend in Kenya and you guys would have been together ages ago (or you'd be his second wife 😛). He took a month to respond because he didn't want to deal with it. Flirting doesn't mean he loves you (crazy). Plus, it sounds like you scared him away with the whole telling him you love him... and you're not even in a relationship.

He rejected you. Get over it and find someone better.

Just hold back on the crazy.

"I just find it so hard to let it go, because what if he does love me, but he is scared to change and break up with the girlfriend in Kenya? What if he is my soul mate and I just don't make the effort to be with him despite everything? Aren't Taurus supposed to be slow to move and slow to change? Maybe he just needs some prodding and encouragement."



::::: moves toward PLA with a pin to pop deluded bubble :::::



PLA ... age doesn't matter when it comes to a Pisces .. what matters is the day you realize that fantasy isn't reality, no matter how much it feels like it's real. I know what you're going through, I know that it feels so fucking real ...

.. it's not.


Disconnect from the dream .... ASAP

"Stop making up these imaginary stories in your head"


This is impossible, Ardent .... a Fish's whole life is lived within an illusion .. our life course runs like a movie, envisioning.

We envision what we want our life to be, like a story ... and then we come back across to this side of the rainbow and attempt to make it actual. Because of this, it's practically impossible to discern fact from fiction .... because over there, in the imagination, it feels real .. over here, where everybody else lives, feels false.



So, she can never stop imagining her life course so long as she is alive and kicking .... however, the secret is in realizing that Pisces suffer this. Once realization, true and complete comprehension of this, then another awareness can come to us to STOP, look around, take notice .... what the fuck is really going on?

We have an inherent ability to completely disconnect, severe the dream cord .. wake up. This is when we swim .. the infamous swimming away. We swim away, never to be seen again because we disconnect from the illusion.

Unplugged, ALP .. right now .. swim ... this is just a dream, hun.

& Zen I hope you were being sarcastic.

huh? but PA covered it so no matter...

"should I try to pursue him even though he says he can't reciprocate my feelings?" Think about how that sounds...

He probably does love you.

I'm sorry, I'm not seeing this anywhere? where is the indication of this?