Confusing Gemini Ex

Ok, this is a first for me. sorry for the length...A lil background. Ima taurus male and we talking bout my gemini ex who is still in my life. I feel i am in love with this girl, we tried it once but she wasnt over her ex after a little less than 2 months of dating. she was basically my best friend since we met back in 2005. i tried to cut it off but she doesnt want to let me go...and i honestly just enjoy bieng in her presence and i know she enjoys mine. As a taurus i find it hard to disguise my feelings because we are naturaly affectionate. its hard to take her actions as serious because of the flirty aspect of this sign. Although she doesnt flirt with other men and the things we do are only done with me,to my knowledge. when we broke up she told me she didnt want to open a new door with me before closing an old one. i can appreciate this,but i think i shot myself in the foot by remaining in touch with her and not just letting it completly go. recently bout a month ago...i brought up the topic of wat i was to her, she called me a friend, so i ended contact(Again) i guess it was a reality check to her cause she then(the next day)pulled out a text message i sent her literally a year ago and sent it to me. ever since that day, she hit me up everydday, everytime i signed online. like the knowing that i could have been gone from her life brought her so much closer, she has asked me to be her valentine but i asked out, not even saying the word date an she says "yea, but its not a date," like i absolutley cannot even assume it...wtf is going on with this girl?lol i dont take the valentine to heart or should it?i have planned a weekend getaway at a B&B. dont kno if she`ll be uncomfortable sharin a bed with mem, even though she has spent the night at my house sleeping up under my arm on my couch...What am i to do?what does it mean? any insight is greatly appreciated.

sounds like maybe she has a lot on her mind. sit and talk with her. she will tell you everything. then make the decission to wait and be patient. or move on. it takes us more than two months to get over a guy.

i'm not sure about the valentine thing. i know that i wouldn't say it unless i meant it.

and about the B&B. ask her, hypathetically, if it's something she's interested in doing with you. don't lead on that your gonna do it. if she says, yes, she will love the surprise. it might be just the thing she needs. 🙂

if she says, no, then she's just not ready yet.

Misslissa said it sir


Run some ideas of fun times by her(like the B&B idea) see what she says, elaborate, go from there. She may just not be ready is so true. When Taurus guy and i finally met, i thought i was ready, here came the one who still owns my heart, when i was truthful w/Taurus about how i had spent my time when he asked, well, he was not happy. Taurus and I had talked alot, he knew about other guy, Taurus came to me and told me to put him back on the shelf, that (he) the Taurus would not let "times of absence like that" happen again between the two of us.......well, Taurus disappeared, Virgo stayed for a few, and my emotions are what they are, and those, i am true too.

She kept your message for a year, you mean more to her than a "Friend" or that would be me anyways. She doesn't want to lose you, and she cares on some level, be patient w/her, and take it slow, when she is ready, you both will know, and dont leave her alone too much, someone else may just "swoop" her off her feet, or this other that has her heart possibly, well, we never want to lose love or people that we care about, i dont usually have a problem saying what i mean, and meaning what i say.

Her valentine, ask her, what does that mean to you? Tell her you have been thinking about it, she will tell you and appreciate that you not only listened to her, but, you want to know.

i wish i wouldve found this message board a year ago...i hinted the B&B, and she luved the idea an is absolutely cool with going with and spending the night with me. i asked her bout valentines day an she says she doesnt think much of it, it is a regular day to her. but she likes the fluffy teddy bears and the chocolates. but doesnt care if she gets a gift, just seeing them in the stores(lol thats quite a hint) i feel like im plannin this romantic weekend getaway an all that, and its jus a saturday to her...confusion lol

open it back up, no fair hiding stuff so quick!

I didnt get to see it!

It was the same as the pm sorry lol

Its all good, why did you hide it? I am guilty of this sometimes, but it is due usually to the personal content i shared at the time and not really wanting to violate others privacy if they stumbled upon it.......where is the balance in that for me?

yeap, deffinitely no hugs !! =)

Well i dont buy things for girls who arent mine(so to speak) i doubt she`s a player...its actually working out alot better now, and besides she kisses me on the cheek everytime we part. nothing wrong with hugs, that last two messages was how i felt when we first broke up months ago..i jus let her go an she came. isnt there a saying about that?

"i jus let her go an she came. isnt there a saying about that?"

lol there certainly is!

if it was meant to be, she/he will come back!

I let some go, and they came back, and they still were not mine. 😢

I'm a gem and i completely understand where you are coming from. I too have a guy in my life and he is a Capricorn,and your relationship sounds the same to me. The problem with us is that we have a hard time making up our minds. I think she likes you but maybe not in the way you feel about here. The part about her saying that you two are just friends sounds familiar. I tell the guy in my life that all the time but he doesn't get it and I mean it.when he stops calling I get scared that I will lose him in my life as a friend,so I contact him. He makes me comfortable in the sense that we can cuddle and get really close, which doesn't happen often with ppl, and i want him in my life. But the thing is I want him as a friend. If he would just accept it for that who knows what the future may hold. So essentially what I am saying is that she wants you in her life for sure. Us gems have no problem getting rid of someone lol. She is probably very comfortable with you ,and u must be a sweet guy but she may not be ready to be in a relationship. That is prob the reason why she keeps pulling back.
Anyway don't force it. Take it for what it is. we like a bit of a chase. when and if she is ever ready she will come to you and you will know. It might be to late by than but that's something we have to learn the hard way. As for the trip I don't think it would be a good idea to get a single room. It will feel like you are forcing her. I woulds suggest that you get separate rooms. I'm pretty sure she will end up in your room by the end of the night maybe just to cuddle but let her make that choice. I think should try just being her FRIEND. I know it's hard when you have feeling but try. Tell that and see what happens. you might be surprised. I wish my guy would get it. than maybe he would have a chance. who knows. I know it long sorry lol

uld get it. than maybe he would have a chance. who knows. I know it long sorry lol
PG~ He is a Virgo, I am a Gem, the other was a AQUA, adn i must say, they are not confused, i let that be the reason for too long. Reality, "he is just not that into me" and yes, I am a great place to be adn be with. The trip was not mine but CaponeTeflons trip w/his Gem gal. So confusion i guess, sorry. Thank you for sharing with me and no, it was not too long. I do get the friends thing, from both of them, but if that is not what i feel, then i have to be true to me, as Virgguy said to me, "I do not want to be responsible for anyone else emotions" well, i am responsible for my own, as I must also make choices based on what is good for me, and healthy for me. I will always be here for both men, that is a fact. I would lie if i said i wouldnt be, if they need me, i am a call away, i just cant be that FWB that makes thier world better at the time they fill the need to do that through my energy and emotions, reciprocation means alot and so do actions. I dont force anything, I have tried and to be honest, the Virguy has my heart, I cant seem to get it back as he is gone again, with no closure again, from him, but i have learned, i can do this myself, time and true to me, my feelings, emotions, love and realizing that how i feel, is not a bad thing, or wrong. Nor where they are at, how they feel, or what makes it better for them, not wrong, not bad, just where we are at. Not the same page

well...she has put me in the cursed "friend zone"(lol)...literally stating she doesnt wnat to be with me forever more...doesnt get much clearer than that i suppose... i have enough friends, and she honestly isnt dependable enough for me to rely on so i dont want her as a friend(makes me wonder why i wanted her as a G/F) oh yes, i was in love, u over look certain things when u feel that strongly...i would repost by asking how to get out of the friend zone but i`d rather just focus on a girl who will reciprocate my feelings. it is time for this taurus to turn his back, and move on. so thank you to the ppl that have responded to this post. all of your kind words have gotten me through a tough time. much oblidged 😄

CaponeTeflon

ONE more thing, to realize you dont want to be friends is okay too, you wanted to be so much more than that to her, therefore, it is okay to not want to settle for just a friend from her, and in time, that might change,but until you have delt w/the feelings an emotions you had/have for her, then well, i would say this is totally understandable and she should allow you that time and not contact you except to just "check and see how ya doing" that is acceptable, as it is what it is for now

CaponeTeflon, i'm sorry it ended that way. i was really hoping that it would work out.

i wish you much luck in your search for a new love!! may she TRULY appreciate the good guy you seem to be. 🙂

lol...ight GemGal. You got that one, she is only 20, whether i feel she is a playa or not, the facts dont lie....appreciate ur insight (to everyone) and thankx for your best wishes

I'm sure all of the hearts you prolly have broken appreciate that to...cheeky bastard(LMAO j/k)