My venus in Scorpio man is bringing out my jealous

I don't know what it is but he managed to dig deep and do it his way to bring out my jealous side of a Taurus which doesn't have much to begin with because of my airy placements but he does it and I don't like it ....._— ..... but I'm sure he enjoys it a little... There's more to the story but I don't wanna go details..... I honestly hate to feel jealous, I don't act on them or anything but can't help myself acting a bit different n he can straight away sense if I am acting wired and if I am upset! Seriously !!!!! What should I do with this situation....

Posted by busyeyes88
I have already advised you on the sag forum but you refuse to listen and then bring it to the taurus board. Your sag will enjoy every moment at making you jealous and tearing at your heart strings. But from what I can gather you seem to like his behaviour. Cut it in the bud now by telling him or finally bring your relationship to an end.. You guys have already been off and on and off and on.. FroM what I can gathe...

Yeah but you are basing our relationship based on your previous one. Obviously ending it isn't an option. He isn't all that bad, it's very subtle... And I like to discuss things in further details rather goojg straight to cutting losses. I'm sorry if me deciding to be in it doesn't satisfy you, but I have my own mind and I prefer it if you just leave it be... All sag sun n venus in Scorpio are different, his cap moon is totally very cool calm n collected n he would never try to be possessive with me.... I prefer you to respect my choices rather than telling me to dum his ass.... lol

I will try my best to not show a sign of jealousy so he can stop, but what I can see that will not satisfy his insecurity side either. so I'm kind of stuck in the middle lol.... I Believe he did say his ex was becoming jealous n insecure of him over time but I did tell him I figure its because of him not her. Trust me I tell him as it is many times yet he still tries n yet it still gets me.... haha I'm just asking a Taurus sun how to control it posessiveness the jealous nature of it... I don't have many to begin with but he knows how to dig deep into it lol....

First of all it can't be that subtle if whatever he's doing is bringing feelings if jealousy to the surface that normally lay dormant.

Secondly, I might have read this wrong but, it looks like you're saying he needs your jealousy to satisfy his insecurities.

Lastly why is ending the relationship not an option?

IMO this is an unhealthy situation for both of you. If not dealt with properly, it will surely leave you with some emotional damage.

Jealousy is a very powerful and dangerous emotion. If you are not by nature a jealous person, then ask yourself why do you feel like this. Also why does he seem to enjoy making you feel this way?

This will not end well if you do not take control of this situation.

This will not end well if you do not take control of this situation.

Yeah, I understand totally.... our stories are long short, I don't wanna go to details butt I believe it is his way to rest assure himself that I care and jealous of him and love him... I have done enough to proven my love, words action and others.... I think this thread needs another venus in Scorpio person to help me sort this issue out.... I will give you an example, last time we saw each other he asked me subtly who I danced with in class... he found out I slept with a few people there yet at that time there were tons of confusions between us, he asked me straight up front if I slept with one of the friends in the team who is my dance partner. I had to be honest and said yes.. He is also my dance partner but we did it when he broke up with his girlfriend. I'm not proud of it but at the month of an emotional tantrum between me and him,( we were not exclusive), n e how, after I said yes, he said " see I can see through these things".... I didn't say anything, n I said it was just a moment thing and I don't see him that way. I told him how much I love my dancing team n he said " do you know this girl...., " n I said" yes, " and I said " why?" And he said" nothin she seems nice" I was getting a bit jealous but tried hard not to act on it... he noticed and said why I'm acting wired and how it's not cool... n I said well why did u have to bring her up, u know how much I love the team and it isn't right if he was to be or get with her,he said he will not do that.. Obviously he got the reaction he wanted n he said," imagine me,! U slept with a few people that I know but I'm not acting angry at you or get wired blabla.. Then my little jealousy to stopped n we went back to cuddling each other.. Those are all the past, I havnt been with another for 3-4 months now n he's aware... I think he's extremely paranoid that I will repeat the same action.... I know it's mainly my fault but at the same time he never said we were exclusive, we never discussed it ..! It led to tons of drama but over time we solved all of that n came out of it stronger... I just feel that he's still testing me and bringing other girls in the picture so I know how he feels... All that has to stop.... I just wish I know how......

I do not want to end it because I love him truly... his imperfection and perfection the same thing. What I don't like is him having the ability to bring my hidden jealousy side out and I don't like those feelings. I have an Aqua moon and very very carefree... when it comes to him n another moment, I don't like it ... it started quiet early on between us... He was manipulating the situation of this particular girl, n I got truly upset but never said to him that I was.. I left the party without saying a normal bye... He didn't do anything physical but I don't know why it just made me upset ... the next day I drove for 2 hrs to release my mind n thoughts. He messaged me asking if I was upset knowing that it was him doing this on purpose. Ofcoz, he continued for 3-4 more weeks similar thing again and again and again. I got upset not be used I was jealous really but I know it was an emotional manipulative game he was playing on me!!! He would never admit it . Now that that is all solved n done, he stopped... yet I see it here and there now and again but not as much... He thought I was playing game and I thought he was playing game.! It was an emotional tantrum ... now it's a lot smoother. Took us a year lol....long story short I think me and him need to have a discussion about it....I just wonder if it's normal for a Taurus to get slightly jealous. n how do they normally act on it....

OK so I'm just going to be honest with you, as I'm talking from past experience.

All I see is red flags to seriously unhealthy behaviour. Mind games, tests, wanting a list of previous partners, to name but a few. But worst of all you blaming yourself for HIS behaviour.

A healthy relationship is not a constant test. When you are made to feel this way, you have to understand you will never pass. As there is never a right answer because the goalposts are constantly moving!

HE is the one with the issues and trying to put them on you is not good. He is responsible for dealing with his own issues. It is not your job to constantly reassure him, especially when he has no real reason to doubt you.

This will NOT get better only worse. Constantly pacifying him is going to be a never ending job, because you never will completely do so.

Is this what you want your entire relationship with him to consist of?

Is this making you truly happy?

What are you actually gaining from this relationship. Do you feel loved, secure, stable—

Trust me I know it's a difficult situation when you have feelings for someone, but you HAVE to think of your own long term happiness and well being. It's very draining both mentally and emotionally.

Seriously read back your posts and think long and hard about what you have written.

Best of luck, whatever happens 🙂

Posted by Impulsv
So as a scorpio n Venus scorpio yeah u having slept with numerous, while on break for him, but still in daily contact will do a number. Nevertheless in a mature way if he tries to get u jealous say. Ok I get it I'm sorry n I can understand how u feel given they are still in the team but I assure its done n you need to leave that in the past so we can move forward. I pick u n I want to be with u.
Then u follow up with action. U might think u show him ur in but ur natural aloofness confuses the heck out of Scorpio so we need to feel security in the relationship. If he's trying to get a reaction is because he ain't feeling secure.

Thank you.... that helped...I admit I slept with a few.. but I truly want us to get pass that.. it a little hard when I still dance with them and he sings .. He has to watch me dance and chit chat with them.. I think it must hurt him deeply but see they don't speak up do they!! I will try my best to show him more and more and more and more... I don't know how much more he is expectjng of me... but I will... go that extra extra mile... My aloofness( Aqua moon, venus in gemini) must confuse him alot in public setting.. I just want to rest assure him he's ny only one ... its a bit of a wild ride but I know it will be worth it... Thanks for your input truly.

Posted by MadMarchRam
OK so I'm just going to be honest with you, as I'm talking from past experience.

All I see is red flags to seriously unhealthy behaviour. Mind games, tests, wanting a list of previous partners, to name but a few. But worst of all you blaming yourself for HIS behaviour.

A healthy relationship is not a constant test. When you are made to feel this way, you have to understand you will never pass. As there is never a right answer because the goalposts are constantly moving!

HE is the one with the issues and trying to put them on you is not good. He is responsible for dealing with his own issues. It is not your job to constantly reassure him, especially when he has no real reason to doubt you.

This will NOT get better only worse. Constantly pacifying him is going to be a never ending job, because you never will completely do so.

Is this what you want your entire relationship with him to consist of?

Is this making you truly happy?

What are you actually gaining from this relationship. Do you feel loved, secure, stable—

Trust me I know it's a difficult situation when you have feelings for someone, but you HAVE to think of your own long term happiness and well being. It's very draining both mentally and emotionally.

Seriously read back your posts and think long and hard about what you have written.

Best of luck, whatever happens 🙂

Thank you truly I have read long and hard at it and I understand where you are coming from.! I agree totally with you, those are the negative part of our relationship but he does make me truly happy and he satisfy my soul no one ever had... I feel his deep and intense feelings for me. First man in my life who I ever loved this much for and desire that way for so long... he's like my best friend and we share the deepest bond.. We never fight in person ever, n only normally share amazing moments hence It keeps me coming back for more or for both of us.... but yes u r right I need to think things throughly and throughly..... I will watch his behaviour from now and if he "ever" bring up another man or another girl again I will have a talk with him about it all..... Otherwise, I may need to walk.....

Posted by Impulsv
But now I know who u are. This is an on going thing u had all the discussion already n he's still doing it. I agree with madMarch post.

This has been going on for years so it's not something that needs to be cleared u already had the discussion n he still playing.

Taurus make me sad. They like people that treat em like crap. This guy has been playing for along time. Ur addicted to the bait. Gives u enough just too...

Only a year.... _— yeah I guess u r right...this is sad.... I must say I blame it all on the venus in Scorpio people lol.

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Posted by busyeyes88
I have already advised you on the sag forum but you refuse to listen and then bring it to the taurus board. Your sag will enjoy every moment at making you jealous and tearing at your heart strings. But from what I can gather you seem to like his behaviour. Cut it in the bud now by telling him or finally bring your relationship to an end.. You guys have already been off and on and off and on.. FroM what I can gathe...

You already advised her once? How presumptuous. You word things in a manner that evoke a defensive mindset. Take a step back and try to but yourself is someone else's shoes Yeah? You are not Dr.Phil. BTW. I wrote you back on her previous thread.




You have choices. You are deserving of love and Maybe you guys are lacking communication? What do you think would happen if you sat him down and told him how you feel and suggest you guys take a week away to gather your feelings before more harm is done?

I never try to make anyone jealous but if my mate said they felt jealous by my actions I would solve that problem immediately. I'd never want to hurt my lover.If he doesn't change after It's brought to his attention than Maybe it would be best to take a step back??

I hate to see people feeling stuck.

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Thanks for your kind words. After he realised it was making me a feel a bit uneasy he rest assured me that he will not get with her and that made me feel better and we got back to cuddling like normal... it's not all that bad, I walked out of an extrmely abusive relationship before because we faught and faught n nothing we shared was worth continuing anymore. This one is different. I know he deeply care and we never hurt each other intentionally I don't think... I think it's a lack of communication and misunfeesranding that's leading us this way but over time it's getting better slowly.... if he mentions anything like that again I will discuss things with him properly... thank you!....

I sincerely hope you do take all of this into consideration.

You clearly want it to work because you love him. I've experienced the deep, intense love you're talking about, it's beautiful and scary all at once. You become love drunk.

Unfortunately though, sometimes love just isn't enough to make it work. When it starts to hurt, drive you mad and make you unhappy it's time to move on.

Posted by MadMarchRam
I sincerely hope you do take all of this into consideration.

You clearly want it to work because you love him. I've experienced the deep, intense love you're talking about, it's beautiful and scary all at once. You become love drunk.

Unfortunately though, sometimes love just isn't enough to make it work. When it starts to hurt, drive you mad and make you unhappy it's time to move on.

yeh, I admit it wholeheartedly. I love him with every bit of my spine, soul and spirit. Not often do I fall for someone so deeply. My Taurus logical side kicks in most of the time then the intensity n the longing of him lingers back. Same as for himself. Apparently my Aqua moon is magnectily attracted to his cap moon. That doesn't help either.... Whatever he does I find it God dann attractive.... but I will re consider the relationship itself.! I love hard and I will fight hard... n I want nothing more than a peaceful fulfilling relationship that's why I'm on this board and figuring things out. I don't want to just give up. My stubborn head doesn't allow To do just yet and trust me I tried and tried and tried and tried lol... so wish me luck ——

Posted by beautifuldiaster
Good!! That sounds hopeful and I wish you Well my dear. 🙂

Thank you for understanding. I love venus in Scorpio people... Addictive ... and I never been so obsessed with anyone that way ... it scares me but excited me... our communication needs improving but I won't say it's not getting better. Thank you for the wishes! truly am

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Posted by MadMarchRam
I sincerely hope you do take all of this into consideration.

You clearly want it to work because you love him. I've experienced the deep, intense love you're talking about, it's beautiful and scary all at once. You become love drunk.

Unfortunately though, sometimes love just isn't enough to make it work. When it starts to hurt, drive you mad and make you unhappy it's time to move on.

yeh, I admit it wholeheartedly. I love him with every bit of my spine, soul and spirit. Not often do I fall for someone so deeply. My Taurus logical side kicks in most of the time then the intensity n the longing of him lingers back. Same as for himself. Apparently my Aqua moon is magnectily attracted to his cap moon. That doesn't help either.... Whatever he does I find it God dann attractive.... but I will re consider the relationship itself.! I love hard and I will fight hard... n I want nothing more than a peaceful fulfilling relationship that's why I'm on this board and figuring things out. I don't want to just give up. My stubborn head doesn't allow To do just yet and trust me I tried and tried and tried and tried lol... so wish me luck ——

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I wish you all the luck in the world! I really do hope it all works out for you.

All you can do is give it your best shot and no matter what happens at least you know you tried _??_

My two pence worth:

I think some of the issues you both have with this relationship stem from when and how you got together.

I can't comment on Taurus jealousy but as a Scorp Sun and Venus I am familiar with that side.

He's bringing up 'the past' such as who you did and did not sleep with either before or during when you got together. The whole being exclusive or not exclusive thing has caused issues as, in your view, you were not exclusive. In his view, he may have thought you were exclusive or now he found out you had been with others at the start while being with him, he's now making it an issue. If you had not been with anyone else while seeing him then this would not be an issue he would bring up. He would have probably found something else to pick on though.

In my view, he's bringing it up because he feels mistrust or cheated in some way. He won't let this go and every time you go out or talk to someone or go to dance class or whatever, he will apply your same behaviour from when you met to the current situation you have now. If that makes sense.

It's a bit of a mess but that's why I think he's going in the same circle. It doesn't matter what the situation is, he will always bring it up and hold it against you.

This is something he needs to deal with and let go of if you're both to have any good future together.

It is unfair for him to expect you to never see or talk to anyone ever again. However, he's picking on this because he needs a lot of reassurance, more than he lets on, he won't be direct about it either hence the indirect, manipulative ways in order to provoke a reaction from you. When he gets the reaction he feels better. It will continue.

I've been like this before and it's not healthy. At 35 I'm still learning to try and be direct, act like an adult, not be emotionally manipulative to compensate for my lack of directness or inability to ask for what I want, and to be scared of the answer etc.

You both need to hit this head on, especially him, or it will not be resolved and it will go in circles.

Posted by AgentP911
My two pence worth:

I think some of the issues you both have with this relationship stem from when and how you got together.

I can't comment on Taurus jealousy but as a Scorp Sun and Venus I am familiar with that side.

He's bringing up 'the past' such as who you did and did not sleep with either before or during when you got together. The whole being exclusive or not exclusive thing has caused issues as, in your view, you were not exclusive. In his view, he may have thought you were exclusive or now he found out you had been with others at the start while being with him, he's now making it an issue. If you had not been with anyone else while seeing him then this would not be an issue he would bring up. He would have probably found something else to pick on though.

In my view, he's bringing it up because he feels mistrust or cheated in some way. He won't let this go and every time you go out or talk to someone or go to dance class or whatever, he will apply your same behaviour from when you met to the current situation you have now. If that makes sense.

It's a bit of a mess but that's why I think he's going in the same circle. It doesn't matter what the situation is, he will always bring it up and hold it against you.

This is something he needs to deal with and let go of if you're both to have any good future together.

It is unfair for him to expect you to never see or talk to anyone ever again. However, he's picking on this because he needs a lot of reassurance, more than he lets on, he won't be direct about it either hence the indirect, manipulative ways in order to provoke a reaction from you. When he gets the reaction he feels better. It will continue.

I've been like this before and it's not healthy. At 35 I'm still learning to try and be direct, act like an adult, not be emotionally manipulative to compensate for my lack of directness or inability to ask for what I want, and to be scared of the answer etc.

You both need to hit this head on, especially him, or it will not be resolved and it will go in circles.

Your insights are very deep and meaningful. It gives me an indepth explanation of his behaviour. There was also another guy in the scene too who he has asked previously if I still talk to him. I said no. Weeks go by and he mentioned him again asking if I think this guy is a a $ $ hole. lol. I said he seem

It gives me an indepth explanation of his behaviour. There was also another guy in the scene too who he has asked previously if I still talk to him. I said no. Weeks go by and he mentioned him again asking if I think this guy is a a $ $ hole. lol. I said he seems nice but I don't talk to him anymore. Weeks go by he mentioned it again.(believe it or not) asking if I like this guy n if I still talk to him. For goodness sake, he kept asking about the same guy. n honestly I think he's very jealous of this particular one who I seriously had a horrible sex with and I don't even have any kind of feelings at all. Mind u, before he tested me when we had a fight n he says I should go out with this guy because he will be the perfect fit. What is that all about.... now he's using this one girl to get my reaction all the time... I honestly don't know how to end this cycle!!!!! it's my fault yes for causing this drama but it was not my fault he was never clear about us ever. He was giving me 1 day a week kind of thing.. I honestly didn't know where I stood.... hence the shock when he said all of the sudden we r sleeping with other people !! lol... So today he asked me what I have been doing!!!! As I didn't text him the whole day. I normally initiate contacts but I didn't coz I knew he was at woek... I said I had dance training as usual. He never responded but I know he would have been panicking n had million thoughts in his head!!! Seriously I don't know how to clear the air or get rid of the paranoid. Is this worth it... In honestly very tired of it all....

Posted by tiziani
This guy is guilt tripping you over past decisions. Either you get a clean slate with each other or you sit and watch each other subtly undermine everything one another does into the ground.

I don't think it's a venus in scorpio issue. It's an issue of being a weak manlet.

Agreed.... I will need to sort it out one way or the other. I wish I know the best approach

Jealousy traits are not in everyone. But sincerely it is with me.. and I'm learning that jealousy is good. It's like a red flag probably for the other person who doesn't... The more I question you the more I start to wonder wtf...the less I question you it's all gravy..no stress please.

It gives me the benefits of all doubt so jealousy is negative and positive feedbacks.

So , what do u mean by the more the question the more u go wtf lol...!!! I don't like this trait at all and I would do every thing I can to keep it hidden and not let it take over me. Walk away if I must .

Posted by tiziani
This guy is guilt tripping you over past decisions. Either you get a clean slate with each other or you sit and watch each other subtly undermine everything one another does into the ground.

I don't think it's a venus in scorpio issue. It's an issue of being a weak manlet.

There you go.

Tiz conveyed the point I was trying to make but used considerably less words in doing so!

Typical woman! Using a million words when two would suffice!

See, in your example, it highlights the cycle this guy goes through.

It's not your fault. It's just how it is. Different communication styles and approaches.

My ex cancer was like this but I was 17 at the time and I didn't get his behaviour of making arguments because the making up bit made him feel secure. It was tiring. It didn't last! Thank God!

I think you need to have a good conversation with him. No bullshit. Give no bullshit. Take no bullshit.